The Break Up Break Down

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When True Love feels more like a True Crime Story....Abby is ready to investigate! Breaking Up is hard to do (obviously) but it's even harder when social media is involved. If your relationship is on display, people are noticing...especially when it ends. We talk to couples and individuals about their break ups. What went wrong? What things did they work through to try and make it work? We'll learn from them and take valuable lessons from their experience while sharing a laugh (or cry) along the way.

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When she was driving the getaway car.... - S2E1 (replay)

[This episode originally aired during Season 2) - This week we're raising awareness for the Jacksonville Hubbard House: https://www.hubbardhouse.org/neededmost - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/abbymariemurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxE...

Sep 05, 2023•35 min•Season 2Ep. 1

Break Down Bonus: How your partner's self-esteem impacts your relationship w/ ExCoworker Justin

Come to the Break Up Break Down Brunch in ATL: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007 - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Check out this episode on self-esteem: https://traffic.megaphone.fm/PION6516502231.mp3?updated=1690554641 - Follow the podcast - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.co...

Aug 31, 2023•15 min

When she found his mistress' house online.... - S4E10

This week we're raising awareness for Safe Horizon in Manhattan: https://www.safehorizon.org/mysafehorizon/ - YOU'RE INVITED TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator / Use promo code HOTGOSS10 for 10% off! (This promo code expires 08/30) - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: ...

Aug 29, 2023•46 min•Season 4Ep. 10

Break Down Bonus: How your high school relationship impacts your future w/ Amy from New Perspectives

SEPTEMBER 23RD BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Amy from New Perspectives: https://newperspectivesforlife.com/ - This week's main episode also touched on SA. Hear Amy and I's conversation on codependency and SA here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5KjJ9fJRkAwYE0Z4PMn0af?si=ILYLEbUyQRWN60z407amBQ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby'...

Aug 24, 2023•23 min

When she felt like she couldn't ditch high school sweetheart.... - S4E9

[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - This week we're raising awareness for The Salvation Army DV Center in NWFL: https://salvationarmyflorida.org/domestic-violence-program/ - YOU'RE INVITED TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - USE CODE BREAKDOWN9 FOR 10% UNTIL AUGUST 23RD! - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram...

Aug 22, 2023•37 min•Season 4Ep. 9

Break Down Bonus: Talking about Trauma Bonds w/ Tatiana Melendez, LCSW

BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Thank you to Tatiana Melendez for coming on!: https://ttmcounseling.com/about/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ ...

Aug 17, 2023•28 min

When she left her fiancé for her coworker.... - S4E8

[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - This week we're raising awareness for The Dwelling Place in Minneapolis: https://www.tdpmn.org/donate - YOU'RE INVITED TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator / Use code HOTGOSS8 for 10% off (only on Aug 15th!) - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's Ti...

Aug 15, 2023•58 min•Season 4Ep. 8

Break Down Bonus: Technology's impact on infidelity w/ Kennedy

Come to the Break Up Break Down Brunch in ATL: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007 - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Hosted on Acast. See aca...

Aug 10, 2023•19 min

When she found out she got cheated on in front of 35k people.... - S4E7

This week we're raising awareness for East LA Women's Center: https://www.elawc.org/how_you_can_help - YOU'RE INVITED TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator / Use promo code S4E7 for 10% off! (This promo code expires 08/09) - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www....

Aug 08, 2023•37 min•Season 4Ep. 7

Break Down Bonus: The relationship between codependency and victims of SA

[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - SEPTEMBER 23RD BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Amy from New Perspectives: https://newperspectivesforlife.com/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagra...

Aug 03, 2023•23 min

When she didn't know it was sexual assault.... - S4E6

[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - National Sexual Assault Hotline: https://www.rainn.org/resources - This week we're raising awareness for One Safe Place in Redding, CA: https://ospshasta.org/donate/ - YOU'RE INVITED TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/...

Aug 01, 2023•51 min•Season 4Ep. 6

Break Down Bonus: Discovering your partner was cheating in the worst ways w/ Ex-Coworker Justin

You should come to the Break Up Break Down Brunch!: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - ...

Jul 27, 2023•36 min

When she used an Apple Watch to track his infidelity.... - S4E5

This week we're raising awareness for La Casa de Las Madres in SF: https://www.lacasa.org/donate - YOU'RE INVITED TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - TikTok from this week's episode: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZT88dALk6/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www....

Jul 25, 2023•36 min•Season 4Ep. 5

Break Down Bonus: Defining healthy boundaries w/ Kennedy

SEPTEMBER 23RD BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Hosted on...

Jul 20, 2023•22 min

When the ex-GF called her up.... - S4E4

[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - This week we're raising awareness for New Beginnings in Seattle: https://connect.clickandpledge.com/w/Form/eb4fcb02-785e-43c9-a3d9-ab2daca2f700 - YOUR INVITED TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https:...

Jul 18, 2023•27 min•Season 4Ep. 4

Break Down Bonus: Building self-esteem & self-worth for healthy relationships

Come to the Break Up Break Down Brunch in ATL: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007 - Amy Head, LCSW, joins the podcast to talk self-esteem, self-worth, and how to build yours from the inside out to have healthy relationships! - Learn more about Amy's practice: https://newperspectivesforlife.com/ - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby'...

Jul 13, 2023•27 min

When her BF cheated on her, his other GF, and his wife.... - S4E3

[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - This week we're raising awareness for SafeHouse in Denver: https://safehouse-denver.org/get-involved/donate/donate-form.html - BUY YOUR TICKET TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com...

Jul 11, 2023•37 min•Season 4Ep. 3

Break Down Bonus: Things keeping you in your relationship that might not be healthy (w/ Lexi)

Jul 06, 2023•24 min

When a detective called about her husband.... - S4E2

[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - This week we're raising awareness for First Step in Detroit, MI: https://www.firststep-mi.org/donatenow/ - BUY YOUR TICKET TO THE BREAK UP BREAK DOWN BRUNCH: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/break-up-break-down-brunch-sept-23rd-tickets-667893356007?aff=oddtdtcreator - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - T...

Jul 04, 2023•42 min•Season 4Ep. 2

Break Down Bonus: Why is my partner trying to control me? w/ Amy Head, LCSW

You should come to the Break Up Break Down Brunch in ATL: https://forms.gle/KEWSJcxShbLzCWRk6 (sign up to be the first to get the link here) - Amy Head, LCSW joins the podcast to talk all about controlling partners in relationships. What does control abuse look like in relationships? How do I identify when I'm not sure if it's a problem or just controlling tendencies? What tools can I use to leave relationships that show signs and evidence of control issues? - Submit a break up story/couple: htt...

Jun 29, 2023•28 min

When her BFF and husband were naked in the yard.... - S4E1

[SCROLL FOR CONTENT WARNINGS] - This week we're raising awareness for Safe Alliance in Charlotte, NC: https://www.safealliance.org/donations/ - Interested in coming to the Break Up Break Down Brunch?: https://forms.gle/dqhvvAEJmKWt4nS3A - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/br...

Jun 27, 2023•38 min•Season 4Ep. 1

Break Down Bonus: The "Daddy Issues" Deep Dive w/ Kati Morton, LMFT

(psssttt Season 4 starts JUNE 27th!) Marriage and Family therapist Kati Morton joins the podcast to redefine "daddy issues". What are they and how do you know if you have them...and spoiler alert....it doesn't always have to do with your relationship with your father! - Check out Kati's Attachment Workshop: https://katimorton.com/the-shop/p/attachment-workshop - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabby...

Jun 20, 2023•27 min

When the breakups went unsolved....again.... - Season 3 Finale

Interested in coming to the Break Up Break Down Brunch? : https://forms.gle/dqhvvAEJmKWt4nS3A - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro - (02:38 ): Submission #1 ...

Jun 13, 2023•28 min•Season 3Ep. 21

Break Down Bonus: The Season 3 Break Down (+ S3E20 Reaction)

S3 has finally come to a close....I'm wrapping up this season by talking about S3E20 and every episode that came before it! I'll talk about my favorite moments and lessons from the season and also a little tea along the way.... - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreak...

May 25, 2023•26 min

When she was the "other woman" for 7 years.... - S3E20

This week we're raising awareness for Marjaree Mason Center in Fresno, Ca: https://mmcenter.org/partner-with-us/donate - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedback: https://forms.gle/jZcG5YPcBqPyNxEz9 - Timestamps: - (00:00): Episode Intro -...

May 23, 2023•38 min•Season 3Ep. 20

Break Down Bonus: What we've learned from going to therapy for "daddy issues" w/ Bestie Kennedy

We'll definitely have a therapist on to talk about this subject at some point, but for now, here's an in-depth look on two personal experiences. "Daddy issues", parental wounds, attachment issues, abandonment issues...whatever you feel comfortable calling them...can be absolutely devastating when trying to get into a healthy relationship. BFF Kennedy joins Abby on the podcast to talk about each other's emotional wounds from childhood and what they've learned from their own healing experiences. -...

May 18, 2023•25 min

When she found out about the affair after he died.... - S3E19

This week we're raising awareness for Palomar in Oklahoma City, OK: https://palomarokc.org/donate/ - Check out Besitos Beauty: https://besitosbeauty.com/ - Interested in coming to the Break Up Break Down Brunch?: https://forms.gle/dqhvvAEJmKWt4nS3A - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.inst...

May 16, 2023•46 min•Season 3Ep. 19

Break Down Bonus: What lengths would you go to avoid your ex? w/ ExCoworker Justin

Was he drawing a boundary...or going to extremes to avoid his ex hook up? ExCoworker Justin joins the pod to recap and rehash this week's main episode! We'll talk about post-relationship triggers, avoiding your exes at any cost, and niche dating deal breakers.... - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: ht...

May 11, 2023•24 min

When it was just a "business" relationship.... - S3E18

This week we're raising awareness for Family Rescue in Chicago, IL: https://familyrescueinc.org/donate/ - Interest in coming to the Break Up Break Down Brunch? : https://forms.gle/dqhvvAEJmKWt4nS3A - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - Follow the podcast! - Abby's IG: https://www.instagram.com/theabbymurphy/ - Abby's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@theabbymurphy/ - The Break Up Break Down on IG: https://www.instagram.com/breakupbreakdownpodcast/ - Submit Feedbac...

May 09, 2023•23 min•Season 3Ep. 18

Break Down Bonus: Learning not to blame yourself for their mistakes (S3E17 Reaction)

[SCROLL FOR CW] - It can be so easy to look back on a relationship with hindsight bias. How many times have we all said, "Oh I should have done this" or "said this" or "done this differently"? The reality is, we're only in control of what we bring to the relationship and we're certainly not at fault for the horrible things a toxic ex has done. Let's unpack some of the hardest parts of this week's episode, just you and me! - Submit a break up story/couple: https://forms.gle/ATdabGFwyy7tEx3W8 - In...

May 04, 2023•18 min

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