Last week on The Allender Center Podcast, Dan launched a new series exploring our signature Training Certificate, a year-long program that guides individuals through engagement with their own stories of harm and trauma for the sake of learning to offer healing and restoration in the stories of others. This week, Dan is joined by his wife, Becky Allender, who shares about her own experience of going through the Training Certificate and the impact that it continues to have in her life....
Mar 12, 2016•22 min
This week on The Allender Center Podcast, Dan launches a new series exploring the heart and vision behind our unique Training Certificate , a year-long training that guides individuals through engagement with their own stories of harm and trauma for the sake of learning to offer healing and restoration in the stories of others.
Mar 05, 2016•22 min
This week, Dan Allender continues reflecting on his upcoming book, Healing the Wounded Heart: The Heartache of Sexual Abuse and the Hope of Transformation . In Part One of this series, Dan shared about the stance he hopes readers will take when approaching the new book, which is a 25-year retrospective about everything he has learned working with sexually abused men and women. In Part Two , Dan addressed the intent of evil to create orphans, widows, and strangers through the harm we have endured...
Feb 27, 2016•18 min
This week, Dan Allender continues reflecting on his upcoming book, Healing the Wounded Heart: The Heartache of Sexual Abuse and the Hope of Transformation . The new book is a 25-year retrospective about everything Dan has learned working with sexually abused men and women since publishing his first book, The Wounded Heart . In last week’s podcast , Dan talked about the openness and honor with which he hopes readers will approach Healing the Wounded Heart . This week, he reflects on evil’s intent...
Feb 22, 2016•21 min
On this week’s podcast, Dan Allender launches a three-part series engaging the themes of his upcoming book, Healing the Wounded Heart: The Heartache of Sexual Abuse and the Hope of Transformation . The new book, scheduled for release at the beginning of next month, is a 25-year retrospective about what Dan has learned working with sexually abused men and women in the years since his first book, The Wounded Heart ....
Feb 13, 2016•22 min
On this week’s podcast, Dan Allender continues to talk with his good friend, John Eldredge, about their upcoming Restoration of the Heart conference, March 4-5 in Colorado Springs. Be sure to check out the first part of this conversation if you missed it.
Feb 06, 2016•21 min
On this week’s podcast, Dan Allender sits down with his good friend, John Eldredge, to reflect on the themes behind the Restoration of the Heart conference , a joint venture from The Allender Center and Ransomed Heart . Restoration of the Heart, March 4-5 in Colorado Springs, will engage the questions and challenges that emerge when we dare to believe that true healing and restoration are possible for even our deepest wounds....
Jan 30, 2016•21 min
On last week’s podcast, Dan began responding to this question we received from a listener: “As I work deeper into my story, how can I honor my own heart, and my spouse, when he or she is not willing to engage his or her own story and suffering?” Many of us have experienced the heartache of having a friend, partner, or relative who is not just indifferent to our efforts to better engage our stories, but actively opposed.
Jan 23, 2016•22 min
On last week’s podcast , Dan Allender responded to a listener question about leaving and cleaving in dating relationships. This week’s question, one that will take two weeks to explore, will likely be familiar to many of us: “As I work deeper into my story, how can I honor my own heart, and my spouse, when he or she is not willing to engage his or her own story and suffering?” Before we can look at all of the implications that are packed in that one painful question, it is necessary to look at a...
Jan 16, 2016•23 min
Dan addresses a question that many people might be wrestling with after our recent marriage series: How do you negotiate leaving and cleaving in dating? And how do you transition from singleness to engagement while still honoring your parents?
Jan 09, 2016•22 min
On last week’s podcast , Dr. Dan Allender reflected on the end of the year, looking at what is required to be attentive and to bless what God is showing us through the past year. This week, we’re turning to the New Year. Dan discusses what it means to start a year with the same care and intentionality that goes into ending a year well.
Jan 02, 2016•22 min
On this week’s podcast, Dr. Dan Allender reflects on 2015 and the nature of ending a year. How do we mark the culmination of everything that the year held, both the good and the bad, when most of us are so exhausted by the time the holidays come around that we spend the last few days of the year in a kind of haze, already fretting about what’s to come in the new year?
Dec 26, 2015•23 min
Last week on The Allender Center Podcast, Dan and Becky Allender discussed their experiences of welcoming guests into their home . This week, as we continue our series about all of the complexity of the holidays, Dan is joined by his daughter-in-law Sassy to talk about the other side of that interaction: how to hold and offer goodness when you are a guest entering someone else’s home.
Dec 19, 2015•24 min
This week on The Allender Center Podcast, Dan and Becky Allender continue our series about engaging the holiday season in all of its beauty and complexity (you can listen to part one here ). Dan and Becky reflect on their experiences of welcoming guests into their home, exploring what it looks like to receive others in hospitality and kindness, in a manner that is life-giving to the guests and the hosts.
Dec 12, 2015•23 min
This week on The Allender Center Podcast, Dan and Becky Allender launch a new series reflecting on the holiday season—and all of the complexity it brings.
Dec 05, 2015•22 min
Last week on The Allender Center Podcast, we shared a conversation with Dan Allender and his daughter, Amanda, and son-in-law, Jeff, as they welcomed their newborn daughter. (Listen here: Grace Is in the World .) This week, Dan and his wife, Becky Allender, reflect on the glory of a new life in the world and the experience of becoming grandparents again.
Nov 28, 2015•24 min
It seems appropriate that, on the heels of our six-part Marriage series , Dan and Becky flew to New York to welcome their new granddaughter into the world. This week on the podcast, Dan is joined by his daughter Amanda, his son-in-law Jeff, and their cooing, hiccuping baby, Grace Harper.
Nov 21, 2015•23 min
This episode marks the conclusion of our six-part Marriage series , a conversation between Dan and Becky Allender. In case you missed any of it, you can still catch up on past episodes, including Leaving ( Part One , Part Two ), Cleaving ( Part One , Part Two ), and Part One of Weaving ....
Nov 14, 2015•23 min
On this week’s podcast, Dan and Becky Allender continue our six-part Marriage series , which began with Leaving ( Part One , Part Two ), moved to Cleaving ( Part One , Part Two ), and ends with Weaving—what it means for a couple to weave together as one flesh. To put it another way, we’re talking about sex....
Nov 07, 2015•22 min
On this week’s podcast, the fourth part of our ongoing Marriage series, Dan and Becky Allender continue talking about the idea of a couple cleaving together, by looking at the contempt and bitterness that can take root and create so much division in a relationship.
Oct 31, 2015•23 min
This week on The Allender Center Podcast, Dan and Becky Allender continue our series on Marriage: Leaving, Cleaving, and Weaving. In Part One and Part Two of this series, Dan and Becky reflected on the difficulties they encountered in leaving their families of origin and growing in love and loyalty toward each other. Here, they discuss the idea of cleaving together, being bonded to each other in the sort of one-heartedness that marks a life-giving marriage....
Oct 25, 2015•23 min
This week on The Allender Center Podcast, in part two of our Marriage series, Dan and his wife, Becky Allender, continue to talk about what it looks like to leave our families of origin and grow in love and loyalty for one another.
Oct 17, 2015•23 min
This week on The Allender Center Podcast, Dan’s wife, Becky Allender, joins him to launch a new series all about the beauty and brokenness that is part of a healthy, life-giving marriage. The themes at the heart of this conversation—leaving, cleaving, and weaving—are also a foundational part of the book Intimate Allies (which Dan co-wrote with Dr. Tremper Longman III) and The Allender Center’s Intimate Mystery Conference ....
Oct 10, 2015•23 min
This week on The Allender Center Podcast, Dan sits down with his long-time friend, John Eldredge, to share the story behind the upcoming Restoration of the Heart Conference , a joint offering from The Allender Center and Ransomed Heart .
Oct 03, 2015•34 min
This week on The Allender Center Podcast, Dan concludes our Design of Desire series by looking at the relationship between the desires of our hearts and our ability to delight in God. That can be an uncomfortable connection to make, since many of us are all too aware that the things we desire sometimes seem to be very far from the heart of God.
Sep 27, 2015•22 min
So far in The Allender Center Podcast’s Design of Desire series, Dan has discussed the war against desire and the idea that God-given desire fosters creativity. On this week’s podcast, Dan continues the series by confronting the idea that not all of our desires are healthy. How does God deal with conflicted desires that are deeply legitimate at times and that, other times, swing into madness?
Sep 19, 2015•21 min
This week on The Allender Center Podcast, Dan continues the Design of Desire series that opened last week with the idea that much of desire is opposed and that pursuing meaningful desire requires stepping into the war against desire. Here, Dan looks at Genesis 1 and 3 to discuss two categories—the so-called “cultural mandate”—that are at the heart of God’s intention for desire: fill and multiply, and subdue and rule. These categories refer to raising children and tending the earth, but also to s...
Sep 12, 2015•22 min
This week on The Allender Center Podcast, Dan launches a new series, Design of Desire, all about the desire rooted deep in our humanity—where it comes from, how it manifests in our lives, and the war that is constantly waged against it.
Sep 05, 2015•22 min
Dan has returned from his 10 day motorcycle trip through the backcountry of Colorado and through story from his adventure invites us to consider how play begins to open the door to seeing the larger realities of life.
Aug 22, 2015•22 min
Dan continues our series on play by reflecting on the anticipation and preparation that are required for ventures of deep, meaningful play.
Aug 15, 2015•21 min
