When someone you love leaves

When someone we love leaves it is often pain and panic that determine our actions. 

How do we engage in conversation during the pain and the panic?

What do we do?

1.       Decide what we want from the situation

2.       Work to support the idea that people get to choose whatever they will choose

3.       Take time to listen. Validate and Listen – Listening does not equal agreement

4.       When we are trying to change other people it is just us trying to change things so they will be comfortable for us

5.       Ask if they are open to a different point of view or feedback. 

6.       Don’t “Should Them”

7.       It’s okay not to agree as you make your way through complicated times

8.       We get to choose how we engage the situation

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