New York City is a wacky place. One of the things that I have encountered firsthand is how amazingly different the dating scene is here compared with other cities. First, there are millions of people, many of whom are single, which vastly increases the pool of potential dates. Second, everyone is very busy so dates can be short (and feel a bit rushed) because everyone seems to have less time. Third, because of the first two points, people move on to the next prospective suitor more quickly than ...
May 18, 2020•19 min•Ep. 457
Note: This podcast is a part of the Fundamental Disposition series. The topics covered in this series move beyond the basics of tapping to understanding the healing process. By understanding these fundamentals you will be able to get more out of your tapping faster. Make sure you check out the whole series . Last week a client asked me, "Why do you make me tap on that phrase all the time? Is it something you see in me that makes you think we need to tap on it?" I reassured her that it had nothin...
May 13, 2020•20 min•Ep. 456
Just because we have a to-do list filled with useful tasks doesn't mean that we will actually have a productive day. Sometimes we waste our time on tasks that aren't even on our list, or we complete tasks on our list that are not the most valuable ones. Being busy is not necessarily the same thing as being productive. Here is a simple tapping tool I use every morning to ensure that I actually do the tasks on my to-do list AND I do the most valuable ones. Support the podcast! Subscribe in: Apple ...
May 11, 2020•12 min•Ep. 455
Recently I was working with a client on the grief she was feeling at missing so many experiences she loves during quarantine. As we were debriefing after a round of tapping she said: "While we were tapping on the grief I noticed all of these other pools of grief that were inside me from the past. As we tapped it was almost as if the wall between those pools of grief broke, the grief combined, and they all released together." Even though this was the first time I had heard this experience describ...
May 07, 2020•15 min•Ep. 454
The world is a very big place and when we think of how we can make an impact on the world and everything going on in it, we can feel awfully small. In reality, our small gestures and ways of being in the world and how we interact with others can have a significant impact. Recognizing that our choices do make a difference make those helpful choices easier. This tap-along will help you to be a peacemaker in your world, which will ripple outwards and make a bigger impact. You can find the full tapp...
May 04, 2020•10 min•Ep. 453
Most choices aren't black and white, so being of two minds is a common experience. There are pros and cons to both outcomes. On the finale of this season's Project Runway (US version), one of the contestants, Victoria Cocieru, was struggling with which direction to take with her designs. She said, "In my brain I have a thousand little brains and they are fighting with each other." I find that a very evocative way of thinking about the problem. This week's podcast explores and taps for struggling...
Apr 29, 2020•16 min•Ep. 452
Most of us spend at least half of our day at work. Because work consumes so much of our time and attention, stress from the working day can easily spill over into the rest of our lives. This week's podcast provides a tool that will help you to leave work at work. This tool applies to all types of work, no matter how many hours you work, and whether you travel to a workplace or work from home. It takes less than three minutes to do and will not only ensure you leave work stress at work, but will ...
Apr 27, 2020•7 min•Ep. 451
Family is complicated. Because they are family we want what is best for them. But at the same time we put up with more from them than we'd put up with from others because they are family. We will allow our family to say and do things that we would not tolerate from anyone else in our lives. This can cause an internal conflict. How can we be a loving family member whilst at the same time not want to be around the person? This week's podcast explores and taps for: family relationships how to want ...
Apr 22, 2020•18 min•Ep. 450
One of the most difficult parts of the healing process is being able to forgive ourselves. It's common to believe that if we forgive ourselves, we are letting ourselves off the hook and failing to take responsibility for our past choices. Self-forgiveness is actually the opposite of this. Being able to move to a place of forgiveness means we are taking responsibility for the past and making sure it stays in the past. When we don't forgive, we're just reliving the past over and over again. This t...
Apr 20, 2020•13 min•Ep. 449
These uncertain times mean that our emotional guidance system is on overdrive. It is working nonstop to keep us safe because it's dealing with the unknown. That means we're expending energy all day long in the background as our emotional system tries to protect us. It's like we are starting off every day paying a 20% emotion tax, meaning that we only have 80% of our usual reserves and resilience. This podcast explores: the impact of the 20% emotion tax how to structure your work and to-do lists ...
Apr 15, 2020•26 min•Ep. 448
One of the most common issues I uncover in my client sessions is the feeling of not being worthy to be here. It's seldom the main issue my clients present when we start working together, but as we work we find instances from their past where they felt dismissed or ignored by the people who were important to them. This creates a feeling of not believing you are worthy to be here at this moment. Here is a simple tap-along that will help you to recognize that you are worthy and valuable! You can fi...
Apr 13, 2020•5 min•Ep. 447
The most primitive part of our emotional guidance system is our fear response. Fear's primary goal is to keep us from dying. I know that sounds like an overstatement, but this is exactly how it functions. Of course it's good that part of our internal guidance is on alert and doesn't want us to die, but in the modern word just because we fear something doesn't mean there are fatal consequences. Because of this, our fear can often get out of proportion. When we are acting out of fear we don't make...
Apr 08, 2020•16 min•Ep. 446
While past choices may have contributed to your present, they do not mean that what comes next is predetermined. It is all too easy to feel trapped by both past choices and your current situation BUT they do not define who we are or who we can choose to be. In this short tapping audio we place ourselves at a fresh starting point. This audio is lifted directly from a client session, with my client's permission. I have also edited out my client's voice so that you can tap along as if you are worki...
Apr 06, 2020•11 min•Ep. 445
Grief is a much more common emotion than we might think. It is obvious that we feel grief when a loved one dies, or when an important relationship or job ends. In reality, grief shows up any time we experience a loss. This could be for an opportunity, an ability, or even something as simple as a predictable daily routine. For the large changes it is easy to recognize grief. For smaller changes it is much harder. We often dismiss the feelings of grief as agitation, tiredness, or just being off ki...
Apr 01, 2020•14 min•Ep. 444
When I was younger I had a hard time accepting the idea that God could love me unconditionally. I believed that I had to earn God's unconditional love. Meaning that I wasn't understanding that unconditional means unconditional, aka it doesn't have to be earned! Here's an audio from a client session where we tapped for accepting unconditional love. My client gave me permission to use this recording and I have removed his voice so you can tap along as if you were tapping one-on-one with me. You ca...
Mar 30, 2020•14 min•Ep. 443
Sometimes we find inspiration in the strangest places. A few weeks ago I attended the On Air Fest, an event for podcast creators and podcast fans. One of my favorite presentations was given by Shima Oliaee who was one of the producers for Dolly Parton's America . During the presentation Shima shared a number of lessons she learned from interviewing Dolly and working on the project. Dolly is clearly a woman who feels deeply. When talking about how she deals with positive and negative emotions she...
Mar 25, 2020•15 min•Ep. 442
Our initial emotional response to a major crisis like the COVID-19 pandemic is with feelings of shock, worry, and overwhelm. At a certain point, the initial shock wears off and we move on to what I call second wave emotions that arise as we contemplate what is next and the future. Here are 7 tap-along audios for second wave emotions. They are: Going stir-crazy (4:42) Not having any personal space (7:44) Feeling isolated and alone (10:40) Mourning the loss of many activities we love (14:52) Not f...
Mar 23, 2020•32 min•Ep. 441
After sharing 40 minutes of tapping on Friday I asked my listeners and readers what other topics would be useful for me to cover. In today's new audio we tap for the following topics: Fear of the unknown (4:13) Fear about how long this will last (7:24) Fear for our most vulnerable loved ones (10:24) Feeling like life is out of control (13:17) Sorrow over the loss of normalcy (17:04) The physical and emotional fatigue from the constant worry (21:35) Worry about not having enough supplies (25:43) ...
Mar 16, 2020•36 min•Ep. 440
You might not know that I am the lead coach in a program called the Transformational BizClub (BizClub for short) which is a program run by my friend Pamela Bruner. The BizClub is setup to help business owners grow their business through strategic help and mindset work (lots of tapping). Friday morning in our Facebook group there were a number of members who were, rightly, sharing their concerns about what is going on in the world and with their businesses. I asked Pamela if it was okay if we did...
Mar 14, 2020•43 min•Ep. 439
At the time of the recording of this podcast the COVID-19 virus is starting to impact daily life around the world. The number of cases is spreading. Sporting events are being canceled. People are being encouraged not to travel. Because of the constant stream of news and information on our social media feeds, it is easy to feel panicked. This panic is rooted in two factors. The first is the fear about getting sick. The second is the fear caused by knowing we can't do anything about the big pictur...
Mar 11, 2020•14 min•Ep. 438
The most common question I hear about tapping is "Will tapping work for [insert issue]?" The second most common question is "What are the right tapping phrases to use for [insert issue]?" I understand why that question is so often asked. In most tapping trainings you are taught that your tapping phrases need to be as specific as possible to get the most out of tapping. This concern is compounded when you hear an experienced tapper effortlessly come up with what seem to be the perfect phrases. In...
Mar 09, 2020•6 min•Ep. 437
Pride is on the list of the seven deadly sins and whether explicitly and implicitly, our culture discourages us from displaying pride or egotism. Instead, we are taught to do our work and keep our heads down. It is true that some people have outsized egos that cause them (and others) problems, but just because there are egomaniacs in the world doesn't mean that we shouldn't feel pride. Feeling a sense of pride in our work and our capabilities is healthy. It helps us to stay motivated and continu...
Mar 04, 2020•21 min•Ep. 436
Multiple studies have shown that stating clear goals makes it more likely that we will be successful. They help us to stay on track and maintain our focus. But simply having goals is not enough. At one extreme it is easy to become disconnected from our goals because they are too abstract. At the other, we can find ourselves in a situation where we are so focused on our exact goals that we miss other opportunities. This week's podcast explores the one simple idea that you can add to any named goa...
Mar 02, 2020•13 min•Ep. 435
One of the keys to effective tapping is having an emotion to tap for, but sometimes we aren't able to feel anything deeply. We may feel numb or ambivalent and even though these two experiences are not the same, they have much in common. This week's podcast will give you strategies for tapping when you find yourself in a state where you feel disconnected from your emotions. It includes two separate tap-alongs for each of these sensations. You can find both tapping scripts as downloadable pdfs ove...
Feb 26, 2020•20 min•Ep. 434
One of the most difficult ideas that my clients wrestle with is that of forgiveness and I have found that they often lack a clear understanding of what forgiveness is and what it is not. When we forgive someone else it can feel like we are saying it is okay, that they don't have to take responsibility for their actions, or that they are allowed to hurt us again. This is NOT what forgiveness is! Instead forgiveness is the process of choosing no longer to be stuck in the past emotionally. In this ...
Feb 24, 2020•17 min•Ep. 433
The tool that I use the most often from my hypnosis training while doing tapping and EFT is metaphor. The subconscious mind often works in imagery as a way of presenting struggle, trauma, and limiting beliefs. Since this is the language of the subconscious mind, it makes sense that when we are doing work on this level that we would use metaphor as well. In this episode I share with you: How I understand metaphor How our subconscious mind uses it How we can use metaphor to create faster transform...
Feb 19, 2020•25 min•Ep. 432
The majority of the issues that I work on with my clients have something to do with the people in their lives. Sometimes the issue concerns someone we interact with now, and at other times it is about the limiting beliefs people have given us in the past. The struggle with issues that have to do with someone else is that we can't change another person and we can't take responsibility for their transformation. And even if someone else wanted us to take on their transformation and we were willing ...
Feb 17, 2020•15 min•Ep. 431
When I am asking my clients why they have made certain past choices, they often say something like, "I don't know. I just had this gut feeling." OR "I just had this sense of intuition that it was the right thing to do." I know exactly what this sensation feels like because I experience it all the time when I am working with clients and also when I am making decisions about my life. But I don't believe in intuition – well, at least not in the way most people understand it. When we define our intu...
Feb 12, 2020•20 min•Ep. 430
[Note: This is part 10 of a 10-part series on using EFT/Tapping for weight release with a new article or podcast being added every 10 days. The complete series can be found @ weight release series .] Tapping can be used to help manage the functions and systems of our bodies where our systems can often be over- or under-functioning. Here is a great little tool I use to help tune into the body to gain a sense of how it is working and how we can tap to improve its function. It is called a scoreboar...
Feb 10, 2020•13 min•Ep. 429
I have always found the law of attraction's teaching of "visualizing a positive outcome and somehow the universe will just magically make it happen" a little suspect. My doubt was a prompt for me to do some research and when looking into visualizing an outcome without action, this is what I found: During the course of four experiments, Kappes and Oettingen demonstrated that conjuring positive fantasies of success drains the energy out of ambition. When we imagine having reached what we want, our...
Feb 06, 2020•16 min•Ep. 428
