"I know that people feel sick with regret when they go out on a binge and come back, they've had that almost dissociative episode where they rushed off to the shops and bought all this stuff and come home and see it all together and have this overwhelming feeling of regret." "Or when all the Amazon boxes arrive and you're just like, 'Oh, what have I done?'" For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsiveho...
Aug 12, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 54
"Why do we endow extra value on things we own compared to things we don't own?" For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overc...
Aug 05, 2022•37 min•Season 1Ep. 53
"It might be that your landlord is doing an inspection, it might be that you've had a leak and it's going through to the flat below so you need to let somebody in to fix it. It might be that your electricity has blown. But for some reason, that has become unavoidable, you have to let somebody in and you are panicking." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when deh...
Jul 29, 2022•31 min•Season 1Ep. 52
"Dehoarding is hard. But it's a means to an end and it can get you somewhere good. Not dehoarding… sure, you're not having the stress of dehoarding, but you're having the immense stress of living knowing that if there's a fire, firefighters might not be able to get to you. That's also hard." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcom...
Jul 22, 2022•45 min•Season 1Ep. 51
"We seek out behaviours that release the largest dopamine hit we can, we feel so good, we do it again. And soon it becomes a habit." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoardi...
Jul 15, 2022•1 hr 22 min•Season 1Ep. 50
"The idea of avoiding distress might initially sound positive or helpful, so that reinforces that suppressing it or avoiding it is a helpful skill when it really, really isn't." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thatho...
Jul 08, 2022•28 min•Season 1Ep. 49
"It's about how I hated routines, how I resisted them, how I was scared of them. And how I tentatively, tentatively, slowly, slowly started to successfully incorporate some into my life." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.c...
Jul 01, 2022•39 min•Season 1Ep. 48
"You will probably, if not certainly, find things you knew you owned, but thought were long lost. There are things that I know I have but I couldn't tell you what room they were in, never mind what part of the room or what drawer or what cupboard or what pile, let's face it. Things that I really want to find and that, as yet, I haven't." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questi...
Jun 24, 2022•26 min•Season 1Ep. 47
"The goal is to wire in these habits, so they happen on autopilot every time when prompted. And how do we do that? We work in a specific way." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compuls...
Jun 17, 2022•1 hr•Season 1Ep. 46
"So I think the biggest change I see in myself is that I just approach things a bit differently. I am not as defeatist. I don't just say I can't, or it's too much, or I don't know how." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com...
Jun 10, 2022•34 min•Season 1Ep. 45
But the thing is the more you do something, the better you get at it. And the more you do something, the easier it gets. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Questions to ask when dehoarding: https://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/podquestions Twitter: @ThatHoarder TikTok: @thathoarderoch https://www.tiktok.com/@thathoarderoch Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That...
Jun 03, 2022•21 min•Season 1Ep. 44
I think we often look at an item and get completely stuck and having a series of questions that we can just methodically go through can be a really helpful thing. I think when we get too in our own heads about it, we get caught up in maybe the nostalgia of an item, or maybe the potential uses of an item. We lose the ability to be objective. And having a series of questions can just help us get back into that zone of being a bit more objective and, dare I say it, a bit more reasonable about what ...
May 27, 2022•23 min•Season 1Ep. 43
"So if we're highly motivated, we can do hard things. If we've got zero motivation, the thing needs to be very easy to do." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding / http://www.overcomecompulsivehoarding.co.uk/ Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder / https://www.facebook.com/Overcome-Compulsive-Hoarding-with-That-Hoarder-104370761703319 YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoard...
May 20, 2022•57 min•Season 1Ep. 42
We see so much potential in things that others do not. We see so much potential in things that others do not. Most people see an empty crisp packet that should go in the bin, a hoarder will see something they can melt down and sew into a shopping bag. So you're not throwing away trash, you're throwing away a potential creative project that would be good for the environment, and look super cool and unique. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Comp...
May 13, 2022•34 min•Season 1Ep. 41
"The real world is messy, people are messy, they don't come with like nice little squares and nice labels. The world doesn't work that way. But the way we make sense of the world works that way." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help ...
May 06, 2022•46 min•Season 1Ep. 40
"You don't dare ever throw anything out or sort anything out or give anything away in case it turns out to be a mistake. That fear takes over everything in a way that is just not proportionate to the consequences." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with...
Apr 29, 2022•21 min•Season 1Ep. 39
"This is really important for everyone, and I bang on about it all the time with my kids. And my clients. If you don't write the task down in a list, those tasks lurk at the edge of the four or so slots of your working memory - I'm sounding very teacherish now - so this is valuable mental real estate. And it impacts your ability to do other focused work. So you always have these random to dos floating around as you're attempting to pay attention to your project that you're currently working on. ...
Apr 22, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 38
"You put your stuff in bags, you drop it off with a warm fuzzy feeling inside, because they are going to earn some money because of you. So your excess clothes are going to help fund cancer research or arthritis research, or a children's hospice. And you can feel great about that. And you can also feel reassured that those clothes are going to someone else who really wants them. And so it's not wasteful." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Comp...
Apr 15, 2022•33 min•Season 1Ep. 37
"This paradox of such high standards leading to such low standards is a real one. And it's something we each need to examine for ourselves and come to our own conclusions." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this proje...
Apr 08, 2022•21 min•Season 1Ep. 36
If you tackle a smaller task, your sense of achievement will power you on to the next task. And your enthusiasm for the project is likely to last longer. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show...
Apr 01, 2022•16 min•Season 1Ep. 35
"If you give it to your brother, and he puts it in the bin, then it's in the bin. If you give it to an animal shelter and they put it in the bin, then it's in the bin. If you give it to Oxfam, and they put it in the bin, then it's in the bin. So the key is to put it in the bin yourself and not force other people to be part of this dysfunctional chain. Because you're creating work and costing people money." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Com...
Mar 25, 2022•24 min•Season 1Ep. 34
Most hoarders need some degree of professional help if they're going to get through this problem. But the number of therapies available is overwhelming and bewildering. So today, we're going to talk about some of the types of therapy on offer for hoarding disorder. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with Tha...
Mar 18, 2022•1 hr 20 min•Season 1Ep. 33
If you can work out exactly what's tripping you up, exactly what is making you need to get distracted, that's immensely helpful. Because if you can address those worries in yourself, you may find that you're just more capable of staying on the task at hand when you don't have whatever fear or worry it is hanging around For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That...
Mar 11, 2022•28 min•Season 1Ep. 32
Your home does not exist to hold on to the ghosts of everybody you've ever met, or every dream you've ever had, or every purchase you ever made. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted o...
Mar 04, 2022•17 min•Season 1Ep. 31
"If we are to continuously dehoard and if, should we achieve a normal home, we want to maintain it, then we need to have habits rather than just one-off actions. And creating habits is something that I think about a lot. And I've tried lots of things, and some of them have worked, and a lot haven't." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: O...
Feb 25, 2022•19 min•Season 1Ep. 30
"I think that the differences in presentation and behaviour has to do with what is at the heart of perfectionism, which is fear of failure" For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project Support the show Hosted on Aca...
Feb 18, 2022•58 min•Season 1Ep. 29
"The benefit of these systems or processes is it removes one barrier. And that barrier is having to make decisions, and making decisions is tiring and it's difficult and it ties me up in knots." For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help o...
Feb 11, 2022•9 min•Season 1Ep. 28
"I thought, Gosh, this is easy. I wonder if this is how people who aren't hoarders just go about cleaning and tidying, they just see something that needs doing and do it" For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddit: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Help out: Support this project...
Feb 04, 2022•13 min•Season 1Ep. 27
You will find that you say “okay, I might be anxious at the prospect of running out of carrier bags. But now I'm putting every carrier bag I find in the same place, I realise I'm seriously not going to run out of carrier bags for at least six years.” For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder Facebook: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder YouTube: Overcome Compulsive Hoarding with That Hoarder Reddi...
Jan 28, 2022•15 min•Season 1Ep. 26
The important thing to remember about it, I tell my clients this, is it's not a defect. It's not something that is wrong with you. You are not lazy. You are not unable to change. It is a survival state that in your life experience was what you used in order to survive the environment, whatever it might be that has occurred in your life, and it's become the default. For the full show notes and transcript for this episode, visit the website at Overcome Compulsive Hoarding . Twitter: @ThatHoarder F...
Jan 21, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Season 1Ep. 25
