#090 What if training your sub could feel more like bonding with a dragon than shouting commands? 👉 Grab the free “How to Be a Good Dom” Quick Start guide at https://domsubliving.com/dominant We're sharing real-world ways to build trust, create habits that stick, avoid common Dom mistakes, and adjust training styles for every type of sub. Strengthen connection, not control. ➡️ Access the free Dominant Quick Start Guide: https://domsubliving.com/dominant ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliv...
Jun 16, 2025•21 min•Ep. 90
#089 “I don’t play submissive—I live it. Every day.” 🔥 Grab your own TPE blueprint: https://domsubliving.com/blueprint In this behind-the-scenes episode, Alesandra from Dom Sub Living shares what a real 24/7 Total Power Exchange looks like—from morning rituals and daily protocols to mistakes, resets, and the small things that keep her dynamic thriving. ➡️ Total Power Exchange Blueprint: https://domsubliving.com/blueprint ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/089...
Jun 09, 2025•18 min•Ep. 89
#088 Does Total Power Exchange mean giving up everything—or just giving with intention? ✨ Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/community We're answering the top 10 questions we get asked most about TPE, from burnout and boundaries to parenting, protocol, and sex. ➡️ Join our free community: https://domsubliving.com/community ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/088...
Jun 02, 2025•23 min•Ep. 88
#087 Are your darkest desires really that dangerous? 👉 Download the free checklist of 50 kinks at https://domsubliving.com/checklist We're breaking down 10 taboo kinks—from pet play to CNC to pregnancy—and ranking them from safe to seriously risky. Find out which ones are more common than you think—and which ones even seasoned kinksters get wrong. ➡️ Free checklist of 50 kinks: https://domsubliving.com/checklist ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/087...
May 26, 2025•20 min•Ep. 87
#086 “Do you really live like that every day?” In this episode, we're sharing a special interview from the Kink Your Way podcast with Leann Herron. We talk about BDSM as a lifestyle, growing a kink business, breaking shame, and what it’s really like behind the scenes. ➡️ Check out 'Kink Your Way': https://kinkyourway.com ➡️ Explore our online courses: https://domsubliving.com/courses/...
May 22, 2025•58 min•Ep. 86
#085 Think BDSM isn’t built for ADHD or autism? Think again. 🎁 Get free scripts, tools & aftercare tips at https://domsubliving.com/free We're sharing how neurodivergent kinksters can thrive—without masking, burning out, or giving up. Learn how to customize your dynamic, avoid ableism, and support your unique needs in kink! ➡️ Access the free Resource Library: https://domsubliving.com/free ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/085...
May 19, 2025•20 min•Ep. 85
#084 Is it still dominance if it’s gentle? 🎁 Grab the free quick-start guide to become a better Dom: https://domsubliving.com/dominant Turns out, soft domination isn’t weakness—it’s an intentional, emotionally intelligent way to lead and surrender. In this episode, we're exploring what gentle domination really looks like, why it’s trending in the BDSM community, and how soft Doms are rewriting the rules of control, discipline, and connection. ➡️ Free Dominant quick-start guide: https://domsubli...
May 12, 2025•13 min•Ep. 84
#083 What if therapy isn't the only way to heal — and sometimes, it's not even the best way? 👉 Grab free resources at https://domsubliving.com/free . In this episode, we're sharing why BDSM can offer healing in ways traditional therapy sometimes can't. We cover surprising insights even therapists are exploring, the hidden harm of for-profit therapy, and a powerful scene that cracked open years of trauma. Ready to explore healing on your own terms? ➡️ Access the free Resource Library: https://do...
May 05, 2025•23 min•Ep. 83
#082 Who says you need a dungeon or hours of planning for a night you’ll never forget? 🎁 Want step-by-step worksheets and real scene examples to put these ideas into action? Check out our “Scene Creation Mastery” (only $9!) at https://domsubliving.com/scene-creation-mastery/ In this episode we're sharing 5 simple and powerful BDSM scene ideas you can use tonight—no fancy gear or prep required. From voice-only command scenes and sensory deprivation with household items, to secret service rituals...
Apr 28, 2025•31 min•Ep. 82
#081 Poly and kinky? It’s not as easy as people think. ❤️ Download the free BDSM Relationship Structure Guide at https://domsubliving.com/guide We're sharing 5 essential rules for making BDSM and polyamory work—without the drama. Learn how to define power structures, avoid jealousy, handle communication across partners, and balance multiple D/s roles. With real stories, clear strategies, and hard truths, this is your roadmap to healthy, multi-dynamic relationships. ➡️ Access the free Resource Li...
Apr 21, 2025•11 min•Ep. 81
#080 Would you ever take orders from an AI Dom or command an AI sub? 🎯 Want to build real D/s dynamics instead of relying on AI? Grab my free BDSM Scene Template at domsubliving.com/scene ! It might sound wild, but AI is creeping into BDSM faster than you'd think. We're breaking down how people are using AI for training, control, and even aftercare—plus where it all falls short. From AI subs with no real surrender to AI Doms missing true intuition, we're diving into the future (and risks) of te...
Apr 14, 2025•15 min•Ep. 80
#079 Who's got it tougher in a D/s dynamic, Dominants or submissives? 🔥 Ready to level up your Dom/sub game? Check out https://domsubtraining.com We're tackling this hot topic, and it might just surprise you. We're getting into the nitty-gritty, highlighting the weight on a Dom's shoulders—like planning and managing emotions—and the trust and mental hurdles subs navigate. Whether you're leading or letting go, there's a lot to consider! Got an opinion? Tune in and join the friendly debate. ➡️ Jo...
Apr 07, 2025•17 min•Ep. 79
#078 If you don’t trust your own Dominance, your submissive won’t either. 🚀 Get your free How to Be a Good Dom Quick Start Guide at https://domsubliving.com/dom Confidence isn’t about being loud or forceful—it’s about presence, control, and certainty. In this episode, you’ll learn how to command attention without overcompensating, use body language to reinforce your authority, and lead in a way that makes your submissive feel safe, secure, and deeply connected to you. ➡️ Free Dominant Quick Sta...
Mar 31, 2025•20 min•Ep. 78
#077 After 10 years of experience in the BDSM lifestyle—teaching, coaching, and living it 24/7—here are 50 game-changing BDSM tips in just 15 minutes! Want to go deeper with me on BDSM and D/s dynamics? Check out my free resources to enhance your journey: https://domsubliving.com/free Whether you’re new to the scene or a seasoned kinkster, these insights will help you navigate power exchange, play, communication, and more. Hopefully, at least one of these tips will be a game changer for you! ➡️ ...
Mar 24, 2025•14 min•Ep. 77
#076 Is your bondage routine feeling a bit stale? By the end of this episode, you'll be itching to try something new. 👉 Snag a free ticket to the next summit at https://domsubdynamics.com/ Alesandra and Jay dive into the world of bondage from last year's Dom/Sub Dynamics Summit. They chat about everything from ropes and cuffs to the psychological side of things like power play. Whether you're new to bondage or a seasoned pro, there's something here for everyone. Plus, learn how bondage can brin...
Mar 17, 2025•15 min•Ep. 76
#075 Think your kink is too weird or too basic? Spoiler: It's probably more common than you think! ✅ Download your free checklist of over 50 different kinks at https://domsubliving.com/checklist today! We're uncovering the top 10 kinks that captivate and connect people worldwide. From sensation play to intense power exchanges, we dive deep into what makes these kinks so popular. We also explore role-based dynamics like DD/lg and the broad world of BDSM. Whether you're new to the scene or a seaso...
Mar 10, 2025•27 min•Ep. 75
#074 Discover game-changing sensation play techniques! 🔥 Read a real-life sensation play scene in action: https://domsubliving.com/scene Ever wondered how to make your BDSM scenes 10 times more intense? Spoiler: it's not about hitting harder or using fancier toys. Dive into this episode where we reveal how sensation play can transform your experiences! Explore contrasting sensations, the magic of slowing down, and creative tools like frozen grapes. Plus, uncover the unexpected power of breath, ...
Mar 03, 2025•20 min•Ep. 74
#073 Are you guilty of these biggest BDSM blunders? You're not alone! 💪 Master the Dom/sub lifesyle: https://domsubliving.com/free We're revealing the surprises and challenges we encountered when we thought we had it all figured out. Worried you might mess up on your BDSM journey? Tune in now to avoid these common missteps and navigate your dynamic with confidence! ➡️ Access the free Resource Library: https://domsubliving.com/free ➡️ Show notes and more: https://domsubliving.com/073...
Feb 24, 2025•17 min•Ep. 73
#072 Can you balance a power exchange with everyday life? What about raising kids in a D/s relationship? 🔥 Grab our free BDSM resources at https://domsubliving.com/free In this episode, listen in as Alesandra sits down with Auntie Vice on Fat Chicks on Top to talk about BDSM beyond the bedroom. We cover behavior modification, the psychology of kink, navigating D/s dynamics with kids, and why communication is key in a power exchange relationship. Plus, Alesandra shares how she went from Beauty B...
Feb 20, 2025•44 min•Ep. 72
#071 Why do forbidden things turn us on so much? It's not just about pleasure—it's psychology. ✅ Get your FREE BDSM checklist with 50+ kinks: https://domsubliving.com/checklist We're unravelling the psychology behind BDSM, exploring misconceptions about trauma, the science of endorphins and dopamine, and the vital role of trust and control. Delve into why anticipation feels so good, the allure of taboo desires, and how kink can serve as emotional release and even healing. Join us and discover wh...
Feb 17, 2025•22 min•Ep. 71
#070 Total power exchange sounds intense, right? But it's not just about control; it's about trust, intention, and freedom. 📝 Download your free customizable contract at https://domsubliving.com/contract Join us as we debunk myths surrounding 24/7 total power exchange (TPE) and share our journey into this fulfilling dynamic. Explore the foundational steps: from education, defining roles and boundaries, to creating contracts and establishing rituals. Learn how TPE can empower both partners throu...
Feb 10, 2025•25 min•Ep. 70
#069 "When my Dom secured the collar around my neck, it gave me a huge sense of belonging and trust like never before." ❤️ Visit https://domsubliving.com/eternity to get $20 off your own collar with code DOMSUBLIVING In this episode, we explore the deep meaning of collars in a D/s dynamic, the practical aspects of wearing them 24/7, and the emotional significance they hold. Learn about different types of collars, why Alesandra chose her particular one, and tips for creating your own coloring cer...
Feb 03, 2025•19 min•Ep. 69
#068 Feeling like the passion in your D/s dynamic has faded? You’re not alone—but you can bring it back! 👉 Ready to reconnect and thrive in your dynamic? Explore more at https://domsubliving.com/allaccess We're sharing why losing the spark is so common and the key reasons it happens—like routine overload, lack of communication, and external stress. You’ll learn actionable strategies to reignite the fire, from revisiting your foundation to adding variety and deepening your connection. Plus, you'...
Jan 27, 2025•12 min•Ep. 68
#067 Is it possible to balance love, family, and a Dom/sub dynamic? 👉 Ready to dive deeper? Join our All-Access Pass community at domsubliving.com/allaccess In this episode, we chat with Harlo and Adira, a Dom/sub married couple navigating parenthood, health challenges, and everyday life—all while deepening their 24/7 D/s connection. They share the mindset shifts that transformed their relationship, how they handle challenges like chronic illness, and why communication and contracts are non-neg...
Jan 20, 2025•34 min•Ep. 67
#066 Negotiation isn't just a skill, it's a gift you give your dynamic. 🌟 Exclusive Offer: Are you ready to elevate your negotiation skills? Check out our All Access Pass now: https://domsubliving.com/allaccess In this episode, we're exploring the must-know steps for negotiating your BDSM relationship. From prepping your thoughts to choosing the right time to talk, you'll get the lowdown on clear and honest communication. We're sharing personal stories, busting common myths, and explaining why ...
Jan 13, 2025•15 min•Ep. 66
#065 There's no guidebook for BDSM - but what if you could learn from experienced kinksters? 🌟 Bonus: Access free resources and exclusive content at https://domsubliving.com/gift We gathered 5 incredible kink educators to answer one key question: "What do you wish you knew before starting BDSM?" Hear invaluable insights from Evie Lupine, Sunny Megatron, Kayla Lords, John Brownstone, Amanda Dames, and Lazarus Redmayne. They share their wisdom on authenticity, community, and overcoming shame. Per...
Jan 06, 2025•25 min•Ep. 65
#064 Is your kinky bucket list feeling a bit uninspired? Let's spice it up together! 👉 Download your free BDSM Bingo Card at domsubliving.com/bingo We're diving deep into setting BDSM goals that push boundaries and bring excitement. Learn what a kinky bucket list is, why it's essential for growth, connection, and fun, and get creative ideas for beginners to advanced players. Whether you have a partner or flying solo, discover how to turn your dreams into reality with actionable steps. Ready to ...
Dec 30, 2024•14 min•Ep. 64
#063 Can conflict in a Dom/sub relationship become a tool for deeper connection? 🔥 Download your free Protocols Master List: https://domsubliving.com/protocols We're diving into a common pitfall: trying to "win" arguments instead of focusing on your dynamic. We're sharing firsthand experiences and comparing them to vanilla relationship conflicts. Learn practical strategies and simple rituals to keep things smooth, like using D/s language and performing specific tasks. Tune in for more tools to ...
Dec 23, 2024•16 min•Ep. 63
#062 Ever wonder how to truly crawl into your sub's mind or stay proactive as a sub without 'topping from the bottom? This Ask Me Anything episode is packed with your most thought-provoking questions. We’re covering: How to deeply understand your submissive's mind How to navigate BDSM as a person with a disability How to stay proactive as a sub without overstepping boundaries How to stay connected outside the bedroom to strengthen your relationship inside it And, of course, the funniest (and mos...
Dec 16, 2024•39 min•Ep. 62
#061 Curious about impact play but don’t know where to start? Or maybe you’re worried about doing it wrong? Don’t stress—you’re in the right place. In this episode, we'll guide you through 5 easy, beginner-friendly impact play ideas that are safe, fun, and perfect for building your skills. We’ll cover everything from hands-only techniques to using everyday tools like wooden spoons and paddles—all while prioritizing safety and connection. Ready to explore? Grab your favorite tool (or hands!) and ...
Dec 09, 2024•16 min•Ep. 61
