In the first episode back from our pause in recordings, Telling On Ourselves has some new fresh & fly life in recovery to share! Lynn & Vikki are back and here to share what life is like when we slow it down from the CRAZY BUSY! How do we have a big, full life, and how do we stay sober with grace and self-love!
"In life, things are neither Good or Bad necessarily--all of it is valuable guidance" - John Felitto Today we talk with John Felitto--creator of the 90-Day game and Life Coach. John shares how we can play our way into real and lasting change in our lives. Learn more about the 90-Day Game! https://www.90daygame.com/ Phone Number: 845-201-8496 Email: Team@90DayGame.com
We are honored to have Claudia Velandia as a guest this week. She shares her spiritual journey and the tools she uses to get through change in her life and become her best self. One of those tools is the PAUSE! Claudia Velandia is the author of the bestselling book, Wake Up! How to Get Out of Your Mind, Stop Living on Autopilot and Start Choosing Your Best Life. Claudia holds an MBA, MA, BEng, and she is a certified professional coach. Through her teachings, mentoring and coaching, she has helpe...
Today we have a special guest--Jim Dalbec, who facilitates a "Science of Wellbeing" course at a senior center. So what makes someone more wired to be happy and can we rewire our brains to be happier? If you've listened to some of our other podcasts, you won't be surprised to know that the way we rewire our brains goes back to things we talk about all the time: mindfulness and gratitude! Join us today for a deep dive into The Science of Wellbeing!
Who's been on clubhouse? Well, our guest today was found there. Vikki and Maureen geeked out on how the recovery program helped them become successful at work and in life! Maureen Ross Gemme is an incredible woman and has been in recovery for a few (thirtysomething years) 24 hours. Her work allows her to fulfill her mission of working with women in recovery to discover how to apply the life they lead in their program and bring it to work. This episode is so much fun and check out Maureen at her ...
Lynn & Vikki talked to Whitney Rose this week! She shares her journey with us and her road to freedom with anxitey!
We are so excited to follow last weeks episode about dating with this weeks episode where we interview love and relationship expert, Katie Hendricks Ph.D., BC-DMT. Katie and her husband, Gay, founded and operate the Hendrick's Institute--an International Learning Center that teaches core skills for conscious living and conscious loving. This insightful, soulful interview is one you will NOT want to miss! The Hendricks Institute: https://hendricks.com/ https://www.facebook.com/relationshipadvice ...
This week we discuss dating in recovery. Our ups and downs on this roller coaster ride! Please subscribe, rate & review it helps us very much!!
This week we have special guests Cindy and Judy from Sunlight Spirit Retreats! Judy and Cindy share how their sobriety journey lead to a spiritual journey and a calling to help others connect spiritually. Sunlight of the Spirit Retreats provides simple spiritual tools you can use everyday to enhance your spirituality and emotional well-being, and enrich your life. Judy and Cindy have been hosting in person retreats, virtual events and classes, workshops and speakers. For more information on Sunl...
This week, we are honored to have our sister in sobriety and one our our spiritual mentors, Dar, joining us! All three of us met Dar at different points in our life--at divinely inspired times. Her diligent work in her own life and on her own sobriety has created a "Ripple Effect" that has positively impacted many lives and helped us personally along our journeys. So today, we go DEEP, discussing "The Ripple Effect"--how our actions matter, and can touch the lives of others in ways we can't even...
!!AWESOME GUEST ALERT!! You don't want to miss this week's episode! This week, we have the honor of sitting with author and therapist Phyllis Ginsberg to dive into how our brains as humans, and addicts, work! She is an expert in Positive Psychology, Brain Research and EFT Tapping. Where do our engrained habits come from? Can we really change? HOW? Phyllis shares with us the power of "congruency" in our thoughts, feelings and actions that lead to powerful and lasting transformation in our lives. ...
So you might have heard of the "Dry January" movement that has been catching on these past few years. Basically, Dry January is a commitment to giving up alcohol for the month of January following the holidays. Today, we explore the topic of Dry January and how it's a great way to examine your relationship with alcohol! Not everyone who drinks a lot is an alcoholic, but if you've been feeling like you're spending way more time with the bottle than you'd like, then this could be a great way to pa...
Equanimity - ??? It was such a new concept for us (especially Bre) and this episode we mull over what it is and how to attain it! So if you're not sure what equanimity is, or if you already know what it is but want a deep dive, listen to this week's episode! We so appreciate you listening every week! If you'd like to make a donation, here is our Patreon link: Donate Here
Wow! We survived 2020! We could’ve only done it with each other and the support of our sober networks. This week we talk about 2020 — the things we learned and how we stayed sober. Then we look forward to the new year—what is our intention for this year? We each picked 1 word that would sum up our intention for this year. Listen in to hear what we all picked. Then, pick your own word and share it with us! We so appreciate you listening every week! If you'd like to make a donation, here is our Pa...
This week we have an inspiring special guest and author--Peggi Cooney! Peggi is the creator of the Facebook group "This Side of Alcohol" which is named after her soon-to-be released book! Its a fantastic, very positive community of sober individuals that come from various modalities and disciplines of sobriety and come together to live a life that's alcohol free and more joyful. They focus on living in the joys of life instead of getting sucked down by what can bury us. Peggi shares her story of...
This week Lynn has First Thought Wrong about some "kids" stealing her serenity. Then we discuss how planning the action, and letting go of results, can help us in life and recovery. Focusing solely on the results can create fear, which holds us back from taking any action at all--impeding us from experiencing the creativity and joy in the journey. Focusing only on the results is a defense mechanism we use to stay in control of a situation. However, this causes us to have expectations--and we kno...
Watch out! Look behind you! It's coming for you ! Complacency - "Feeling of contentment often combined with a lack of awareness of IMPENDING TROUBLE!" Don't be clueless, this disease can and will kill you! This week we talk about the dangers of complacency. How do we spot it? How can we stay out of it? How do we get out of it if we're already there? It's hard but we have to break up with the excuses that keep us in our complacency and be honest with ourselves! Vikki's Book Link: https://mailchi....
When we think of patience we usually think of being patient with other people. This week we explore not only patience and tolerance with others, but with OURSELVES (novel thought)! What does impatience and intolerance tell us about where we're at right now and how do we gain more? What is the "cure" for impatience/intolerance? We didn't get sober to be irritable and discontent all the time, that's for sure! In our alcoholism and addiction, we were anything but patient. We wanted that next drink ...
Our friend and OG of Telling on Ourselves Keri joins this week for First Thought Wrong! She has some great insights on setting boundaries for holidays due to social distancing and the pandemic. Some suggestions include redefining our family holidays and thinking outside the box with family traditions. Struggling during the holidays can be an issue at the best of times, we provide some ideas for not only getting through but finding joy as well. Melissa U: https://whole30.com/ Vikki's Book Link: h...
This week we're lucky to have one of our biggest fans, Dawn O., as our guest! Dawn offers us her First Thought Wrong this week which, hilariously, is about Vikki's FTW last week! Which also leads us into our topic....EGO! It's all about me! Man, it's impressive what our egos will tell us--they will twist information, bring out our insecurities, and get us to react on our emotions. One of the greatest gifts of recovery is not just a reprieve from our drinking, but a reprieve from our EGO! With th...
This week Lynn has First Though Wrong (FTW) about a recent hiking experience. Our main topic is about asking for help! Help..ah...one of those 4 letter words! Sobriety and recovery are lifelong journeys. Many times we will need help and support. Most of us know and realize this. So...why is it so tough asking for help? In this episode we talk about how humility and fear of being judged come into play when asking for help. Also, people need to be needed! When I get to help you, you're actually he...
Vikki has FTW about holding onto resentments. One of the expressions we hear a lot in the rooms of recovery are "live and let live". What does this mean? How does that little idiom keep us sober on a day to day basis? This not only applies to how we deal with others, but how we deal with ourselves! Looking to grow and expand? Four Agreements Workshop Series with Vikki: https://mailchi.mp/8dad0e990801/fall4agreements Become a Patron Donate HERE...
This is a great episode you don’t want to miss! We have a very special guest this week! This week, we talk to our great friend and benefactor, Andy! He shares his story of being a highly functional alcoholic for many many years, his bottom, and how he juggles sobriety, family, work and life today!! Andy is always giving back and passing on the message of hope and recovery to the still suffering alcoholic. In fact, this podcast would not exist the way it does today without him! Looking to grow an...
Lynn shares her First Thought Wrong—its about Sean cakes y’all! Can’t miss it! All the people pleasers in the house, raise your hands! This week we talk about people pleasing and how it’s actually a destructive and dishonest behavior. A behavior we sometimes learned in childhood to survive. A behavior that became a tool we used in active addiction to get what we want. A habit now in recovery that is very difficult to break! Check out our episode and share with us your people pleasing stories on ...
Chelsea gives us a GREAT first thought wrong this week! No funny title for this one because it is exactly what it is! Many of us deal with fear of change--before recovery, while newly sober and even in recovery. God is always giving us opportunities to grow and growth is usually the product of change! Why are we afraid in the first place? How do we walk through the fear? Fear as a practice? Really? vacuums
We have Michelle AKA Slugger pinch hitting for Sweet Bre this week. Topic HALT - HUNGRY, ANGRY, LONELY, TIRED Slugger shares her First Thought Wrong Working through a work frustration with the magical pause that is tattooed to her body! Vikki's First Thought Wrong is about letting loose on her feelings, and doesn't use the magical pause button. Some tools we discuss are pause button, identifying feelings, journaling, feelings wheel and getting back to the basics. Change a thought, move a muscle!...
Why can't you just stop drinking? Who has heard this question before? First Thought Wrong: Drama getting you down...too much netflix affecting Sweet Bre. Definition of willpower : the ability to control one's own actions, emotions, or urges Alcoholics can't stop drinking through willpower alone: they need to alter behavior … that triggers the impulse to drink.— James Atlas Age old question: willpower, do alcoholics have it or not? This week we talk all about willpower. How did we assert it while...
First thought wrong was at Dr. Bob’s house….Lynn & Vikki had a tiff. Backseat driving, meets rocking chairs. Visit to PA to hang and record with our favorite Donna. Donna shares how she had to learn gratitude at the beginning, that it was building a muscle given to her from great sponsorship. And continues to be a working part of her recovery. Definition corner: Gratitude is a strong feeling of appreciation. Appreciation recognition and enjoyment of the good qualities of someone or something...
A compelling episode of healing, forgiveness and hope from the lens of the loved one of the alcoholic/addict. Our guest and dear friend of the podcast, Cindy shares her story of healing and hope for the family members affected by the disease. She explains how she had to make some difficult decisions for her family during the storm of active addiction. Sharing how she hit her personal wall of desperation and got the help she needed in Alanon. A beautiful story that shows how self care, faith, lov...
A great friend of the podcast (that we met through the quarantine and online meetings), Nancy DeLong, sits in this week to share her experience, strength & hope with us and how she's been able to sustain 37 years of continuous sobriety. We hear about days in the carnival, days of recovery and how she maintains her recovery. Nancy is an inspiration and a ton of fun! We are not a glum lot! www.nancydelong.com "I am a writer. I’ve been writing all of my life. In fact, I was probably holding a p...
