E. 2 Relationship Boundaries and How affairs happen.

How do affairs happen? What are the rules or boundaries for relationships to support trust and it's accompanying vulnerability to instill intimacy? 

This episode addresses two questions from listeners Kim and Kate about relationship boundaries. There are three risk criteria that make relationships with others vulnerable to developing more than just a friendship: Age range plus or minus 7-10 years. Gender orientation (Gay with Gay, Heterosexual with Heterosexual etc., and attraction.  If the "friend" you want is within your age range, attractive and has the same sexual orientation as you - that is a high risk friend. It doesn't mean you can't have that person as a friend but there are things you can do to reduce the likelihood of it developing into a romantic relationship and sabotaging the marriage you have.

Then after addressing these questions I go into how affairs start and how they develop. 

Sharing, leads to caring, caring leads to baring. Relationships either grow or die unless you put strategic limiters in place. 

And just for good measure, Secrecy vs privacy is addressed. 

You have relationship questions you want answered email me at emil@emilharker.com!

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