263. The Law of Delayed Gratification: How to Get Everything You Want

to become average beings. And if you're listening to this, this is a sign in it self that you incarnated to have more, to embody more and to receive more. Did you know here's another facts because I'm just feeling like sharing facts with the world right now that the root produces the fruit, and did you know that the root is Yeah, your energetic signature mm hmmm, your dominant thoughts and your dominant feelings and your dominant actions. This

is what's creating your energetic signature. This is what's pulling and turning on and activating specific timelines that you then walk through and experience. Your biggest enemy in this reality is settling. Oh yeah, settling, Yeah, because your life is whatever you accept. Your life is whatever you settle for. Your life is whatever you say. Okay, yeah, I'll take this, and then your universe will say I got you and

give you more of what your receptive to. The secret to getting everything you want and more is something we're going to dive into today. I'm gonna tell you how to manifest better results, how to unlock higher vibrational timelines, relationships, friendships, a better body, a better career, more money. You want all that and more. Okay, Well that's what I came here to discuss with you today. What's up, positive bitches?

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of this myself. Is we experience a relationship and then a couple of months, couple of weeks later, we find someone else who is better than the last person, and we think, great, the last person was narcissistic. At least this person is kind and we just take what we can get because we're assuming they're better, But that doesn't mean they're the best. We go from one job into another one and we say, Okay, this is better, and we settle for it because we assume that must be

the best. The problem is in your assumption. Just because something is better than what you've experienced does not mean it is the best you can have, the best you can get, the best you can receive. You might attract a better person, but if you don't feel that sole recognition, if they don't treat you the way you want to be treated, they're just a little nicer. That's not your final destination. That to stop along the way, that's a portal to the next evolution of yourself. That is not

where you are meant to stay. Too Often we go through a negative experience or what we perceive as a negative experience, and then the next best thing we just assume. I guess this is as good as it can get for me. Wrong? Wrong, wrong? What are you doing? What is anyone doing? If settling is your enemy, who is your best friend? What is your best friend? What is your golden ticket, golden key? Delayed gratification? Oh yeah, we all know her. Most of us don't like her, but

she needs to be your best friend. Delayed gratification has gotten me everything. It is the realist flex. You can have delayed gratification. Anybody can grab the quick dopamine, hit, the situation shit, the fast cash, the validation. But people who truly create a life worth living, they're the ones who are willing to delay gratification, to not settle, to work harder, to keep going in order to receive what they actually want. They say to themselves, you know what,

this is good. I'm getting closer, but I know this is not where I'm meant to stay. I'm building towards something bigger. This is not about ignoring the present moment. It's about being so married to your vision that you're not trapped by your present moment. You don't have to have the results you want in the three D two day. You don't necessarily need that ring today, that title today, the check today, or the likes, the validation today. You need to stay married, stay focused, stay tuned in to

your vision. You're living for something beyond your current moment, and because you're willing to have delayed gratification, you unlock grander realities, magnificent timelines. That's where the magic happens. When you're able to see what's in front of you and say this is okay, or maybe this is terrible, but either way, I'm going to get what it is I want. I am determined to get what it is I want. I trust my vision more than my three D circumstance.

That's when you will get everything you want, because your three D reality is a mere simulation based on your current dominant vibration, your current dominant thoughts and feelings and actions. If you want the fruit to change, you gotta change the route. You have to shift what you're doing. Law of correspondence as above so below. What's the first thing we need to do then is have vision over validation. You have to start applauding yourself from the inside out.

Maybe this means that you say something positive to yourself. You celebrate yourself three times a day, breakfast, lunch, dinner. Maybe you are so tuned into what you're currently grateful for that it's able to pump you up to keep

going and to build further momentum. Because the truth is, even if they are to applaud you out there, none of that is going to feel as good compared to you applauding yourself on a daily basis, because the only person who has known where you have been, the only person that knows what you go through on a daily basis, the only person who knows how hard it's been for you to get back up, to try again, to replug in is you. So the person who's going to make

you feel the most powerful is you. Not your best sie, not even your parents, not someone that you're in a relationship with, It is you. The voice you hear the most is your own. So it's super important that while you're moving towards your vision, you prioritize that vision over validation. And it's super important that you are celebrating yourself, that you're valuing the work that you have done. If you think about it, imagine you were walking along a cliff.

Taking the smallest shift in position. Shifting your angle just a little bit can cause you to walk right off that cliff. You need to value the small shifts because you don't realize how much that's shifting your further down position, your destination, your results. You need to value the baby steps, because baby steps build big ones. Your energetic coating might

be that of the dark Horse. You might have signed up to have Dark Knight of the Soul after Dark Knight of the Soul after Dark Knight of the Soul, season after season after season after season of work, so that when you hit that threshold you then have season after season after season of success. You don't want a quick fix fifteen minutes of fame, because as soon as

you get it, it also dies out. You do want to have season after season of building momentum, of creating the vision, of finalizing the details, so that when you pass that threshold, you have season after season after season of winning. This is the path of the Turtle, of the ant of the dark Horse, and it is when you deal with karma up front so that you then can exist in your dharma for the rest of your life. When you prioritize your vision over what's convenient, that is

you stepping into alignment. That is you choosing your highest timeline. That is you saying, I'm not going to settle for mediocrity. No no, no, no, no no. I'm going to get everything I want and more. What does this require? Brings me to point number two? Faith over fear. Doubting yourself is literally doubting God. That's weird. That's some weird, shady

shit right there. Doubting your desire is doubting God. You think that the God that created the sun and the moon, and the stars in the ocean and your whole entire reality can't align you with your dream, with your vision. The God that put that vision in your mind, I the God that put that desire in your heart? You think did that for shits and gigs? Okay, well that makes no damn sense. So why don't you check yourself by check vibe check? Hi? How are you doing? That

doesn't make any sense. If the vision was placed in your mind, the desire was placed in your heart, it was meant for you. What you are seeking is also seeking you. Why Because like vibrational particles are always attracted towards one another, like attracts like. As you become the energetic equivalent to your desire, you tune yourself to it on a daily basis. Not only are you moving towards it, but it is moving towards you. Now, let's say your dream is to be that actress. How do you tune

into it on a daily basis? How do you tune into faith over fear? You take baby steps, You go on auditions, you go to acting classes, you read scripts, you look at other people's auditioning tapes. You take baby actions. You don't have to know the how. You don't need to know how it's all going to align. You don't need to know every name, every number, every path. All you need to do is on a daily basis, fine

tune your frequency through intention. I'm so grateful that I already have the dream role that I want through envisioning yourself in that dream role and taking aligned action. Not only is this going to build your confidence, not only is it gonna anchor you in the present moment so you're not depressed about your past or anxious about your future, but it's going to magnetize the timeline that you want towards you. You being in doubt is delaying you. You

being in doubt also just doesn't make any sense. Of course, you don't understand the divine. Who does. Our capacity to understand divinity is so limited because we are simply a human. You don't need to worry about everything. If it's not on your radar, it does not matter. It's on God's radar every single day. What really helps me is just

checking in with God. God, thank you for everything that I have, thank you for fulfilling your promises to me, and thank you for guiding me every step of my way. I've been thinking a lot about glow ups recently. That's what we did the podcast episode on last week. And of course there will be some days where you wake up and your skin is just glowing, and maybe you

feel less bloated, and there are overnight changes. But most of my glow up was due to delayed gratification to dark Knight of the Souls, to spiritually awakening through Hermit seasons season after season after season. True beauty comes from this delayed gratification. When I'm working out at the gym and I've lost upwards of forty pounds. I have built muscle when I'm working out. I don't expect to walk out and be ten pounds thinner or have like a new muscle bulge in my bicet.

not how most success works. It's energetic law that if you keep taking a lined action, if you keep envisioning the body you want, if you keep plugging in to eating the nutrient dense foods, staying on prayer, asking God to clean your vessel for you, it's it's energetic law that all of that focus must garner you the result that you want. The body you're sculpting, the skin that

you're nourishing, the aura that you're cultivating. This does not necessarily happen overnight, but every workout, every clean meal, every glass of water is a love letter. It's a moment to be devotional to yourself and that glow up will find you. It will catch up to you. You will build it up. Think about getting a tan. You don't go out time for five minutes and you're automatically tan. No,

it takes time to build up. Delayed gratification will get you places that needing instant results will never take you. Needing instant results just tells me that your nervous system is not regulated, that you're so stressed out, that you're so consumed by your three D reality, that you don't have trust in yourself, You don't have trust in the divine, and you just don't understand how this energetic universe operates. Delayed gratification is going to harness you results that needing

something in this moment will never get you. The other day, I saw that Sarah Blakeley, the creator and owner of Spanx, which is a billion dollar company, was a bridesmaid thirteen times before she ever walked down the aisle for herself. She could have let loneliness or comparison steer her choices.

She could have allowed the three D circumstance of all of her friends aligning with this moment in life distract her and cause her to feel uneasy where she would just settle with someone because all of her friends were But no, no, you know what she said to herself. She said, no, I have this dream. I have this desire of this billion dollar company in empire. And not only did she have this desire, this dream, but she

put a lined action towards it. She would even go to department stores and stand in front of spanks and hand them out to people. She would follow people in the bathroom, she would go around the store. She made sure that once her desire was birthed into a business, she didn't just let it go and die. No, she went to the department store. She followed that dream through

until it became what we know it as today. She trusted her path, and she chose to believe in the bigger picture, not the present frustration, and what ended up happening is about thirty seven years old, she got married. You have to realize your path is not meant to look like everyone else's, especially if you're listening to this podcast. If you desire a grandiose reality, a reality beyond realities. Your life is not going to look like the people

around you, because most people are settling for mediocrity. They are settling for what it is they know, they are settling for what's in front of them. But you didn't come here to do that. You have to remember that what you're experiencing is smoking mirrors. It's a screen, and you don't have to fall for the current actors the current scene if you don't like the current actors and the current scene. Life really is like a movie screen. People come and go. Actors will play their roles, some

for a scene, some for an entire movie. But you can't confuse temporary scenes, temporary characters, with your forever costar, with your forever final destination. Don't rewrite your script, don't rewrite your desires. Don't rewrite what you actually want for yourself. Because someone in your reality seems to be better better than the last, because it doesn't mean that they're the best. Don't rewrite your script for someone who isn't even meant

to stay your script. Your vision, that is your baby, that is what you have to stay tuned into. And anytime someone disappoints me in my three D reality. I'm not going to allow them to dictate my emotional state for more than maybe twenty minutes. Let myself feel, I'll let myself cry, I'll let myself shake out my body, and then I say, you know what, if it's not them, it's just going to be someone better. If they're not the actor that's meant to be my forever co star,

someone else will be. At the end of the day, I don't care who comes into my reality and who leaves it. If they're not meant to stay, I'm not going to fight that. I'm going to let them leave because I am married to my vision. Whether it's them or someone else, I'm getting divine union, whether it's them or someone else. I'm going to create an empire. Whether it's them or someone else, I'm going to get what

it is that I want. So I'm not attached to specific people, because we know getting attached to specific people and wanting them to be other than they are creates misery. The full sentiment that the Buddha actually said. He did not say desire is the root of all misery. He did not say attachment is the root of all misery. He actually said, wishing things were different than they are. That is what creates all suffering, wishing things were different than what they are. So I'm not gonna wish someone

could show up differently. I'm not gonna wish that someone was a completely different energy. I'm just gonna say, Okay, if it's not you, it's gonna be someone who fulfills my role exactly how I desire them to be. Because the world that I'm living through is my own simulation, and I'm gonna get what I want. I'm married to my movie, not a specific person that might just be a character for a temporary scene. Trust your script, don't rewrite it. The partner, the dream, the business, the vision,

whatever is coming through your reality. It might be them, but it might be someone better. So if it's not them, release them with love. Allow them to be the portal into the next evolution of yourself. If it's not aligned, it's not aligned. But remember delayed gratification. If they're coming in and they want to leave, they're not going to be able to make you as happy as a person who's meant to stay. Hands down, you don't need your final scene right now. You need to have faith over fear.

You don't need to change your script because you kind of like someone who's better than what you've experienced. You need to trust your script. There are some foods that you have never tried. Does that mean they don't exist? No, no it doesn't. There are some countries you've never been to. Does that mean they don't exist? No? No, no it doesn't. There are places you have not gone, people you have not met. Does that mean they don't exist? No, no

it doesn't. So instead of falling prey to your three D circumstance and allowing it to sway you believing that I guess this is better, so it's all I can get. Instead of doing that, trust your script. Listen. I require a very devotional, devotional type of love, and I simply cannot settle for anything less. I need devotion, and if they don't have that, they have to be disqualified. I need devotion. If they want to leave with disrespect, they have to be disqualified. I will not settle, And I

hope that me giving myself permission to not settle. I hope it gives you permission too. I hope you can see me. I hope you can see Sarah Blakely. I hope you can see Taylor Swift. I mean, I'm not a huge Swifty, but I do like her and I do listen to a lot of her music. And when I saw her get engaged, I felt something. I cried. I really did, because it felt like, you know, I

can cry right now because I just love love so much. Yeah, I've seen Taylor Swift because I've grown up with her go through relationship after their relationship, which we all do, and that's what you're meant to do. I never understood why everyone judged her. I'm like, Okay, she's figuring out what she wants. Are you dnse like, how else are you supposed to figure out what you want unless you date people and find out what it is you like

and you don't like It's so silly. But anyway, following her and I've been to one of Taylor Swift's concerts, my favorite one of her albums was Reputation, and following her throughout the years and to see her find someone who just loves her so much, and to see not only someone who is masculine in the sense that they have their own career, they have their finances in check.

They I can tell he makes her feel safe and seen and validated, but he also embodies a balance, grounded masculine energy because he's not afraid to like me his little friendship bracelet. He's not afraid to really shine the light on her and say, look at my queen, my goddess, and that is just so beautiful. And seeing her have that, seeing Sarah Blakely, you need to realize that you cannot just settle because you have some weird timetable in your

own head. I'm twenty seven and a lot of my friends at this point, my cousins, a lot of the people around me, they're all getting engaged. Not all, but you know, a good amount of them. My friends in Florida not so much, but a lot of the people I've known growing up, they're engaged or getting married. And I could let that sway me. I could let that get in my head. I could say, well, I thought i'd be married by now, which I guess I did in some sense of the way. But really, my biggest

dream growing up was to be Hannah Montana. It was never, oh my god, one day I'm gonna be married. I just always assumed that would be my life, but it wasn't my main focus. This is my main focus, and that's why I'm giving my attention to it. But I see how we can get in our own heads. And maybe I haven't prioritized this vision of marriage since I was a child. But I do love love, and I do desire deep devotional relationship. I do love having a partnership.

I am more of a relationship person than not a relationship person because I don't engage in hookup culture and it's just how I am. But I'm not going to pressure myself. I'm not going to allow my three D circumstance to dictate what I do next. I'm staying married to my vision. I'm staying devoted to my higher timeline, and I hope you do the same. I'm telling you right now, like hand in hand, girl, guy, whatever whatever you may be today, I don't care. I don't care

about you, embody, whatever you are, wherever you are. Don't give up. Please, please please, I have goose pumps right now. Please don't give up. I'm telling you. Every time I've gotten into a relationship, I have said to myself, thank God, thank god I didn't settle for the last one. Thank God I didn't settle for what I thought I could have. Thank God I worked on my abandonment mond. Thank God I worked on my worthiness wound. Thank God I stayed

devoted and married to my vision. Thank God, I'm telling you it gets so much better. And here I am standing. I don't know everything. I don't know at all. I don't I'm figuring this out just alongside you. But what I do know is that I am so thankful that we have each other to go through this together, and we could be one another's mirror. I am so thankful that I can stand up here and show you you don't have to be scared. I might not have everything I desire my reality just yet. As I'm changing as

a human, I'm changing what I desire. But do you know what I have peace in my heart that I've not given up on myself. I don't have any regrets. I don't lay awake at night thinking, oh my God, I feel so stuck because I've been that girl before. I've been in relationships that I wanted to get out of. I've been in situation circumstances that I wanted to get out of. Let this podcast be your energetic permission slip to release what's not yours. So you can find your best.

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isn't it, I know that it's coming. That's the power of faith in action, that's the power of delayed gratification. Stay true to your vision. Don't settle for the actors in front of you. Hold out for the role that was written for you. Hold out for your truest co star. If it's them, great and if it's not, it will be someone better. Always the sparkling Me honors of sparkling you. I love you so much. Thank you for being here with me today, and I will see you in the next one.