Send us a text This new movie has caused quite a stir amongst Christians. Some say it's a beautiful picture of biblical redemption. Others are saying it's way too steamy. The two of us have read the book, but have not seen the movie. We explain why in todays episode. Links mentioned in todays show: Paul & Morgan's take on the movie Phylicia Masonheimer's take on the movie PluggedIn Online Review Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Book 8-Week Girl Defined Mentorship Course NEW BOO...
Jan 25, 2022•36 min•Ep. 61
Send us a text Ep. 060 - Finding purpose, worth, identity, and true joy are core desires of every woman. Sadly though, many of us are finding ourselves in a place that is void of the very things we long for. This is because we’re looking to ourselves and the world for answers about our purpose, worth, and identity as women rather than God’s Word. We need to remind ourselves that God is our loving creator and has an amazing plan for our lives as females. Our deepest desires will only be realized ...
Jan 17, 2022•37 min•Ep. 60
Send us a text Ep. 059 - The time is now. Our generation desperately needs Christian women who are willing to be BRAVE for God's glory. Women like Esther from the OT who say, "I am here for such a time as this. God, use me to make an impact!" Will you BE a brave woman for God like Esther? Will you trust God at his Word and faithfully obey what he teaches? Will you follow Him even if no one else does? God is looking for women who will be brave in today’s society. Are you willing to rise up and sh...
Jan 10, 2022•29 min•Ep. 59
Send us a text Ep. 058 - After ministering to singles for over a decade, JP Pokluda knows what it takes to date with success as a Christian. He’s seen the pitfalls and struggles firsthand and is here to offer you a radically better way to date. In today’s episode, JP brings powerful insight and wisdom directly to the Girl Defined Sisterhood! He covers everything from the pitfalls of modern dating, what to look for in a guy, how to know if you have the gift of singleness, how to ask your boyfrien...
Dec 13, 2021•47 min•Ep. 58
Send us a text Ep. 057 - Adoption had never been something I (Kristen) saw myself doing. I always imagined I'd have biological children. Little did I know that 10 years into my marriage, I'd only have three miscarriages, dozens of doctors visits, and an unexplained diagnosis of infertility to show for it. Although I felt lost and broken, God had a perfect plan. I'll be totally honest. The thought of adoption scared me. I was extremely fearful and often overcome with anxiety about the "what ifs."...
Dec 06, 2021•45 min•Ep. 57
Send us a text Over the years, we have received several emails and DM’s from christian women who have expressed their concern to us at Girl Defined Ministries, asking why we waste time writing about “secondary” issues rather than keeping the focus exclusively on the gospel. They’ve expressed disappointment that we take time to write about “minor” issues like romance, dating, modesty, and femininity. Let’s talk about this. Why do we take time to write about topics like love, romance, modesty and ...
Nov 30, 2021•38 min
Send us a text Gender pronouns are all the rage right now. Instagram has even updated their bio feature to include your pronouns as a feature of who you are. Youtube will kick you out if you do not refer to someone by their preferred pronouns. Commercials have resorted to actors verbally communicating their pronouns so that everyone knows who they are. Guess what? We're not a fan of this movement. We think the issue of pronouns is a big one. We need something more helpful than pronouns. Let's un...
Nov 22, 2021•46 min•Ep. 55
Send us a text Ep. 54 - I’m sure you’ve had, or have, your own comparison trap. Maybe it’s with a sister or a cousin or a friend. Maybe you’re tempted to compare yourself with that flawless social media influencer. Or maybe it’s with that successful coworker who constantly seems to be two steps ahead of you. ( Can’t she just quit already? ) None of us can escape the fact that there will always be people around us living the life we desire. Which means there will always be opportunities for compa...
Nov 15, 2021•43 min•Ep. 54
Send us a text Ep. 053 - The word identity has become one of the biggest buzz words of our day. Our modern culture is passionate about spreading the message that our truest identity can be found within ourselves. We’re told that who we are has nothing to do with God, but everything to do with us. As we live in the midst of this popular narrative, we need to remind ourselves that our truest identity doesn’t come from within, but from within God’s design for us. If we want to experience true freed...
Nov 08, 2021•52 min•Ep. 53
Send us a text Ep. 052 - The two of us strongly believe it is possible for single women to have male friends. With the right heart attitude, wise boundaries in place, and a true desire to honor Christ, guy/girl friendships can be encouraging and beneficial. The two of us would love to see more single guys and gals interact ing in Christ-honoring and mutually beneficial ways. When done with the right focus, for the right reasons, and in an appropriate way, being just friends with a guy can be a b...
Nov 01, 2021•55 min•Ep. 52
Send us a text Ep. 051 - We all have desires that go unfulfilled. We all have prayers that feel unanswered. We all have circumstances that we wish we could change. None of us can escape this reality of life. Kristen Clark and Morgan Olliges are no strangers to this conversation. They both open up the most raw areas of their lives with us today. Both of these women have wrestled with a deep longing for biological children. Neither have had that desire fulfilled yet. How do they deal with that dis...
Oct 25, 2021•57 min•Ep. 51
Send us a text Sexual struggles are often portrayed as a "guy only" issue. This is a major disservice to women. God created both men and women as sexual beings. One is not more sexual than the other. Both struggle with sexual temptation and addiction. Both need the help and hope of the gospel. In today's conversation, Joy Skarka shares her story of date rape in college and how the pain from that experience led her into sexual struggles of her own. Her story is one of healing, freedom and victory...
Oct 18, 2021•43 min•Ep. 50
Send us a text We hope you enjoy the first chapter of our brand new book, Not Part of the Plan: Trusting God with the Twists and Turns of Your Story. Not Part of the Plan Book Support the show RESOURCES: Made to Be She: Reclaiming God's Plan for Fearless Femininity Love Defined: Embracing God's Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Support the Show FOLLOW US: JOIN US ON PATREON GirlDefined.com Instagram YouTube...
Oct 12, 2021•20 min
Send us a text Ep. 049 - The question we should be asking isn’t “Will I experience disappointment?” but rather “How can I still find joy in the midst of my disappointment when it strikes?” Over the past few years, God has been teaching Kristen and Bethany a lot about finding joy in the midst of their own disappointments. As they’ve walked through hardships, like infertility, miscarriage, singleness, an unworn wedding dress, the death of their baby brother, the deaths of grandparents, the sudden ...
Oct 11, 2021•33 min•Ep. 49
Send us a text We have some gifts for you!! We’ve been working hard behind the scenes with our amazing publisher to bring you some fabulous gifts as our way of saying thank you for pre-ordering our new book, Not Part of the Plan. You may not realize this, but pre-orders of any book tremendously help it get into more stores (in-person and online). Retailers will decide whether or not to carry a certain book based on how well it does during pre-orders. So, if you’re considering grabbing a copy of ...
Oct 07, 2021•5 min
Send us a text Same sex attraction is a topic we've been wanting to cover for a long time. Many of you have DM'd us asking us to bring biblical truth and gospel centered hope to this conversation. We know this can be a very sensitive topic... that's why we've waited this long to bring the right person onto the show. Ellen Dykas has spent years loving and ministering to women who are wrestling with this struggle. If you desire hope and freedom with your own same sex attraction, this episode is fo...
Oct 04, 2021•49 min•Ep. 48
Send us a text Ep. 047 - Imagine purchasing the wedding dress of your dreams only to have it collect dust in the back of your closet for a decade. That's the story Bethany is sharing on today's episode. She saw her dream wedding dress when she was in her early twenties. She thought marriage would become her reality in the next two to three years and so she decided to snag the dress. Little did she know that her journey of singleness would last much longer than she ever hoped or dreamed it would....
Sep 27, 2021•27 min•Ep. 47
Send us a text Ep. 046 - It’s been five whole months since Zack and Kristen brought their two precious boys home from Ukraine. Life has been full, exciting, wonderful, and challenging for them - all at the same time. Many of you have been asking questions like, “How are they doing? What are their biggest joys and challenges? How are the boys adjusting?” In this episode, Kristen opens up and shares her heart on how the adoption transition is going and what the past five months have looked like. N...
Sep 20, 2021•54 min•Ep. 46
Send us a text Ep. 045 - Nobody goes into a relationship hoping for heartbreak. The dream is that the relationship will draw you closer to each other and eventually end with a happily ever after fairy tale ending. Sadly, the fairy tale ending doesn't seem to always work out. Many of us are faced with the reality that the relationship isn't at all what we'd hoped it would be. For one reason or another the relationship ends. Hearts are broken. Friendships are severed. Sadness follows. If you're go...
Sep 13, 2021•54 min•Ep. 45
Send us a text Ep. 044 - God intentionally created each one of us to be sexual beings. From the beginning of time He made us with sexual desires. Sexual longings. Sexual yearnings. He designed us this way on purpose and for a purpose. He’s not a killjoy in the sky wanting to squash our sexual feelings. He’s a loving Creator who wants to help us steer our affections and desires in the right direction—all for His glory. Out of love, He’s given us beautiful parameters for how to embrace our sexuali...
Sep 06, 2021•50 min•Ep. 44
Send us a text Ep. 043 - Have you ever found yourself lying in bed at night, wide awake, with your thoughts racing with worry and anxiety? Or maybe you’ve found yourself sick to your stomach as fear consumed your heart? Kristen has been there herself, and knows how crippling and discouraging these moments can be. In this candid and honest conversation, she’ll share with you 3 Biblical truths that have personally transformed her life from being ruled by fear, anxiety, and worry, to instead findin...
Aug 30, 2021•50 min•Ep. 43
Send us a text Ep. 42 - Life rarely turns out exactly the way that any of us thought it would. From unexpected loss, to unfulfilled desires, to massive disappointments, life can be really hard. Trusting God through those twists and turns isn't always easy. Many of us struggle to believe that God is good. Many of us question if His ways are really for our best. Many of us want to grab the reigns and trust in ourselves to lead the way instead of trusting God. Ever been there? In today's episode, K...
Aug 23, 2021•35 min•Ep. 42
Send us a text Ep. 041 - It's love story time! Today on the show you're going to hear from Dav and Bethany Beal. They're sharing how they met, fell in love, and eventually got married. Dav and Bethany had many obstacles in their way, mainly being 5 1/2 years apart (with Bethany being older). They met way back in 2011 while Dav was a teenager and Bethany was already in her twenties. Their friendship didn't begin to form until several years from this first meeting. Through years of friendship thei...
Aug 16, 2021•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 41
Send us a text Ep. 040 - Dr. Rosaria Butterfield was an English professor at Syracuse University, specializing in queer theory, lobbying for LGBTQ+ groups, was in a committed lesbian relationship and living the life she thought would bring her true happiness. Until the day she was confronted with the true gospel of Jesus Christ. In an effort to prove Christianity wrong, Dr. Rosaria read through the Bible seven times looking for flaws and issues with the Word. The opposite happened though. Throug...
Aug 09, 2021•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 40
Send us a text Ep. 039 - We have four godly men taking over The Girl Defined Show. They answer your most pressing questions about love, purity, dating and marriage. They even answer the much asked question, "Would a Christian guy date a girl who isn't a virgin?" You don't want to miss that answer. It was gold. Listen to Zack, Dav, Daniel and Gonz bring truth and encouragement to this conversation. Shine Bright Devotional Girl Defined Love Defined Sex, Purity and the Longings of a Girl's Heart Su...
Aug 02, 2021•32 min•Ep. 39
Send us a text Life is full of disappointment, unfulfilled longings, and heartbreaking moments. It's so hard to have hope when life feels so hopeless. It's hard to trust that God is good when you've been praying for something for YEARS and He never gives it to you. It's hard to continue on when you see everyone else laving out their dream and you're still struggling. In today's conversation, Kristen shares her own struggles with ongoing disappointment and unfulfilled longings. She opens up about...
Jul 26, 2021•52 min•Ep. 38
Send us a text The messages of self-love, follow your heart, and be true to yourself are permeating our culture today. But this formula of looking inward to find value within our own goodness isn’t working. Many of us are finding ourselves on a never-ending cycle of striving to be good enough but never measuring up. This is not what God intended for us. He never asks us to be enough or to love ourselves more. God sent Jesus to be enough for us. That’s what the Gospel is all about. That’s where t...
Jul 20, 2021•30 min•Ep. 37
Send us a text Once a year the Girl Defined Sisterhood gathers in person for a time of encouragement, fellowship, worship and fun hangs together. The dates are set. The venue is ready. Join us in San Antonio, TX on July 30-31 for the 2021 Girl Defined Conference. We will be covering main stage sessions like: SESSION ONE: Living as a Daughter of the Light. SESSION TWO: Your Truest Identity Doesn’t Come from Within. SESSION THREE: Living for Christ in the Face of Cancel Culture. SESSION FOUR: Beco...
Jul 16, 2021•4 min
Send us a text Ep. 036 - With almost a decade of marriage and unexplained infertility, Kristen and Zack struggled to trust God. Why would He withhold something so good from this godly couple? Why would He leave them searching with no answers? Doesn't God want godly couples to raise up godly children? If so, why isn't He blessing them with the desires of their heart? Little did they know that God had a perfect plan. In His perfect timing, God worked in Kristen and Zack's hearts and directed them ...
Jul 12, 2021•1 hr 28 min•Ep. 36
Send us a text Ep. 035 - Does your happiness currently feel dependent on someone else's presence in your life? Do you feel like your world would fall apart if a certain person was no longer your friend? Are your thoughts consumed by this person day-in-and-day-out? If so, your relationship has become skewed. We want you to find freedom before it becomes a relational prison. In today's conversation, Ellen Dykas asks you a few pointed questions that are sure to reveal if your relationship has turne...
Jul 05, 2021•45 min•Ep. 35
