"If you're going, I wish this was different. I understand why laundry is important. I would really like to be wearing clean clothes. I would really like to be able to walk in my closet and know where my things are and not feel overwhelmed. "Like, congratulations, you're motivated." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoard...
Mar 10, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Season 1Ep. 82
"Sometimes plans work for a bit and then they stop suiting us or they stop suiting the circumstances. Sometimes they were never quite right in the first place. And if you get stubborn and dig your heels in because you said you'd do it this way even when that's not working, all that does is disadvantage you and the progress you could be making if you weren't setting yourself up to fail" For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / ht...
Mar 03, 2023•52 min•Season 1Ep. 81
This week, I am going to talk about four teeny tiny things that are making a bigger difference to my dehoarding efforts than, in all fairness, they should. They are punching above their weight, as ideas go. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecomp...
Feb 24, 2023•48 min•Season 1Ep. 80
"We need to be the one to break the cycle before the thing you've inherited passes down to the next generation. You might think that your inheritance is cash or a house, but it could actually just be trauma. So be the one to break the cycle." - Dr Jan Eppingstall For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Q...
Feb 17, 2023•1 hr 12 min•Season 1Ep. 79
"Really early on, I was like, this isn't about the stuff. This just isn't about the stuff." - Tracy McCubbin, professional organiser and child of a hoarder. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Tracy McCubbin Tracy on Instagram Tracy on TikTok Making Space, Clutter Free by Tracy McCubbin Make Space for Happiness by Tracy McCubbin Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecom...
Feb 10, 2023•1 hr 16 min•Season 1Ep. 78
The portrayal of hoarders is really damaging. It contributes to stigma. It's very othering, people talk about like we’re some separate species to look at in a zoo. And I think dramatising what is a mental illness i s... well, it's unhelpful, but I think it goes beyond unhelpful, into actively destructive. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www...
Feb 03, 2023•38 min•Season 1Ep. 77
Each step in each of those cycles just perpetuates the other steps. And so we spiral downwards, because we feel we can't get out of the cycle. And the thing with vicious cycles, by definition is that you're setting yourself up to fail. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoard...
Jan 27, 2023•44 min•Season 1Ep. 76
"We're wired to connect, we need others to co-regulate our emotions and in order to feel a sense of belonging, we'll do anything to achieve this." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mast...
Jan 20, 2023•1 hr 5 min•Season 1Ep. 75
"The work is how do you get out of defensiveness and into generosity?" - Couples therapist Laura Silverstein, on couples and hoarding. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder Mastodon: @ThatH...
Jan 13, 2023•1 hr 16 min•Season 1Ep. 74
"Big and bold can be quite performative. But it's not necessarily that useful. It might look good briefly. But you don't often get the long-term change you're looking for. " For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions...
Jan 06, 2023•50 min•Season 1Ep. 73
So I haven't missed an episode of this podcast since October 2021 including publishing on Christmas Eve and New Year's Eve last year. Every week, brand new content. And I think I deserve a couple of weeks off. But fear not! For two weeks, I am republishing some previous episodes that I know you valued before. I am a big believer in re-listening to things you've already heard, because you can pick up all kinds of new things that you missed the first time around. Also, I know that some podcasts st...
Dec 30, 2022•1 hr 12 min
So I haven't missed an episode of this podcast since October 2021 including publishing on Christmas Eve and New Year's Eve last year. Every week, brand new content. And I think I deserve a couple of weeks off. But fear not! For two weeks, I am republishing some previous episodes that I know you valued before. I am a big believer in re-listening to things you've already heard, because you can pick up all kinds of new things that you missed the first time around. Also, I know that some podcasts st...
Dec 23, 2022•29 min
"If we want to make more progress, I think the best way of doing that is to look not just at what we achieved and didn't achieve, but what worked and what didn't. Because then we can do more of what worked and less of what didn't work." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoar...
Dec 17, 2022•36 min•Season 1Ep. 72
Where to start when dehoarding your home? I'm asked it a lot and it's a huge question, and not one with a simple answer. In this episode, I take you through both the physical and psychological places to start with addressing your hoard. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions to ask when dehoar...
Dec 09, 2022•44 min•Season 1Ep. 71
The research into resilience in the sphere of positive psychology does indicate that we can practice and develop our resilience. And that starts with awareness, then acceptance of where we are right now and a plan to build on our strengths and weaknesses. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Become a Dehoarding Darling https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/darling Questions...
Dec 02, 2022•1 hr 21 min•Season 1Ep. 70
Whenever anything goes wrong, whether it's something terrible I've done, all the way to just being in a traffic jam, I find a way to yell at myself in my own head about what a terrible person I am and how awful I am and why everything in the world that's bad is my fault. It's a really exhausting way to live and yet it is pretty constant in my head. And I know when I hear from you that it's not just me, we all I think give ourselves a really hard time, we are our own worst critic. For the full sh...
Nov 25, 2022•57 min•Season 1Ep. 69
"One extreme is that a hoarder can shop compulsively, spend a lot of money, get into debt because of buying so many things and get into real financial trouble because of the hoarding. "But the other extreme is people who hoard money. And I'm not talking particularly about the billionaires, although obviously they hoard money. That's not really what I'm talking about. I'm talking about everyday people who you hear about it don't you? Somebody dies and then it turns out, they had millions of pound...
Nov 18, 2022•51 min•Season 1Ep. 68
Everything in a hoarded home is so much more difficult. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-...
Nov 11, 2022•43 min•Season 1Ep. 67
"ACT promotes accepting what is outside of your personal control, and committing to action that improves and enriches your life. That's kind of in a nutshell. But to understand ACT, and how it works, there is a need to touch on the theory that underpins it." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquest...
Nov 04, 2022•1 hr 13 min•Season 1Ep. 66
" There's something within us that feels like it's a solution, even if it's, in reality, a massively maladaptive one that has destructive consequences." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overco...
Oct 28, 2022•37 min•Season 1Ep. 65
"If you want to be the kind of person who goes running every day, you have to start running. If you want to be the kind of person who cooks from scratch every day, you have to learn to cook. If you want to be the kind of person who reads a lot of books, you have to start reading books. And if you want to live in a dehoarded home, you need to dehoard your home." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsi...
Oct 21, 2022•43 min•Season 1Ep. 64
Bereavement or loss can act as one of the types of trauma that could spark or intensify hoarding disorder. And there's a phenomenon called Grief Hoarding, where somebody dies and a loved one takes in all of their stuff. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @tha...
Oct 14, 2022•1 hr 17 min•Season 1Ep. 63
Why do I find those empty spaces so anxiety provoking? And why do I find them so devoid of personality? And so why do I associate stuff with soul and personality? For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebo...
Oct 07, 2022•34 min•Season 1Ep. 62
"So think of embracing imperfect solutions as a counter to perfectionism." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-C...
Oct 01, 2022•41 min•Season 1Ep. 61
"So you'd be wanting to think about which emotion it’s soothing, and helping people put in place other strategies. Because if you're going to take away one behaviour, which would be the hoarding, you have to, if that's meeting a need, you need to be replacing that with something so you're not leaving people without useful tools." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to a...
Sep 23, 2022•36 min•Season 1Ep. 60
"So today I am going to talk about DOOM. And I'm going to talk about OHIO. And I'm going to talk about how DOOM and OHIO relate to hoarding, as well as executive dysfunction, and some other stuff." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://ww...
Sep 16, 2022•43 min•Season 1Ep. 59
"We don't do things for no reason. So what is the need? If we recognise that we're doing this behaviour, what's the need that that self-sabotage fulfils?" For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Over...
Sep 09, 2022•57 min•Season 1Ep. 58
Lazy people don't lie awake at night thinking about whether they're a terrible person because they threw away a scribbled shopping list from 2014. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Com...
Sep 02, 2022•26 min•Season 1Ep. 57
"We all have the same thoughts, there are other moms out there who had all the same types of thoughts that I had. But where people with OCD go a little bit different is that they tend to think that those thoughts are significant somehow. They interpret those thoughts as being significant." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Jenna on Instagram All The Hard Things podcast https://...
Aug 26, 2022•46 min•Season 1Ep. 56
"So that lack of control over each and every decision was both terrifying and liberating at the same time. I liked somebody taking that out of my hands. And I hated somebody taking that out of my hands." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch http...
Aug 19, 2022•35 min•Season 1Ep. 55
