When working with my clients, I have found that people who are interested in personal development also usually take the choices they make seriously. They want to make sure the choices they are making line up with the vision that they have for the person they would like to be. As a general rule this is a good and useful approach to making choices. The problem comes when they feel like they have to justify every choice they make AND if they don't have a clear justification for the choice, then it ...
Nov 11, 2020•15 min•Ep. 487
When life is going well, we do not tend to notice all of the many aspects of our lives that we do not control. But when life isn't going as planned, it is all to easy to feel overwhelmed and chaotic. At this particular moment in history lots of us are feeling overwhelmed by the uncertainty we are all feeling. This week I have a simple tap-along for those times when you feel uncertain. You can find the full tapping script of this audio as a pdf over at Tapping Q and A Podcast Scripts and Transcri...
Nov 04, 2020•15 min•Ep. 486
Because of everything going on in the world at the moment, my theory is that we are all paying a 20% energy tax from the moment we get up. It's as if we are losing 20% of our energy before we have even started the day because of the underlying feelings of worry and overwhelm. Some days these feelings are at the front of our minds and hearts, other days they're constantly playing in the background. At some point these long term energy and emotional leaks add up and we just hit an emotional or ene...
Oct 28, 2020•15 min•Ep. 485
There are times when things go wrong and then there are times when things REALLY go wrong. The week of recording this podcast my website was down for a number of days and I was unable to access my email. I experienced a range of strong emotions around the situation including feeling frustrated, maddened and overwhelmed. This week's podcast contains the tapping you can do when life is going very wrong. As well as tapping for the big picture "things are going very wrong" issue, I have also include...
Oct 21, 2020•19 min•Ep. 484
Many of us have a love/hate relationship with social media. One one hand I genuinely love how easy social media makes it to stay connected to my friends and family from all over the world. It's great to be able to see what they are up to. I love seeing their kids grow up and I love being able to share a joke across the country and across the world. At the same time, looking at the seemingly perfect pictures others post on social media about all the good times they are having can be perilous. Thi...
Oct 14, 2020•14 min•Ep. 483
The more time I spend studying the human body, the more its complexity amazes me. We are a combination of biological functions, thoughts, beliefs, memories, and an entire pharmacy of biochemistry that is released and absorbed by our bodies based on a whole host of factors. Even though our system is so complex, it does work in predictable ways and this is true for the way we experience and remember trauma. Understanding how these processes work makes it easier to use tapping to create healing and...
Oct 07, 2020•37 min•Ep. 482
The most common reason that most people don't tap on their own is because they don't know what words to say. Nearly everyone is taught to tap using words, so this preoccupation is understandable. In this podcast Gwyneth Moss and I have a conversation that has completely changed the way that I teach tapping and how I encourage most people to tap on their own. The best part about it is that it doesn't require you to come up with any words or phrases, which makes it easier to tap. Much of what Gwyn...
Sep 30, 2020•44 min•Ep. 481
You have been there before. You're trying to make a positive change in your life, such as giving up sweets. The first day is hard. The second is harder. The third day, for some unknown reason, is really easy. You feel awesome. You are making progress. Real change is happening! But then along comes day four… You come home from work and find yourself eating one little piece of candy. You think, “This is no big deal. It is only one piece.” Before you know it, one piece turns into two, then four, an...
Sep 25, 2020•18 min•Ep. 480
When we are tapping for a specific issue it can often feel as if there is a small bit of it remaining that we can't quite put our finger on. It seems like a shadow of the issue hanging around in the background, rather than the issue itself. When this happens it is hard to know which phrases to tap on to resolve the last little bit of the issue. In this week's podcast I share the process I use when the SUDs level is at a 2 or less. You can learn it in just 30 seconds and will find it easy to repe...
Sep 16, 2020•9 min•Ep. 479
Chronic issues can be some of the most difficult to address with tapping and EFT because usually there is no obvious root cause. The physical ailments can begin months or even years after the trauma occurred and since it's hard to know when the issue began, we don't have a clear target for our tapping. In this conversation Dr. Peta Stapleton shares why trauma can create chronic issues and how to tap effectively for these issues using their physical symptoms. Her perspective is informed by the ea...
Sep 09, 2020•31 min•Ep. 478
Recently I have changed my mind about making bad choices. Instead of feeling frustrated with myself, I have decided to embrace occasionally making bad choices as long as I make them in a conscious way. Strangely this decision has been helping me to make better, healthier choices! In this week's podcast I explore why I am allowing myself to make poor or unhealthy choices, why it ultimately helps me to make better choices, and I have also included a tap-along to support these choices. You can find...
Sep 02, 2020•15 min•Ep. 477
Tapping and EFT are powerful tools that can be used for so many different issues it can be difficult to know exactly where to start. The part of us that wants to get our tapping "exactly right" means that sometimes we don't tap because we want to avoid tapping on the "wrong thing". Over the last few months I have changed the way that I tap to start my day. My process takes less than 10 minutes, but by doing it every morning I ensure that I get my day off on the right foot. Using the process help...
Aug 26, 2020•8 min•Ep. 476
When we are describing ourselves (or when others are describing us) we identify with a whole host of different characteristics. You might be known as a hard worker, a caring person, a great wit, or a loyal friend. Some of these characteristics are aspirational, some are from the ways others describe us, and others may have been picked up from our families and cultures of origin. These characteristics aren't bad in themselves because they help us to understand ourselves and often give us somethin...
Aug 19, 2020•15 min•Ep. 475
Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series . I like to check in with my email newsletter readers to find out what struggles they are facing with tapping so that I can create the most useful resources possible. The majority of the response...
Aug 12, 2020•16 min•Ep. 474
Personally, I think one of the most important discoveries in the study of trauma is the recognition that trauma has the ability to be passed from generation to generation through our genetic code. In the most basic terms it means that if one of our parents has a fear of water because of a traumatic instance in their life it is very likely we will have the same fear because it is in our DNA. The good news is, just because it is in our DNA doesn't mean we are stuck with it forever. It just require...
Aug 05, 2020•40 min•Ep. 473
Especially for beginners, and sometimes for more skilled tappers, knowing what to say and where to start is often the part of tapping that trips people up. Just because we recognize the fact that the words themselves aren't magic and that there is no such thing as the perfect tapping phase, does not mean it's easy to start when we are experiencing a lot of mixed emotions all at once. In this conversation Nancy Forester and I talk about a number of approaches and tools that you can use to start y...
Jul 29, 2020•45 min•Ep. 472
Receive 50% off Mastering the Art of Delivery by using the coupon code "podcast" http://TappingArtOfDelivery.com The two most common questions asked by those new to tapping are "Does tapping work?" and "How do we know tapping works?" As someone who loves tapping, it's great that I can share my personal first hand experience of tapping, but for some people it just isn't enough. In this conversation David Feinstein and I talk about six criteria to determine whether or not tapping works. Then we mo...
Jul 22, 2020•36 min•Ep. 471
One of my favorite parts of the tapping community is people's willingness to share their experience and expertise. A few months ago I sent an email to a number of practitioners I admire and asked them if they would be willing to share their wisdom about the following: What lessons have clients taught you about healing? What is something you have changed your mind about when it comes to healing, working with clients, or your own transformation process? If you were to start your own healing journe...
Jul 17, 2020•20 min•Ep. 470
Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series . When we take an action we usually have an expectation about how it will work out. When I order lunch, my expectation is that the food will be tasty. When I launch a new product in my business, ...
Jul 08, 2020•18 min•Ep. 469
As someone who knows a lot about tapping, it's natural to want to share that knowledge with others, but sometimes we don't have the opportunity. This is especially true when dealing with a crisis in the moment, when we are working with children, or both. In this podcast Jondi Whitis and I talk about how to approach either of these situations and she shares strategies to avoid over-explaining or attempting to do too much, plus a simple formula for how we can be most helpful in the moment. The con...
Jul 01, 2020•40 min•Ep. 468
Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series . One of the human experiences that cuts us the deepest is being ignored or dismissed as unimportant by whose attention we most want. The pain can come from being ignored by our friends, our fami...
Jun 24, 2020•21 min•Ep. 467
The murder of George Floyd and the ongoing protests at centuries of racial injustice have galvinized many to speak truth more forcefully in their daily lives. One of those people is my friend J Nycole Ralph. As J Nycole was processing her own emotions, she realized that she was being more impacted by the death of another black American AND she wasn't standing up in as powerful a way she wanted to. To that end, she created a process called The CREATE Method. It stands for C – Claim that you feel ...
Jun 17, 2020•32 min•Ep. 466
The phrase "sticks and stones can break my bones, but words will never hurt me" is often taught to us as children. As adults, we know this isn't true. It would be great if what other people said about us didn't have the power to hurt us, but we are doing ourselves a disservice by pretending it doesn't. Here is a simple 3-step process to tease out the reason why certain words hurt more than others and help you to identify the source of the hurt. Is it the words themselves, who is saying them, or ...
Jun 15, 2020•7 min•Ep. 465
Before doing this I didn't understand the difference between compassion fatigue and burnout. I thought compassion fatigue was just a specific type of burnout experienced by helpers and healers. In reality, compassion fatigue is not only different, but can be much more serious than burnout. To understand compassion fatigue more I interviewed licensed mental health professional Robin Bilazarian. Robin has experience of working with countless clients who are in danger of being traumatized by workin...
Jun 10, 2020•38 min•Ep. 464
Do you sometimes hold yourself back from making choices because of concern about how they may impact those around you? It is good to be thoughtful about how your actions affect others, but we can't allow this to dictate our choices. If we put everyone else's needs first, we will never be able to take care of ourselves, and chances are that nobody else will do that for us. This tapping is a simple guide to help us to be thoughtful about how our choices impact others, but without allowing that tho...
Jun 08, 2020•14 min•Ep. 463
Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series . Wanting to fit in and belong is a basic human desire, not a failure. It's natural to want others to like and accept us and to appreciate the work that we do. Because of this fundamental desire ...
Jun 03, 2020•19 min•Ep. 462
In May 2014 I was lucky enough to be invited to join the group Empowering The Philippines in teaching EFT Tapping to the residents of Tacloban City and the surrounding areas. Six months earlier the region had been ravaged by Super Typhoon Haiyan (called Yolanda in the Philippines), displacing four million people and leaving one million homes damaged or destroyed. Our days in the Philippines were split between teaching local people how to use tapping to deal with their experience of the typhoon, ...
Jun 01, 2020•55 min•Ep. 461
I often hear my clients say "I should have known better" OR "I know better, but for some reason I keep making the same choice" when they are judging their actions. Just knowing what the right choice is doesn't mean we will make it, because information alone is not enough. Most of the reasons we don't make the right choice or take the right action, even though we know intellectually what we want to do, have to do with our emotional state. In almost every case, emotions will win out over reason. T...
May 27, 2020•19 min•Ep. 460
In response to everything that is going on the world my friends Jennifer Carey and Dayna Wood have been doing a video show three times a week called "Connected and Conscious". On the show they ask their friends and colleagues how they are staying healthy, focused, and happy during this time of great upheaval and uncertainty. In addition to talking about how the guests are taking care of themselves, they also offer a gift in every episode in the shape of a tool that the audience can use right awa...
May 25, 2020•43 min•Ep. 459
Note: This podcast is a part of the Healing Fundamentals series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series . A significant amount of my time tapping with clients is spent looking into the past. We identify and examine the past experiences and beliefs that have shaped the way that the subconscious infl...
May 20, 2020•20 min•Ep. 458
