Send us a text Ep. 034 - Sex and sexuality are two of the hottest topics in society right now. With so many voices expressing opinions, it can be confusing to know what's truth and what's not. What did God actually say about our sexuality in comparison to what we're seeing happen in our society? If we, as Christian women, are not vigilant to discern lies from truths, we will will end up listening to whichever voice is shouting the loudest. When we choose to embrace anything but God's good and or...
Jun 28, 2021•43 min•Ep. 34
Send us a text Ep. 033 - In many ways, it feels like having an open and honest conversation about homosexuality, transgenderism and/or abortion, is off limits. If the thoughts don't line up with the cultural norm, you better keep them to yourself. Despite the pressure to stay silent on these issues, we're not staying silent. There is too much at stake. God's Word isn't silent on these topics and neither should we be. In today's conversation, Professor Nancy Pearcey, brings her wisdom and experti...
Jun 21, 2021•56 min•Ep. 33
Send us a text Ep. 032 - When was the first time you really noticed a guy? What about your first crush? Most of us never take the time to figure out how we ended up where we are today. If you find yourself boy-crazy, how did you get there? When did it happen? In today's episode, Paula takes us on her own boy-crazy journey. She shares how her obsession with getting guys to notice her, completely robbed her of true joy and satisfaction in Christ. Getting another boyfriend didn't make her happy, bu...
Jun 14, 2021•35 min•Ep. 32
Send us a text Living out God's radically good design for womanhood doesn't just happen. You won't drift into biblical womanhood. You won't accidentally land into following God and His Word. It takes pursuit. Effort. Focus. And a willingness to humble yourself before God and submit to His design for your life. If you desire to learn more about your Creator's beautiful design for your life, you must get serious about it. You must take action. In today's episode, Kristen and Bethany share their jo...
Jun 07, 2021•31 min•Ep. 31
Send us a text Ep. 030 - Getting married is one of the biggest moments in a woman's life. The engagement, wedding prep, premarital counseling, and honeymoon anticipation, is exciting and totally overwhelming. That's why it's crucial to enter those first few weeks of marriage with a solid biblical understanding of sex and intimacy. Instead of going into marriage based on what you've seen in the movies or learned from your peers, equip yourself with wisdom from a godly older couple who can guide y...
May 31, 2021•55 min•Ep. 30
Send us a text Ep. 29 - What if dating isn’t about finding “the one” but making a wise choice so you can better serve the One who loves you most? What if God didn’t design relationships to make you happy but to make you holy? This conversation with Gary Thomas on The Girl Defined Show will transform the way you look at romantic relationships. Whether you are single, dating, or engaged, Gary’s unique perspective on dating will prepare you for a satisfying, spiritually enriching marriage even befo...
May 24, 2021•53 min•Ep. 29
Send us a text Ep. 28 - Growing up in a loving Christian home can often make someone feel invincible. Almost like the struggles of the world world will never be their own personal struggles. Gretchen Saffles knows what that's like. She remembers hearing about eating disorders and thinking to herself "that's something I will never struggle with." How did she go from thinking those thoughts, to finding herself in that very place only a few short years later? In this open and honest conversation, G...
May 17, 2021•37 min•Ep. 28
Send us a text Ep. 027 - Social media is a tool that can be used for good or for bad. We've seen some amazing good come out of it (that's how we stay connected to most of you), but we've also seen it misused as well. Should we ditch it? Should we have it? Should we use it? In today's episode, we chat with Tara Snyder. She's the founder of Truth Talks with Tara and an avid promoter of God's Word through the avenue of social media. Her insight and wisdom in this conversation is priceless. Girl Def...
May 10, 2021•52 min•Ep. 27
Send us a text Ep. 26 - Kim Jaggers has experienced more trauma, pain and heartbreak than most of us can even imagine. After being told that she might lose her son due to his extreme health issues, she was faced with the tragedy of suicide. While grieving the potential loss of her baby, she now had to grieve the loss of her husband. Being a single mom was never even a possibility in her mind. But that's exactly where she found herself. In today's episode, we jump into part 2 of Kim Jaggers life ...
May 03, 2021•52 min•Ep. 26
Send us a text Ep. 025 - She had everything a young woman could dream of. The perfect house, dream husband, and a sweet little newborn baby. This was Kim Jaggers fairytale life. Her dreams were coming true and she was planning to live happily ever after. Little did she know that her entire world was about to turn upside down. Everything she knew and loved was about to get ripped away. In today's episode, we talk with author and speaker Kim Jaggers. She opens up and shares the raw, honest, and he...
Apr 26, 2021•33 min•Ep. 25
Send us a text Ep. 24 - Going on a first date can be super exciting and totally awkward at the same time. Let's talk about how to best prepare for a first date. Questions to ask. Things to look for. How deep to take the conversation. The goal of the date. And more. With the right questions and mindset in place, it's possible to figure out if you should even go on a second date with this guy. In today's episode, Bethany shares her experiences with first dates. She talks about what went right, the...
Apr 19, 2021•30 min•Ep. 24
Send us a text With so much pressure to conform to cultural norms and popular trends, it’s hard to live out your faith each day. That’s why you need to stay connected to the source of truth and power. By staying grounded in your relationship with Christ, you’ll have the daily strength you need to live boldly as a Girl Defined by God. Our new devotional, Shine Bright: 60 Days to Becoming a Girl Defined by God , is filled with encouraging verses, relevant topics, questions for reflection, and some...
Apr 16, 2021•6 min
Send us a text Ep. 23 - If you’re a girl or woman who has struggled with any sort of lustful sin habit, you’re not alone. Millions of Christian women (single and married) are facing similar temptations every day. And by God’s grace, many of them are finding freedom and victory over their struggles! I (Kristen) am going to be very open and transparent in this post because I want you to know that Christ has the power to help us overcome our sin and to find lasting victory. In today's episode, I'm ...
Apr 12, 2021•58 min•Ep. 23
Send us a text Ep. 022 - What’s the harm in dating a non-Christian guy? What if he’s a highly moral guy, but he’s not a Christian. Is dating okay? We love each other and love is bigger than religion, right? We get asked these questions and more on a regular basis. Christian girls want to know if it's biblically okay for a christian girl to date a non-christian guy. The argument goes, "It's not like we're getting married. It's just dating." In today's episode on The Girl Defined Show, we dig deep...
Apr 05, 2021•37 min•Ep. 22
Send us a text Ep. 021 - Having the opportunity to sit under the wisdom of a godly woman is a huge blessing. Don’t try to figure life out on your own. Don’t look to social media, magazines, movies, or music to be your guide. Don’t only surround yourself with peers. Instead, take some time to begin praying and asking God to provide a godly older woman to mentor you. It’s been a huge help in our lives and we're convinced it will be the same for you. In today's episode, we're talking about the proc...
Mar 29, 2021•33 min•Ep. 21
Send us a text Ep. 020 - Do your emotions sometimes feel like a roller coaster of ups and downs? Do you ever feel so tightly wound up that you just want to scream? Do tears often seep into your pillow at night? If so, you’re not alone. For most of us as girls, emotions can feel like our greatest friend one minute and our deepest enemy the next. Thankfully, God isn’t surprised by this. He created us with emotions and wants to help us learn how to lead our feelings with the truth. In today’s episo...
Mar 22, 2021•32 min•Ep. 20
Send us a text Ep. 019 - I never thought I'd wait until I was 30 to experience my first kiss on my wedding day. I made the decision when I was a teenager, but I thought I'd get married in my early twenties. God had a different plan though. A few weeks ago I posted a reel to Instagram of me and my husband kissing for the first time at the altar. For whatever reason, it sparked a ton of interest. Over 3 million people viewed that video and left a ton of love on it as well. Why do people find that ...
Mar 15, 2021•40 min•Ep. 19
Send us a text Ep. 018 - Has your sexuality ever felt more like a curse rather than a blessing? Have you ever wondered why God gave single guys and gals a sex drive? Have you ever strived to truly overcome and find freedom from masturbation, porn, or some other habit? These are concerns and questions that most every single woman thinks or asks at some point in her life. They are important thoughts and they need to be discussed. That is why we brought Dr. Juli Slattery on to The Girl Defined Show...
Mar 08, 2021•42 min•Ep. 18
Send us a text Ep. 046 - Enjoy this replay! Many Christian women wonder if being a virgin on their wedding night will be awkward. Saving sex for marriage sounds great, but is it really that great? OR is it mostly super awkward and weird? Is saving sex for marriage actually worth it? Does God really care that much? In today's episode, Kristen and Bethany share their own stories of saving sex for marriage and dig into these questions from personal experience. They also share multiple resources tha...
Mar 01, 2021•45 min•Ep. 17
Send us a text Ep. 016 - As women, we ALL want to be happy, fulfilled, content, worthy, and loved… but so many women (whether Christian or not) find themselves feeling the opposite. In fact, in researching for Kristen and Bethany's first book, Girl Defined, they came across a study published in the UK Daily Mail which stated, quote: “Women are less happy nowadays despite 40 years of feminism. Despite having more opportunities than ever before, they have a lower sense of well-being and life satis...
Feb 22, 2021•56 min•Ep. 16
Send us a text Ep. 015 - We’re talking about the hush-hush topic of porn and answering your question about whether or not you should date a guy who’s addicted to it. According to a recent survey, we're told that at least 75% of christian guys ages 18-30 view porn at least several times a month. Those are not encouraging statistics. So what are we supposed to do? How should we approach this topic? Are guys who struggle with porn on the no-no list"? In today's episode, Kristen and Bethany address ...
Feb 15, 2021•43 min•Ep. 15
Send us a text 014 - You like him, he likes you...now what? How do you you show him you’re interested? Should you wait for him to ask you out, or should you take the first step? And if you do start dating, what should you be looking for in one another? How do you know if they’re the one?! Join Kristen and her husband, Zack, for this exciting episode as they share the nitty-gritty details of their relationship journey from friendship, to dating, to engagement, to marriage. Now, with almost 10 yea...
Feb 08, 2021•44 min•Ep. 14
Send us a text Ep. 013 - Most women have big questions about guys, dating, marriage and emotions. Love and romance can be extremely challenging to navigate. That's why Kristen and Bethany have dedicated this entire episode to answering your most pressing questions. How do you get over a guy when I really thought he was the one? How do I deal with mood swings and crazy emotions? What do you think about Christian online dating? And more. In today's episode, Kristen and Bethany unpack the pros and ...
Feb 01, 2021•33 min•Ep. 13
Send us a text Ep. 012 - When did Christians start talking about virginity and purity like it was the most important thing? When did sex become the big “no-no?” And how did purity culture become such a hot button issue? Kristen and Bethany both grew up in the height of the purity movement. Purity rings and true love waits were a part of their young adult years. They both had purity rings and both advocated for things like... saving your first kiss until marriage. Their insight on the issue of se...
Jan 25, 2021•44 min•Ep. 12
Send us a text Ep. 011 - Do you find yourself struggling to be a girl of the Word instead of the world? Kristen and Bethany have found themselves in that place many times. There are constantly things pulling us, as girls, away from our greatest purpose, identity, and mission as Christians. We need to remember that we aren't just girls. We are Christian girls. And that should radically change everything about us. We should have a radically different purpose in our: Goals Relationships Identity Se...
Jan 18, 2021•34 min•Ep. 11
Send us a text Ep. 010 - The struggle to get into God's Word on a daily basis is real. It seems like there are a million distractions and things pulling us away from being quiet before God. If we're totally honest, sometimes reading the Bible can feel like a boring chore or simply a box to check off. Have you ever felt that way? Instead of continuing on with the same plan (or no plan) and hoping for different results, let's take a step back and rethink the entire purpose of the Bible. Let's ask ...
Jan 11, 2021•36 min•Ep. 10
Send us a text 009 - Long-distance dating is hard. It takes a ton of commitment and perseverance to truly get to know someone. Ellissa Baird knows this all too well. She's spent the past year getting to know a man who lives thousands of miles away from her home. The road wasn't easy, but it was totally worth it. Ellissa and Andrii are just days from getting married and spending their lives together. In today's episode, Ellissa shares her long-distance dating story. She opens up about the ins-and...
Jan 04, 2021•46 min•Ep. 9
Send us a text 008 - We are NOT feminists. Yes, we are women. Yes, we value women. Yes, we love the sisterhood and genuinely want to see every woman thrive in her life. We absolutely stand against anything that demeans women. Yes, we believe that God cares for women greatly and loves women deeply. But, we are NOT feminists and we never will be. In today's episode, Kristen and Bethany dig into the ins and outs of what it means to be pro-woman without claiming the feminist title. They open up Scri...
Dec 28, 2020•34 min•Ep. 8
Send us a text 007 - A recent cover of Vogue featured Harry Styles wearing a dress. Yes, a dress. Is this a big deal or is it not? We see people responding on both ends of the spectrum. Some are applauding Harry as being bold, edgy, and forward-thinking. Others are appalled that a man is being praised for wearing women's clothing. The goal of today's episode isn't to discuss personal opinions. It's to figure out how we, as Christians, should we respond to this. Join Kristen and Bethany as they d...
Dec 21, 2020•38 min•Ep. 7
Send us a text 006 - The words "biblical womanhood" often bring up a variety of thoughts and opinions with them. Thoughts like, "biblical womanhood turns you into a wimpy doormat" or "biblical womanhood assumes you are less valuable than a man." Although those thoughts might be popular to believe, they are definitely not from God's Word. In today's episode, Kristen and Bethany unpack four popular myths about biblical womanhood and show you why God's design isn't nearly as dull or wimpy as many t...
Dec 14, 2020•49 min•Ep. 6
