I had a really interesting conversation last night with a good friend. We were sitting over a beautiful dinner talking about relationships and how to move forward in them when it appears the commitment levels are differing.
So I posed this question: If I have the emotional tools, is it my responsibility to share them and teach them, or is it better to stand in my integrity and just be them?
My friend said, the higher self would share them and teach them. And I replied and said, I think my higher self would do the opposite. Even as recently as several years ago, I would have felt compelled to share and teach what I know in that kind of relationship context, but after doing it over and over, I realized, you can give someone a tool that doesn’t want it.
It’s so much more effective to stand in your integrity and be the tools you have.
Here’s the cold hard truth: you cannot change anyone. You can try. You can bend over backwards and turn yourself inside and out. But you cannot make someone show up to the relationship the way that you do.
So then you have to decide for yourself: is this a relationship worth investing in or not? And if it’s not, that doesn’t mean the relationship has to end, but it gives you permission to take it off your list of priorities.