The Dating Game

like navigating for a minute now. And whether that be with a significant other or a sister relationship or a friendship or your mom or dad, like, I don't know, I feel like we just like we always bring this up in our topics of conversation. So yeah, yeah, I feel like, you know, you're the one person that I go to for relationship advice. Um, even though like even if you haven't experienced it, I just feel like you

give the best advice for everything. Really yeah, I feel like, well, I never talked to you about really anything other than getting advice from you, which is so weird because even though I'm older, I feel like Kenzie gives extremely good advice or she's a good like comfort buddy, Like I can open up to you, and you know what to do. And you're so straightforward that you kind of just like tell me how it is. You know, you don't sugarcoat anything.

It's just very like straightforward already, like just flat out just how you're feeling. And I feel like that's extremely important to having each other so we can really, you know, uh, let go or feel confident to have a space, safe space to talk. In my opinion, yeah, I mean I love the relationship that you're in. You do, I do. I hope you get Mary. Oh my gosh, Okay, well I don't even I just I think about that stuff

with you guys. But um, yeah, I just feel like that's funny you say that because literally today is my two year anniversary. Oh my gosh, yeah, aniversary. You could tell me that yesterday. Yeah, I congrats. I it's actually so crazy, Like for the longest time, I was like, Maddie's never going to be in a relationship because you were just so focused on you know, work and everything else, and you were just like, yeah, I don't need anyone

in my life. I feel like you. First of all, we're like we're talking like us at the age of twelve and literally so young, we're babies, but you were Kenzie, you were born boy crazy before I really was like Kenzie had her eye on people at probably the age of six, she was ready to go. She was like, but I like, I've had a lot of boyfriends, but I I know, but like I never was like I'm going to spend the rest of my life with a total listen. Like it was more just like everyone's dating.

All my friends are dating, so like, oh my gosh, Kenzie bloomed before I know. Oh my god. Um yeah, no, I mean for me personally because we are so young, and like, of course, the mentality for me is just like I want to be with someone that makes me happy. I want to spend as much time as I can, Like obviously, why mess it up if there's nothing to mess up, in my opinion, And I just feel like, obviously we're so young, we have our whole lives ahead

of us. But I'm just trying to enjoy every moment I can while it lasts and you never know what will happen. I think. What's also what I um, I love about your relationship is that it's not so public to the point where they know you know everything about your relationship, and I like I've made that mistake many times with my past relationships, and it's just it completely

ruins it. Not I mean not completely, but it just you know, people are trying to make assumptions, and people are trying to you know, hate on your significant other, and it's it's just a pain because it's just like, I don't understand why these people won't want me to

be happy so exactly. Well, also, you have to deal with the consequences of if something bad happens or if it ends, whether it be good or bad, it's publicized, and people feel that they we owe them an explanation as to why we broke up, and I totally understand because we're the ones that put it out in the first place, where like this is a relationship, we give

kind of like an inside to what it is. So then the second it's all taken away, everyone's like, wait, wait, wait, I deserve to know, like I was invested in this relationship just as much as you were. You know what I'm saying on a clearly a different level. But my my relationship now is super public, but not to the point where they know, you know, there's not YouTube videos,

there's not everything like my past relationships. But Kenzie, like your relationship, like you said, you guys make TikTok together and you post on Instagram together, but it's not like you said, you're making a full explained to YouTube video, just being like this is everything which about us I did. And then we're young and we're going to make those mistakes, you know. But seriously, if you want to make your relationship of like, go ahead. We're not telling you it's

something wrong, but that's just how we feel. Yeah. I think that's just like from trial and error, that's just worked so far for us. We're so young, we have so much to learn. We have not figured it out yet, but obviously now more than ever, we have gotten into a rhythm of what works for us, and that could

change over time. But uh yeah, and I think for me, Kenzie, like at first when we started dating, it felt very like we're going to keep this so private, we're not going to tell anyone, And then eventually I was just like, oh, well, we have such a cute photo together. I just want to put this out because it makes me happy. You know. That's how it should be, exactly like you should do

what makes you happy. If you like a photo. If you like a video of you two together, post it for you and not for anyone else but your relationship and your friends. Like it's fun to start to see our relationships. Um, how do you feel about my relationship right now? I will say that right now, I approve of Kenzie's really sationship more than I ever have. Yes,

we love Dakota. He's so nice. Um, I I'm so happy for you because you genuinely seem happy in this relationship, and I as a sister, as a bigger sister, I feel so proud to not have to worry about you. You're gonna make me cry. No, I'm not doing this right now. Wait? Really? Yeah, okay, let me calm down. Are you on your period? No, I'm not only period. I am whoa, this is t M. I don't know why we're talking about this. Okay, let's just skip. I know, I just I care about you so much and I

just want to protect you. And I feel like you weren't protected in the past in terms of like you know, I just I didn't necessarily love them as people as much. But your boyfriend now is so sweet. He takes such good care of your dog. He's so hilarious and weird, and I feel like he's brought out an even weirder

side in you, and that makes me happy. And I feel like it's so important to our overall happiness to be in a happy relationship, like because obviously, being in a good relationship that translates into everything in your life. And when you feel confident and comfortable and safe in that relationship, you don't have to stress about it while you're at work, or you don't have to stress about

it while you're with your friends. You know, it's just something that naturally is in the back of your mind and it's like, Okay, this is great, this is chill.

I feel great, right. I was super hesitant to get into another relationship because, you know, I fully got cheated on on the internet, and that was super hard because I thought to myself, I'm never going to love anyone again, like I and also I and I don't want to speak for you, but I feel like a part of you felt extremely embarrassed that this had to be one publicized.

But too, you had a bunch of girls reaching out to you saying, hey, like I, you know, got with your boyfriend and I'm sorry to tell you, but it happened, and it's it's it's like a denial thing. You don't want to know that. No, you don't want to make that real. You don't want to make that a reality exactly. But I'm past it. Kenzy's on the other side of it now and she's living best life. You guys could

see my answer. Oh my gosh, um, I guess like to flip it, like, how do you like deal with arguments? Are just like what's it called? Like, how do you deal with disagreements? Disagreements? Well, what's good about my relationship? Like my boyfriend he is so calm about everything, So when we do get into an argument, we just sit down and talk it out, and you know, I tell him why I think whatever he's doing wrong, and we just kind of it's a mutual thing and then it

ends up being fine. We never screamed each other. It's never a full blown thing because there's just no point if it's something so silly, because the things that we argue about are stupid, like they're all dumb, they don't mean anything, and so there's no point in getting into

a full blown argument over it. For sure. I think for me, uh and I feel like Kenza, you definitely see this just in every whether it be like my relationship with you or mom or Eddie, is that I bottle all of my feelings too and out of nowhere, one day it just all explodes. Not crazy like I never you know, act out, but I'll have either like

just a really bad breakdown one day. And I think while being with Eddie, I've learned to address how I'm feeling in the moment so that there is no uh like complications or there isn't a miscommunication, because that can happen a lot. If he's feeling a certain way in the moment, he just opens up to me and then we address it straight away and get on with our day and it's great. And so I've really try to implement that into my life because it's helped me so much.

And it's extremely important that you're transparent with your partner, even with friendships, like I I learned to, you know, before I was just ignoring the you know, the arguments that my friends and I were getting into, or the you know, I have a strong feeling about something and I don't want to say anything because I'm a people pleaser, like I I have learned now that if you know, I feel that my friend is ignoring me, or if we're getting into fights over stupid things, I have learned

now to address it because I don't want to lose any of my friends. It's when you want to maintain a friendship, it's important to tackle the problem straight away so that there's no uh. I guess, like outbreaks, whether it be a week later, a month later, five months later, because that's extremely possible. It happens, for sure. Do you

think you can meet the one at a young age? Definitely, I I've seen it, Like I think for us, you know, our example growing up was our parents divorced when I was six and Kenzie was four, and I most most of our friends don't really have or at least for me, a lot of my friend's parents are not together anymore. And I think that's just a very common thing nowadays,

is for kids to grow up with divorced parents. And I look at it now, well, how I used to look at it was like, sorry, I'm straying away, but I promise I'm going to get there. And then I understand how I looked at it when I was younger is because we went through that, and it was extremely hard on us because we couldn't really understand it. At the time. I was like, I will do everything in my power to make sure that I have one marriage

only which could happen. But I also now I'm realizing, like things happen in life, and when I end up being with the one or you know, get married, it's okay if it doesn't go as planned, If that makes sense, I definitely. I definitely think when we were younger, we fantasize about just getting married and just being happy, and it's like, now that we're grown up, we have understood that that's sometimes how it's it's not going to be like that. And it's crazy because we're literally still babies

and we have our whole lives ahead of us. We still marriage, we have forever. We're literally so far away from marriage. But back to the real question which you asked me, which was do you think you can beat

the one at a young age? I think definitely yes. Uh, Like, my boyfriend's parents have been together since they were I want to say, around our age, and they've been married for like, like, oh were, thirty years and there in love and it's the cutest thing ever and I look up to that so much, and it's so nice to see that because Eddie has such a great example of a relationship and how to maintain one and stay in love.

And I think it's really beautiful that he had that growing up and now he implements that into our relationship. And yeah, it's just you can't predict. But I am having the best time with Eddie and I don't want it to end, you know. Okay, I need to say something really fast though, because this is really funny. When I first when I first met Eddie or like Eddie would come over to our house, Maddie and Eddie were

best friends, like they were nothing. We were wedated other people. Yeah, they were like Maddie would go to him for a relationship advice, like that is so weird. And and then like I don't know, a few months was it, or like a year, I don't know. We were friends over year. They were friends for a long time, and she was like she called me one day was like I think I like Eddie and I was like no. I was like please no, because you know, when you get so close to like I was getting closer to him as

just a big brother figure. Um, and like, it's the same thing if I dated one of my guy friends, Like that is weird. But at first for me, it was like really strange because I was just like, you guys are so alike and I don't know how it's gonna work, and we're extremely different. Now I see that, but at the beginning it was just you two weirdos, just but it literally it makes so much sense. And I now I'm like, how are you guys ever friends?

And you guys are so in love with each other and you guys have always been I have told you from what day one. I was like, I know, you guys are like each other, and you would deny it. Well, everyone called it before we did, like literally every single one of the it you knew, don't lie like I know, of course I did. I it took me a minute, I think also because when you're in other relationships, like

you wouldn't even think that. And then once we both kind of ended that, we were like, oh, Okay, this is like definitely happening, and it's been a thing for It's been a thought in our brains for a while. I'm honestly so glad that you know Eddie's in your life because also he's such a great big brother to me. He's so protective. He's so protective. He gives me the best advice and he always knows what I'm sad, and it really freaks me out, but he does. He comes

into my room. I don't see him for two weeks. He's like, why are you sad? And I'm like, I don't know how you know that, but thank you. Um, but yeah, he he's genuinely like my big brother and I love him so much. That makes me so happy. You don't understand that, Like, I'm so happy that and and I think my favorite part is this is the first time, like actually that me and you can hang out with our boyfriends together as a group and we have such a good time because I used to yell

at your ex boyfriends. Kenzie is sassy and she like was so she had no filter. She if they were like acting in some sort of way. She was like, don't you dare talk to my sister. Though it was great, it was amazing, like this little girl, this little eleven year old, just like screaming, just doing her thing. And I have admired you for that so much, And I'm like,

I wish I could do that. I feel like one day, whether it doesn't even have to be a relationship, it could be like a friend anyone You've also yelled at one of my friends before, I have, I have. Yeah, when it comes to you, I just anyone, I won't. You can't. Yeah, I know. It's it's a feeling that we can't explain. But of course, like any friend or sister out there knows that when you love someone so much,

you'll do anything to protect them. It's definitely a blessing and a curse because sometimes sometimes you can because sometimes I literally can't control it, and then I I end up messing things up. So but back to the back to the thing we rambled too much. What were we even talking about? Oh, that's a good question. How we

can hang out with our boyfriends together. It's because, like, especially if we're all just being lazy and we want to hang out in your room, they will play video games, or they'll play or they'll go outside and skate, or they'll go surfing, and me and you will just play shims and hang out. And yeah, yeah, I just I love Eddie because I can just be so stupid with him and he's just like he's so funny. He brings out the weird and everyone everyone in the best way possible.

He has made me. I think he's definitely made me cry so many times, like laughing because he's just so funny. He's extremely You guys are funny together, though, Yeah, we guys so weird. That's a good thing, Kenzie. Always, I always be confused when you say this. This is so off topic. But even when you called me and you were like, yeah, me and my friends just like think you're awkward, and I'm like what, and you're like, no, no, no, that's a great thing. I think we talked about it

in the first we did. I was just thinking that we talked to her in the first episode. Okay, but you have to understand you're extremely confusing. Listen, we're Dylan and I are so Dylan as her friend. By the way, my best friend, Dylan and I are so weird together, and when you come and hang out with us, we're all so weird together. But the reason why I call you weird is because this is actually like relationship things.

When I would not with my boyfriend now but before when I had previous relationships, or I wouldn't bring a boy over or something. Maddie would just try her best to embarrass me. I kid you, not every single time, even if it was just a guy friend and she thought like, oh, maybe she thinks he's cute. She would come into my room. And I'm not lying. This is she would come into my room and just blast music

and start dancing. Just weird, just weird. You know you did that, right, I can confirm, Yeah, okay, um, And it would make me so uncomfortable. It would make the other persons so uncomfortable. And that is why I call you awkward because it's just like what made you think. You're sitting in your room and you're like, maybe I

should just go dance for them right now. Well, because I know I only have a short amount of time before I get kicked out, So I'm like, I have to make the most of this situation, and you just make it so awkward. But also okay, like back to the whole relationship situation for me, like this was the first time getting into my relationship now that there were

no games like going into it. There was no like if he texted me now, I have like if he texted me five minutes ago, I have to wait ten minutes to respond or that type of situation for me, like this was just full transparency going into it, and that made it so much better. Like it was very much I like you, you like me, let's do this. There was no like we should kind of like stir

up the pot at all. So how do you feel about the game situation or kind of the beforehand flirting, like how do you think it should be done personally or how what works for you? Well, yeah, I hate the game's thing, like I don't understand why you have to leave someone on red for like hours to be like, oh yeah, I'm doing this to you for a reason because I like you. It's just like it's so confusing. It makes no sense to me. Um, I I leave people on red or delivered because I don't like them,

Like that's what I do. So I'm just like so I'm just like why, I don't know. It's confusing. But yeah, with with well, it's true, like well I'm sorry, but like with Dakota, I literally just deemed him and was like hi, and how did you damn him? I said, hey, well, okay, you on him? I know, I know I made it happen. People. Yeah, but I'm a matchmaker, but with him, it was just so easy because literally that first day we facetimed, the first day we d M, we literally FaceTime and then

haven't got off FaceTime since. And I literally FaceTime every day until you met. Yeah, And so it was never we were friends at first, Like it wasn't obviously I was like, I like him, but it was it was more just me trying to figure out if you liked me or not. And then there was no games. We would talk every day and that's how it should be, if I think. I think also it's easy to get caught up in the sense that like, like the way that relationships work in terms of like it's literally our

generation is so ahead and so amazing. I feel like we need to stop addressing situations like in a dated way, if that makes sense, Like I don't want to the way that our parents probably grew up handling relationships is not how we're going to handle them. Like I think it's so good that we're ahead of it and we just like be transparent, don't hold back, just don't like

play the games. Don't think that oh if he doesn't respond, he's trying to get me to like want him more, Like why why does there have to be that that makes me turn off? Yeah, that makes me not want him anymore. But I mean everyone's different. Some people like the Chase, So I don't know. If you love the Chase, keep keep keeping to end this like, I seriously am extremely happy. Like this sounds selfish, but I'm happy for

both of us. I know that sounds kind of weird, but I'm really happy that we've both gotten into a relationship where we feel happy, safe, comforted, and just like loved, and I think we both deserve that, and that way we don't have to worry about each other as much, like we can really just trust that our relationships are going good. And I'm so grateful that you've given me such good advice about my relationship, even though you're younger

than me, and I hope I've given you something. You have given me great advice, but and you found my boyfriend. So yeah, basically you're welcome and good night, bye, good night America. Okiddy, um, but yeah, thank you guys so much for listening to this episode. I hope you related or enjoyed or whatever whatever whatever. Um, but yeah, we will see you guys or talk to you guys next time. Bye. Thanks so much for taking twenty with us. If you

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