290. They Always Come Back — It’s Energetic Law (Take Your Energy Back in the 5D)

the life that you came here to live. I know it's mercury retrograde, which is a time famous for past lessons coming back around. So you most likely have either had people or circumstances from your past revisit you. Now, this isn't because some demonic force outside of you is testing you know. This is because your higher self is reopening to pass experiences to train you to stay in your power. I recently had an ex comeback and they

sent me a song. I said why, and they told me made me think of you, And obviously I had an answer because well, duh, I am me. I am a lover girl. I channeled the divine's unconditional love to the human beings on this planet. I know that the love that I give will forever leave a legacy within your heart. I know that even if you date someone else or get married, that you're not gonna forget the experience you had with me. If you are listening to this podcast, Mah friend in Christ, it is because you

have a similar heart posture to me. And this means you don't try to get revenge on people. You speak to God and say how do I heel through this? It means you don't seek to chase, to try to claw your way back into people's lives. You release them and know that what is yours, under your divine right will find you. And let me just tell you what I have seen in the collective time and time again,

is someone like me? Is someone like you showing up in relationship giving love, overfunctioning, showing up every day with our best mindsets. And then we're met with someone who, Yeah, they look at us, they want us, they like us, they might even love us, but they aren't capable of receiving our love or being in a frequency that matches ours, or they're not willing to rise in their masculine So what do they do? They choose to go back to their comfort zone, choose to go back to their maladaptive

coping mechanisms. They choose to go back to their shadows. And what happens is it's a very painful experience for us with the upright heart posture, when we're trying to fix, when we're trying to help, when we're trying to heal, and they're rejecting that love. And that is a karma

experience that we need to feel and go through. And if you have recently gone through a breakup and you feel like, damn, that was karmak, congratulations because now you have chosen yourself, You have removed yourself, or maybe the divine stepped in and removed that person from you, but

you are free and your karma is cleansed. What happens when that person does not rise to meet you is the second your karma ends and is cleansed, theirs begins because now they have to live the rest of their life knowing the type of love you could give, knowing the type of person you are, knowing your heart, and also knowing they can't have you, that you've moved on, that you've chosen yourself, and again they might date someone else. They might marry someone else, it doesn't matter. They will

still be thinking of you. And I know this to be true because I've literally seen it in my life experience. Another specimen of mine was texting me asking me about my whereabouts, and I just said, what makes you ask this? I'm just questioning everyone. He was just curious, And guess what, you being curious about me? You missing me is not enough for me. Just because you want to talk to me, you want to see me, you're curious about what I'm doing, does not mean you can afford my frequency. There are

people who are gonna want you. They're gonna want to taste you, They're gonna want a piece of you. It doesn't mean that they are also willing to give to you, that they are also willing to ground into their energy to rise up in their masculine where am I? Well, that's none of any of these specimens business. It's not truly just this mercury retrograde that's pulling these people back to me. It's my higher self showing me, look how far you have come, and can you stay in your power?

Can you stay in your magnetic energy? This isn't the first time exes have come back around for me, and it won't be the last. Why this isn't random, This is energetic, this is psychological, This is about identity. I have made a decision that, as Christa, I don't energetically chase. If you are confused in your own life, that's fine,

but you're not allowed to bleed on me. Today we're going to talk about energetic chasing, what this actually means, how to stop doing it, how to call your power back, and so much more. You are going to free yourself into your present moment rather than being obsessed with a chat you cannot give you what you want. What's up, positive bitches? How are you doing today? If you're hearing this episode, then you were meant to be here, So

keep listening on that Bitch is Positive podcast. Sometimes we will laugh, other times the Babe, we're gonna cry, but we will always walk away feeling our most empowered positive bitch self. That is babe and true connection with herself, himself or human self. I don't care if you identify as an et alien, doesn't really matter to me. If you want to step into your power, you have found the perfect guide. On this podcast, we unbecome who we are, not so we can fully step into exactly who we

came here to be. Now, maybe Brad won't text you back, But baby girl, baby boy, I have written you a whole entire book to help you remember who you are. I don't make money on this book. This book is truly for you to remember what you came here to do and how to step into that energy. I have reverse engineered a technique to quantum shift your whole entire reality confirmation. If you could hear that notification. If you have not yet gone in show up as hert be

sure to get that. What pair's great with this podcast is the art of alchemy. This is going to help you really release all of the grief and the pain around this relationship, so you can use that pain and create it transmute it into your power. You are gifted lower vibrational experiences to take the energy from those experiences and mold it into your power. So use the hurt that Brad gave you and transmute it, alchemize it into your light. You can also get the twenty one day

Breakup Globe Challenge. This is specifically if you're going through a breakup that is going to be your best friend It is going to help you release what you need to release, remember who you are, reclaim your power, and have a new lease on life. Obviously, the Calling your Power Back Workbook is going to be great. I would even recommend getting that right now, pausing this podcast printing

it out. There are specific pages in this workbook that will help you understand where you're energetically chasing, so you can then stop that behavior, correct it, and get back into your power. We cannot heal what we are in denial of without further ado. Let's get into today's episode. In my Calling your Power Back workbook, there's a whole

entire checklist of different behaviors that are chasing. If you don't know if you're energetically chasing, this workbook is going to help you identify the behaviors you might be blind to in yourself. But I'm still going to give you a few so we can get that palette wet. Thank you. Most people don't even realize they're energetically chasing, so of

course they can't heal it. Chasing isn't always physical. It doesn't mean you're calling them a million times or blue bombing them, as my mother says, which is texting a bunch of times. This looks like replaying old conversations, trying to understand why they're acting in the way that they're acting, stalking their socials, over analyzing their words, telling your friends about them one million times, but still choosing to stay with them. Want enclosure, trying to explain yourself so they

finally get you thinking about them, talking about them. When you do this, you are leaking your energy Where focus goes, energy flows. The more you focus on what is Brad doing, what's going on with them, the more you're sending them energy. If you think they can't feel your energy, you got another one coming for you. Okay, we live on a planet where we have something called gravity. Can you see gravity? I know I can't, but lo and behold. It's a

law of this universe. What you think about you send energy to, and that particle in this quantum field can feel it and will know that you're looking at it. This is the observer effect. Literally, in quantum physics, they have found that when a scientist looked at an electron, it would condense into three D form. But when the scientists took their eyes off of the electron, that three D form of the electron went into a wavelength. This

means that what we're observed, no, it's being observed. The electron would manipulate its own behavior based on whether or not a scientist was looking at it. You might not think that thinking about someone, or saying their name, or talking about them constantly is sending them energy, But I hate to tell you it doesn't matter what you think, because it's energetic law. And you can either live within side of the law or you can live outside of the law. But either way, the laws are gonna be

the laws. Okay, baby, this is what you need to understand. If you're wondering why are they always ghosting? Why do they always leave? Why are they never into me? If this is a pattern in your life, most likely you are energetically chasing them. Why would they come towards you if they already have you? Why would they turn towards you if they already have your energy? If you're giving them your time, your body, your frequency, your presence, your energy,

your attention, what more could they need from you? Call your power back? Get the Calling your Power Back work book. When your energy leaves your body instead of you having this big or energy when you step into the room, your energy condenses, and the smaller your aura is, the less magnetic you are, because then you have become more density, more three D matter, and less energy. But the bigger your aura is, the more energy you are, and the less matter you are, that makes you more magnetic. Your

power cannot be taken from you. You can only willingly give it away. This podcast is your reminder that no one can take your attention, no one can take your focus, no one can take your energy unless you allow them to have it. Because you are the one choosing where to put your eyes, where to put your ears, and where to put your body. From a psychological standpoint, this ties directly into anxious attachment. You have learned from a very young age than in order to have safety in relationships,

you have to be hyper vigilant of other. And if you're hyper vigilant of other, you can then know how to react. You can then try to have this illusion of control over them so that they stay in your life. You may subconsciously believe the more you look at them, the less likely they will be to abandon you. The more you look at them, the more safety you have. But this couldn't be further from the truth, because the more you look to them and abandon yourself, the more

likely they will abandon you. The more energy you give to them when they are not reciprocating this energy to you, the more you're repelling them. Anything we chase, whether it's a bug or a boy, will run away. When you're triggered, You're amygdala hijacks your whole entire system, and this is your brain's alarm center. It's responsible for fear, urgency, control, emotional reaction. So when something feels off, your brain will try to fix the situation, chase them, figure it out.

You just don't want to lose. It's literally your inner child saying, oh no, this feels just like when mom would go to work and we would feel abandoned, or when dad would get the bottle and we would feel abandoned. I can't allow this person to abandon me. So what am I gonna do? I'm gonna obsess over them. Your brain thinks if you're obsessing over them, that it's somehow fixing the problem, but it's not doing anything except sending all of your energy towards them. You have to get

back in your frame. What does this look like? Calling your power back. We're gonna get more into that. Don't worry. If your brain has learned to stay on guard, to react fast, to protect yourself, your default might be overthinking, needing control, reacting emotionally, reading into everything. This is amigsalah driven behavior. You're not doing this because something is necessarily wrong with you. You're not doing this because this is

necessarily your future spouse. You're doing this because you don't respond well to what you perceive as stress. Magnetism does not come from the amygdalahs. Let's start there. It comes from your prefrontal cortex. That's when you can pause, you can regulate, you can choose. It's where you can have neutrality, have self respect, choose non attachment. When you're triggered, you're amygdala hijacks the system. It wants control, it's going to

obsess over them. But magnetism comes from using your prefrontal cortex to pause, to detach, to let people reveal themselves. Let them is not a passive idea or concept. It's you learning how to regulate your power. Anytime someone is doing what I would prefer them not to do, instead of allowing my amygdala to make me feel crazy, chasing them, I say, nope, I'm going to take a deep breath in.

When you take a deep breath in, that allows your vagus nerve to instead of sending SOS signals, it will send peace sig knows through your body instead of you stressing yourself out. You're bringing your attention back to your body, not on brad, back to your body, back to your breath. And you're gonna say, we'll see, We'll see what they do, We'll see what happens. We'll see if they want to act like a clown, I'm gonna let them. If they want to show me who they are, I'm gonna let them.

Why are we so afraid to just see people for who they are? Are you that afraid to see beyond the illusion that you created in your own head about them? Are you that afraid to realize that they're not who you drew up in your head? The most interesting thing about other people is the way that we decide to frame them. If you're obsessed with them, it's because you have framed them as your future husband, and now that they're not acting like your future husband would, and because

you're so obsessed and attached to that original story. You gave them that original roll, you start to freak out and your amigdala is triggered, and now you have so signals throughout your whole entire body, and you're energetically chasing them because you think it's gonna make you safe. The only cure to this is to say, wait a damn minute, No one can take my power away. I can only willingly give it away. How can I take it back? First through my focus. So I'm gonna take my focus

and not put it on Brad. I'm gonna put it back on my breath and I'm gonna take a deep breath in and I'm gonna exhale. And when I take that deep breath in, it's going to alert my vegua nerve to send out peace signals instead of stress signals. And I'm gonna come back into my body and I'm gonna say, I'm gonna let them. I'm gonna allow them to show me who they are. I'm going to take off the rose colored glasses and I'm just gonna see

who they are. Maybe you even say, God, give me eyes to see, ears to hear, in a heartful of discernment, so I may know them clearly there was someone recently that honestly, I really liked, and you just can't help when you feel that deep connection to someone, when you feel a really strong magnetic pull to someone, there's a reason.

There is something in them that is either here to activate you, be a catalyst for you, teach you there's something within them that is meant to come into your reality. Before we come to planet Earth, we are almost in soul school and we will sit in a cluster of souls and we will decide who's going to come into our life about when. But timing can be altered because we do have free will, and we will have specific triggers where we will remember, oh wait, I know this soul.

It might be their voice is going to be a trigger for you that wakes something up within your own soul that you remember who they are. It might be their laugh or the way that their face looks. It might be the speed in which they speak. There will be something about that soul that will trigger you into remembering who they are. So when you meet someone and you feel like you remember them, you feel like deja vu. You feel like they look recognizable to you, familiar to you.

This is your soul picking up on their soul trigger so that you know this is meant to be someone in my life. This has happened to me so many times. I remember I was in a bar once and this man walked in. I didn't even see his face yet, and I just knew that is someone who's meant to be a part of my journey. And he was, and

he played a great part in it. I was recently out and about at a concert and there was this guy who is just circling me, circling me for the whole concert, and finally he came up to me and I kept looking at him, although he thought we never had eye contact, because you guys know, I really don't get people eye contact. It's just not what I do. I rather look at the ground. And I said, it's just so weird that you came up to me because I was looking at you and trying to figure out

how I knew you. And the truth is, I don't know him. I've never met him, but I recognize him. And when I was with him, it was just so it was so easy to be in his presence, and even holding his hand felt so natural. Whenever we would kiss, it just felt so natural, and I just knew this was a soul that was familiar to me, and I'm probably going to cry. I might not, but I might because I can feel so deeply that I've known this

soul for so long. And any time I recognize a soul that I haven't experienced in a while, maybe lifetimes, and I finally feel them again, it's like coming home to memories I didn't even know I had. And so we went out on dates. He would pick me up, He brought me flowers for our first date. We went to a beautiful rooftop, had dinner, we did the farmer's market, just great energy, and I really liked him. But then

I started to feel a subtle energetic shift. And I'm very sensitive to energetic shifts, and I'm not going to pretend like something isn't happening when I know damn well that it is. I trust my intuition. So I said, hey, I'm feeling this, what's going on? And he thanked me for saying something, and basically said, he doesn't feel like himself right now, and he doesn't want me to see him in this state because he has a lot going on.

And he said something along the lines of I wish we met at another time so you could see this is not my norm. I'm just really busy with things, and he's feeling stressed out. There was a traumatic thing that happened to him as well. But I know that we met at the time we're supposed to meet, and if we were meant to meet at another time, we

would have, but we didn't. And even though I'm attracted to just his energy and I loved being around him and I felt so familiar and I felt so happy, I have to look at what's there instead of looking at what I want to be there. So what I heard is a man that's dysregulated, disconnected from himself, and just doesn't have the capacity to hold me in his

reality right now. And now, an older version of me would have begged him to just let me help him, Let me help regulate you, let me be there for you, Let me hold this pain with you. We can work through this. And while I I was willing to have a conversation which he couldn't even do, I am not willing to overfunction, self abandon and try to prove that I'm worthy of being a ride or die. It's just not what I do anymore. I can see this person doesn't have the capacity for me, and that's it. End

of story. There's no further conclusion I need to draw. There's nothing else I need to know. I don't need to try to piece together his mental puzzle. I just need to look at what's being shown to me and I just need to let this person reveal who he is and who he is is someone who doesn't have a capacity for me. Period. Now did it feel like my skin was ripping off me? And did I cry? Yeah? Is that dramatic? I don't care. That's what I felt.

Instead of fixing, saving, overgiving, I'm not going back to who I used to be. And during this Mercury retrograde, it's not just past people who come back around, it's past versions of self. Do I want to devolve into fixing and saving and overfunctioning and overgiving or do I want to rest in my power? And I'm gonna choose me? Why? Because when we don't, all it does is make us ugly.

Because we're in our sympathetic nervous system cortiso's pumping, we gain weight, lose weight, feel like we can't think straight, hair falls out, acne bloating. I'm not doing that. I am not sacrificing myself. This is how we stay in our power in real time. My mother sent me this video the other day and I want to share the information with you. Imagine being bitten by a snak, and instead of treating the wound, you chase the snake, asking

why did you do this? I don't deserve this. Explain yourself. Meanwhile, then in your body is spreading. Instead of you taking care of yourself, you keep asking the snake why did you do this? Trying to understand the snake, And that's what most people do. Most people get hurt and instead of tending to ourselves, we chase the person who hurt us. Maybe you think if I understand, I'll feel better, But the truth is understanding why someone did what they did

does not remove the wound. Clarity around why they did what they did doesn't stop the damage or the venom from spreading. When the person asks the snake why they got bit, the snake eventually said, it's because I'm a snake and it's in my nature. Some people hurt you because it's simply their nature, it's simply their capacity. Does understanding why sometimes give us peace. Maybe, but while understanding

why stop them from continuously hurting you? No. No, the moment you try to fix them, you energetically agree to meet them where they're at and where are they in a lower vibration, unavailable, disregulated, not ready. If I was to say, let me help you, let me fix this for you, let me do all these things in overfunction, I would have anchored myself into his vibration instead of

potentially energetically inspiring him to rise into mind. If he ever comes back into my orbit and he's at a different energy, maybe we can see, but right now, absolutely not. I know that my power is to stay in my body, to stay in my energy, to stay focused on my business, my brand, when I'm doing my health, stay focused here. And if that inspires him to rise through his masculine energy to a higher frequency, then he can come back around. He can try to find me in this higher frequency.

But I am not going to bring myself down to his. The most loving thing you can do for a man is not rescue him. He is on a soul mission, just like you are, and he needs to figure out how to rise, how to become solution oriented, how to leave his shadows and walk into the light. If you naturally inspire a man to do this work on his own, great, But you can't be his mommy. You can't be his therapist.

On a sole level. This man has called you into his reality because your absence is what he needs to rise. If your words aren't getting through to him, your actions aren't getting through to him, your absence will, your ability to choose yourself will activate his masculine energy. When you're not overgiving, he can rise. When you're not trying to save him, he can rise. When you're not trying to

fix him, he can rise. But if you're doing all of those things, you're enabling him to stay in that lower frequency, and you are trapping yourself, anchoring yourself into a lower frequency which he is controlling, rather than choosing your own power. This specimen's inability to meet me was all I needed to say. Okay, okay, you showed me who you are. Okay, thank you, thank you for allowing me to see who you are. Thank you. Next. So, no, I'm not going to beg I'm not going to chase,

I'm not going to convince. I'm just gonna say, okay, you have to let people show you who they are even when you don't like what you see, And really, I have to do this for my own system. What's more stressful trying to control them or controlling how you respond to them. You can control where your focus is. You can't control theirs. You can control how you use

your energy. You can't control how they use theirs. You can control if you bring your shadows to the light, but you cannot control if they do that for theirs. You control what you tolerate, what you entertain, and what you return to. Remember, whatever you allow, you amplify. I'm not going to allow someone who can kind of be there for me but not really because I don't want

to amplify that. In my field, the most important person for me to take care of is me, and how I treat myself will be reflected back to me through the relationships that I experience. I have been doing something I'm calling the Queen vortex, where when I go on my walks, I imagine this tornado around me, and sometimes it's of golden energy, sometimes it's a rainbow, sometimes it's silver. Whatever I feel like that day, and I will imagine this swarming, swarming energy. You can even make it fire.

But right now, I've been working with wind, and as I'm walking, I'm in the eye of the tornado. I'm in the eye of the storm. And I imagine that this energy moves faster and faster and faster, and everything that is not aligned, everything that's inconsistent, everything that's lacking the capacity to hold me, gets ripped out. So I imagined while I was walking that this golden light of tornado nests, because that's the thing was swarming around me, and it just cut that man in half, cut him

out of my reality. Goodbye, goodbye, goodbye, goodbye, done done. I don't need to ask why, I don't need to understand. I just need to know exactly what you're saying, which is you don't have the capacity. And then I allowed this vortex, my queen vortex, to snap this man in half.

He got ripped out. That's it. The interesting thing is when you keep thinking of a man sending him energy, doing all that jazz, they can feel that they're still connected to you in the five D. I'm not allowing this man access to me in the three D, and I'm not allowing him access to me in the five D either. I sent him poss energy. I hope he can figure his life out for his own sake, but he does not get access to my mind. I'm not going to keep thinking about him. I'm not gonna obsess

over him. I'm not gonna be wondering what he's doing. Anytime I feel like I want to go in spiral, I imagine my queen vortex and he just gets shopped in half again because I don't have time or patience for that. I just need to be in my own body. Many of us think that we want closure from that person, but really the closure is the inability to show up for us. The closure is the inability to regulate themselves. The closure is them not doing what we know we

actually want. So why do they always come back? They always come back when you stop energetically chasing, when you stay in your power, When do people come back? They come back when you stop energetically chasing, because you remove the repellent spray, which is your energy, You remove the pressure, you remove of the control, you return to yourself, and that creates space for them to miss your energy and

then want to come back around. The real truth is you are no longer the same woman they left You are not the same woman that maybe left them. You are the woman who chooses herself, who chooses to stay in her own power. And yes, is there a side effect of them coming back around, that's true, But does that mean they're right for you? No, there's plenty of people that have come back around, my excess, other guy who wanted to know about my whereabouts as if it's

his freaking business. Neither of these people are right for me, and I know that. That's why I'm just not answering. But I use the evidence of them coming back to remind myself, good job, Christa, you're staying in your power. They always come back. We know that because we stay in our power. But the real question is will they have access to you when they finally circle back around. The true power is not in them returning, it's in you no longer needing them to. That is the fine

old power move of being in your own body. And you'll notice the time they come back around, you really won't even care because you will have leveled up and you'll see they are still exactly where they once were. Now, do not forget to get the Calling your Power Back work book. This is going to change your life. It's only eleven dollars. Eleven dollars to change your life. That is so worth it. I'm sending you all the love in the world. If this episode resonated with you, I

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