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175. How I Healed My Anxious Attachment: The Energetic Root Part 3

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In Part 3 of the Healing Your Anxious Attachment series, we explore the profound connection between 3D circumstances and their underlying energetic roots. Discover how faulty programming during the development of the sacral chakra can lead to codependency, people-pleasing, and anxiety. Learn practical techniques and behaviors, like calling your power back, to regulate your nervous system and take control of your energy. When you use the tools that this episode provides, you will have the power to shift the energetic root of your reality, which will shift your reality as a whole. No more frustrating and crying. Real change is here.

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Andenogy s cancel so high, Ecstasya, sage Cancelgema, it's not sorry, andenogy, what's up? Positive bitches, how are we doing today? If you are hearing this episode, you were meant to be here, So keep listening on that Bitch's Positive Podcast. Sometimes we will laugh. Other times, Babe a girl, We're gonna cry, but we will always walk away feeling our most empowered positive bitch self. That is Babe in true connection with herself. That's right. We unbecome who we are not so we can fully step

into exactly who we came here to be. Today, we are continuing our three part series. Today's the third part on healing our anxious attachment. That's right. You can get there from here. It does not matter how quote unquote bad you think. Your anxious attachment is, how much anxiety you have in relationships, you can heal. Your brain was born with extra fat. You have a nervous system that wants to go back to a stable place,

and your body is always wanting homeostasis. You are born to heal. If you've not yet listened to the first two parts of this series, go back and listen to Part one and Part two, so you have a beautiful understanding of what we're talking about today. Those two episodes are the primer for today. In both of those episodes, we talked about the three D experience of anxious attachment, feeling anxious when our partner isn't there, what anxious attachment looks

like on planet Earth, and how it feels. Today, we are driving deeper and we are going to talk about the energy behind it all. For every three D circumstance, there is an energetic route going on below the surface, and if we want to transcend circumstance, we got to transcend the energetic route. The symptom is what we are experiencing. The root is the energy behind it all. So that is what we're exploring today. But of course,

a couple of announcements before we get into it. If you're not yet following me on Instagram at vibin with CC, be sure to follow me there for literally daily tips and tricks on how to tap into your most magnetic self. I've been loving Instagram because that is where we can talk directly, right

in the comments. I can hear your feedback in my stories. So if you want to connect with me, you want to connect with more magnetic tips and tricks, follow me at vibin with CC and you can also follow the instagram that is in alignment with this podcast, and it's the same name that

Bitch is Positive. The beautiful thing also about following these accounts is all the links are in my bio for the Pedestal Path Course, for the twenty one day Breakup Globe Challenge, for the Miracle Magnetism Workbook, the Divine Feminine Healing

Workbook, and of course the Calling Your Power Back Workbook two. If you're listening to today's episode, do Not Sleep on the Pedestal Path for more intimate guidance, The Pedestal Path course is all about how to energetically place yourself back on the pedestal, which you will find out is one of the things we're not doing if we're having anxious attachment. As well as the Calling Your Power

Back Workbook will be really helpful to pair with this podcast episode. You can find these links either on my instagrams or in the show notes which is attached to this podcast. Without further ado, let's get into today's So the first thing we have to talk about is the law of correspondence. What is the law of correspondence. The law of correspondence states that our inner reality will always correspond to our external one, So if we're always abandoning ourselves, we're going

to attract people who also abandon us. Another part of the law of correspondence is that there are so many different energetic levels that correspond to the physical reality that we exist within. Many times we become obsessed with the symptoms instead of going to the root of what's actually causing that symptom to come about. We've become obsessed with people pleasing, or obsessed with our partners, or obsessed over

an ex without realizing that it's really not about these three D circumstances. It's about the energy that is going on below the surface. Our three D reality will always correspond to an energetic one, and our energy will always correspond to a three D circumstance or event or reality. Understanding that trying to force a three D reality to change that will only frustrate you more. Trying to force your partner to never go out, or to always be on top of you,

or to not have a life of their own. First of all, that's not healthy for you or them, but also it's just going to cause you more anxiety, more heartbreak, and more frustration. It's not about force, It's about frequency. If you want to change how you feel, if you want to shift your relationship, if you want to change who you're aligning with, if you want to change this anxious attachment, it's not about the three D reality as much as it is about what you're broadcasting as much as

it is about the energy you're bringing to the table. So what is going on with our energy? What is the energetic route that is causing anxious attachment to take place in our life? On an energetic level, what we learn growing up that causes anxious attachment to be developed within us is we have to trade our joyful, innocent energy for our caregiver, who we crave love from the most, for that caregiver's lower, vibrational, stressed out energy. What

does this look like? Growing up? I was so afraid my mom was going to leave me, abandon me. Why was this Well, anytime her and my father or she got stressed out, she would just say, I'm leaving, I'm leaving, I'm leaving. And even though that meant just going to my grandparents' house, that was extremely disregulating for me. I remember crying, sobbing, hanging on her, trying to get her to stay in the

house because I didn't want her to leave. And so I was always so afraid that if one thing went wrong, she was going to be out. So I became hyper focused on my mom's energy, what she was doing, what she needed, instead of being focused on my own self, instead of seeing myself as an individual, as my own person, paying attention to what I needed, I every time I walked into the room was checking the energetic temperature of my mom. And so here comes that inconsistency from the caregiver.

She's here, but I'm always fearing that she's gonna leave because she said she would. Even though she didn't actually mean much by that, it was still stated. So it felt really real to me. How I perceived it is that if one thing goes wrong, if one shoe drops, she's out of here. So anytime my mom would get into an argument or she was getting stressed out as a kid, I'm talking five, six, seven, eight, nine, ten, eleven, twelve, thirteen, fourteen, fifteen.

Throughout my teen years, I would always interject in the conversation, so she be talking to my dad or my older siblings who are like ten years older than me, and I would start fighting for my mom. I would literally just start standing up for her because I knew, oh no, if it gets too bad, my Mom's gonna leave. And then I don't have the caregiver that I'm craving love from. I don't have the person who's providing for me. I don't have my mom here anymore. And that is scary.

That's abandonment. I can't have that happen. So that causes you to grow up a little bit faster when you were fighting for an adult and you're fighting in adult conversations that you just simply don't belong in. It also causes you to completely disregulate your own energy because instead of me being focused on what I wanted, I was gonna do whatever my mom wanted. I was her left arm. I would do what she wanted when she wanted, because all that

mattered was making sure that she was happy. Now did this mean we never fought or we never had arguments. No, of course we did. I was growing as a girl into teenage years. Of course we had arguments and we would get into it as well. But ninety five percent of the time. I was just hyper focused on making sure that she was okay. Now. She never asked me to do this. She had no idea I was

operating like this. I didn't even know I was operating like this. It was a complete unconscious program that I was following through on day in and day out because what scared me the most was that she was going to leave me. And so what did I consistently do. I abandoned my own energy,

my own perspective, my own wants, and my own needs. When you do this to yourself energetically, it's almost like you trade in your control center for theirs, and instead of you listening to your own control center, instead of you having your own navigation system, you're listening to their control center, their navigation system. So you've abandoned your core, and you're now trying to operate in accordance to their core because you don't want them to leave. And

here's the thing. The more we energetically abandon our self, the more we learn to energetically abandon ourselves, and we don't stop it when we're an adolescent. We continue it in our adult intimate relationships, so we literally learn energetically. In order to receive love, you have to abandon yourself for that other person. In order to be in a relationship, you have to be hyper

focused on the other person and completely lose your own control center. Your needs, your wants, your desires, they don't matter anymore because you have to make sure this other person is happy in order to keep them around. And it does strike a chord with me because it just is in a way so sad that for so long, me and you we think that the only way to receive love is to completely not be ourselves and not listen to our own

self and just forget that we exist. And I feel that that is that's a lot to untangle if this is the first time you're maybe realizing this or hearing this or learning this, And I've been understanding this for years, and I still get choked up about it because when you finally realize what you've been doing for years, not only with a caregiver who had also probably no idea you were doing this, but in all your relationships, it does cause you

to take a step back and be like, ooh, what am I actually doing when it comes to love? Is this healthy for me? And it's not it's not the way that we can receive love, and maybe I should even say should receive love has nothing to do with abandoning ourselves. It's actually the exact opposite. It's showing up as so authentically ourselves that we align with

our rights people at the right time, in the right places. To go into even more detail about what's happening energetically, we basically trade our sacral chakra, which is our control center. We can say for their sacral chakra. Let's explain what this actually means so we can understand it. If you have energetically chased people, it's never too late to reinstate your own energy. If you've abandoned yourself your whole entire life, it's never too late to stop abandoning

yourself. If you stepped in something you do not want to step in, it's never too late to take your foot out, and you can always recalibrate. A chakra is a point on your body where energy collects. You can think of it as an energy vortex. While we have many chakras throughout our whole entire body, there's seven main chakras that we focus on and they align our spine If one of these chakras is out of balance, it can cause

physical, emotional, and spiritual disturbances. Let's just talk about the first chakram because the first two are really what we need to focus on. The first chakra that develops is called our root chakra, and it's at the base of our spine. This root chakra is called root chakra because it's what really grounds us. It's our roots and it's also associated with the color red. What you need to know about your root chakram is that it's responsible for keeping us

feeling safe and grounded. It is our first chakra. And while it's developing, we're just a baby, and we don't understand us versus another person. There's not that understanding that we are a different individual. While this root chakra is developing, all we understand is we are one with planet Earth, and we're on this planet and it's safe to be here. Of course, if this chakra is at a balance, we're gonna feel unsafe. But that's the

first one. The second chakra, this is really what's important. This second chakra that starts to develop is our sacral chakra, which is right below our belly button. And this sacral chakra is represented by the color orange, and it's responsible for us really being in our personal power, yes, but also

our creative energy, our sexual energy is all in our sacral chakra. Now, when we think of our sacral chakra, because it's a second chakra to activate, it's what helps us understand that we are separate from the other person. We're separate from the people around us. We're separate than our mother. We're able to see that we are a different individual, and therefore it aids

in our independence. However, as we're developing, if we learn that we have to be hyper focused on mom, we can't be a different person. We have to be Mom's right arm. We learn enmeshment. We have to like what they like. We have to do what they do. We have to make sure that they're okay and they're safe, because if they leave, we're gonna have our world destroyed. If that happens, it causes our sacral

chakra to not develop properly. So instead of us having our creative energy and our control center in our sacral chakra being activated and balanced, if there's any sort of trauma or just a misperception from our own point of view, well, it's gonna cause this development to be disturbed. The inconsistent attention causes the sacral chakra to be disturbed. An absent caregiver causes the sacral chakra to be disturbed. These other traumas where we're not sure when the other shoe is gonna

drop, causes this sacral chakra to be disturbed. And then what happens is it leads to in the three D to codependency, people pleasing, loneliness, if you're of abandonment, feelings of anxiety. So if what happened is our sacral chakra is disregulated and we're listening to their sacral choker instead of our own, it's literally like we are a dog on their leash and the thing that is leading us is their sacral chalker, their energy. We have to regulate

our own energy, so we stop listening to theirs. We have to regulate our own energy so we can show up as an individual instead of thinking that we are their right arm. So how do we regulate this energy vortex within us? How do we regulate our sacral choker? How do we understand that we are this separate entity. The number one thing that I have discovered is calling your power back. I would be so anxious about what my partner was doing after he left on a business trip, who he was talking to,

and I would feel completely ungrounded. Why because I was living in accordance to what is he doing? What is his control center? What is his sacral chokra saying? Instead of my own? So how do you actually call your power back? All you do is think of the person who you're wanting to call the power back from. So think of either. It can be your caregiver, it can be your partner, it can be the person you're dating, it can be an X And if you can, I would love for

you to just close your eyes for this short exercise. Think of this person, see them in your mind's eye, a couple of feet in front of you, and say, I lovingly and peacefully call all of my power back to me now. And see your white light energy leave their sacral chakra leave

through the top of their head. And you can see this as liquid energy or as a beam of light, and see it travel into the top of your head, down your spine, into your sacral chakra, this orange energy vortex below your belly button, and see your sacral chakra begin to activate, wake up, open and balance, and see this white light energy turning into orange energy, and it's circling, it's whirling and swirling, and it's grounding

your sacral chakra. And you can do it a second time. I lovingly and peacefully call all of my power back to me now and see that white light energy leave this other person through the top of their head and travel into your top of your head, down your spine, into your sacral chakra. And this white light energy is swirling and whirling, and your sacral chakra is growing and glowing a beautiful, bright, strong orange color. And this is

grounding your energy. And now when you look at this person in your mind's eye, maybe they look a little bit more gray to you. Maybe they don't look as alive as they once did, because they're not feeding off your energy anymore. You're living in your energy. And I would sit in the sun and I would just call my power back to me over and over and over again until I felt grounded, and I would pair it with this visualization, and I would put on a sacral chakra frequency, which you can just

find on YouTube. Now, if you really want to take this up a notch, I have a twenty minute sacral chakra meditation where I walk you through the mantra, the visualization and balancing your sacral chakra. This twenty minute meditation will change your life. I have people all over the world telling me it's changed their relationships, it's changed their life, and they are now magnetic.

Also, I've seen it in my own life. I know the power and calling your power back, and that's why I created this mantra, and that is why I made this meditation because it's so important that we do this consistently, as many times as you need daily, repeatedly. The other thing you can do to balance your sacral chakra is just listen to sacral chakra frequencies. While you're organizing your room, you're cleaning your house, you're just doing little

tasks throughout your day. Have the sacral chakra frequency in the background so energetically, it's balancing you for you, and you're not even having to do anything but listen to it. Now, each chakra has a mantra, a literal sound that if you practice this sound, it will balance the energy within this chakra. Now, for the sacral chakra, the mantra that is associated with

it is vum. It's spelt vam, but it's pronounced um. And what you can do is literally take a deep breath and then you would say them. Try to with me. You're gonna take a deep breath and then we say them. Feel the grounding, feel your energy shifting, feel the serenity. Just do it one more time, taking a deep breath in and we say them, and again, you can do this as much as you need.

Feel the difference in your body. Maybe you feel a little bit lighter, maybe you feel a bit more focus, is a bit more grounded. Feel the difference. You have the power to regulate your own energy. But if you don't take control over it, if you don't do these things, you're gonna feeling, you're gonna keep feeling the same way you've felt. We can't expect a different three D outcome when we're showing up with the same damn energy every single day. So to heal this on the energetic level is to

go to the root. The roots of the behaviors is that this sacral chakra is disregulated. The root of these behaviors is instead of you focusing on grounding your own energy and doing what you want to do, you're checking the energetic temperature of your caregiver or your partner. Before I said that your sacral chakra is it's like your control center, yes, but it's also responsible for your creative energy and your sexual energy. Creative energy is sexual energy. They're one

and the same. How do you create a baby? You know? How? Another way to tap into your own energy and balance your sacral chakra is by getting creative. So what is something you would like to do that you haven't before, or something you enjoy doing that is creative, and how can you start doing that thing weekly daily? Even for me, I would get so obsessed with what my partner was doing, what he was thinking, what was going on, And the only way I could refocus on myself was to

call my power back and to make tiktoks. Here's the thing, what we practice we get good at. So if I'm practicing thinking about them and sending them my energy, I'm going to be really good at thinking about them and sending them my energy. I had to start practicing interrupting the thought of them by calling my power back, and then I paired this with then doing something creative for at least fifteen minutes, so I would open TikTok and I would

just start making tiktoks and now would help me refocus on me. Sometimes I would open up a notebook and start writing a new song. And what happens is you get so into what you're doing creatively that you enter into something called a flow state. The flow state is so beneficial for so many different reasons. One, it's gonna help you stay in your own energy. It's gonna help balance your sacral chakra. It's gonna have you focused on you. Two.

When you're in flow state, not only does your sacral chakra balance, but you enter into something called receptive mode. Receptive mode is when you get those billion dollar ideas. It's when you get that creative spark for that book or that song. Being in receptive mode means you're so in the moment that time doesn't matter anymore. Using the bathroom doesn't matter, being hungry in this moment, you don't think about any of that because you're so in a flow

state. I remember watching Beyonce documentary and one of the things that everyone was complaining about was that this woman does not take breaks. She doesn't get hungry, she doesn't get thirsty, she doesn't need to go to the bathroom when she's learning new choreography or she's dancing. And you know why that is. It's not because she's a mutant ninja turtle. It's because she's in a flow

state. When you get into something that you truly love to do, and you enter into a flow state, you don't think about literally anything else besides what you're doing right in front of you. Why does it open you up to being receptive to even more creative and billion dollar ideas. It's because you're so present in the moment. That's what it is. When you're in the now, you activate new ideas, new endeavors, new hobbies, new creative

it's just everything. Everything, Everything opens up to you when you open yourself up to the receptive state, which opens you up to to the present moment. If you're not sure what this new creative hobby is gonna be, that's okay. You might just have to experiment with different ways of being creative. It could be drawing, coloring, painting, singing, dancing, getting on social media, creating content. It can be anything, and the only way to find out if you like to do it is to try. I would

have never known I loved creating tiktoks and short form content. If I never got onto TikTok, I didn't want to get TikTok. I didn't want to start TikTok. It wasn't until I was doing in meditation and got myself grounded enough that I was able to open myself up to the present moment where I heard a voice clear as day say, you need to get onto TikTok, and so I did. Opening yourself up to the present moment will do wonders

for you. Another way to stop tapping into their energy and tap into your own is fine something you want to get better at, or even just get good at. For me, this was yoga. I when I went to yoga, I had no freaking clue what was going on. It was confusing. There were so many moves. People are like daggling from the ceiling. They'red in headstands, and I can't eat. I couldn't even touch my toes at that point. So I was very like, wow, this is a

lot. But that worked for me. Finding a strain to serve you, finding something new to learn that's gonna ground you in your present moment. Because I knew I had to focus on holding a backbend or putting my feet up on the wall or whatever I was doing. Crow. I had to be so focused on what I was doing, girls, I was gonna fall on my face. Finding something new to learn will force you to tap into your own creative energy to create new neurological pathways. It's going to force you to

stay present because you literally don't know what you're doing. It's really hard to focus on someone else's energy when you're trying to figure out what's in front of you. So what's something you can learn new? Is it doing a new recipe, Is it joining a new class, Is it learning a new language? Is it reading new books? Reading was also something that I thought I hated to read because I really never loved it growing up. It turns out

I don't hate reading. I just hated the content I was reading. When I discovered self help books, I said to myself, Oh my god, I love to read. When I was reading, I was learning so many new things, so many things about myself. I was taking notes. I couldn't focus on what my partner was doing or what an X was doing because I was so infatuated with what I was learning. I was so in the present moment. I was discovering new parts myself and new parts of the world.

And that grounds you because it's putting you in your own body. My spirit wasn't in my partner's body, My energy wasn't with my mother. My energy and my spirit was in my own body. I was using my own eyes to be present. So think of something, whether it's creative, that can be one thing, and number two is something new. When you're creative or when you're learning something new, both of these things require your energy to

be in your own body, and that's why they're so powerful. Instead of you checking the energetic temperature of other people, your really clue into your own body. Your spirit and your body and your mind. They're all connected because your mind needs to understand what you're reading. Your spirit has to be in your body, and your body is literally present with all the materials. And it's the same thing. Whether you're getting creative or you're learning something new,

the same thing happens in both of those scenarios. So what's something creative you can start tapping into. And it doesn't have to be I'm creating a ten by ten mural. It can just be I got an adult coloring book. It can just be starting to write poetry. How can you get creative with yourself? How can you learn something new? What is something you want to

learn? Now? Both of these things have another beautiful, beautiful side effect outcome, a positive side effect, And what this is is you're developing other parts of yourself. Idle time is the devil's playground. When I didn't know who I was, I had no identity. The only identity I had was that of a girlfriend. That's all I identified myself as. I didn't know who CC was. What is she like? Don't know what does she believe? Don't know what does she think? Hasn't a clue. I didn't have

any of those parts of myself developed. So it was really easy to focus on my partner because I didn't have hobbies or activities, or friends or anything to do in my own life. An underdeveloped life will cause you to focus more so on your partner. Now, having an underdeveloped life, don't worry about it. That was literally me. This is exciting. This is exciting because it means that you get to create a life that feels good to you.

It's like instead of someone buying you a gift that you don't like and have to return. You get to buy yourself this gift. Having an underdeveloped life, not knowing friends, not knowing hobbies, not knowing what you like is a positive sign that you are now ready to develop these things within your own space. This means you might be a little uncomfortable while you're discovering new parts of yourself and creating new parts of yourself because they're gonna be new,

and we know that our ego familiarity, that's where it's comfortable. So let's acknowledge that this might not be the most comfortable season of your life, but it will be. I can guarantee you the most rewarding, the most rewarding. You need space and time to find you to figure out what you think and what you believe. Start learning about politics if you have no opinion about

them. Start reading books on I don't know World War two if you want to have an opinion on it. Start engaging with new material to build yourself up into a person you want to be. Maybe you're thinking cci, I don't really know what direction to go into. Think about someone you admire. It could be someone you see on Instagram. It can be an athlete. It can be a celebrity, It can be someone who does a ton of charity work. Think of someone you admire. What do you admire about them?

Is it that they know a ton about politics? Is that they have a deep, deep faith? Is it that they can speak five different languages? What do you admire about this person? Now? Take those things because knowing what we like in another helps us understand what we're going to like in ourselves. If you see someone and you say, wow, I really really admire how much they know about politics, that's just a sign that a part of you wants to learn more about politics. So start developing that aspect of

your life. Maybe you look at someone and you say, wow, they have so many close friends. I want to have that for myself. Okay, Start signing up for classes that you think you might enjoy, stay in the classes that you do enjoy, and then spark up conversations with other people there. Putting yourself in classes where there's gonna be other like minded individuals just puts you in a position to win new friends, because you're literally putting yourself

in an environment where there's going to be like vibrational humans around you. If you're both interested in yoga, most likely you're going to be interested in another thing like green juices or something along those lines. Put yourself in classes where there's people doing things that you also like to do, and spark up conversations

with them. You can do bumblebff and find friends. That way. You're going to have to put yourself out there and it might be a little uncomfortable for a season, but it will be rewarding when you see you building your own life. Is it that you want to scale your career? Okay? What needs your attention in your career? Do you need to spend more time and energy at work instead of crying about how anxious you feel? Do you need to spend more time and energy building up that side hustle on Etsy creating

a new brand that's going to help you be creative. It's also going to help your finances. It can really help you to create that side hustle. You're focused on you, you're building up your own life. What happens is as you build your friends, your career, your confidence, you are raising your self esteem. You're not only refocusing on you, You're not only getting your energy back in your own body. You're not only raising your self esteem.

You're going to feel better about yourself. You're gonna have respect for yourself, You're gonna have trust with yourself. You're gonna, dare I say it, love your self, because you're gonna see how much you have created in your life, how much you developed every area of your life. And there's nothing you can feel besides pure respect and trust and love for yourself. When you know I was in the deepest holes of holes, and I ripped myself out of that hole and I built a life I can be proud of.

Chances are there's at least one area of your life life that you feel is underdeveloped. How can you develop it? How can you make it stronger? You can even ask yourself, what are my weaknesses? Do I have a terrible attitude? Am I in a terrible mood every single day? How can I develop a better personal reality, a better personality? How can I develop a better mood? How can I tap into better energy? What can I do to strengthen these areas of my life so I can feel more confident about

myself and also not have more anxiety about this other person. Part of the reason we have so much anxiety about them is because we're investing all of our energy outside of our self. Instead of us investing the energy in our own being, in our own life, we're just invested in Bob. It's literally like giving them one hundred thousand dollars and then just forgetting about it. You wouldn't forget. If you gave someone one hundred thousand dollars, you would remember

that. You'd be worried about what they're doing with their money or are they gonna pay you back. It's the same thing with energy. You have to invest more energy in yourself if you want to be less anxious about them. If you liked and are enjoying this content, you can get the Pedestal Path now. The link is in the show notes or in my bio on Instagram, and it will help you learn exactly, even in more detail, how

to place yourself on the pedestal. Part of you tapping more into them than yourself is you're just placing them on a pedestal, and if you place them on a pedestal, you automatically place yourself below them. So how can you start placing yourself on that pedestal so you feed yourself more energy? Can you do some of the things we talked about today, and if you want to learn more, you can join the Pedestal Path. There's literally four plus hours

of content video content of me just talking to you. There's two separate workbooks. There's a meditation, there's something called making Mind to help you rewire your brain. It will be so beneficial for you to have this course if you have anxious attacktchment. I don't create these courses for nothing. I create them because I've been really anxiously attached and I've completely have gotten myself away from that life. I've healed so much of it that I now can put it into

a course to help you. This is to help you if you're dealing with anxious attachment. You also have to help yourself get the course. If you want to start with the eleven dollars workbook of Calling your Power Back, of course you can do that too. But if you're really ready to bite the bullet, it's a freaking holiday season. You're treating so many people. Please treat yourself, remember yourself. That is one way to place yourself back on

the pedestal the Pedestal Path course. If you get this, what are you doing? Oh, you're learning something new You're gonna have to start getting creative with how you're using your energy. You're gonna be plugged into what you're learning. It's going to be interesting to you, and it's going to help you call your power back, which will help you ground yourself and stabilize your own energy. If you enjoyed this podcast, it would mean the world to me.

If you could leave a positive review on Apple Podcast in Spotify, it really helps the podcast grow. We get to reach new positive bitches. If this spoke to you and you know someone who's dealing with something similar, send this to them. That really also helps the algorithm. If not for me, do it for you, because good karma, as always a sparkle in me, honors a sparkle in you. I love you so much. I'm sending you so much love. You can and will and are healing, and

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