Shadow Layer #4: Moving towards is baked right into our brains. We use the part of our brain that deals with fight response, immediacy, reactivity. We are willing to DO fight. In fact, we are compelled to do fight in order to survive. Engaging and moving towards a threat feels safer than waiting for it to come find us and take us by surprise. RESOURCES: Dr. Jerome D. Lubbe - The Patient Doctor ( drjerome.com ) Join our 8 Community www.theenneagram8community.com Find us here www.theenneagram8podc...
May 21, 2021•54 min
Eight Health #1: Jim is the co-founder of The Art of Growth, and co-hosts an enneagram panels podcast also called The Art of Growth. 4:00: Forced transformational moments. "I did not do it on purpose... I wouldn't have gone here willingly. It had to be forced on me." 7:30: Eight denial. "The starting point isn't to crack it all open, but to know it's safe to do so." 11:10 Betrayal. "It's such a visceral experience of violation [that the] 'You're dead to me' isn't a choice that's being made, it i...
May 07, 2021•51 min
Shadow Layer #3: This might be the deepest darkest pit we fall into. We think it's because it feels so so good to go where our body leads us. But, just like a fire on a dry day... if we aren't careful, we'll burn the forest down. RESOURCES: "The Enneagram" by Richard Rohr / "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" by Don Riso / "Burnout" by Emily and Amelia Nagoski Join our 8 Community www.theenneagram8community.com Find us here www.theenneagram8podcast.com Support this podcast: The Enneagram8 Podcast is c...
Apr 23, 2021•37 min
Shadow Layer #2: This tough act is one of the most quintessentially 8 things. However we define strength, it plays a big role in how 8s orient themselves to the world. While we don't think strength is just an ego construct, but a tangible offering we bring to the world, problems crop up when we treat humanity like a giant boxing match (in which we always come out with the title belt). What if, rather than flexing a stronger-than-you attitude, we simply stop at this: I am strong. RESOURCES: "The ...
Apr 09, 2021•32 min
Shadow Layer #1: And so we begin a long foray into the habits 8s fall into that keep them firmly settled into the heart of their personality. We can get by in life staying right there in the middle, but that isn't growth. That's staying stuck. Self Sufficiency is the allergic reaction we 8s have to being needy. We've worked hard to stand firmly on our own two feet, using a bunch of confirmation bias along the way that people let us down. This is one of those "shadow layers" that has an undeniabl...
Mar 26, 2021•41 min
Our shadow side is like black mold... It's growing unseen in the walls, and slowly killing us. This episode is a discussion about what an 8 shadow might look like based on your wing, your subtype, and on the health levels 4 through 9, as developed and described by Don Riso. RESOURCES: Big Hormone Enneagram Episode 59 "Devils of Health" // Don Riso's "The Wisdom of the Enneagram" Join our 8 Community www.theenneagram8community.com Find us here www.theenneagram8podcast.com Support this podcast: Th...
Mar 05, 2021•54 min
You're afraid of something. Keep telling yourself you're not, and I'll keep calling you a liar. As 8s, we spend a lot of time killing our fears dead, and denying the ones we can't kill. That's not very helpful. There's something about bringing a thing to light that makes it lose it's power. So... What are you afraid of? Join our 8 Community www.theenneagram8community.com Find us here www.theenneagram8podcast.com Support this podcast: The Enneagram8 Podcast is creating podcasts | Patreon...
Feb 12, 2021•55 min
So many experts with so much to say about the childhood wounds that made us, but... It takes an 8 to know an 8, so we'll pick apart some quotes and see what we come up with. RESOURCES: Jo's writing piece called "Hidden Things" (Red House in the Woods Blog) Join our 8 Community www.theenneagram8community.com Find us here www.theenneagram8podcast.com Support this podcast: The Enneagram8 Podcast is creating podcasts | Patreon...
Jan 29, 2021•47 min
We've all heard the saying about life throwing you lemons... Well, when life threw us Eights lemons, we did NOT make lemonade. We made barricades-- some of us made really thick ones. The making of an Eight is not really a mysterious thing once you understand how our brains work. In this episode it's really clear that two little Eight girls with different childhoods both manage to mostly end up in the same place. It's really true, this Enneagram stuff. Join our 8 Community www.theenneagram8commun...
Jan 08, 2021•36 min
"If I wanted to change something, why would I wait for January 1st?" This seems to be the sentiment among most of us 8s. We're up for a great party, and time well spent with friends, family & good food. But, resolutions? Nah. A new me? No thanks. Happy New Year to all of you, and happy every-other-day too! Find us here www.theenneagram8podcast.com Support this podcast: The Enneagram8 Podcast is creating podcasts | Patreon...
Jan 01, 2021•23 min
Here's what YOU all had to say about Christmas. It was such a pleasure to put this one together. It turns out 8s even have a speech pattern: A slow, easy cadence. Enjoy this compilation of Christmas thoughts and memories from our very own 8 community. Find us here www.theenneagram8podcast.com Support this podcast: The Enneagram8 Podcast is creating podcasts | Patreon
Dec 24, 2020•20 min
When we asked you what you wanted to talk about for our holiday episode, the answer was RELATIONSHIPS. It seems 8s have complicated feelings about the holidays. This has everything to do with the usual interplay of our intensely relational, but autonomous selves and the people around us who don't think like we do. We answered all your questions from our vantage point, and while it might not offer any fixes, at the very least, it's our way of telling you aren't a lone. We understand. --- Find us ...
Dec 11, 2020•28 min
This one's all sugar cookies and cozy vibes (and the only royalty free Christmas music we could find). Find us here www.theenneagram8podcast.com Support this podcast: The Enneagram8 Podcast is creating podcasts | Patreon
Dec 04, 2020•35 min
Before we launch into a discussion about childhood wounds & 8s, we think it's important to introduce an intriguing theory called Object Relations. It suggests that we formed our type structure (in all its quirky glory) in relationship to the ways our caregivers failed to provide either the Nurture or Protection function. We explore yet another set of triads: Frustration, Attachment and Rejection. But, we dig a little deeper into what this means for 8 brains as they're shaped in those first f...
Nov 27, 2020•12 min
We've gotten pretty tired of our egos. A lot of those "I ams" we've been telling ourselves don't really fit anymore. So, we're rewriting the narrative about who we really are one "I am" at a time. Join our 8 Community www.theenneagram8community.com Find us here www.theenneagram8podcast.com Support this podcast: The Enneagram8 Podcast is creating podcasts | Patreon
Nov 13, 2020•39 min
You have an ego. We all do. It's all those "I am" statements you've built into your identity over the years. The 8 ego has been notoriously labelled as a big one. Maybe it is, but we insist that it's no bigger than any other type's ego. It's just a lot louder. In this episode, we name some of the "I ams" that we held on tight to in order to survive childhood. But, they're kind of getting old now. Next week we'll talk about why we need to break out of our ego rut and change the narrative about wh...
Nov 06, 2020•41 min
Last week, we gave you a sense of how we interact with the enneagram. This mini episode goes a lot further. This is our "podcast white paper." Jo lays out clearly and plainly what we've chosen to build into our enneagram tool kit, and what we've discarded. She explains that faith and science and plain practicality intersect in the way we use the enneagram system. We think you'll appreciate the frankness and the clarity. RESOURCES: The Thrive NeuroTheology Podcast (The fellows over there are the ...
Oct 23, 2020•7 min
We're launching into season one for real. We'll be picking apart the enneagram system piece by piece and building it back up using 8 language. We're starting with a high level discussion about how we interact with the system as a whole, what we thought about it initially, how we felt about learning we were 8s, and the quirky way we type people. We created a sister episode (coming up next) filled with our favourite books and resources. RESOURCES: The Thrive NeuroTheology Podcast (Jo's go-to) Find...
Oct 16, 2020•36 min
We decided to lead with denial because IT'S A THING. 8s are absolute geniuses at denying things that just hurt too darn much to look at straight. So... we want to rip off the Band-Aid so you're wide open for the season ahead. Sound fun? We unpack an article written by fellow 8 and Enneagram Coach Cheryl McMillan about what denial is and does. RESOURCES: Using the Enneagram: Denial as a Defense (Article by Cheryl McMillan) // "Athlete A" (Netflix Documentary) NEXT EPISODE: 8's & The Enneagram...
Oct 09, 2020•35 min
This episode is about the "nuts & bolts" of Jo's type: Wing, instinct stacking & tritype. She'll also tell you why the enneagram has been such a gift to a perpetual outsider like her. NOTE: We're so sorry about the audio. New mic + rookie mistakes... We'll get there. NEXT EPISODE: 8's and Denial! Join our 8 Community HERE Find us here www.theenneagram8podcast.com Support this podcast: The Enneagram8 Podcast is creating podcasts | Patreon...
Oct 02, 2020•14 min
This one's for all of you 8s who feel braced for a fight wherever you go. Jo gets it. She was that silent, watchful kid in every room that expected trouble. This episode is about what shaped her, and who she's become. The nuts & bolts of Jo: 8w7/SEXUAL/Tritype 847. Dig in! RESOURCES: The Place We Find Ourselves (A podcast about childhood wounds & trauma). Find us here www.theenneagram8podcast.com Support this podcast: The Enneagram8 Podcast is creating podcasts | Patreon...
Sep 26, 2020•24 min
This one's about Eryn. We figure that if you are going to lend us some ear time, you should know who we are, along with our particular "flavour" of 8ness. We discuss the nuts & bolts of Eryn: 8w7/SOCIAL/Tritype 827, and how life in her thirties (and all the hard things it threw her way) softened her, slowed her down, and helped her access her 9 wing. Enjoy! Resources: Zhuanlan (Triptype descriptions) Join our Enneagram 8 Community here www.theenneagram8community.com Visit our website www.the...
Sep 22, 2020•21 min
Another enneagram podcast?! Whyyyyyyy?! We'll tell you why. Also, we'll complain a bit about all the ways the world gets us wrong, but we'll set the record straight. Top resources for beginners: FINDING TYPE: RHETI Test (Best testing tool for typing. It will give you the ranking of all nine types within your personality in order of how dominant they are. Note: Your top few will help you determine your wing and tritype.) Enneagram Institute (A very comprehensive website that digs deep into each t...
Sep 19, 2020•24 min
It takes an 8 to know an 8, so we're giving you two! Join our Enneagram 8 Community here www.theenneagram8community.com Visit our website www.theeneagram8podcast.com Support this podcast: The Enneagram8 Podcast is creating podcasts | Patreon
Sep 14, 2020•1 min
