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it is. I got a very interesting DM from one of you beautiful positive bitches this week, and she was asking Ceci, how do we use our haters, the people who just get underneath our skin as motivators? And I said, you know, but the last time we did an episode how to Shine Out Sparkle out your Haters, that was in twenty twenty one. It was literally, I believe episode six. We needed an updated version on how
to deal with the people who send us not the best energy. And that's where we're gonna be talking about today, because babe a girl, listen up. Why get mad when you can get everything you've ever desired? Why get mad? I waste your own time and energy when you can be manifesting, Why get mad when you can be using the life that you have as a bridge to the life that you so desire. We are wasting our own time
and I will just know longer have this for us. No no, no, no no. So today we're talking about energy transmutation, how to put ourselves back on the pedestal, and ultimately how to once again shine out the haters so instead of focusing on them, we can focus on our selves.
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power back? Why? Because why not live your best life? Okay, without further ado, we have to get into today's episode because we have so much to talk about now. I have always really posted about calling your power back and why it's so important that we stand in our power, and I keep for whatever reason, recently I keep seeing comments of when they steal our power blah blah blah blah, when they steal our power blah blah blah blah. I'm like, what what what steal our power? No, No,
we need to refresh our mind on how energy works. No one hear me, hear me, hear me, hear me. Okay, we're traveling back to Victorian times or whatever people had to scroll and would say, hear me, hear me, hear me. No one can steal your power from you. In fact, no one can take your power from you. It's your power, which means the only way someone can quote unquote receive your power is if you give it to them willingly. I'm going to say that again.
No one can take your power away unless you willingly give it to them. When you think about a relationship, and let's go let's go full force here. Let's think about grade a narcissist and a codependent person. A codependent person in the relationship with a narcissist is just as much as fault as the narcissist is just as much at fault. Why Because the codependent is agreeing to be in this energetic dynamic where they will be giving up their power and the narcissist
is in this energetic dynamic and agreeing to take the other person's power. It is an energetic contract between two people and they're both in agreement to it. So when we're in a relationship dynamic where I recently started watching that show the summer I turned pretty or something. Everyone kept telling me to watch it until
fine, I'll watch it. It's cute anyway. The main character has a best friend, Katie or something who knows, and the main character says that every time her friend is there, while she loves her friend, she always feels like a side character. She always feels like she is not the main star when her friend is there. So she loves her, but at the same time, she doesn't really want her coming there for her birthday because then
she has to feel like the side character. But the main character, Belly cannot feel like a side character unless she allows her friend to be the main character. And by the way, there are stories where there are multiple main characters. You don't need to slide into a side character identity just because you think you're friend is a main character. You don't need to slide into codependent tendencies just because you think that person is a narcissist and it's going to take
all your power. You have to understand that when you enter these energetic dynamics with your boss, with your friend who you think is the main character, with someone who is kind of narcissistic, understand they cannot take your power away. No one can unless you give them your power. And I'm saying this assuming that everyone has free will and no one's locked in a dungeon, etc. We when all parties have free will, you can only give your power
away. They can't take it from you. So if you feel like you're in a relationship dynamic with someone who is constantly taking your power, who's constantly making you the side character, stop allowing that to be your story. Stop allowing them to take your power, and say, you know what, instead of going on autopilot just being a sorry character, I'm gonna wake the fuck up to my own reality and I'm going to start to decide that I'm not
just gonna go with the flow about everything. I'm not just going to shut up and be pretty and stand there. I'm going to say what it is I want, when I want, and I'm going to speak up for myself. You want to take back your power, take back conscious control. You want to take back your power, take back your present moment, your powers in the present moment. It's not in your past, it's not worrying about your future. It's in your present. That's where you take your power back.
So the first part of us outshining our haters, I don't even like to say using our haters to motivate us. But the first part of us taking back our power and not letting our haters use us, but us using them and their energy, is to say, I'm not going to keep being this character in this story that I didn't write for myself. If I learned a certain behavior, fuck it, I don't care. I'm going to become a new person today. Part of quantum leaping to your desired timeline is simply
make a decision that you want to quantum leap. Part of quantum leaping is simply deciding that you don't want to be who you've been thus far. So you need to make a decision that you're no longer going to give up your power because no one's taking it from you. Take accountability. You want to take back your power, hi take responsibility over your own life. Because that is how you take your power back. If you want to keep being a victim to circumstance, have at it. Your life is not going to be
fun. If you want to keep being a victim, everyone takes my power away, nothing ever works out for me. Okay, keep living that story. Have fun, Martha. You're gonna hate your life. So what you're gonna do is say fuck that. No more of that. I'm taking back my power. I'm no longer going to give it away for free. I'm no longer giving it away to just anybody. I'm going to show up as who it is that I wish to be. I think another way we give
away our power is everyone just wants to be understood so badly. Everyone wants to be respected so badly. Everyone, everyone and their mother. To me, one of the ways I've taken back my power is simply understanding. I don't give a fuck if you respect me or not. I don't care if you like me or not. I don't give a flying fuck if you understand me or not. Maybe I didn't come here to live for you. I came here to live for me. Part of taking our power back and using
our haters to motivate us. However you want to say, This is simply by adopting the mindset that, regardless of how people are going to respond to me, I'm going to show up how I wish. That's it, because at the end of the day, you have to live and die by you. You have to wake up in your body every single day. You have to exist in your vessel every single day as you. So the person you
need to be pleasing is you and God, not everybody else. You and God, God's person option of you, that's more important than anybody else's. Period done. You're higher selves, perspective of you, more important than anyone else. Your angel's perspective of you. Yeah. Important. Not all these people who hate themselves on planet or they don't that, they don't matter, they don't match her. I recently was out with one of my friends and when I go out, you guys know, I like to enter something called
messy makeup mode. And when I enter messy makeup mode, it looks like I stepped out of the shower because I'm sweating. My eyelashes if I put any on, are like coming off my eyeliner. Who is she? She left the building? I am sweating my little tush off. I'm doing the most dancing and I'm not like a sexual like dancer, per se, like twerking on a wall, that's not exactly me. I like to just have
fun and move my body however it wants to move. And when I'm dancing and I enter messy makeup, I always say that is a magnetic tool because I just show up. However it is. I want to show up and I don't care what you think. And ironically, which is not ironic at all, if you understand anything about energy. That is when the most people when I was single and still to this day, will come up to me
when I'm dancing. Obviously I responded differently when I was single than now, But still people come up to me when I'm moving and grooving it because they see, wow, that person is so in their own energy, enjoying themselves or not trying to impress anyone. I either want to be like that or I want to be near someone who is like that. I respect that. That is, you want to get someone's respect, show up as your authentic self. But that is what happens when I don't even want their respect or
their attention. That is when it happens, because I'm so on my own pedestal and this is something we talk about in the pedestal path, so be sure to sign up for that. When I was out this past weekend with my friend and I'm looking around the bar and this is not the first time I made this realization, I mean it so many times, but I just every time I realize it. I just saw four or four four on the clock and I saw four deer the other day. Oh, stability is upon
us, positive bitches. Stability home, love life. Oh I love it. Okay, anyway, I'm gonna keep it moving and grooving. When I was on the dance floor, something I notice is I will sometimes pause and look around and I'm like, what the fuck is wrong with everyone? I look around, Everyone's just standing I'm like, there's a great song right on right now? What are you guys doing? What you hello? Wake up?
Everyone was just standing around. And when my friend looked at me and we started talking, We're like, everyone looks so afraid to just be who they are. Even my boyfriend was like everyone even dressed the same that night, Like it was just a weird night where we noticed like everyone was copying
one another, and we were thinking, what's going on? Everyone looked like one another dressing wise, and like, yeah, yeah, there's a general style that most people have, I think, but every single person at the bar have the same exact alphit on. It was just very weird. And anyway, we're like, why is everyone so afraid to just show up how they want to be? Like what is really stopping us? And obviously we know we have a biological need to be socially included, we have this need
to be accepted by our peers. But we can't value being accepted by others more than we value showing up authentically, because that is a path that's going to lead you down people pleasing, feeling unfulfilled, and just unhappy. When you're constantly trying to make everyone else happy, who do you forget about? You? Forget about you? And then you end up resenting everyone and hating them. Anyway, so you might as well just show up however it is
you wish to show up. So anyway, me and my friends are in messy makeup mode and we are just having the time of our life. We're dancing, We're having so much fun. And I look around and when I look around. I really have now adopted the mindset of no one else is dancing. I think that's weird. But everyone, to me seems like an NPC. And I don't play video games, but if you know, you
know, an NPC in a video game is a non player character. There's someone who's in the background, who is just there for aesthetic purposes for the storyline. It's a character who's not played by anyone. It's a fake character. It's part of the background, essentially. And so we're looking around and I'm like, I say to my friend Sophia, I was like, let's tone it up, because I feel like we live in a society where they're always like, tone it down, tone it down, tone it down.
And I say fuck that. I say, tone it the fuck up. Tone it up, tone it up, tone up who you are to a thousand percent, a billion percent, infinity percent. Just tone it up, because at the end of the day, all these people who are standing around are so miserable trying to put themselves in a cage. They might judge you, but why do you care about being judged by someone who's in there own cage. I really have adopted the mindset everyone's a fucking NPC anyway when I'm
out, and I would never do any harm to anyone. But I'm also not going to take other people shit or perceptions personally. I don't care. Take it vibrational not personal. Understand where you're at and it will help you move to a better vibrational timeline. But anyway, I'm telling you, whether you think people are being catty or rude or weird or judgy, tone yourself up even more. It will make them go crazy. And that's the funny thing. We give them our power when we tone ourselves down. We try
to dim our own light. If this is too much for you to digest, choke on it. I don't care. That's how you need to be showing up because that is what's going to bring you fulfillment. Tone it the fuck up, all the way up, turn the volume on who you are all the way up, and show up as you. Because when you do that and you enter messy makeup mode, you're entering a magnetic frequency, your ring positive bitch frequency. You are putting yourself on the pedestal, and then
you're going to get the best vibrational matches and results anyway. Anyway, So part of this mindset is instead of placing other people's perception of us on a pedestal, I want you to place your authenticity on the pedestal. I want you to place your joy on the pedestal. I want you to place whatever feels good to you in that moment, as long as we're not doing harm to others on the pedestal. Okay, that's where we're starting. So what
are we doing so far? We're starting to shift our mindset. We're starting to shift our values. We're starting to understand that no one can just take our power away. Where we are not these powerless little monkeys floating in outer space. We are divinely crafted, multi dimensional beings who stands in our power with free will. Another way I see a lot of us giving our power away is we will talk a problem to death. We will see. Okay, I have to tell this story. There is someone that I know in
my life and they hate someone else. I'm gonna make up names. Okay, I'm gonna call the girl Betsy, and I'm gonna call the other girl Sarah. Betsy and Sarah have had drama in the past, and Betsy is fucking obsessed with the drama that they had. I believe it was like years ago. I really, I know Betsy has told me the story so many times, but I don't really know it went down, and it doesn't matter. The point is Betsy does not stop talking about Sarah. She does not
stop talking about about the drama. She does not stop talking about what has went down years ago. She does not stop explaining it. She will corner people and retell the same story or try to point out something Sarah is doing that's annoying. And I'm like, listen, I talk to God. I don't waste time gossiping. Like, if I'm going to spend my time doing something while on planet Earth, you can for shiit. Sure, No, I'm not going to spend it gossiping about people I don't really even know and
I don't care. And also it's not doing anything for anyone, you know what I mean, Betsy, If you want to hire me as a life coach, girl, do it like I got you. But otherwise, I'm not here to gossip. Okay, I'm not here to gossip in life coaching either, but I will help you create tools for you to move on anyway. So Betsy doesn't realize it, but instead of Betsy connecting to me or the other girls. She spends her time talking about someone she doesn't like.
She spends her time giving all her power to someone she doesn't like. She spends her energy on someone she doesn't like. Do you see how that's a waste of mind, energy, heart, and soul. Do you see how that does nothing for you spending time? I don't care if it's a person or just a generic problem. Stop coming at situations problem oriented. It's not helping you. And if it fucking helped, you would have gotten a solution already. So what obviously doesn't work? Can we agree on that? Thank
you? Moving on. If Betsy spent her time connecting with me, talking about hobbies, books that she liked, things that were going on in her love life, maybe we would have been able to connect. But because she only spends her time talking bad about Sarah, everyone kind of thinks she's a little bit annoying. And I hate to be the one to say that, but that is the truth. I don't find her annoying. I think she's a good hearted person, but I do think she's stuck in her own stories,
and I just feel bad for her. I feel bad for people who are addicted to their own dynamics, a misery that's sad for me to see. It's a nice girl, but you gotta prime up that mindset, you gotta switch it up sometimes. My point here is that we sometimes spend all of our time talking about what's draining us, that we drain ourselves even more. Think about energetically chasing. When you're energetically chasing someone, stalking them,
manipulating yourself so they like you. How do you feel you feel dreamed because you're sending out so much energy. When you spend all of your time complaining about your boss or your friend or something going on at work, all you're doing is feeding the problem. You're feeding the thing you don't want in your life, and you're making it bigger. Because where focus goes, energy flows,
and what you feed what your focus will grow to be larger. Whatever you're giving your time and your energy too, is going to become a bigger part of your life. You have better luck focusing on socks and sandals than you do something you hate. You will have a better life focusing on curtains, then you will have If you are just gossiping, gossiping about everyone and everything it's a waste of your own time, and I don't want to see
you waste your own time and energy. If someone is targeting you, if someone is trying to mess with you at work or wherever it may be, Listen, I don't play games. I will end them though. Okay, I'm not gonna play with you, but I'll end them real quick. You can say what you need to say, be a direct set of boundary, but do not let it eat you from the inside by talking about it to everyone, thinking about it every single day, night, day, evening,
whatever it may be. Now, when someone is sending you negative energy, you can actually use that to your advantage. You can use that to make you stronger, wiser, smarter, anything you want. I remember one of my spiritual teachers telling me that when someone sends you a negative comment online, he's like, don't fear, don't contract your body. Instead send that person
lights and love, and it will make you stronger. It will give you more energy because when someone comments something negative to you, and let's say you're not on social media, but this is in real life, your co worker is kind of being rude. When someone is rude to you and you instead send them love, and light. It's not about helping them. That's a side effect, that's a symptom. But really it's about putting you back on
your own pedestal. It's about you feeling good for you. It's about you relaxing your own nervous system for you so you can get your homework done, your job done, your career on the right path, get back on the horse. When it comes to dating, it's about doing what's best for you, what I want you. When someone is rude to you, whatever it may be, send them light and love just in your head. Be like I send you light and love and see light going their way. Because when
you do this, what you give out is what you get back. You don't have to worry about them getting theirs. You know that Taylor Swift song Karma is my boyfriend. Karma is a well I don't even I really don't know that much, but I know that it's a catchy song. Leave it to Karma. I promised you positive bitches. I know Karma. Karma is a fellow positive bitch. Okay, And Karma will always take care of whatever loose ends have gone on in your life. Justice, oh, it will
always be served. The truth will always come out. It might not come out on your timeline, it might not be unfolding exactly how you wanted to, but it will happen. It will have pen I watched my dad as he's gone through business and expanding himself. I've seen some people kind of f him over, and sometimes it took a couple of months, sometimes it took a year, sometimes it took multiple years. But the people who effed him over always got theirs. I see this in my own life. I see
this in my family and friends lives. You have to understand it's not going according to your plan, is going according to Miss Karma's plan. There's nothing you need to take care of, And when you think you need to take care of it, all you do is drain your own energy. All you do is empower them if you don't send them love and light. So you place yourself back on the pedestal. You know who you're putting on your pedestal is them. And guess what, you can never hate the person who's hating
on you as much as they hate themselves. You can never do it. So instead of them placing excuse me, instead of you placing them on your pedestal, and wasting your own time thinking about them, talking about them, sending your energy, send them love and light, and refocus on you. Because that negative energy that they sent you, you can use that to your advantage through energy transmu motherfuckingation, energy transmutation. When we are energetically chasing someone,
we're sending out energy and we're draining ourselves. But when someone sending us energy, even if it's hatred, they're still sending us energy. And at the end of the day, energy is energy, and you can use that energy and transmute it alkomize it into power that can serve you in your life. What do I mean by this? When I was going through a season where I was getting separated from a friend group that I thought would be my
friends forever, and they were kind of hating on me. They obviously didn't want to be my friend anymore, and they were sending me not the nicest comments and conversations and it really hurt. Instead of letting that destroy me, I said, I'm going to use that energy and I'm going to get on TikTok. I'm going to start writing music. When I was going through a
breakup, I started writing more music. When someone is sending you negativity, use it to motivate you by trans from negative, low vibrational energy into high vibrational energy. So what you do is you realize, Okay, I'm going to send them white light, and now that they have sent me their negative energy, I'm going to use that as armor and I'm going to turn it into wings to fly. I'm going to use that energy to do a workout.
I always think of that show Revenge Body by Chloe Kardashian because it's so true when someone does you wrong or whatever has occurred in your life and you feel pissed off. You can use that anger and turn it into the best workout of your life. You can use that sadness and turn it into the best song you've ever written. Think of Olivia Rodrigo, Taylor Swift, we mentioned her before. They take their pain and they transmute it into creativity,
into music, and they create beauty where once there was only darkness. All things begin in darkness. A seed germinates in the dark, a baby grows within a dark womb. Every morning comes from the night before. Everything, always, forever and always begins in darkness. First, after every dark period, there is a light. One and so forth. Use this darkness befriended. Don't run away from your darkness, don't run away from the feelings.
Use it to motivate you by transmuting it into power. What is it you've been pushing off. Use this energy that they're sending you, even if it's hate again, it does not matter, because energy is energy, and use it to motivate you. Put in extra hours at your job, do that workout, write a song, get on TikTok. Creates something new because instead of wasting your energy talking about them, thinking about them, pedestaling them,
use your energy and put it towards something that's going to elevate you. There's a quote that says, no one above you can pull you down. Only the people below you are going to try to pull you down because that's where they are. Misery loves company. Why because misery is at the bottom all alone, So misery will try to pull you down with it. We're not going down. We are not going down. We are on our own ship, the positive bitch ship. That is what we're on, and we will
not be tent. We are going to float our way to our happiest timeline, our most magnetic timeline. Because that is what we truly deserve, that is what we owe to ourselves. And I think if someone's not wasting tears on me, I'm not wasting tears on them. If someone's gonna try to be mean to me, take me down, I'm not going to betray myself and get on your team. Fuck no, I have to be my best friend now more than ever. I have to advocate for myself now more and
ever than ever. If you want to look at me and perceive me from a negative point of view, cisco the fuck off. I perceived me from God's point of view. I like it much better up there, and that's where I'm gonna stay at the end of the day. The number one regret of the dying is that they weren't authentic to who they were. They were not authentically living as they wish to live. Instead, they let the opinions of others sway them on a path that they didn't want to go down.
They let how people perceive them affect them. When you're on your deathbed, sometimes we have to think about death because death can be a motivator in itself. Let this version of you rest in fucking peace and think about when you're on your deathbed, are you gonna care? What Mary had to say, what Betsy and Sorrow were talking about in the locker room. You're not going to give a fuck. You're you're not going to care. And I think
we forget that life is temporary, but so are the seasons. The seasons are even more temporary when you think about high school. I remember this guy came to talk to us because his son committed suicide from bullying. And this man would go around to schools and give anti bullying talks, and I remember one time he was saying, how the one thing someone asked him, actually a kid from my school asked him, is there something you wish you could
have told your son? And oh God, it's giving me goosebumps and making me emotional. But the thing he wished she could have told his son is that this part of your life is so temporary. It is so short. Whatever season you're in, oh it's temporary. You're gonna go off and you're gonna graduate from high school and you're gonna meet a ton of new people at college, the people you're gonna love the most, and friends. You might not have met them yet, but that doesn't mean they don't exist. It
means they aren't in your reality just yet. That was so moving to me. I'll never forget that, and I always remember that because it's so true. This lifetime is so temporary. Let alone the little season where Okay, fuck, we're kind of getting bullied right now, but we're not going to give our power away to them. Okay, these girls are really catty, but we're not going to give our power away to them. Okay, my relationship is not going right, but I'm not going to give my power away
to it. I'm gonna take myself and I'm gonna put myself on a different path. Don't let a temporary bad situation trick you into thinking you of a terrible life, because it's not true. It's not true. What you're experiencing is happening now, but it's not gonna be forever. What's happening now, it's a moment in time. But you've moved past difficult situations and you're going to move past this difficult situation. Two, don't doubt your own power.
In fact, is that not what every episode is about? Remembering how much power you actually have. If you need to make a list of every difficult situation you've ever gotten through. Make that list and read it every day to remind yourself how powerful you truly are. I hope you enjoyed this podcast. If this podcast resonated, please leave a positive review on Apple Podcasts and on Spotify. It really helps this podcast grow. I love reading them and it
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