Canst I'm so high ecstasyage cansage it. Sorryogy. When you're a grown woman with a skincare routine, a day job, and a regulated nervous system, you don't want to just hang out. You want to be corded. I was recently talking to one of my very best friends and she said, Cecie, this guy invited me over to night to hang out, and something just doesn't feel right about it. Yeah, no, shit. When you're a grown woman, you don't want to just
hang out at their house all the time. You want to see that they're willing to put in in tension, thought effort into courting you. If you're a woman listening to this, you cannot feel bad for having a high standard. That is what is going to protect you. If you're a man listening to this, you need to put in effort to actively This is not a passive job. To actively court the woman that you want. Women take longer to warm up. If a man is a microwave, a
woman is an oven. We need to start clocking that although we have many similarities men and women, we have many differences. The divine masculine is naturally the one who is the giver, the one who is meant to create the safe space. The divine feminine, over time will learn to trust that safe space, and that's how you create a relationship. So, baby girl, if just receiving a good morning text is still sending you into a tailspin, that's
what's making you so excited. You need to raise your standard. What you want to betray yourself? You want to accept less and then start to have an autoimmune disease because you know that you're just fighting your own truest desires. No, that's not what we came here to do. Men and women, And I just saw two two too on my clock. Divine, the union is on its way for you. Men and women. We are social beings. We do want love, we do want relationship that is beautiful, But how do we actively
get there? How do we create a space for one another to get there. When the divine masculine creates a safe space for the divine feminine to show up, he plans a date, He courts her. He's actively asking her questions, what do you like? How can I make you feel comfortable? The divine feminine will become so full of energy that you will not overflow into him. And that's where she really shines, she will naturally nurture him. But it takes
two to tango. This episode is about raising and trusting your standard, not just in dating, but how you're showing up for yourself. We're gonna talk about the divine masculine, the divine feminine. We're gonna talk about how to actually get courted because a lot of you aren't getting courted. You're just hanging out with men and then giving them your all. And again, if you're a man listening to this, Hi, Hello,
how are you doing? This is also gonna help you understand women so you can get the woman that you want. I'm rooting for everyone. I don't care if you identify as a cucumber. I want you to have love, I want you to have grace. I want you to enjoy your human experience. I'm gonna help you do that. What's up, positive bitches? How are you doing today? If you're hearing this episode, then you are meant to be here, So keep listening on that Bitch is Positive podcasts. Sometimes we
will laugh. Other times, baby, we're gonna cry, but we will always walk away feeling our most empowered, positive bitch self. That is Babe, in true connection with herself, himself human self again. I don't care if you're a cucumber. On this podcast, we truly unbecome who we are not so we can fully step into exactly who we came here to be. You might have noticed my hair is in and up to you today because we are embodying our natural royal divinity. You are chosen to be here during
this time. It's about time that you start choosing to raise your standard so you can actually feel good in your reality. The first thing we need to talk about is normalizing the bare minimum. Them liking your story, them replying to them, saying good morning. Those things make us feel good. They are points of connection. They're also the bare minimum, the bare minimum. I recently told someone, oh my god, when you did not text me in the morning,
I really didn't like how that felt. If you want to pursue me, if you want to court me, that's part of it. I am not afraid to speak up for what I need because I know that number one, I have to be my own biggest advocate. I know number two communication is key. They're not going to be able to read my mind. It's fine and dandy for me to express myself. I'm not someone in a straight jacket. If I want something, I'm going to speak on it
because the squeaky wheel gets to grease. And number three, if this person is incapable of giving me what I want I need, well someone else will do. So that's it. That's it. I'm showing up as my best self. I'm gonna make sure they feel cared for. I know what I bring into a relationship. I'm not going to starve myself of my own needs. I think a lot of people think if they speak up for what they need,
that makes them needy. Actually speaking up for what you need places yourself on the pedestal, because that shows the electromagnetic field we reside in, and it shows your higher self, and it shows your guides, and it shows God, and it shows your inner child, and it shows that other person.
Because you teach people how to treat you, it shows everyone and everything that you are confident in yourself, that you are not willing to betray yourself, that you are not willing to abandon yourself for other Speaking up for what you need what you want is not needy. It's placing yourself on the pedestal. It's ensuring that your mouth gets fed. If you want a deep dive into this, be sure to order my book Show Up as Her on Amazon. The link will be in the show notes.
If you're wanting one on one coaching with me, I am a reiki practitioner, a life and energy coach, as well as an intuitive channel, you can DM me on Instagram at Vibe with CC for more information on all my different packages, and the best course to go with this podcast will be the Pedestal Path Up. The link will be in the show notes, and the best workbook would be The Divine Feminine Workbook. Also in the show notes. Reading from my book Show Up as Her on page
one point forty. Normalize the bare minimum. Your potential partner texting you back is normal. If they can play video games with NPC's non player characters literally fake people. Okay, on their PS five, they can take all of five seconds to text you. If they are a masculine leading individual, they should pay for your dinner. You are paying for your nails, your hair, your facials, your makeup, and so much more. The least they can do is pick up
the tab. Also, if they're asking you out, they should pay for the dinner. They're asking for your presence to be with them, and not for nothing. Okay, when there's a beautiful woman next to a man, men literally look at that man differently. Women look at that man differently. You are working on yourself. You are a beautiful individual. You're putting time and attention and devotion into how you're showing up. You're investing time in your makeup, in your hair,
and your outfit. The least they can do is pay for your presence, is pay for you showing up to be with them. This is not just a gift for you, it's a gift for them. It is an honor for a masculine energy to be able to be in his masculine energy. So many women nowadays are like, no, let's put the check. No, don't worry about it. La. They won't even let a man pick them up. You are robbing the divine masculine of being in his divine masculine. And look at society. What is going on? It's not great.
I love everyone, but literally, what is going on? It's not great. Everyone's complaining. Okay, if you want to not only give yourself the opportunity to be corded, you also want to give to this masculine energy the opportunity to show up in his most masculine energy and body. Then you allow them to give to you. You allow them to pay for the date. Let this man feel like a man. There are so many ways that men are robs from being men. Let your man show up as a man. The least they can do is pick up
the tab. The least they can do is text you good morning. The least they can do is show up, plan a date, and create a safe space for you. Now, when they're doing this for you, you do not play games. You do not act like well whatever they can give all to me and I'm gonna take all my energy and not share any of it with them. No, you lead with love. You don't play dumb. You're not stupid. You're gonna use your intuition. But you lead with love.
You have pure and positive intentions. And if you don't like someone, let them go, because not letting them go up your energetic field. Not letting them go is scarcity mindset, and it's not going to allow the right person to come in. And not letting them go because you just want their attention, it's going to cause you to collect negative karma. This takes two to tango. I'm not on any one side here. I'm not on the woman's side or the man's side, because that's weird. I'm on the
side of humanity. Have you heard of her? Hello? And I want everyone to be in this love embodiment. In order to be in a love embodiment, you have to start respecting yourself. You have to realize your worth and I'm gonna help you get there. They should initiate plans with you. They should try to make you feel safe, and they should try to meet your needs. This should not be glamorized. If they cannot seem to do the
bare minimum, see this as a turn off. This isn't a moment for you to try to prove that you are worthy of their love. This is a moment for you to recognize who they are and place them accordingly outside of your orbit. Positive bitch tip. When we feel they are pulling away, our first instinct is to try to give more, but this actually only repels them further. This is gonna put you into a cat and mouse game.
What are you doing trying to play games? If you try to play games, now prepare lock in bitch, You're gonna be playing games for the rest of your life. Is that what you want to do. I'm sorry, I'm busy. I don't have time to do little mind games and try to act like a black cat or this or that. No, this is who I am. Take it or leave it. If you don't like it, great, someone else will. I was talking to one guy months ago and I literally said to him, I'm not willing to be mean to you.
I'm not going to do this. You like mean girls. You want someone who is gonna give you a run for your money, and it's giving mother wound. I'm not doing that. I'm a sweet girl until until you give me a reason not to be. Then you're on the shopping block. But I'm a sweetie and that's how I like to show up. I'm a lover girl. I'm something timeless, I'm something ethereal. But I'm not going to be a mean person. That's just not who I am. And it's actually so much effort for me to try to be mean,
So I'm not going to do that. Instead of me having a scarcity mindset and saying but he's great in all these other ways, I said, no, you can't give me what I want, and frankly, I can't give you what you want either. This is done, so this is over. I'm not going to try to play games with you and be a mean girl. I'm going to release you back into the wild from wherever you came from because
of Jesus. If giving them some of your energy wasn't appreciated, giving more of your energy isn't going to be appreciated either. If I go to a restaurant and someone says, oh, cc, do you want salmon, and I say no, I don't need salmon, and they're like, okay, do you want two pieces of salmon? What that's not gonna make me? You want the salmon more. I don't eat salmon. I don't want your salmon. If giving some of your energy, if giving one salmon up wasn't appreciated, giving more of your
salmon isn't going to be appreciated either. You have to read the writing on the wall. When I think about my female friendships, one of my best friends we text each other good morning every single morning. I'm asking her, how are you feeling today, What's going on in your world? What are you eating for dinner tonight? I'm genuinely interested in my best friend. I'm genuinely interested in how her
day is because I care about her. If someone isn't genuinely interested in what you're doing, they don't care if you live or die. They're not effective in communication. They go days without talking to you. That person, and I'm gonna hold your hand when I say this is not available for a relationship with you. I don't know why. Maybe they have a wound, maybe they're just not ready for a relationship. Maybe they just don't like you enough.
I don't know why, and I'm not going to try to jump from branch to brands to try to figure out their scrambled brain. I'm not going to do that. You're not going to do that either. All you're going to look at is their actions. At this point, I don't really care who you are. I couldn't give a damn. I care about how are you treating me. You could be the president of the United States, you could be a multi multi multi millionaire if you don't treat me well.
If I don't feel safe in your presence, Sid Norvay, goodbye, goodbye, goodbye, I'm slamming every door on your face and I don't care because at the end of the day, I have to think, you know what, one day I might be in labor and I might have to look over at my husband and say, I really need the emotional support right now. I don't want someone who doesn't even care about me. I don't want someone who can't do the
bare minimum. And if they don't do the bare minimum, if they go a day or something without texting me and I notice it, I'm not gonna say if you I hate you, I'm not gonna have an emotional breakdown. I'm going to clearly express my needs. Hey, you know you didn't text me that morning and I fell a little bit off. I really appreciate a good morning text.
It makes me so happy. And the next time they did give me a good morning text, I was like, yay, I love this, And I positively reinforce the behavior I want to receive more of. You do not positively reinforce behavior you don't want. If they're inconsistent and you allow them to be inconsistent and you allow them to come in and out of your life, good job. You're just reinforcing the exact thing that you don't want to happen. What are you doing? Wake up and smell the matrix.
When someone's inconsistent with me, I literally say, you're inconsistent. We don't have the same communication style. I'm just not really into it. I'm not really into it. I did not come all of this way to now get treated half at Not into it, Not gonna do it. Number two, you are starving for crumbs, uh, because you have forgotten that you deserve a whole, entire feast. Some of you are so hungry, are so thirsty to be chosen. Have you forgotten that Jesus Christ has already died on a
cross for you. Have you forgotten that a man has died on the cross for you? I don't care what you believe in. A man who did not even know you has given up his life for you. Do you not realize you're already chosen? What more male validation do you need? What more do you need? I find it really helpful to rely on a masculine ascended master in my life while I'm going through things. I'm talking to
Jesus every day. I'm like, Jesus, fix this damn heart, open up my heart's center, help me release any sting in my heart? So that I can fully accept and receive and give love. When you are realizing that you've already been chosen by Jesus Christ, the best man to ever walk this planet, you stop broadcasting from this lack mindset, from this being wounded mindset, confused, scrappy mindset. You're like, no, I was already chosen. I don't care what religion you are.
A man died for you. That's all you need to know. So maybe you start calling on Jesus. Maybe you call an archangel Michael to protect you. Maybe you call on Saint Germaine to help you transmute negative seeds of karma. If you feel desperate to be chosen, you will repeatedly manifest results where you don't feel chosen. You have to start realizing that you've already been chosen. That not only did Jesus Christ die for you, but you chose to come to this planet. You chose to condense yourself into
three D form and be a human. You chose this. You gonna choose today. Men who can't give you what you want are women who can't give you what you want even in friendships. That is going to deplete you from the inside out. That's gonna cause so much cortisol in your body. They're not worth it. I'm not sorry. Is Brad worth getting ugly? No? Is your friend Michelle worth getting ugly? No? No one is worth getting ugly. I'm not gonna be sorry about it. That's the truth.
That's the truth. I've been in those phases where I was getting ugly for people who didn't deserve it, and I didn't like those seasons. Those seasons sucked. If that's where you are at, pick yourself back up because you have the power to do so your powers in your present moment and remind yourself, why the hell am I getting ugly for someone who doesn't deserve it? Why the hell am I getting ugly in general? Let me start using the energy I was giving to them and put
them on an energetic diet. And now let me start feeding myself with my energy, because I only feed my energy into things that give me a high return on investment. If Brad sucks well, then he's not going to get energy anymore. If Michelle sucks well, then they're going on an energetic dig it and I'm done. I need you to start getting comfortable with your standard because a lot of you are looking at standards like there's some monster hiding underneath your bed. They're like, oh, but I feel
so bad to ask him to pick me up. I feel so bad not to pretend to get my checkbook and pay for the dinner. I feel somebody out of the stop. Stop. Stop. They don't feel bad asking you to take your clothes off. They don't feel bad to put you into a bedroom. They don't feel bad. So why are you hello? Can we wake up? You have to have a high standard, literally out of self devotion for your own body. I call it the Gods standard. Do you really think God wants you to accept breadcrumbs?
Do you really think God wants you to be mistreated? Do you think God created you so you can take bullshit from random people every single day of your life. If you carry the one and you add that up, that math doesn't math to me. Does it make sense to you? When I think about my dogs, I want the best for my dogs. I want the best food, I want the best toys, I want the best bed for them. Okay, the same way I think about my baby dogs, God thinks about me. God wants the best
for me. You need to start asking yourself. Is this the person God wants for me? They ignore me, They don't actually care about me. They low key suck. They do not give me what I need. When I communicate what I need, they still don't do it. That's not the person God wants for you. Why would God want you to be tortured? Yeah, doesn't make sense. And remember, every single man is your portal. Okay, no man is your friend, No man is your enemy. Every single man
is your portal. Every experience you have, good or bad. If it's bad, it's teaching you what you don't want. Great, clarify what you do. And if it's good, awesome, enjoy it. But every single experience you have is gifting you either energy or lessons or a beautiful experience. Don't forget that while you're dating. Because you do have to embody the
dolphin archetype. You do have to swim through some of these seasons because they're not all easy, and because honestly, as advanced as we are, we are very tribal people. We truly are. We have this attachment system. Your attachment system is not some evil demon living within your body. Your attachment system is born out of survival of the fittest.
If you did not attach to a tribe in the olden days, you would not survive because you cannot cook and hunt and make a teepee or whatever you're doing and make the clothing all by yourself an unknown climate. You would die. Having an attachment system ensured your livelihood. It's from survival of the fittest. Having an attachment system
is normal and it's fine. But if you're allowing yourself to just sleep with anyone, give your time and energy to just anyone, you're gonna attach to too many people and that's when you start spinning out of control. So you do need to have a high standard so that you protect yourself, so that you have self devotion. And also you remember that, well, God doesn't want me with just anyone anyway. You wouldn't give your car keys to just anyone. So why are you giving your time, your ideas,
your attention, and your body to just anyone. It doesn't make sense. You have to cut the people out that you don't like, who don't resonate with you. You cannot settle because let me tell you, hi, how are you? I was in a seven year relationship. I tried settling into it it didn't work. Then I tried to do it again for like a couple months and it didn't work.
Don't do it. Don't do it, okay. I am. All of my friends and family are getting married right now, and I was like, yeah, I'm gonna go through a breakup. You gotta understand that nothing is worth you settling. It doesn't matter what all your friends and family are doing. You're on a different journey. You're not living a normal life. You think different. That's why you're listening to this podcast. You're spiritually intuitive, That's why you're listening to this podcast.
You're not okay with mediocrity. That's why you're listening to this podcast. Your life is not going to look like everyone else is, whether it comes to your love life, or your career or just coworkers. Your energy demands respect, and sometimes when people feel that, when you walk into a room, it's gonna make them want to attack your spirit because they're already jealous of your destiny. You have to remember who you are, adds tax and act accordingly. I did not get this far just to get this far.
I did not break a seven year relationship just to settle with someone else. I'm not doing that. Neither are you. If you are doing that, you're in survival mode. You're not in sovereign mode. You are no longer the version of yourself that tolerated chaos. Unsubscribed from those narratives. Your reality is whatever you consent to in the present moment. What do you want to con than to today? Do you want to be the version of yourself who allowed anything in anyone? Or do you want to be the
version of yourself that gets more. When you don't raise your standard, it's showing me that you don't believe that you're worthy of more. It's a worthiness wound. If you have a worthiness wound, what do you do you accept less because you don't think you're worthy of more. Where do you have holes within yourself? You have to start working on them. If you want to raise your standard for the treatment you accept from others, by the way, you have to raise the standard of the treatment you
give to yourself. When I was allowing myself to binge, if I didn't work out, if I was allowing myself to drink too much on a weekend, I wasn't treating myself well. I didn't feel like I was worthy of more. And then I would get terrible treatment. It wasn't really until I said, you know what, I need to raise the standard of my own treatment towards myself. I need to be my own greatest advocate. I need to take actionable steps today to support myself out of self devotion.
So that's why I take care of my body. I'm going to that workout at least six days a week. I'm making sure I'm getting my steps in. I'm making sure that my steak is grass fed. I'm making sure that I'm not putting a billion chemicals on my body every single day. I'm not going out every single weekend and downing a bottle. I am taking care of myself out of self devotion. I raise the standard of treatment
I give to myself. I get that facial. I make sure that I'm giving enough time and energy towards my career, not only because I love it and because it's my mission, but it's so I can do the things I want to do in my life. I can go to that yoga class, I can get the outfit, the piece of clothing that makes me feel in alignment and well and good. So think about this, how can you raise the standard of the treatment you give to yourself. Do you need to work out, do you need more rest? Maybe you
need to make yourself a really nurturing meal. Actions are energy reinforced. Show up for yourself and other people are gonna show up for you too. Show up for yourself, and you're going to start realizing, wait, if I can give this to myself, I'm not going to accept breadcrumbs from someone else. Instead of me being in this wounded energy and asking myself, why don't they love me? I have to prove myself to them more, You're gonna say, well, if they don't give that to me, I already give
it to myself. Why would I even want to be around that energy? They become no longer attractive. Instead of asking yourself, why am I not enough, you're gonna start saying to yourself, actually, ill, gross, I don't want them anywhere near me. If it's not them, it's going to be someone better. This brings me to the law of substitution. Sometimes we see a specific person in our reality and we really want them to specifically so badly, but they
are not capable of giving us what we want. And I've seen this so many times in my own life where my friends have been in relationships, or even I've been in relationships, and I would want that person to be someone else. I would want them to communicate better, or show up for me, or be there when I was feeling emotional, but they weren't capable of that. If I try to force that relationship, I am wasting my own time. The law substitution helps us understand that if
it's not this person, it will be someone better. So maybe they can't give you the level of love and commitment that you want. So release them because someone else will. Instead of saying, oh, let me play games so they may be changed, they're not going to change. Don't do that. It's a waste your time. Allow them to be released back into the ocean so you can find your proper match that's under your divine right. The law substitution remember it, if it's not them, it will be someone better. If
it's them, great, and if it's not them great. I always remind myself that if it's them great, if it's not them, great. Otherwise you're going to put yourself into an emotional state where you're anxious and manifesting negative results. Your reality is a reflection of where you are at. So if you're constantly worried, what are they doing? Why aren't they texting me? Why aren't they treating me well enough?
But I'm not gonna say anything. You are repelling them, and you're going to attract more of that same behavior and emotional outcome. You have to start saying to yourself, Okay, well, the law of substitution exists. If it's them, great, and if it's not them, great, I'll communicate what it is I want and if they can do it, great and if they can't, great, because either way in the end, you'll win. Either way. In the end, you're going to get what it is you want, whether it's your career
or your love life. But you have to release what's not yours so you can receive what is. If you want to be courted, but these people are not courting, you cut them out, remove them. They are not yours. If you think they have the potential too, you okay, communicate your needs. I have to tell people in my past if you don't ask me out days and days and days in advance, I'm not showing up. I'm a busy person. I'm not available last minute. If you want
to see me. You have to set a date. You have to take me out somewhere and we can make it happen. Number two, don't be available for chaos. Do not positively reinforce their bad behavior. If they never court you, but you still allow them to come over, or you keep going to their house at eleven PM, you are reinforcing their bad behavior. You're teaching them that's how they should treat you. So you have to show up different. For them to show up different, you have to stop
accepting less and start communicating to receive more. Now that brings me to number three. If they're not available to do that to embody that it's not about you, okay. The only thing it is reflecting about you is your own belief system and what you think you're worthy of. If it's them, great, But if it's not them, also great. I'm going to release them to get more. Number four, you have to give yourself the energy you wish to receive.
Treat yourself well. Number five, you're going to start encoding your emotional state, your mind, your subconscious mind, specifically before you go to sleep. I'm made an affirmation track magnetic affirmations. All eyes will be on you. I'll put the link in the show notes. If you want, you can actually purchase in our long tape of this and play it as you go to sleep. Neville Godter teaches that the
feeling is the secret. He says that when you fall asleep in the feeling of already having what it is you desire, you impress it into your subconscious mind, and your subconscious mind runs the show. Fall asleep in the energy you want more of. If you want to feel loved and wanted and desired, if you don't want to beg anymore and you want to instead be courted, fall asleep to my magnetic Affirmations track. It's going to change
your life. And you can purchase in hour long I think it's even over an hour, and just loop it on your phone over and over and over again. When you do this, you are impressing it upon your subconscious mind. Your subconscious mind is passive, it is feminine, It is a receiver. Whatever you tell it simply is, and then it will reflect back to you in your external reality. Your conscious mind is what you're going to use to say, Yes, I'm gonna get this affirmation track. I'm gonna put it
on my phone. I'm gonna put it so that when I go to sleep, it's on loops. So I'm going to encode my subconscious mind. Your conscious mind is what you're using to actually create this circumstance, But your subconscious mind is where you manifest from. It's what actually runs the show. And your subconscious mind only knows whatever it is you tell it, So start encoding it to give you better results. Instead of being attached to a name or a story, a face, a narrative, you are stepping
into alignment with just the frequency of love. And when you do that, you're courted, You're treated better. When you embody self love, all of the universe will conspire to give you even more of that same outcome. And an actionable step you can take today is using these affirmations to encode your subconscious mind. I promise you your life will change.
It's simply how the energetic universe works. If you want more guidance on shifting your mindset and your point of attraction to attract a better result, you can DM me now on Instagram at vibein with CC to learn more about my one on one coaching practices. If you want a physical source, you can get my book, show up as her, and don't forget to look at some of
my courses. The pedestal path pairs perfectly with this. I am sending you so much love you deserve more so, start raising your standard as always the sparkle in me honors of sparkle in you, and I will see you in the next one. How come, how can the jogy no cancer states Kansas aspect Kansas met