Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #22In this episode:How do you know when your own red flags are a problem?Why are so many people content with the 9-to-5?How do you kick a substance like Adderall (or caffeine) when it seems to maximize your brainpower?And more!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-22-twice-as-bright-half-as-long/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd ...
Aug 07, 2015•23 min
Technology is progressing so quickly that science fact is catching up with what was recently only imaginable as science fiction. Welcome to the 21st century."The invention of the future is a war, make no mistake." -Steven KotlerThe Cheat Sheet:The line between technology and biology is getting thinner and thinner.What is mind uploading?Biotechnology is now moving at five times the speed of Moore's Law -- in other words, it's doubling in power every four months.What transformative effect will bio...
Aug 06, 2015•50 min
Using techniques developed by the Marines makes reading nonverbal cues to identify potential threats very straightforward."Somewhere between 60-90 percent of all communication is nonverbal. If you're making a decision in the absence of 60-90 percent of everything you could gather about a situation or person, are you really making an informed judgment?" -Patrick Van HorneThe Cheat Sheet:Can you determine threats by reading nonverbal cues?Discover how to observe people and situations with the Base...
Aug 05, 2015•57 min
Technology can save you a lot of time -- when it's not helping you waste it. Break tech addiction by learning how it gets you hooked in the first place."I need to use what I know about human behavior and consumer psychology to put technology in its place." -Nir EyalThe Cheat Sheet:Does technology work for you, or are you working for technology?Learn how and why habit-forming devices and apps are developed.What are the triggers in your life?Discover how variable rewards train you like some kind o...
Aug 03, 2015•55 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #21In this episode:Anonymous commenter about the Chris Edwards show.Workplace harassment in the kitchen.How to handle a girlfriend who want's you to fight for her honor.Review of the week.Click here to support the show at our sponsor Lynda.com!Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-21-complaining-about-ridiculous-terrible-things/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what h...
Jul 31, 2015•15 min
You don't have to be shackled to your programming. Learn to identify and move beyond the Man Rules for genuine relationships and a more emotionally fulfilling life."The cultural expectations for men have risen dramatically while the guidance for us has changed very little." -Dan GriffinThe Cheat Sheet:Understand how the Man Rules are affecting your life -- which ones are working for you and which ones are working against you.What's the Relationship Dichotomy?The Sex Funnel's not just another rid...
Jul 29, 2015•56 min
Hesitant to make important life changes based on what other people might think of you? Take control of how you're perceived and rebrand yourself -- on your own terms. "No one would ever choose to put themselves through this unless it was critical to their identity." -Chris Edwards The Cheat Sheet: Stop fearing what others think about the important changes you need to make in your life. Learn how branding principles helped an advertising creative director make a very public transition from female...
Jul 27, 2015•57 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #20In this episode:How to let go of negative people in your social circle.Why the AoC programs are based in LA.Where are all the cute people in my town?How can you reduce the chances of a sudden negative personality shift soon after marriage.New segment! Review of the week.Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-20/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand o...
Jul 24, 2015•18 min
Conduct your business with integrity and people will know you as a problem solver instead of just another charlatan trying to sell them stuff. "Trust is more important than like." -Ian Altman The Cheat Sheet: Nobody likes being sold to -- in business or in life. It's all about finding a fit. Are you working, or doing your life's work? Use your unique talents to deliver extraordinary results. Define a niche and value that has endless rewards. When you ask for advice, are you seeking validation or...
Jul 20, 2015•59 min
Welcome to Fan Mail Friday #19In this episode:Don't let insecurities and low self-esteem torpedo your relationships.Are communications with your ex-girlfriend above board?What does it mean when your ex-fiance keeps texting you?If you treat a woman well what are you entitled to? The answer may surprise you...The amazing story of Samia Yusuf Omar.Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-19/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD!If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and wr...
Jul 17, 2015•19 min
Having a baby is a stressful, transformative experience for even the most prepared couples. Here, we talk about how to survive the ordeals -- and enjoy the rewards -- of parenthood together."During that [first] three months, you're so tired...you don't even have time to notice there are problems in the relationship." -Marni KinrysThe Cheat Sheet:Why have a baby in the first place? How do you know when you're ready?Pregnancy brain and mommy brain -- why it's real and why it can hurt your relation...
Jul 15, 2015•54 min
Most of us are taught to chase opportunity, but a Person of Interest gets opportunity to chase them. "'Person of Interest' is how you flip the script and become a buyer vs. a seller." -Coach Burt The Cheat Sheet: Why does everyone need a life coach? Do you have the ingredients to become a Person of Interest? Learn why you should never answer the question "What do you do?" (It's a trap!) Would you rather find out if someone's worth your time in 15 months, or 15 seconds? Underestimate yourself at ...
Jul 13, 2015•50 min
In this one:Getting job recommendations.Dealing with non-reciprocating friends.Conquer the fear of flying.And more.More at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 10, 2015•15 min
When you learn to think like the top one percent of people who get things done, procrastination is a virtue on par with patience -- and an essential part of your time management strategy."Automation is to your time exactly what compounding interest is to your money." -Rory VadenThe Cheat Sheet:Everything you know about time management is wrong.How can you use your time in a way today that creates more time tomorrow?Time management is as emotional as it is logical.Learn the five permissions you n...
Jul 08, 2015•55 min
Even if you don't believe in yourself, the sleeping genius within you does -- and comes equipped with a backlog of ideas you didn't even know you had."While we live in an age that is demanding breakthroughs, we live in an age that paradoxically refuses to allow us the time to achieve them." -Judah PollackThe Cheat Sheet:How can we harness the power of associative thinking to awaken our inner genius?Why is self loathing a uniquely modern western phenomenon?Cursed with success? Learn how to overco...
Jul 06, 2015•1 hr 9 min
In this one:How to keep calm inside and out.Why isn't there a show like this for women?Does alcohol matter?And more. Oh, and Maaaaazda...More at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast/HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need.Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jul 03, 2015•17 min
If being parked in a bad dating pattern is your idea of a comfort zone, consider how a little discomfort will take you to a far better place."Imagine two dysfunctional puzzle pieces out in the universe with a magnet..." -Marni BattistaThe Cheat Sheet:If you want to date out of your league, you just have to be 10% better than 90% of the guys out there.10 things women wish you knew.How can we stop terrible dating patterns?Why do we keep dating people who are bad for us?Screening out the crazies (o...
Jul 01, 2015•58 min
For better or worse, we mirror the company that we keep. Here's how we maximize its quality for the best reflection."I'm selective with second chances, but I'm always willing to give a first chance." -AJ HarbingerThe Cheat Sheet:Are you due for a friend audit?How do you tell the difference between "high value" and "low value" people?Learn how high value people build you up and low value people tear you down.Where do you land on the Value Scale?Low value people identifiers: the red flags.And so m...
Jun 26, 2015•43 min
The truth about the modern economy: you make your own credentials (and you don't need a middleman anymore)."All the advice from our parents is just absolutely wrong." -Dorie ClarkThe Cheat Sheet:The game of achieving success today has different rules than it did for our parents and grandparents.How does someone get recognized as a "thought leader?"How do you find and spread your own breakthrough idea?Innovation doesn't have to be difficult.Use the Niche Strategy to carve out your own area of exp...
Jun 24, 2015•47 min
It's never too late to shed a lousy job description. Learn to bridge the direct experience gap and stop enduring work you hate."It's painful to learn new stuff, [but] I learned how to surf and snowboard at 40!" -Kevin KermesThe Cheat Sheet:Why it's critical to translate your skills (and the #1 way people fail when trying).How can you stand out and avoid becoming a commodity?Mentor relationships require as much give as take.What is the direct experience gap, and how can you bridge it?Learn the XY...
Jun 22, 2015•53 min
In this one: -How do I have a tough conversation with my boss? -Why Special K cereal is sexist -And more, natch' Show notes at https://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/fan-mail-friday-16/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from the crowd and help people find the credible advice they need. Stay Charming! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jun 19, 2015•14 min
To succeed, focus on what you want and how to get it, nothing more."Your beliefs really shape what you do or don't do." -Olaniyi SobomehinThe Cheat Sheet:When does discipline really count?Why success isn't as complicated as most people think.A practical exercise to turn fear into confidence.Why physiology plays such a significant role in our emotional state.How to get comfortable with pressure and discomfort.And so much more...Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/olaniyi-sobom...
Jun 17, 2015•59 min
Tragedy is not a choice; learning how to thrive in its aftermath is. "When you get thrown out of a car going 80, you usually leave a little bit of skin on the pavement." -Cole Hatter The Cheat Sheet: How can you ensure that tragedy creates rather than conquers? You don't have to give up the dream life to help others live theirs. What's the difference between a non-profit and for-purpose business? Literally 'buy happiness' by learning how to build a cause that resonates with you into your busines...
Jun 15, 2015•58 min
Rapport takes time, patience and vulnerability. "You have to be interested to be interesting." - Johnny Dzubak The Cheat Sheet: Why you have to be vulnerable to connect. The three levels of rapport-building. What is floodlighting? How to build rapport if you're shy or introverted. Why making mistakes is the best way to learn. And so much more… Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/aoc-toolbox-rapport-episode-415/ HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dig the show, please subscribe in...
Jun 12, 2015•40 min
Most of us have been taught some BS about sexual desire. "The way to become a person's type is to treat them in a way that makes them feel really, really good." -Dr. Emily Nagoski The Cheat Sheet: Why women are easier to turn off than men. What is yucking people's yums? Dr. Emily explains how fetishes develop. How orgasms are like riding a bicycle. The REAL physical signs she's close to orgasm. And so much more... Show notes at http://theartofcharm.com/podcast-episodes/dr-emily-nagoski-come-as-y...
Jun 10, 2015•1 hr 4 min
We can rejuvenate our cells and avoid aging. "We have a clear moral obligation to get these therapies developed as quickly as possible." -Dr. Aubrey de Grey The Cheat Sheet: Dr. Aubrey de Grey explains why breathing is bad for us (really). Is a 4-digit lifespan truly possible? 100,000 people die every day from old age: true or false? Which country spends $30 billion dollars every year on medical research? Will rejuvenation only be available for the wealthy? And so much more... Show notes at http...
Jun 08, 2015•55 min
Curiosity about everything makes you ready for anything."There isn't a person alive who doesn't think they're interesting. My job is to make that 'interesting' come out." -Larry KingThe Cheat Sheet:What traits come naturally to a good broadcaster -- and can these traits be taught?"Just be yourself" is more than the cop-out advice you probably think it is.How does someone decades past retirement age not only keep doing what they love, but keep loving what they do?What's the deal with Larry King's...
Jun 05, 2015•32 min
In this one: -What do I do when someone really "gets my goat"? -Does AoC take BitCoin? -Is it important to drink when I go out? -Should I call people out when I see them doing something wrong? HELP US SPREAD THE WORD! If you dug this episode, please subscribe in iTunes and write us a review! This is what helps us stand out from all the fluff out there. Ways to subscribe to The Art of Charm Click here to subscribe via iTunes Click here to subscribe via RSS You can also subscribe via Stitcher FEED...
Jun 05, 2015•16 min
Banter is a muscle to be flexed daily. "A man who stands for nothing will fall for anything." -Malcolm X The Cheat Sheet: Do you always have to be funny to create banter? What is the conversation formula? What are the three traits you want to embody through banter? What is "yes and" and how does it apply to bantering? How can you practice banter? And so much more… One of the keys to connecting with anyone is banter. Whether you're hanging out at your third place or you're out with your boys and ...
May 29, 2015•38 min
According to The Way of the Peaceful Warrior author Dan Millman, everyone is a peaceful warrior in training. "Heroes and cowards feel exactly the same fear, they just respond differently." -Cus D'Amato The Cheat Sheet: Why doesn't Dan Millman like to use the word spirituality? What is FAST defense? Do you have to travel in order to grow? How to act with kindness, bravery or other emotion, even if you don't feel it. What is Dan's "outside in" approach to growth? And so much more... Full show note...
May 25, 2015•1 hr
