I'm in a relationship and I want to understand how hormones are influencing my behavior. What advice have you got for me? The first is do you know her cycle? Moving on, we're going to talk about sugar again. It's really bad. Seriously, no. Get to know her cycle. I'm going to give you gold. Let me give you gold. Day one of her cycle, day one to day 10, she's building estrogen. First couple of days of her cycle, just let her be. She's transitioning out of the back half of her cycle.
She might be having some heavier bleeding. She's moving into that extraverted place. First two days, give her some space. Now day three, estrogen starting to build. You're going to notice she's more verbal, she's going to be more present, she might feel more outgoing, she's going to feel like she wants to connect with you. That's going to go all the way through the ovulation, like in the middle of ovulation, which is about day 12, day 13, where all of a sudden estrogen is at its peak.
Do you have any conflict you want to resolve with her? Do it between day two and day 12 of her cycle. She's going to be so ready to handle any conflict with you. Between, let me write that down. Day two and day 12. I had a dad come to me and tell me that he was struggling to understand his teenage daughter. And I said, well, do you know her cycle? And he's like, no, I don't. I said, well, you would never, ever bring a conflict to her on day 18 or 19 of her cycle. Bring it to her on day 10.
And now she's going to talk to you. I'm going to say something which is really embarrassing here. I know nothing about menstrual cycles. At no point in my life did anybody teach me about menstrual cycles. The only insight I have in my life to what a menstrual cycle is, is overhearing my sister when I was younger, talking about it. And when I say overhearing, I mean, maybe ascendance.
And then maybe my girlfriend, once in a while, she'll say, oh, I'm coming into my cycle or whatever she'll say on my period. That's for most men. That's in fact the extent of the education we have about the female reproductive menstrual cycles. So talk to me like I'm an idiot about the menstrual cycle. How long is it? Oh, I love this. And do you know that most women don't know? Oh, really? So, I mean, most women are ignorant to their own cycles.
So, 28 days, anywhere from 28 days to 32, every woman has a different length. Okay. And what day does the period come on? Day one. So, the day one is the first day she bleeds. Okay. Then how long, that lasts for what, seven days? Everyone's different. Anywhere from three to seven days. Okay. So, you said, day between day two and 12 is when to pick my battles. Yeah. So, day two, you're going to start to see her be emerged a little more gregarious. Okay. She may be a little more outgoing.
So, I mean, as she gets closer to day 12, you want to go party with her, you want to take her out, make her feel good, like that's the time to win and dine her. Okay, cool. We'll put all the dates in there in the fights. And then after day 12, what am I doing? Then after day 12. Okay. So, day 12 is right when she's ovulating. So, you're going to have to choose your battle there. But the ovulation occurs for most women between day 10 and day 15. There's a small little five day window there.
That's, this is the one, once I figured this out, I was like, why don't, why don't men know this? That's when she's going to be, her libido is going to be the highest. Okay, so we're having sex on day. Yes. So, if you want to have sex with her. It's right in this town. Yes. Have sex with her around that time. Around that time. She's willing. Yeah. She's going to be more motivated because she has test austro and she's going to feel more like it.
Okay. Then after she finishes ovulating after day 15. Yeah. So, then there's going to be a crash of hormones. You might see a change in her personality. She might feel a little low. Just go stay in her hotel. But you could ask. Okay. If she's having a bummer day, like a low day ask her, do you know what day you're cycle you on? Be really nice. Be really nice. And then here's the gold. Here's gold. This is so good. You're going to have to report back to the hell this one.
Okay. When around day 17 or 18, progesterone's coming in. This is where you got to give her foot rubs. You got to be extra special and cater her like like she's the queen that she deserves to be. Okay. So all my compliments. That's where I pull out the note pad. Yes. But what you need to know is she's probably going to be like, if you're like, oh, you look so beautiful today. She might at that time be like, no, I feel horrible. I'm bloated. I don't feel beautiful. And I should disagree.
I should say, no, you're, no, you don't. Yeah. You look amazing. Okay. Cool. And you do that till she bleeds. And you can take amazing care of her in the back the week before her period. And you will get kudos like you, you can't even imagine. And then start it all over again. And then start it all over again. I mean, just once you understand our patterns. And then it also helps you understand that we're going to be more outgoing in the front half of our cycle.
We're going to be more introverted in the back half. What about men? You guys every 15 minutes, you're pretty, you're pretty black and white. Really? Yeah. You're pretty straightforward. So she was asking you the same question about me. Would you say anything to her about my hormone cycles at all? You just say. It really depends on the issue at hand. So if it's a mismatch of libido, then the best time to have sex with a woman is during ovulation.
Okay. Because she has the most amount of testosterone. Day 10 to 15 of her cycle. Yeah. Yeah. It would be really handy, wouldn't it? Just to have a little menstrual cycle chart on the wall at home. I know that sounds a bit strange, but just so I know what's going on inside her body. The first time I discovered this, I started using an app called the clue app. Yeah. And it shows you in a circle. It kind of shows a little cloud and then it shows you where a PMS clicks in.
And it actually has a button that you can share it with people in your life. And I thought, not only does my husband need this, but my staff needs this. They need to understand where I'm going. And what if all the women on my team actually shared it with each other? And we could see where each other was at in the menstrual cycle. We would understand why a woman's moods can be so up and down. It's really, you know, because of these three hormones, our moods are much more volatile than yours.
You guys are pretty steady, Eddie. I mean, this is general. You know, this is I hate to be sexist in this conversation, but this is hormones than the way they work. It's actually really helpful to know this because without the possibility of having sex with a woman, without this insight, it's very easy to fall into the trap of just assuming your partner is moody.
Or that they are, they have like mood swings or that they're, you know, people say things like they're too emotional or they're whatever it might be. But with this, I actually think it creates a ton of empathy. Yeah. That's the certainly the reaction that I get from hearing that there's a significant hormone fluctuations in my partner. And they happen at certain periods.
It actually now would change my behavior, the way that I receive certain times where I come home where I'm, I notice that my, my partner is just different. Yep. And it's almost, it catches me off guard sometimes. I've actually spoken a lot about this and we're very open. We're very much the same person in terms of our willingness to talk about everything. And very difficult things as well.
Yeah. And there will be times where I come home or we go through a patch where just a week, you know, things are, making her upset, which wouldn't normally make her upset. It's tiny things that I'm doing. And I go, what? That's it. Like, you know, so see if you can track that to a certain part of her cycle. I'm kidding. So like the week before our period, we're pretty, we're irritable. And every time I say that, men go, well, you said it. I didn't say it.
Well, but that's because progesterone, you know, we're meant to be more inner. We're meant to sit on the couch. We're also meant to believe her not glucose goes higher the week before our period. So we crave carbs. There's a reason we crave carbs because we need to bring glucose up to be able to make progesterone. So we crave carbs. We're irritable. We don't want a lot of cortisol. So generally we're a little bit slower.
We don't want to, you know, we don't have the desire to push through stress and push through exercise. And so we're going to be, we're a little, we're different that week where, so if you come up and you just put your hand on our shoulder and you're like, I love you, you're amazing. I'm here if you need anything. That's all you got to do. But if you're trying to resolve a big conflict or you're trying to come at us in two aggressive way, we will shut down the week before our periods.
So interesting. Whereas if you have something you want to resolve with us, make sure estrogen's there because estrogen makes us great, great verbal, our verbal skills are incredible when estrogen's around. Ask any men a positive woman, she'll tell you what it's like when she loses estrogen. And I have to say this is because, you know, women have this incredible power to create life that us men don't have.
It's like women are superheroes for being able to carry a baby for significance amounts of time and then give birth to this baby. It's just the most magical thing that I can think of in existence and women have that superpower and with that comes this cycle. So it's a wonderful thing. It's beautiful. And in the book, I called it the manifestation phase ovulation because when all of those hormones come in, we can manifest anything we want. But it's not just a baby. This is a great time.
Abulations an amazing time to start a new business project. It's a great time, like as an author, like I'm going to write during those five days because my creativity is going to be at its peak. So we're highly creative. If you want to like, you know, talk about something about life and how to create something with us, do it during ovulation. Your husband is behind that wall here in my home. And does he aware of your menstrual cycle? He is until I started to lose it.
I'm 53. So I'm starting to go. But yeah, we talk like this all the time. And the way I like to take ownership over my hormonal moods. So I will say to him after a long day of work, I will say, hey, it's been a test, a strong driven day for me. I don't feel like I have a lot of estrogen right now. I can't handle a lot of stress. I'm going to need to just take some time to myself. We literally talk like that.
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