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The Change Paradox

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Change is a given of life, perhaps even the point of it. And now more than ever, it’s everywhere we look. But how well do we understand it? Psychologist Dr. Dodge Rea and guests explore the mysterious, paradoxical nature of change navigated well. If there is a single element of human experience that is both most feared and most longed for, it is change. And on both sides, our relationship with it tends to be defined more by struggle than any other experience. Does it have to be this way? I’m Dr. Dodge Rea. I’m an Integrative Clinical Psychologist, practitioner of Medical Qigong, and the co-founder of a prominent holistic health center in Nashville, which is to say, I’ve helped people work with change on physical, psychological, and spiritual levels for more than 25 years. And here’s the thing. After you’ve watched closely this long, you start to realize something: Deep change — every change that really matters — has surprising elements we’re all inclined to overlook. Welcome to the Change Paradox. This is a podcast devoted to helping all of us unpack the mystery of how change really works. Whereas innumerable writers and speakers have taught us the values of superior goals and effort, that’s not our focus here. We’re more interested in why willpower alone so often falls short. What are we missing? Why is it that lasting change so often succeeds when it involves the realm of paradox — the “union of opposites”, as Carl Jung put it? And how can we use this wisdom to bring healthy change to our lives? In illuminating, often personal conversations, we’re going to talk with Change Agents from a broad range of fields as well as laypeople who’ve experienced huge transformation in their own lives. Guests will also bring with them experiential exercises for you to engage with directly, and we’ll have a playful “Afterthoughts” series for subscribers where my producer and lifelong friend, Pete Wright, and I unpack and integrate what we’re learning as we go. We’re convinced that if we can uncover some deeper principles to the transformation process, we can all get better at it as a planet. Join us! Subscribe to the show in Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or anywhere else you get your podcasts. The Change Paradox will launch in two weeks. For more, visit trustory.fm/thechangeparadox.

Episodes

Credo Sinyangwe and a Life of Remarkable Change

Hey everyone… When we started The Change Paradox, we had all sorts of aspirations. We converted most of my house into a sticky note bunker full of ideas! And while we haven’t made it to, “Invent practical flying car and do interview with James Taylor while flying it,” we are able to check off a box today. What we didn’t want to do was just talk to change “experts.” We wanted to bring a broader view to the discussion of change. This week we offer someone whose very life, rather than their profess...

Dec 18, 20202 hr 28 minSeason 1Ep. 13

Afterthoughts • Sam Sinyangwe

Hi everybody, This week we’re talking about Sam Sinyangwe and his gentle approach to advocacy by collecting and presenting data on police killings in the United States. This data is important, and we — like so many — struggle with the emotions the bubble up behind our efforts to stay rational, and so deeply appreciative of all the wonderful people who dedicate their lives and careers to public service through policing. Thanks to you all for showing up and sharing a bit of your struggle with this...

Dec 18, 202026 minSeason 1Ep. 12

Sam Sinyangwe and Police Violence as Seen Through Numbers

Hey everybody, First things first, do a quick check-in with yourselves. I’ve been watching the news, doing my best to stay informed from trusted sources, keeping safe distance from social media. The pandemic isn’t getting better, and you might not be able to smell it yet, but there’s hope in the air. It’ll be a spell before we get any relief from this thing and we’re going to have to endure much on this road, care for ourselves and one another with grace and compassion. And after that, we get th...

Dec 11, 20202 hr 32 minSeason 1Ep. 11

Afterthoughts • Nikki Kinzer

Hi everybody, This week we’re talking a bit about Thanksgiving — for those who celebrate it — and that serves as an ironic distraction giving our primary subject matter this week. We get to the ADHD stuff, however, so stick around! We talk about the paradoxical nature of changing yourself around that which we cannot change, some controversial voices in the field of ADHD, working with a coach versus a therapist, and the gift of recognizing your gifts. Cheers to all of you. We couldn’t do this sho...

Dec 04, 202047 minSeason 1Ep. 10

Nikki Kinzer and The ADHD Paradox

Hey everybody... Do you remember that old Seinfeld episode? World’s Collide? George is dating Susan, and Elaine needs a new friend, so Jerry recommends that Elaine call Susan, and thus, according to Kramer and George, worlds collide. That’s pretty much today on the show—first, a little background. In addition to The Change Paradox, which I adore, I’ve served as co-host of Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast with Nikki Kinzer for about ten years. Nikki’s an ADHD coach and we’ve been through a bunch ...

Nov 27, 20201 hrSeason 1Ep. 9

Afterthoughts • Carleen Britton

Hi everybody, This week we’re talking a bit about COVID (and healing from it), panic attacks and our evolving self-talk. All of that comes form our conversation with Carleen, and her grace in thinking so deeply about what she shared with us in her conversation last week. This episode hits square in the bull’s eye of the paradoxical nature of change. This week we try to lean in. Cheers to all of you, — Pete

Nov 20, 202035 minSeason 1Ep. 8

Carleen Britton and Experiencing Gestalt’s Mysteries

Hey everybody, You doing OK? I only ask because, you know, we’re in the middle of quite a spell right about now and it’s important that we take care of ourselves and each other and... you’re all pretty great for showing up and we appreciate you, I guess. So, we hope you’re all right today and that the weight of the universe is light upon your shoulders. I had a rough weekend, if you don’t mind my saying. Have I told you about the COVID? Well, we had a visit back in July and the recovery process ...

Nov 13, 20201 hr 15 minSeason 1Ep. 7

Exercise • Ted Klontz

Ted Klontz brings us an exercise to help us encounter a change you’re struggling to create in your life, or a change that is pushing on you that you’re finding yourself resisting.

Oct 30, 20208 min

Afterthoughts • Ted Klontz

Hi everybody, After talking with Ted for over an hour, Dodge called me and said, “we didn’t talk about the three questions.” Turns out, that was kind of an important thing for Dodge so we spend a good part of this week’s Afterthoughts talking about Motivational Interviewing and three questions that will help to define readiness for change . Also, we’ve renamed backsliding and relapse it “backwash” in this episode. We think you’ll agree, it’s a far better word for the concept. Cheers to all of yo...

Oct 30, 202047 minSeason 1Ep. 6

Ted Klontz and Facing our Hardest Change Softly

Hi all … it’s Pete. When I was a kid, I played soccer. I was on the Colorado Springs Youth Soccer league called “Soccsy” at the time, and my team was exceptional. We dominated in every game and sported threatening black t-shirts, and the coaches were pathologically gruff parents, the whole trope-parade. That was the team. Because clearly there is no “I” in team, now I shall tell you about myself. I was in the goal keeping position and I was quite naturally terrible at it. I was in this position ...

Oct 23, 20202 hr 31 minSeason 1Ep. 5

Exercise • Dave Richo

Dave Richo leads us on an exercise of affirmations and aspirations he uses in his own daily practice.

Oct 16, 20204 min

Afterthoughts • Dave Richo

Pete and Dodge try to wrap their heads around what they experienced with Dave including: going soft when facing Internet rage, there are no wars that end wars, and not enough comedy.

Oct 16, 202049 minSeason 1Ep. 4

Dave Richo and Exploring Life’s Five True Things

Hey everybody, Welcome to our second big interview episode! We made it over the hump of launch and it’s time to take the training wheels off this thing to see if it rolls. We appreciate you sticking with us. There’s a weight to the world. I complain about how hard it is to get out of bed in the morning. Or get out of the shower. Or walk the fifteen steps into my office. I gather that’s not a new thing for many of you thanks in large part to the chaos swirling around us. Our guest today is a welc...

Oct 09, 20201 hr 11 minSeason 1Ep. 3

Exercise • Ben Rea

Ben Rea leads us on an exercise designed to tap into — and free yourself — from discomfort and anxiety.

Oct 02, 20208 min

Afterthoughts • Ben Rea

Hi everybody, We’re back with our first “Afterthoughts” episode. This whole thing is such a glorious experiment that we hope you’ll indulge us as we find our footing. If there is anything that we’re targeting broadly in these conversations, it’s to highlight where we’re still stuck, where our guests have challenged our thinking and are pushing us through the boundaries of change we’ve put up around us. But, if I’m being honest, I’m one of those people who just can’t face hard things without laug...

Oct 02, 202028 minSeason 1Ep. 2

Ben Rea and the Stories We Tell Ourselves

Hey members! First and foremost, THANK YOU. Your willingness to support this podcast early has been an incredible sign that maybe, just maybe, we're on the right track with the message of the show. We're working hard on our end to make sure we don't let you down. It’s a big day. We’re launching this new podcast. If you haven’t ever launched a podcast, it takes a mix of audacity, old-fashioned spirit, and a tolerance for no small margin of public speaking terror to get the job done. But who are w...

Sep 25, 202059 minSeason 1Ep. 1

Coming Soon: The Change Paradox

If there is a single element of human experience that is both most feared and most longed for, it is change. And on both sides, our relationship with it tends to be defined more by struggle than any other experience. Does it have to be this way? I’m Dr. Dodge Rea. I’m an Integrative Clinical Psychologist, a practitioner of Medical Qigong, and the co-founder of a prominent holistic health center in Nashville. All of this is to say, I’ve helped people work with change on physical, psychological, a...

Aug 19, 20206 min