I very much lived in a world of "follow the rules" to get what you want. In school, in the community, at church - it was all about following the rules and guidelines that were set up for me as Black girl. I saw it work for others, then I saw it work for myself. And this is where my journey of being "good girl" began. I begin to ascribe to the idea that as long as I did what I was told, expected by my teachers, society, the institutions, and the powers that be then I would get what I want. FULL S...
Oct 13, 2021•36 min
Relationships can be challenging. Period. Great ones, bad ones, right ones, wrong ones. The truth is every single relationship will present its unique set of challenges that oftentimes force one person to examine their perspective, character, and even desires for companionship. But what's most interesting, is that there is a source or common thread that creates the problem in all of our relationships. Allofum - familial, romantic, business, work - You know what is it ?- It's you. Yes, you, me, w...
Jun 02, 2021•54 min
A lot of how we measure growth and success can easily be categorized as fickle because there isn't necessarily an across-the-board accurate measuring tool for true growth. We can't solely rely on the quantifying of money or adding a healthy relationship as growth because there is so much more to a person than money and relationships. For true growth, we must consider the human element of spirit, emotions, and character. This is why this week I'm sharing what I'm learning about true growth outsid...
May 20, 2021•33 min
This week I'm sharing something that I've been working on and working through. It's something that can easily keep anyone in bondage and has kept me from living my best life, and might I add, being in alignment with God --- that is a scarcity mentality. Scarcity Mentality is the belief that resources are finite, that there is not enough to go around. This affects every part of our lives whether we know it or not, not just money but also opportunities that are available to us, seats at the prover...
May 12, 2021•24 min
Join this invigorating and fruitful LIVE conversation in an effort to bridge the gap in communication and expectations between men & women when it comes to dating. Cameo King, Carla Thoma, Reka Robinson, J Hall, Kellen Brooks, and Emory Lawrence, examine the statement “while men are dating, women are looking for husbands.” We’ll answer how true or how false that statement is. Plus we’ll have a little fun The goal is to have a healthy fruitful dialogue with men and women about handling one an...
May 10, 2021•2 hr 16 min
There are some experiences that humble you, shift your perspective on the world, and open your eyes to another slice of God's character. I believe being a Black queer woman in a traditional faith setting, like the Christian church is one of them. This week, Rev. Erica Williams shares her journey that began at Black Baptist church in Saginaw, MI seeking "purity" and is now the founding pastor, as a Black queer woman, at Set It Off Ministries, an international, interfaith, intergenerational minist...
Apr 21, 2021•46 min
"Everything is not all orgasms and rainbows," said Goody Howard , the award-winning sexologist, educator, and consultant. Goody graces The Good Girl Podcast confessional with the topic of sex (obviously). She expands our thinking about what sex is and how we experience it in everyday life and in our bedrooms. In her words, "I can connect any and everything to the absence or presence of comprehensive sexuality education on this planet."
Apr 14, 2021•47 min
As millions of Americans are getting vaccinated and high temps become the norm, many individuals are excitedly anticipating the opportunity to break free from quarantine and live life to the fullest. But before we so quickly rush into the bliss of the summer and the expected end of the global pandemic, I want us to remember and hold tight to the lessons this unprecedented season taught us. Listen as Cameo and her homegirls, Reka, The Single Girls Life Coach , and Fly Carl, stylist, and author of...
Apr 07, 2021•41 min
Letting go is one of the most difficult things I know to do. It doesn't matter if it's "letting go" of past hurt, a relationship, or how I hoped life would play out. I just not that simple. It's mostly challenging because not only am I addressing and healing from disappointment but I am forced to reimagine a different life without the people, places, and experiences that I thought would be with me for much longer. I am sharing my heart and my three-step process of letting go in hopes that it wil...
Apr 01, 2021•25 min
Do you believe in a love that will stand against all odds? Do you believe that if you have found "the one" there is very little that can stand against the union of two people who are destined to be together. Well, whether your answer is yes, no, or even maybe I believe this confession will test your theory. Andrea P. Jackson, a self-titled trauma coach, shares how she married, divorced, and re-married her husband. Her confession tells a different story of how society defines love. Listen as she ...
Mar 24, 2021•36 min
The inner work of becoming a whole & healed individual is a continuous ever-evolving journey. It is a journey that requires folx to face their trauma, limitations, and weakness. When this work doesn't happen, it often reveals itself in our relationships, usually by way of projecting and blame-shifting. More specifically I've noticed men's insecurities, lack of substance, and misogyny rearing its ugly head by suggesting and even advising women to carry these issues. Listen to this week's podc...
Mar 17, 2021•47 min
The process of unlearning our prescribed identity can be a challenging yet beautiful, painful and glorious, soul-seeking journey. It is a journey of evolution that many of us may take to find the deeper meaning out of life. This week, Emory Law, a burgeoning actor out of Los Angeles, decided to take us on his journey of evolving into a man. He shared that as a 40-year-old man, he is still searching for a path to manhood. He confesses that everything he was taught about "what a man should be" was...
Mar 10, 2021•41 min
We have all encountered them. Some of us, have dated, been entangled, and heartbroken by them. Who are they? I am speaking of F-boys. By definition, a F-boy is a person who manipulates, strings along, gas lights, and can be self-centered with the sole goal of getting what he wants no matters how much proverbial blood is on the floor. This week, I had the grand opportunity to speak with a former F-boy and unpack his heart, mind, and perspective. I ask, the why, the how, and even the "how can you ...
Mar 03, 2021•43 min
Alesia lives in sunny North Carolina running a full-service podcast management agency. Her journey of faith began at a young with an awe-inspiring story of the power of a church's compassion and grace. But as she grew older, the role of the church in her life shifted from freedom and love to controlling and dictating. In this week's podcast, Alesia's confession of growing up in a church that became a cult only adds to the growing narrative that many Western churches are not what they claim to be...
Feb 24, 2021•48 min
Salvation by definition is the preservation or deliverance from harm, ruin, or loss. For some reason, despite the concerted efforts of my mom & aunts, I attached my salvation to a man. I believed my ultimate and highest success and growth both emotionally and spiritually would only come in connection to a man. This is a very dangerous and unfortunate truth for a lot of women and individuals. In this week's podcast, I candidly share how this flawed notion affected my life and what I've done t...
Feb 18, 2021•24 min
The relationship between the Black community and the American health care system is riddled with distrust. The disparities in diagnosis, treatment, and experiences all continue to tell the same story of racism plaguing the lives of Black people even in the doctor's office. As the U.S begins its distribution of the COVID vaccine, it only makes sense that the Black community is hesitant, last in line, and simply deciding not to get vaccinated. Listen as I sit down with the Deputy Health Officer of...
Feb 10, 2021•41 min
One of the most consistently challenging thought processes I have yet to come to terms with is cognitive dissonance or duality. Duality is when there are two competing thoughts or opposing beliefs that are true. And ya'll, that space is rough, especially when faith and reality are very present! The last couple of months highlighted the areas of my life where duality created constant tension. So in my 2021 season opener, I share how I and many of us, have come face to face with duality and how it...
Feb 03, 2021•22 min
It's the end of the year and unfortunately, some of us are filled with pensive sadness because we are assessing our progress toward failed goals. Plenty of people, including myself, have been grinding day in and day out, and we still haven’t necessarily hit the bullseye when it comes to success in our lives. So I'm sharing three principles to guide us as we are forced to face those unmet goals & plans from 2020. The foundation of those principles is you cannot speed up God’s timing however g...
Dec 10, 2020•23 min
Education is a vast, deep, and unending topic. It's something that affects every fiber of our being; where we live, what professions we choose, to even the evolution of humankind. So as we are ending the year that has caused, all systems, especially the educational system to pause and (hopefully) assess its weakness, it's only fitting that we have a conversation about the complex structure and those affected. Please listen to three perspectives of an educational entrepreneur with 20 years of exp...
Dec 03, 2020•52 min
There's no doubt in my mind that the year 2020 has been an absolute whirlwind filled with anxiety from national tensions to the tiring and revelatory fights for freedom. And because of this, many of us have collectively made the declaration to "Cancel 2020" or shared the sentiments of "I hate it here." While these popular phrases may sum up our disdain for the current state of affairs, I want to challenge us to change our perspective as we enter into the last few weeks of the year. Listen as bot...
Nov 25, 2020•43 min
Recently dubbed a “modern-day history maker” by Essence Magazine, Courtney Smith confesses on The Good Girl Podcast that she didn't know who she was outside of her very accomplished life and long list of national and state awards. Courtney is currently the CEO of the Detroit Phoenix Center, a nonprofit that provides critical resources to homeless youth and young adults. Cortney's powerful confession takes us on a journey of the hard work of healing and laying aside ego to live an emotionally hea...
Nov 19, 2020•43 min
Despite the increase in awareness, the scientific data, and the conversations that consistently show the importance of maintaining one's mental health, there is still a huge gap in how communities navigate mental illness. Because of this, I hope this week's confession from Nieisha Deed, mental health advocate and founder of Pure Spark, will provide some insight into that world. After living in silence for nearly a decade, Nieisha shares her truth on being diagnosed with bipolar disorder.
Nov 12, 2020•37 min
The past two days, I've done my best to ignore the most contentious battle of our lifetime, the presidential election. I believe for the right reason which is my mental health. The outcome of this election will determine the direction of the soul of our country, how we sincerely decide to begin to heal, and simply considering the millions of lives that are at stake. So this week, I somewhat kept in tow with focusing on our mental health and controlling what we can control. Licensed Mental Health...
Nov 05, 2020•33 min
In one of the most important elections of our time, we often forget the human factor of elected officials. This week I'm sharing a conversation that's over a year old where I'm chatting with the State Representative, Kyra Bolden. What she shares is a gentle reminder that we never know the battle that someone is fighting.
Oct 28, 2020•26 min
For many of us, we are just now coming into the celebration and appreciation of our Blackness. This includes our dialect, our hair, our faith, and the entirety of our culture. But this revelation was decades in the making, and it is not coming easy. Many of us are still forced to fight against internalized oppression which is a result of centuries of racism. Unfortunately, it often shows up as anti-Blackness in the lives of Black people. Listen to this revealing confession with author and life c...
Oct 21, 2020•43 min
Imposter syndrome is when any person consistently doubts their skills, talents, or accomplishments. It can sometimes show up as a voice telling you "you don't deserve to be here" or believing an accomplishment is a fraud. This week our confession comes from Lolita E. Walker, a certified life coach, author, TEDx speaker, who not only coaches folk through life transitions but she confesses that even with her experience and success, she experiences imposter syndrome.
Oct 14, 2020•34 min
One of the most pressing questions we are faced with, as this year comes to a close, is when will America "open back up?" And honestly, I believe the better question is will we be ready? Because believe it or not, COVID and racism have revealed the inequities and ineptitude of many of our systems. So I decided to sit down with the Ingham county health department in Lansing, Michigan's capital about the lessons learned and the new normal of health for Black & Brown residents....
Oct 08, 2020•42 min
If there is one thing we know about existing as humans, we know we are sexual beings. We are brought into this world by sex and we come into this world equip to create through sex. But despite this fact, there still seems to be a huge gap in our conversations, understanding, and approach about being members of both the faith community and being human. Well this week, Leslie Antonoff of Hautemommie and I, try to close that gap between loving Jesus and being sexual (a.k.a a human). #JudgeUsIfYouWA...
Sep 30, 2020•54 min
In 2020 we’ve come face to face with uncertainty. Now, more than ever, we live and breathe uncertainty. Because of that, it is important to be intentional about the way we do life for the remaining 3 months of the year. The question I posed is “How can I get the most of out the rest of 2020? How can we walk in freedom and be healed? How can I live my best life if nothing is certain? My answer: Mind your business! Listen to the full show as I give three specific principles about how to “Mind Your...
Sep 23, 2020•24 min
Black women have been at the center of many conversations for the past week. Everyone from Beyoncé, to the rappers, Meg the Stallion & Cardi B, to Kamala Harris. And it's been a lot! And overall, what I've found is that we really don’t love free Black women like we claim we do. But rather we love what free Black women can do for us. I am defining a free Black woman is someone who is unapologetic in her evolution and shows up to the world as she deems fit specifically for her well being. So t...
Aug 13, 2020•20 min
