Poppin’ Off with Amanda Kloots

Hey fam, Hello Sunshine. Today on the bright Side, we're popping off and dishing on the biggest pop culture stories of the week, Which celebrity shared gum with their partner upon first meeting, and we're diving into the internet's hottest debate, the best way to connect with your child free friends. Amanda Klutz is heered a weigh in. She's the co host of the talk and a moderator on Live from the Other Side with Tyler Henry. It's Friday, September twenty seventh. I'm Danielle Robe.

And I'm Simone Voice, and this is the bright Side from Hello Sunshine, a daily show where we come together to share women's stories, laugh, learn and brighten your day.

Simone another great week of shows.

Truly, our conversation with Connie Chung makes me wish I had Amuri. I'll never be over that conversation.

She's just so iconic and she was hilarious and truly a trailblazer. Another trail blazer we sat down with was Laverne Cox, and she discussed the lessons she learned in Hollywood, from the struggles to the triumphs. She was super candid about everything, including the evolving beauty standards in Hollywood and what beauty means to her today.

Did you have any other standouts?

Yeah?

I also really enjoyed talking about the seven principles of self reliance in the workplace with communications expert Maha abuelnine and I mean.

Simone, the love of our lives, Natasha Rothwell, Oh my gosh, a dream. That was just an interview that hit my heart. I was thinking about her the whole rest of the day and I'll never forget how shook she was when we told her that Gail King raved about her new Hulu series.

Like we broke news to.

Natasha, we experienced the full range of emotions in that interview, laughter, tears, pride, it was. It was emotional and I was so here for it. And I'm also here for our conversation we're having today. Not only is it Friday, but we get to pop off and dish on the week's biggest moments in popc culture. But before we go there, it's time to spotlight our favorite moment of the week, brought to you by our friends at BMW, the Ultimate Electric driving Machine.

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Besties, Okay, Danielle, let's do it. It's sound to pop off, so ready. Joining us today is the co host of the Talk. She's also a moderator on the new Netflix series Live from the Other Side with Tyler Henry, and she's here with us now, Amanda Klutes.

Welcome to the bright Side.

Thanks guys, thanks for having me. I'm so happy to be here.

It's so fun to have you in studio with us.

You are a co host, yeah, the Emmy winning daytime talk show, The talk YEP, and we hear that every morning before you go on air, you have an extra peppy get ready routine.

Will you share it with us? Yes? I do, well.

I jump rope for ten minutes every day. And what I've just kind of started as my tradition at the talk is I do that, you know, right before hair and makeup at the talk. So it's just my way of like getting my body go in.

Do you go in?

And honestly, sometimes you guys, know, being busy ladies, that's my workout, Like that's all I get. So it's nice because when I do it and I realized, like I can't fit anything else in, I'm like, well, at least I did my ten minutes.

Probably so good for the old brain, it is, Yeah.

And just like having those ten minutes for myself because you know, I mean it's a lot of hair and makeup and outfit and styling and producers coming in telling you about the guest ba blah blah blah, and your brain.

Is like Ah, it's pretty chill hosting a daytime show, right, so chill.

Yes, okay.

I also have something else that we have to ask you about. We just seed more context here. Oh okay, okay, So we recently saw you dressed up as a hot dog.

Uh huh, yes, can you explain why?

Yes, that was a segment we were doing on the talk about our first ever jobs. And one of my first jobs in high school was I was Frankie the Keener Wiener. I dressed up in this hot dog costom and would stand outside of my local supermarkets selling wieners. And I would also march through the aisles of the supermarket promoting them. Or I'd be in cars and parades around Canton, Ohio. So that was my first job. So they took me back to a hot dog stand on

It's a vibe. It's a vibe in here.

Yeah, good in here. I have a hard hitting question for you about this. Yeah, were people nice to you when you were living inside the hot dog costume in high school or were because some people are really rude to people in those outfits.

Yes, most of the time people were actually very nice. I mean it is Canton, Ohio, so it's very Midwest town, and yeah, I got a lot of I would also be dancing out there.

People liked me so sweet. I wouldn't see my face either.

I respected you before, I have so much more respect for you now that I know this about you. I honestly thought my first job was pretty bad. I was a zombie cheerleader in a haunted cornways in Memphis, Tennessee, and I had to pop out of trash cans in the pitch dark and scare people.

But I think, I think you take this on, Amanda mad Are.

Sure well.

My first job was dancing for barn bot Mitzvah's. I was like getting the party going.

I did that too.

That was one of my jobs during Broadway shows that I When I wasn't in a Broadway show, I was dancing at bar mitzvahs and bat mitzvahs in New York City, which some of them, as you can imagine, were bigger and better than weddings.

Oh yeah, it's me.

You and Tiffany Hattish that went around the bar and bot mitzvah circuit.

Apparently that's hilarious. Okay, have we ever tried jumping rope as a hot dog? As a hot dog?

No, I have not, actually, but I have no doubt that I could do it. I have jumped rope in point shoes, in heels. Of course, I can kick to my head while I'm jumping rope.

You know, Okay, we know people at The Talk, We're going to make a call. I want to see this hot dog jumping rope competition rope.

I did play the trumpet while I was a hot dog on that segment. Wow.

Yeah, Okay, So before we start to pop off, we have to ask you about another series that you're a part of, because you're not just a co host on The Talk. You have a new Netflix show out which congratulations, that's so exciting.

Thank you, thank you.

It's called Live.

From the Other Side with Tyler Henry. So for anyone who doesn't know, Tyler Henry is a twenty eight year old psychic medium and in the show, he connects with people who have passed on. I watched the episode with Krishelle and it was really moving. You've spent a lot of time with Tyler. Now I'm wondering if your intuition has been heightened at all.

Well, you know, listen, I'm a Pisces and so I have good intuition already. I've always felt like I've had a strong intuision my entire life.

But I will tell you that Tyler is.

Just an extraordinarily amazing human being. He just vibes on a different level. He's an old soul and a young soul at the same time. He's the most genuine, kind, supportive, happy person. Everything he seems to be on camera in his shows is actually who he truly is. And it's been really awesome being able to sit next to him and witness what he does that close to him. It's really kind of inspiring and comforting and healing and all the things. Yeah, that's really great to hear. How many

Yeah, there's clips of him from past readings that he's given where things have come to fruition.

He seems really gifted.

Yeah, I mean it's extremely special to see, you know, the guests on our show react, you know, I mean it's getting I've been read now a couple of times, not by Tyler yet, but I remember the first time I ever went to a medium reading, I was so scared and nervous and I didn't really quite believe. So I was a bit of a skeptic as well, and you know, I grew up religious and so it was sort of always kind of not you know, accepted necessarily, and so I was really really timid. And I can

So everybody tune in live on Tuesdays.

It's live.

It's live. Yes, it's a live reading. No edits he's just going out there live and he does not know who he's reading. I don't even know who the guest is.

Yeah, my god.

Okay, well, let's get into the biggest stories of the week.

Yeah, let's do it. Okay, y'all.

I've got something to chew on and you'll see what I mean in a moment. So Kristen Bell was on the View this week and she confirmed a story that her husband Dak Sheche had previously shared.

So here's a story.

On their second meeting at a Detroit Red Wings game. He asked Kristen Bell if she had any gum, and she said no, just this, and she coyly took the gum out of her mouth, and then Dax took the gum that she had been chewing and put it in his own mouth.

So clearly, is it okay?

Why is it a great move that's so like take charge?

First of all, I love someone that's not grossed out by anything. I have like a no gross meter. If I'm in a relationship with you, we're sharing everything, and so.

I liar, liar.

I am calling liar because I have talked about poop on this show.

I don't know.

We don't share toilets.

That's the only thing I don't share, Okay, and we don't share stories of toilet talk.

You do have a limit, so fun of it.

I'll share popsicles, I'll share towels.

I'll share like.

If you're having ice cream and I want to lick, please give me some.

See I'm super hypocritical because I will take someone's ice cream. I'll take a bite of every single thing my husband orders, that's for sure. But when it comes to sharing toothbrushes, absolutely not. I found out a couple of weeks ago that we had been sharing toothbrushes without my knowledge, and I freaked out.

I felt like I had been violated, and this is my husband.

But I think they're just there is a line we're you know, you can get too close.

What do you think, Amanda, I'm on board with the toothbrush, not on board with a towel. For some reason, I want my own bath towel, and I don't want you to use it, And this doesn't make sense because we're both clean. I just I want my own. But in this story, I feel like I can really relate to this because I am dating and I have been dating, and I'm dating somebody new currently, and in that new young it's all right, it's all fun and like the PDA is fun and you can't take your hands off

So I'm all for this.

Actually, that is such a great point, Amanda. The timing here really matters, because I think if it happened on the second date, it's like a cute rom com moment.

Yeah.

If it happens like twenty years into marriage, I'm like, what are you doing?

Like really, oh yeah.

I'm the opposite.

Yeah, the second date, I don't even know you. I don't want to swap anything with you now.

Twenty what is but Danielle.

But if it's like second date, and you know, like this guy is this is this is definitely going more than second date, Like you want know that, I know in a first date in two seconds if I want to sit there for the rest of the date. So if we're on a second date, you're definitely most likely getting a third day, which means take my gum.

Y'all are unaned. This is crazy, Amanda.

How do you make time for dating? Amiss your schedule?

It is so hard, Danielle, It's so hard, you know, listen. I would just say that it's a it's a very hard balance, especially right now doing these two shows and then also being a mom and then finding a babysitter to be with my son post nanny ing or nanny ing. I have a manny, not a nanny, so I have to find like the extra help. It is so hard.

But it's hard. It's really really tough.

I have a ton of help, and I'm constantly asking for help in order to have a life, have a mom life, and then have a work life, and to manage all of that is sometimes you just feel crazy and psycho and you feel bad too, Like you feel like you're not being a good mom, you know, because you're leaving I feel like I'm leaving Elvis, and I'm like I'm leaving him again, but like I really want to.

Take time to go out to dinner.

Hard. Yeah yeah, yeah, Well I have a question for you too being moms, because I'm not a mom yet. So there is an online controversy that has nearly broken the Internet. Not so. Remember when Kim K broke the Internet for the first time, the Internet had never been broken.

Now it's been broken.

This is nearly breaking the Internet just as much.

Yeah.

So, A TikTok user posted a video titled how to Talk to your child free Friends, and it went viral. So in it, she lays out some basic rules of decorum for friends with kids to follow when talking to their adult friends who don't have kids. So I'm gonna I'm gonna read the list of rules and then I want your reactions left g LFG one keep it to adult conversation.

Two.

No logistics of activities and summer camps. Three, try to find something else to ask us about other than our dating lives.

Four.

If we visit you from out of town, please do not take us to kids parties. Five my quote husband won't let me permission excuse for not coming to you.

What what does that mean?

She's saying like, I don't want to hear that you can't come out with me girl, because your husband said you can't.

Oh, okay, yeah, okay.

Number six come to our events, birthdays, careers, milestone celebrations. That's kind of asking a lot, okay. Number seven and check in and number eight don't be envious. Well as you can imagine, people had an opinion or two.

What is yours? Amanda?

It's funny.

I feel like I really do live in between these two worlds. Even though I'm a mother, but because I only have one child and that I'm also dating, I feel like I live in both of these worlds, where like I hang out with single friends that don't have kids, and I very much enjoy hanging out in that environment and not talking about kids and not doing kid things. But then when I'm hanging out with my mom and my mom friends, I'm, you know, doing all the mom

So I don't know what do you guys say.

Because I live in both of these worlds, I'm double dip in here.

I get that, I get that, you know what, people come up to me and say that I don't Whenever I tell people that I have children, they're surprised. People tell me I have like childless energy, and I don't know what to make of that. I don't know if that's a huge insult or a compliment. Now that's a good compliment. I think you don't seem tired or worn down. Oh well, that means I'm performing well. So this list I some of these things I can get behind. You know,

But I'm not saying I'm making a list. Okay, you're right, I'm not saying i'm making one. I'm just saying if.

I did, I really like that last one, I'm not going to repeat it. I'm not going to repeat it because you said it. So I'm just going to say that I liked that one.

She's picking up what I'm throwing down.

Yeah, I feel like this list is kind of mean. I think it's kind of.

Hard to you. I do too, it's my harsh tie.

Yeah, there's like or there's different rungs of friends. So if you're in my like first or second rung. I want to know about your kids. They're an extension of you. I probably really love your kids. I do if I can make it. I want to come to their parties. I want to see them grow up. I want them to know me. I want to know them. So this kind of feels like, I don't know, it's just too harsh of.

A line for me.

The one thing I will say is I have a really good friend from high school, and we're in totally different periods of our lives. She has two kids, one on the way, so she's about to have three kids, and I have a podcast and she sometimes goes into great detail of things like certain toys or washing bottles, And I'm like, I don't really want to hear the minutia of anybody's life, let alone the minutia of like the logistics of children.

I want to hear about their personalities.

You know.

It's totally fair, yes, that they try to be really conscious of like over sharing details.

You know, I think that's on us too.

I remember, before I had a kid, specifically like being around maybe even my sisters, like trying to have a conversation with her, but she couldn't actually have the conversation because she's like, Jimmy stopped, and you're like, so tracy, like when I but Jimmy Jimmy and you're like and then after a couple of those, you're like, I'm just gonna just call me back.

Yeah, I'm just gonna I'm not never mind, it's not important.

But you really really wanted to have that conversation, but you couldn't because your mom friend or mom's sister like couldn't even have the conversation because she couldn't control her children.

Yeah, that used to annoy me.

So it's so funny you say that I feel the same way, and then I really try to have empathy because I'm like, Okay, they're dealing with a lot.

I have another friend. I can call call me back.

Yes, yes, But I think that we as moms also have to figure that out and find that balance because I remember it didn't make me feel good, and so I think that we like, it's been something that I've tried to be cognitive of, like, Okay, if Elvis is in the room, like I really do want to be present. If I'm talking to you about something and you seem to be really needing my advice or help.

You know what I mean, Danielle.

As I was thinking about the word empathy, you took the word right out of my mouth. I think that's what's missing in these conversations about women, about our roles to and I think as friends who are in different stages of life, we need to bring that empathy to the forefront. I can remember a conversation that I had with one of my closest friends for over fifteen years now. She kind of sat me down after I had kids and was like, Hey, I feel like something has really

Well, bravo to your friend.

Also, way to act like an adult and not a seventh grader, because that's no seriously, like that is an adult woman coming to you and saying let's sit down and have a conversation. Yeah, that is a hard friend to find, so you should keep her around because she is emotionally stable and a grown ass.

So guys, we love that. Amen. Amen, Amen, we.

Need to hit pause on Popping Off, but we'll be right back after a short break. Stay with us, and we're back to Popping Off with the co host of the talk, Amanda Klutes. Okay, we're gonna take a hard left turn here. So Demi Moore says she's done with the male gaze. So she's out on the press circuit promoting her new film called The Substance, and she says this film in particular is causing her to reevaluate her

They would like, you know, measure the fat on your arms. They don't do that now. Times have changed.

Do you have any PTSD from that?

Uh No, not really, because I think and I think this is where it relates to Demimore. It's like we have changed as a society so much. And she especially like you know, when she started making movies to now like how the male gaze has affected her then and now, you know, I mean how women were treated or objectified in movies or impress or impressed tours of movies then to now is completely different. And I also think that

And so then I think.

As you care less and less, you get more comfortable in your own body and your own skin. And I think that's what she's showing and saying, I don't know, what do you guys?

I think so too.

I first learned about the male gaze in college in a film class, and they were talking about it as a way to shoot something and so like certain camera angles because many directors or camops were men and still are to this day, to be honest, and so it's like you're shooting a scene depicting women as the object of desire, and it's almost like think like of a woman walking away and men would shoot up the skirt type of a thing, where a woman who was shooting

Wow.

And I think Demi Moore probably has really experienced that firsthand as an actress and has seen how those shots have changed over the years. Women have become more active participants instead of objects of desire, Thank god. But I have to tell you I was like kind of shook. A few weeks ago. We have the Hello Sunshine Collective and we had a virtual meeting and the CEO mentioned something about the male gaze and said that she was asking herself how much time has she spent thinking about

To tell you quite a lot.

I buy clothes thinking that, I do a lot of things thinking about the male gaze. Maybe it's because I'm single still. I don't know if that changes as your partnered, but I've been thinking about that since Sarah Hardin said it.

If you ever want to experience the sensation of being free from the male gaze, get yourself some queer female friends. Get yourself some lesbian friends, because they are fully liberated. Some of them have been their whole lives. Some of them found that liberation later on. But mm hmm, it's a lot to learn from that.

I don't know.

That's a great point though, Danielle. It's like if you.

Yeah, because even just being single and dating in these last couple of years, it's, uh, it's almost impossible to get the male gaze out of your head even if you try, even if it's a healthy balance, it's still there because you are a single woman trying to find a man, and so you're very aware of that male gaze and how to dress or how to walk or how to look in order to appeal to that.

It's interesting, it's so true.

I even think about the opposite, like things I wear, how I want to be perceived in work meetings. If I know a man is going to be at dinner, I'm like, tonight, I'm going to a big group dinner and I have this really hot dress I want to wear. And then I found out there was going to be a bunch of men there, and I was like, I don't.

Want to do I don't want to wear that. Yep, that's the male gaze.

It works both ways.

Yeah, it really does want the attentions, you know, on the attention, you know. Going back to what you were saying, Amanda about age being such a huge factor here. I read a book earlier this year called Women Rowing North by Mary Pifer, and it got me really excited about aging because she cites research that shows that women become increasingly happy after age fifty five. Oh interesting, and happiness is actually like at its lowest point in our twenties,

Yeah, you know.

Jane Fonda does a lot of podcasts and she's been on some recently, and she's a great listen because she has a very very strong self confidence now at her age, and I think it's been there for a little while. But she is so like, I don't want a man, I don't need a man. I am happy where I am. She's just really kind of fabulous. So if you need inspiration, she's a good one to listen to.

Amanda, I love that you said that.

Her whole documentary now that you mentioned that, is kind of about the male gaze and the role it's played in her life and how she's evolved out of it. That's such a great call. Amanda, You're so fun. Will you come back?

I would love to guys. You guys are fun too. I love this great fun to park around with, having like a little Kiki with my girlfriends.

It felt so natural and the time flew by. I know, Wow, that was great. Thank you guys, Well.

Thank you so much for popping off with us today.

Yeah.

I love the bright side.

You are the bright side. Ah, thank you.

Amanda Klutz is a co host on The Talk and a moderator on the new Netflix series Live from the Other Side with Tyler Henry. You can watch her every day on The Talk on CBS.

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Okay, so it's officially Halloween in my house now. Danielle and my boys have become obsessed with scaring each other, like hiding behind a door and jumping out and yelling boo. I guess it just is in their DNA, because I love a good prank.

That's so cute.

Well it is unless you're walking into your living room on a brand new white rug holding a glass of chilled red.

Oh no, yeah, I know. Don't worry though.

I went to Walmart and got some Resolve carpet cleaner, spray spot and stain remover. Who with a few sprays, my rug was actually back to new woo.

Few is right.

But I do think you need to get your boys back. Oh I did, but I learned a big lesson in the process.

What's that Don't jump out of your kid's closet and scare them right before they go to bed.

That is terrifying. I can't believe you did that to them.

I know my timing was terrible.

Well, it sounds like you may need that white noise machine you gave me a couple weeks ago.

Yeah, and some more grenache.

Well that's it for today's show. Thanks to our partners at Walmart. On Monday, we've got another edition of shelf Life for you. Author Margaret Wrinkel joins us to talk about her book The Comfort of Crows, which is the one hundredth book pick for Reese's Book Club.

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