At some point, many of us reach a moment when our beliefs no longer fit the reality we’re living. In this episode, Justin and Abi open up about their personal journeys through deconstruction—what it looked like, what it cost, and how it ultimately deepened their faith. They unpack why questioning your faith isn’t rebellion—it’s often a necessary part of maturing spiritually. Whether sparked by suffering, disillusionment, or simply the invitation to grow, deconstruction invites us to reassess wha...
Jun 30, 2025•59 min
For many couples, navigating hormones can feel like walking through a minefield—unpredictable, emotionally charged, and often misunderstood. In this episode, Justin and Abi get personal about the challenges that come with PMS and shifting hormone cycles, offering a candid look into how it’s impacted their relationship over the years. From the physical discomfort to the emotional whiplash, Abi shares what it feels like to be in a hormone storm, while Justin gives voice to what it’s like to be on ...
Jun 23, 2025•1 hr 10 min
Setting boundaries can sound easy in theory. But trying to implement boundaries when your nervous system is fried and you're knee-deep in a conversation that’s going off the rails is a whole different story. At times it can feel impossible, but with the right tools, anyone can become good at it. In part two of this series, Justin and Abi get personal about the real-life messiness of learning to set and hold boundaries in romantic relationships. They talk about how unresolved childhood patterns s...
Jun 16, 2025•58 min
For many of us, setting boundaries sounds reasonable outside of a romantic relationship. But what happens once you’re in deep—sharing a life, a home, and a bed? How do you navigate that kind of nearness? In part one of this two part series, Justin and Abi get personal about the power of boundaries inside a romantic relationship. They unpack the painful dance between autonomy and connection and share the chaos of their early years: the unspoken expectations, the fights about leaving parties, and ...
Jun 09, 2025•1 hr
Most of us never learned how to share pain in a way that brings us closer. Instead, we vent, shut down, accuse, or spiral into fear—hoping to feel understood but often creating more disconnection in the process. But it doesn’t have to be that way. In part two of this two-part series, Justin and Abi get practical about how to communicate pain in a way that invites connection. They unpack how all-or-nothing language, judgment, and emotional weaponization drive partners further apart. They also sha...
Jun 02, 2025•59 min
Most of us were never taught how to share pain in a way that brings connection. We were taught to explode, shut down, or stay silent—and those patterns don’t just disappear when we get into relationships. In this episode, Justin and Abi explore the messy ways they both used to express pain—and the chaos it created in their marriage. From nonverbal shutdowns to emotional overwhelm and assumptions that turned into judgments, they explain how unspoken pain builds walls and leaves both people feelin...
May 26, 2025•59 min
Empathy can be one of the most destructive forces to connection—or one of the most powerful. Without it, relationships become cold and judgmental. But too much of it, without boundaries, and we lose ourselves trying to carry everyone else’s pain. So how do we find that middle ground? In this episode, Justin and Abi unpack what healthy empathy looks like, and what happens when it gets twisted into judgment or codependency. They share raw and personal stories from their own marriage—navigating chr...
May 19, 2025•1 hr 8 min
We’ve all experienced those people that seem hot one minute and cold the next. Their mixed signals keep us wondering if they want to be besties or secretly planning our demise. The ups and downs of it can feel like a whiplashing rollercoaster. Solving the mystery can seem impossible, but we might just have your answers! In this episode, Justin and Abi are joined by their long-time friend and fellow Life Consultant, Rachel, to shine a light on disorganized attachment and its impact on relationshi...
May 12, 2025•1 hr 16 min
Most of us don’t realize how much of our relationship pain is rooted in old stories—until those stories start playing out with the person we love most. It’s easy to blame our partners for the chaos in a relationship. But what if the truth is that we’re all just scared kids trapped in adult bodies, equally making messes as we search for safety? In this raw and redemptive episode, Justin and Abi share the full arc of their healing journey—from trauma bonding and codependency to finding internal sa...
May 05, 2025•1 hr 9 min
Most of us were never taught how to feel emotions—let alone how to express them in a way that feels safe for us and the people we love. From family dynamics to gender norms to childhood survival strategies, our emotional patterns were shaped long before we had words to describe them. In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into one of the most common relationship struggles: how we respond to emotions—both our own and others’. They explore the battle between “too emotional” and “not emotional enough...
Apr 28, 2025•1 hr 3 min
Most of us were never taught to explore where our beliefs about sex came from—let alone how those beliefs affect our experience of it. From purity culture to porn culture, from family dynamics to religious messaging, our beliefs are shaped long before we’re ever in the bedroom. In this episode, Justin and Abi have a candid and compassionate conversation about the belief systems that shape our sexuality. They share personal stories—from childhood moments that left lasting impressions to conversat...
Apr 21, 2025•1 hr 3 min
Let’s be real—most of us didn’t get great sex ed growing up, and even fewer of us learned how emotional pain, shame, and past beliefs impact our sex lives. If your sex life has lost its spark or feels more like pressure than connection, you’re not alone. Many couples quietly struggle, unsure how to talk about it without blame or guilt. In this episode, Justin and Abi open up about their own journey with intimacy, from navigating physical illness and shifting hormones to learning how emotional sa...
Apr 14, 2025•1 hr 1 min
So many of us feel like we’re just going through the motions of life—rushing through tasks, ignoring our bodies, and avoiding the feelings that seem too big to face. But the more we disconnect from what’s happening inside, the more life starts to feel flat, disconnected, and exhausting. What if the real magic of life is found in slowing down and being present? In this episode, Justin and Abi explore what it really means to be present. They discuss how daily distractions pull us away from truly l...
Apr 07, 2025•53 min
Many of us have experienced moments of life that seem to unravel faster than we can hold them together. The crushing weight of our problems and pain can feel like they will leave us broken forever. But what if love has the power to change everything? In this episode, Justin and Abi sit down with their good friend Kyle as he shares about his journey through profound trauma, grief, and emotional shutdown—and what it looked like to slowly come back to life. From losing his mom to ALS, navigating ea...
Mar 31, 2025•1 hr 14 min
Attraction isn’t just physical—it’s deeply emotional. When couples struggle with intimacy, it’s often because unprocessed pain has created invisible walls between them. Many people unknowingly fall out of attraction with their partners due to unresolved hurt, leading to a sense of emotional and physical disconnection. When safety is compromised, self-protection kicks in, and attraction fades. In this episode, Justin and Abi break down how emotional safety directly impacts physical intimacy and w...
Mar 24, 2025•59 min
Nothing is more frustrating than feeling stuck in a relationship where your partner refuses to change. Maybe you’ve had the same conversation a hundred times, but nothing ever shifts. Maybe they acknowledge the problem but don’t take action. Or worse—maybe they don’t even see an issue at all. In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into what to do when you’re hitting a wall with your partner. They unpack the emotional toll of waiting for change, the difference between healthy patience and self-aban...
Mar 17, 2025•1 hr 5 min
Betrayal cuts deep—not just because of the actions themselves, but because of what they shake inside of us. We choose to trust, to be vulnerable, to let someone in… only to have that trust disregarded. The pain isn’t just in the betrayal itself—it’s in the shame, the humiliation, and the reality-shattering confusion that follows. In this episode, Justin and Abi unpack the emotional toll of betrayal and why it feels so destabilizing. They explore how gaslighting fuels the madness, why short-term ...
Mar 10, 2025•1 hr 6 min
For many, the church has been a place of deep wounding rather than healing. Whether you’ve personally experienced pain or watched destructive behavior unfold, it can feel impossible to stay connected to faith when the place meant to embody love feels anything but safe. In this episode, Justin and Abi explore the complexity of church wounds—why they happen, how they impact our sense of self-worth, and what it takes to move forward. They discuss the tension between forgiveness and accountability, ...
Mar 03, 2025•1 hr 16 min
Denial is one of the biggest roadblocks to living a full and abundant life—but most of us don’t even realize when it’s at play. It’s not always intentional or malicious; often, it’s an unconscious defense against pain, fear, and shame. But what we refuse to see, we can’t heal. In this episode, Justin and Abi explore how denial quietly shapes our lives, keeps us disconnected, and prevents us from receiving the care and compassion we need. They break down why we fall into denial, how it impacts ou...
Feb 24, 2025•1 hr 11 min
Red flags get all the attention—but what about the green flags? We’re so quick to call out what to avoid, but do we actually know what to look for in healthy, thriving relationships? In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into seven green flags that signal someone is a great person to build connection with—whether it’s romantic or platonic. They break down key traits that make relationships fulfilling, how to recognize them in others, and most importantly, how to cultivate these qualities in yours...
Feb 17, 2025•57 min
Many have experienced a version of faith that prioritizes performance over authenticity, often leaving little room for emotional honesty or personal healing. In part 2 of this two part series, Justin and Abi continue their deep dive into the intersection of faith and emotional health, tackling the ways in which toxic forgiveness and spiritual bypassing prevent genuine healing. They explore how religious communities sometimes use forgiveness as a way to silence pain rather than restore relationsh...
Feb 10, 2025•1 hr 10 min
We’ve all had something we’ve wanted and found ourselves so desperate to obtain it, that we find ourselves compromising out of FOMO. In our anxiety, this ravenous hunger causes us to abandon our values and miss out on what we really want. The regret is real, but it doesn’t have to stay that way. In this episode Justin and Abi dig into the desperation trap and the impact of that on experiencing the life you really want. They discuss how desperation causes us to compromise our core values, ignore ...
Feb 03, 2025•59 min
For many, institutionalized faith and emotional health often feel like two opposing worlds. This separation between spirituality and emotional intelligence has been a longstanding issue, preventing many from experiencing life to its fullest. But does it have to stay this way? In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into the essential partnership between faith and emotional health. They explore the lack of free thought in organized religion, the broken theology that hinders emotional healing for man...
Jan 27, 2025•1 hr 1 min
Life can often feel like it’s happening to us. We can feel powerless to partners, children, friends, employers, and endless circumstances. We can choose to live like a pinball in a game we have no control over, or we can step out of the chaos and start playing the game with intention. In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into the impact of building a healthy lifestyle rooted in self-management. They cover everything from managing your emotions to shaping the vision you have for your life. They a...
Jan 20, 2025•1 hr 3 min
It’s easy to feel stuck, endlessly looping through the same life cycles, and spinning our wheels. It can seem like we’re barely making progress, leaving us exhausted and defeated. But what if mastering one skill could shift the trajectory of our growth forever? In this episode, Justin and Abi sit down with their friend and fellow Life Consultant, Mariah, to explore the transformative power of learning how to receive feedback. They open up about their struggles with shame, the steps they took to ...
Jan 13, 2025•1 hr 10 min
At some point, we’ve all felt like life is happening to us. Losses, betrayals, misunderstandings, and unexpected challenges can leave behind pain and destruction that feels out of our control. The result? A sense of powerlessness as we’re left to clean up the mess. But what if we play a bigger role than we realize—and there’s more we can do about it than we think? In this episode, Justin and Abi sit down with their friend and fellow Life Consultant, Mariah Hardy, to explore how to reclaim your p...
Jan 06, 2025•1 hr 5 min
For many, New Year's resolutions are a pact to change areas of our lives, hoping that those changes will make us more worthy and lovable. Pushing ourselves to transform from a place of lacking self-worth in hopes of gaining acceptance is unproductive and defeating in the long run. So, is there a better way to create lasting change? In this episode, Abi and Justin ditch traditional New Year’s resolutions and share insights on achieving lasting, tangible transformation. They explore how embracing ...
Dec 30, 2024•1 hr 2 min
In this heartfelt episode, Justin and Abi discuss the profound impact grief and suffering have on humanity, exploring how the radical love of God can overcome the despair and hopelessness we all face during overwhelming and painful experiences. Justin shares his personal journey of nearly losing Abi to her illness, revealing how his breaking point became a turning point for hope and freedom. Abi reflects on how her struggles have redefined her understanding of God’s love. Together, they offer a ...
Dec 23, 2024•1 hr 4 min
Chronic physical pain and illness have left many of us searching for answers, forced to navigate life with limiting circumstances. The experience can often feel overwhelming and hopeless. But what if there’s a path to resolution that the medical industry hasn’t accounted for? In this episode, Abi and Justin sit down with their friend and Life Consultant, Carly Kolbo, to explore her remarkable journey. After battling a nearly incurable condition and finding no solutions through countless medical ...
Dec 16, 2024•1 hr 9 min
We’ve all had times where we feel like we’ve been hijacked and our actions don’t line up with our values. Many of us have reactions to circumstances that we’re not proud of. Maybe it’s a sense of lashing out or pulling away that we know doesn’t represent us well. Maybe it’s an addictive behavior we’re suddenly compelled to do. Whatever it may be, we don’t have to be victims to these hijackings. In this episode Justin and Abi are joined by friend and fellow Life Consultant Rachel Hughes to shine ...
Dec 09, 2024•54 min
