In this episode Deb & Nao talk about the challenges & rewards of pursuing certification in EFT. They interview newly certified therapist Elizabeth Moitoza LICSW about her experience, and offer tips and support for those in the process.
Deb and Nao welcome New York Times Bestselling author Dr. Emily Nagoski, expert on women's sexual wellbeing. Using warmth and humor, she covers everything women need to know--from the impact of stress on women's health and well-being to modern day romance novels to the importance of bringing joy and pleasure to our lives.
Deb & Nao welcome Master Trainer George Faller to share his wisdom about how EFT can best help couples and families. From his experiences as a firefighter during 9/11 to working with couples impacted by trauma to training hundreds of therapists in the model, George brings his unique brand of warmth and humor to The Couch.
Deb & Nao interview Trainer and Co-Director of ICEEFT Gail Palmer, MSW, RMFT. From her early collaboration with Sue to her decades working with families and teaching EFT to students and therapists, Gail brings her warmth and wisdom to The Couch. She explains how the model of EFT is used with families to promote connection and growth throughout the lifespan.
Deb & Nao welcome therapist, New York Times bestselling author and former Hollywood writer Lori Gottlieb to The Couch to talk about her new book Maybe You Should Talk To Someone . The book chronicles her own therapy and the ways it dovetails with four of her clients' stories. Funny, engaging and deeply personal, Lori's stories inspired us to reveal some of our own.
In this bonus episode, Deb & Nao talk about Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy, and offer practical tips to help listeners learn how to identify, regulate and lean in to emotions. These skills empower us to have the kinds of relationships that fulfill us---whether with a partner, a co-worker, a child or a friend.
From Las Vegas, arguably the capital of competing attachments, Nao & Deb welcome Dr. Anabelle Bugatti. Host of We Heart Therapy, Anabelle talks about what it's like to work with couples in Sin City, where there is so much that can threaten attachment. From Mama's Boys to pleasure-seeking, the episode covers the gamut of EFT in action.
Deb & Nao welcome renowned psychologist and expert on sexuality in relationships Dr. Barry McCarthy. In this candid and often explicit interview, Dr. McCarthy tells us why sex should be a team sport, how desire can be rekindled and when we should engage in foreplay. This is not an episode to listen to with your kids in the car, but definitely worth sharing with your partner!
From Ireland via San Francisco, Deb & Nao welcome Marriage & Family therapist Fiachra Figs O'Sullivan. With his unique brand of warmth, humor and Irish charm, Figs shares his passion for helping others heal from emotional pain. He his therapist wife Teale run the company empathi.com, aimed at democratizing mental health care.
Deb & Nao welcome Dr Susan Simonds from Moscow, Idaho to talk about a passion of hers; the intersection of trauma, relationships and healing through creative expression. She explains how forgetting the orange juice can be a blip on the radar or a nuclear meltdown, depending on our trauma history.
From parenting to relocations to job changes, every couple will experience life transitions and the stress, joy and pain they bring---sometimes all at once. Deb & Nao enlist the help of Theresa Bullock Cohen, LICSW, Certified EFT supervisor and group process expert to talk about how couples can prepare for and work through these changes. Theresa offers guidance so that couples can protect and strengthen their bonds through all that life presents them with---from the cradle to the grave....
Deb and Nao enlist the help of EFT trainer, author and adjunct faculty member at UNC Greensboro Lorrie Brubacher, LMFT & RMFT to talk about the most painful of injuries for couples. Lorrie shares her extensive knowledge about how couples can come together after safety and trust have been shattered, to a place of deep healing and reconnection.
Deb and Nao land the interview of their dreams with Psychologist and EFT developer Dr. Susan M. Johnson. Sue shares the stories of her childhood and young adulthood that led to her passion for helping couples find connection.
Triggers are the match and core struggles the gasoline that set the negative cycle ablaze for couples. In this episode, Deb & Nao enlist the help of EFT supervisor extraordinaire Jean Shirkoff LICSW to help couples learn how to turn off the gas valve and snuff out the match before too much damage is done. By identifying our triggers and seeking support for our core struggles, we can avoid the negative cycle and enjoy a more calm and loving connection with our partner. As if that weren't enou...
Deb and Nao confront their own issues with technology usage, and enlist the help of Oz Akbas, LMFT, who has a specialty in the impact of technology usage on individuals, couples, families and society. They discuss the unintended consequences of technology usage, and Oz gives tips about how to protect our most cherished relationships from being negatively impacted by it.
Deb and Nao define what they mean by culture, and explore its impact on couples. From race to religion to families of origin, the cultures we belong to play an important role in the way we see the world. Though we may not share these things with our partner, we do need their sensitivity and understanding when cultural issues arise. Dr. Robert Allen talks with Deb and Nao about how couples can connect more deeply by weaving cultural awareness into their relationships.
Deb and Nao define and discuss the origins of Borderline Personality Disorder, which can feel devastating to relationships for everyone involved. Their guest is clinical psychologist Karin Wagenaar, the first EFT trainer in Europe, who joined them from Holland where she helped create an innovative program that uses EFT as part of its treatment of this complex disorder.
Deb and Nao welcome Dr. Patricia Papernow, stepparent, psychologist, author and expert on the subject of stepfamilies. Dr. Papernow discusses the inherent challenges that adults and children face, explains why the notion of blending ought apply to smoothies and not families, and offers the best tools for second-family couples to maintain connection to each other, their children and stepchildren whilst building new traditions together.
With suicide rates on the increase locally and around the world, Deb & Nao seek the expertise of Kirk Woodring to help understand this tragic phenomenon. Kirk is the Chief Clinical Officer of the Brattleboro Retreat, a lecturer at Smith College and the author of books about suicide. We discover the importance of connection as a protective factor against suicide.
Deb and Nao tackle the timely topic of narcissism. Deb interviews Dr. Craig Malkin, psychologist, expert and author of the book Rethinking Narcissism on how narcissism develops, impacts relationships and can be addressed using an attachment-based approach like EFT. Dr. Malkin explains how to tell when loving a narcissist has hit a dead-end.
In this informative and moving episode, psychologist Dr. Shiri Cohen takes us inside the lives of soldiers and the people who love them, as they adjust to family life post-deployment. A certified EFT therapist and clinician working with the Home Base foundation in Boston, Dr. Cohen has the compassion and expertise to enlighten us about the many challenges these brave men and women face, and the possibilities for healing that therapy can offer.
Traumatic events, whether in childhood or adulthood leave an indelible mark on us as individuals. It turns out they can also wreak havoc on our relationships. Deb and Nao offer different definitions of trauma, including a few that may surprise listeners. They welcome renowned specialist Dr. Kathryn Rheem, ICEEFT certified trainer who brings a wealth of information about how EFT can help couples impacted by trauma to a place of hope and healing.
Addiction hurts everyone in its path---from the person who uses to everyone who cares about them. Yet "tough love" approaches have not proven effective. In this episode we welcome from Atlanta Certified EFT trainer Michael Barnett LPC, who has years of experience treating couples and treating addiction. He weaves these together with EFT to create a gentle, respectful model that promotes healing for couples impacted by addiction.
In this episode, Deb & Nao enlist the help of experts Mike Moran and Dr. Zoya Simakhodskaya to tackle what can be one of the most difficult topics for couples to discuss---sex. With certifications in sex therapy and years of helping couples and training therapists between them, these NYC-based therapists provide answers to some of the most-asked questions on this topic. Dr. Zoya and Mike offer hope---even for those couples who might fear that they can never rekindle their sexual connection....
From the dizzying exuberance of infatuation to the deep comfort of long-term companionship, Deb and Nao explore different aspects of love. They interview Certified EFT therapist and Supervisor, Nancy Knudsen. Nancy has facilitated numerous EFT couples weekend workshops, and co-created one called Hold Me Tight, Hold Me Just Right. She describes the possibilities for deepening connection in these workshops, and shares the stories of love she has witnessed along the way.
In this episode, Deb & Nao talk with renowned EFT therapist and international trainer Jim Thomas about the complex issue of addiction, and the devastating impact it has on relationships. Through his engaging style and 30+ years of experience, Jim offers hope and healing to couples and families impacted by addiction.
In this episode, Deb & Nao welcome renowned EFT therapist and trainer Dr. Rebecca Jorgensen to discuss the enormous impact that shame can have on individuals and relationships. Dr. Becca offers wisdom and hope for those who are impacted by the pain and loneliness that shame brings.
In this episode, Deb and Nao answer the question a lot of couples ask: "When will we be done with therapy?" They discuss the link between close relationships and outside stressors, making the case for EFT as a protective factor for our overall health.
In this episode, Deb and Nao talk about triggers and how they impact relationships, often making communication difficult. They link triggers--which are the symptom, to core struggles--which are the root of the negative cycle. Using role plays, they illustrate how core struggles fuel arguments, and how understanding them can help couples step out of the negative cycle and into connection.
In this episode, Deb and Nao welcome EFT trainer Jill Fischer, who answers the tough questions that betrayed partners most frequently ask after an affair. They then tackle the question of why people choose to engage in these kinds of breaches.
