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The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos

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You might think you know what it takes to lead a happier life… more money, a better job, or Instagram-worthy vacations. You’re dead wrong. Yale professor Dr. Laurie Santos has studied the science of happiness and found that many of us do the exact opposite of what will truly make our lives better. Based on the psychology course she teaches at Yale -- the most popular class in the university’s 300-year history -- Laurie will take you through the latest scientific research and share some surprising and inspiring stories that will change the way you think about happiness.

Episodes

Friendships: Handling Change, Conflict and Finding New Friends

Dr Laurie was invited by her pal Gretchen Rubin to appear on a special edition of the More Happier podcast to examine friendship.  The two old friends were joined in their discussion by a new friend, Reshma Saujani (founder of Girls Who Code and Moms First and host of the podcast My So-Called Midlife ).  The trio talked about how our friendships change over time, how to handle conflict, and how to make new friends in adulthood.  Listen to Gretchen's show Happier with Gretchen Rubi...

Apr 04, 202537 minSeason 10Ep. 16

Twelve Sayings That Could Change Your Life

There are so many happiness lessons to remember - but it helps if we can boil them down into memorable little sayings. Happiness expert Gretchen Rubin has done exactly that in her latest book -  Secrets of Adulthood . Dr Laurie picked twelve of her favorite aphorisms from the book and invited Gretchen along to explore sayings such as “Happiness doesn't always make us feel happy” and “Accept yourself and expect more from yourself”.  See omnystudio.com/listener fo...

Mar 31, 202532 minSeason 10Ep. 15

Have You Got Trust Issues?

Do you trust your government? Do you trust your neighbors or the strangers you meet on the street? Do you trust the media? Or your teachers? Who we trust is changing. And trust in our institutions and our fellow citizens is in steep decline. That's according to the World Happiness Report . Who we trust can have a huge impact on our behavior and our happiness.   So what's behind the dramatic changes in how we trust? And can we learn to trust in a smarter way? We ask advice fro...

Mar 24, 202542 minSeason 10Ep. 14

Why Eating Alone is so Bad for You (An International Day of Happiness Special).

It's the International Day of Happiness ! It's a chance to talk about happiness and what we can all do to be happier. March 20th also sees the release of the World Happiness Report . A big finding of 2025's report is that more of us are dining alone - and that's bad news.  The report's editor Jan-Emmanuel De Neve talks us through the stark figures showing that shared meals are in decline - while Dr Anne Fishel of The Family Dinner Project gives us her tips on how to dine better with friends...

Mar 20, 202537 minSeason 10Ep. 13

Why We're Better With Some Threats Than Others (An Earth Month Re-Run)

Earth Day is coming on April 22, but the whole month is seen as an opportunity to think about environmental issues and what we as individuals can do to help out.  It seemed like a good time to rerun an episode we made with Harvard professor Dan Gilbert about why we humans are great at tackling immediate threats, but find it harder to motivate ourselves to address problems that seem a longer way off. It's why we often don't save for our retirements, and why we're finding it difficult to take...

Mar 17, 202535 minSeason 10Ep. 12

Harnessing People Around us to Feel Happier (Live with Ethan Kross)

Hell is other people. They can upset us, depress us and infuriate us. Their bad moods can bring us down. And their achievements can make us feel like failures. But it doesn't have to be this way.    Psychologist Ethan Kross says there are simple things we can do to make our daily interactions a source of fulfilment and joy.  Ethan's the author of Shift: Managing Your Emotions So They Don't Manage You and founder of the Emotion and Self Control Lab at the University of Michigan Rec...

Mar 10, 202549 minSeason 10Ep. 11

How to Find Your Purpose

What's your purpose? Jordan Grumet thought that becoming a doctor would give his life meaning and direction... but he was wrong. He spent his days doing things he didn't really enjoy and dreaded waking up in the morning.  Finding a purpose that is authentic to you can be transformative - and it doesn't have to be some grand goal like curing a disease or founding a company. Jordan, author of The Purpose Code , explains how we can all find seemingly small and everyday activities which wi...

Mar 03, 202543 minSeason 10Ep. 10

How to Inspire the People Around You

Leaders aren't just generals, presidents and CEOs. You're probably a leader too! Someone in your home, school or workplace might look to you for guidance - and that's leading. So how do you inspire the people around you and make yourself the best leader you can be? Columbia Business School's Adam Galinsky (author of Inspire: The Universal Path for Leading Yourself and Others ) reckons we can all learn simple lessons that will make us better and more encouraging colleagues, parents and friends. S...

Feb 24, 202551 minSeason 10Ep. 9

How to Lead the Richest Life Possible

To improve your life you might decide to prioritize your own personal happiness, or find meaning in helping the people around you. Few of us consider pushing ourselves well beyond our comfort zones. It might take a lot of effort and risks pain or disappointment.    University of Chicago professor Shige Oishi thinks to live fully we all need to push ourselves to find "psychological richness". He tells Dr Laurie that we should look for daily opportunities to explore, get lost, mess aroun...

Feb 17, 202538 minSeason 10Ep. 8

Dr Laurie Talks Romance, Parents and Stalking on 'Love Factually'

Love Factually is a new podcast looking at what "rom com" movies get right and wrong about relationships. Dr Laurie Santos joined the hosts Eli Finkel of Northwestern University and Paul Eastwick from UC Davis to talk about her favorite 80s teen movie, Say Anything. In this episode, they discuss what Cameron Crowe's 1989 film tells us about what constitutes stalking; and the transition when romantic partners supplant our parents as our closest relationships.    See omnystudio.com/liste...

Feb 14, 20251 hr 1 min

How to Learn from a Rom Com Movie

In the absence of better advice, we learn a lot about love and dating from rom com movies - but is the depiction of relationships in these films leading us in the wrong direction? Let's find out.  Eli Finkel of Northwestern University and Paul Eastwick from UC Davis are both accomplished relationship experts - but for fun they’ve launched a podcast called Love Factually exploring what the makers of rom coms get right and wrong about how humans really find love.    See omnyst...

Feb 10, 202545 minSeason 10Ep. 7

Date Like a Scientist

Do you go on endless dates hoping to find the perfect partner only to be endlessly disappointed? Or have you stopped meeting people because you've decided that you're undateable ? Maybe you need to start dating like a scientist.  Behavioural scientist Logan Ury has studied the common mistakes we make when looking for love - and thinks science can shows us a better way.   Logan is the director of relationship science at the dating app Hinge. She’s also the dating coach for th...

Feb 03, 202547 minSeason 10Ep. 6

Stop Stressing About Stress

Stress can suck, but it's part of life - it’s normal and even useful. Many of us drown in our stress - worrying about past events and fearing upcoming challenges. We even stress about feeling stressed. So how can we reset our relationship with stress - benefitting from its positives and avoiding those negatives?  Dr Jenny Taitz has some effective tips to help you greet stress more healthily. A clinical psychologist and the author of  Stress Resets: How to Soothe Your Body and Min...

Jan 27, 202544 minSeason 10Ep. 5

Hack Your Emotions

Negative emotions like fear or anger are part of being human. These feelings tell us something - perhaps prompting us to take action or bring about change. However, they're powerful and disruptive - and if they hang around too long or are too intense, they can take a huge toll on our happiness and wellbeing. We need to shift them... but how? Psychologist Ethan Kross knows. He's the author of Shift: Managing Your Emotions So They Don't Manage You and founder of the Emotion and Self Control Lab at...

Jan 20, 202547 minSeason 10Ep. 4

Get Over Yourself

As children we think we're at the center of the world - but as adults we need to learn to see the perspectives and problems of other people. It helps us connect with those people, but also makes us realise that our own problems aren't unique or especially awful. In short, to be happy you need to know ... How to Get Over Yourself.  Dr Laurie hears how to stop being egocentric and start being allocentric from Bruce Hood - a professor at the University of Bristol and the author of  T...

Jan 13, 202543 minSeason 10Ep. 3

Feel Like You're Enough

Perfectionism isn't just wanting to be perfect... it's the feelings of failure and shame when we simply can't perform at a superhuman level all day, every day. To be happy, we have to accept the reality that perfection is impossible. So this episode is... How to Feel Like You're Enough.  Dr Laurie is joined by fellow recovering perfectionist Dr Ellen Hendriksen - who is a clinical psychologist at Boston University's Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders and author of “ How to be En...

Jan 06, 202545 minSeason 10Ep. 2

How To Embrace Imperfection

In our first "How To..." guide of 2025, Dr Laurie is asking how can we stop striving for perfection and make peace with the idea that it's ok to lead messy and "half-assed" lives.  Oliver Burkeman (author of  Meditations for Mortals: Four Weeks to Embrace Your Limitations and Make Time For What Counts ) explains how we can embrace imperfection and find liberation and joy in just doing our best.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information....

Jan 01, 202544 minSeason 10Ep. 1

Finding Holiday Happiness (Dr Laurie on the How God Works podcast)

The holidays are supposed to be a time of joy. But all too often, the darker, colder days of winter, and even the stress of preparing for the holidays themselves, can lead people to feel something else: rushed, stressed, lonely, or even hopeless. How can you make sure this year is bright? Dr Laurie joins Dave DeSteno on his show How God Works: The Science Behind Spirituality  to unpack the psychological secrets of celebrations from Christmas, to Hanukkah, to Yule, and more. They’ll al...

Dec 16, 202439 minSeason 9Ep. 25

Why Giving is a Great Daily Habit

It's Giving Tuesday - a time when many people donate to charity (using websites like this: givingmultiplier.org/happiness ). Giving money to help people makes them feel good, but it can also make you feel great too. Last year, Happiness Lab listeners gave over $100,000 to raise a whole village in Rwanda out of extreme poverty. Dr Laurie hears the stories of how we all helped transform lives in Kibobo. With the aid of happiness expert, Nick Epley, we explain why helping Kibobo felt so uplifting a...

Dec 03, 202443 minSeason 9Ep. 24

Get Happier, Help Others: Some Good Ideas About Giving

It's the season of giving: colorful paper and shiny bows, sure, and charitable giving, too. In this special episode, Jacob Goldstein, the host of What's Your Problem , gets smart about donating. Did you know that spending money on others makes you happier than spending money on yourself? Or that altruistic nerds have discovered four of the most impactful charities in the world (per dollar spent)? Have you ever wondered how poker players think about giving? Dr. Laurie Santos from The Happiness La...

Dec 02, 202451 minSeason 9Ep. 23

Top 5: How to Act Like an Extrovert

It's Happiness Lab's fifth birthday - so as part of the celebration we're playing some of Dr Laurie's favorite episodes. The final selection attracted a lot of downloads when it went out. but also made some people mad. The Introvert's Guide to Extroversion. Jessica Pan hated social gatherings - she cried when her friends threw her a surprise birthday party, and was even too scared to give a speech at her own wedding. Jessica was a hardcore introvert - and it was making her sad. Extroverts find i...

Nov 25, 202431 minSeason 9Ep. 22

Top 5: Throw Yourself into Fandom

To celebrate five years of The Happiness Lab, Dr Laurie has picked out the five episodes she loves the most. And this is a special one - Nerd Out! The Happiness of Being a Fan. Really love a TV show; a boyband; a sci fi movie; or a celebrity? We're often too embarrassed to admit adoring some things for fear that we'll be seen as frivolous or childish - but we may be missing out on the happiness benefits that geeking out can bring. Dr Laurie explores the joy of fandom with Benedict Cumberbatch ob...

Nov 22, 202433 minSeason 9Ep. 21

Top 5: Love the Past, But Don't Live There

Happiness Lab is five years old. To mark our birthday, Dr Laurie has picked her favorite five episodes from the archive. The show Why Nostalgia Ain't So Rosy was certainly a memorable one for her. Actor Rob Lowe LOVES the 1980s. And who can blame him? He was one of the most famous men on the planet. But, as he tells Dr Laurie, he's careful not to wallow in nostalgia for the music, fashions and events of his youth too much - and happiness science backs him up on this. Research suggests that our m...

Nov 18, 202435 minSeason 9Ep. 20

Top 5: Finding Joy in Any Job

To mark the podcast's fifth birthday, Dr Laurie is revisiting some of her favorite episodes. And this show - Working Your Way to Happiness - has a special place in her heart. Marty kills rats... but if you asked him what his job is he'd say it was "solving problems" and "helping people". How we view our work can contribute greatly to our daily levels of happiness - far more than money or status. Dr Laurie examines how we all came to ignore the importance of job satisfaction and hears from Profes...

Nov 15, 202435 minSeason 9Ep. 19

Happy Birthday, Happiness Lab: Dr Laurie's Top 5 Shows

The Happiness Lab debuted back in fall 2019. To celebrate our fifth birthday, we're revisiting Dr Laurie's favorite shows. We kick off with one from way back. Technology allows us to bank, shop and dine without talking to another human, but what toll is this taking on our happiness? So in this episode, the inventor of the ATM and the Talking Heads singer David Byrne joined Dr Laurie to explore the ways in which talking to strangers can bring us all genuine joy. See omnystudio.com/listener for pr...

Nov 11, 202436 minSeason 9Ep. 18

You can be happier at work — here's how from Fixable

We're bringing you an episode of Fixable , where Laurie joined Frances Frei and Anne Morriss to discuss whether you can make yourself happier at work. They talk about the concept of time famine, why you need a best friend at work, and where your employer is responsible for your wellbeing. Their conversation will show you how to turn your workplace into your happy place. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information....

Oct 28, 202435 min

How to Thrive at Work

We can spend a lot of time working - and it gives us fulfillment, social interaction and fun - but still one in five of us say our workplaces are "toxic". And even the best jobs can sometimes be stressful and draining. So how do we set ourselves up to thrive at work? Former news anchor Dan Harris (of 10% Happier with Dan Harris and DanHarris.com ) joins Dr Laurie Santos to explore strategies to be a happier employee and a better employer . See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information....

Oct 21, 20241 hr 1 minSeason 9Ep. 17

How to Fail at Work

You can't alway win at work. We all have career setbacks and disappointments - and learning how to deal with them is vital. We need to move on from our mistakes, accept that we're not superhuman, and be willing to see failure as the price of experimenting and taking risks. Former news anchor Dan Harris (of 10% Happier with Dan Harris and DanHarris.com ) joins Dr Laurie Santos to discuss the things that have gone wrong in his work life (he had a panic attack live on national TV) - and the ways in...

Oct 17, 202443 minSeason 9Ep. 16

Advice from The Titans of Happiness on World Mental Health Day

The biggest names in wellness podcasting - "The Titans of Happiness" - come together to talk about the greatest mental health challenges facing us in 2024 and the very simple things we can all do to be happier. Joining Dr Laurie Santos for this World Mental Health Day special are: Dr Joy Harden Bradford , the clinical psychologist and host of the podcast Therapy for Black Girls . Gretchen Ruben , the best-selling author, host of Happier with Gretchen Rubin and all-round happiness guru at Gretche...

Oct 10, 20241 hrSeason 9Ep. 15

How to Make a Difference (Happily)

We often assume that we can’t fix the big problems we see in the world around us. And that trying is for suckers - who’ll just end up sad, exhausted and defeated. Dr Laurie Santos and Dr Jamil Zaki meet people who have tried to make a difference in their communities - often against great odds - and have found the process made them happier and more hopeful. Jamil's book Hope for Cynics: The Surprising Science of Human Goodness is out now. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information....

Sep 30, 202432 minSeason 9Ep. 14