I was thinking some people in this conversation are in their minds and not in world so much. I had the same but in reverse i was in the world but never could i be in my mind. I thought the world and mind was separate. I can see now you can be in both and more and more my mind and the world are the same. I can be in my own mind now when I need to be and watch and observe the mind with a great deal of love and compassion for it's ways
Nov 28, 2023•6 min
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Nov 27, 2023•12 min
Jim and I had a conversation in the membership group about discomfort and what it is revealing. I asked his permission to share it outside the group.
Nov 26, 2023•24 min
So good they can't ignore you: Cal Newport. Saturday book
Nov 25, 2023•14 min
I have strugrled with explosive temper resulting in lashing out.My emotinns are triggerd by feelings of injustice done towards me. I suppose by expressing anger one feels justified standing upto the injustice. If you can help with some tools as to how can the self feel ok and not express anger even in the face of injustice and how to navigate it in a better way. I feel terrible after i have lashed out and the feeling of anger is gone,also nothing actually is achieved with display of anger but in...
Nov 24, 2023•11 min
Was wondering how to recognize a difference between having personal criteria for certain things and conditioning? Is this the same thing and conditioning got a bad reputation in these conversations, always being seen as a partybreaker? Example: My criteria for an intimate relationship is with a person who can commit to a monogamous relationship. I don't see a point to inquire anything about that. To search for gifts in this.
Nov 23, 2023•10 min
Bad advice: Prioritise your mental health by... Prioritize your mental health by distancing yourself from people who create drama and toxicity in your life. Set boundaries and surround yourself with a peaceful circle that loves you, supports you, and wants the best for you.
Nov 22, 2023•14 min
Seeing and honouring the child vs finding comfort in the victim hood that our experiences seem to justify. I find this subtlety difficult. There's such a delicious sadness in my victimhood.
Nov 21, 2023•16 min
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Nov 20, 2023•11 min
On Sundays where possible I will publish conversations either with other teachers or with people on my programmes in which we look at different aspects of self and other. Today is a conversation with Piers Thurston recorded for his podcast about the nature of free will.
Nov 19, 2023•48 min
The Expectation Effect by David Robson: The Saturday book
Nov 18, 2023•6 min
I wonder what really causes beliefs to shift? Before this conversation I would have said experiential learning. Now that still looks true, but bizarrely without a learner or doer or knower
Nov 17, 2023•10 min
This I wanna ask since I read your book Ease and it really got my attention & find it powerful, but at the same time I can't get my head around it. You mentioned it again at our relationship retreat last week. It goes like : I need attention from my mother and my ignoring mother is the same thing. Can you say more to that? Is that literally the other end of the same conditioning, same content? Thank you a lot. Love you to the moon and back :)
Nov 16, 2023•11 min
Is there such a thing as freedom? Listener question
Nov 15, 2023•10 min
Is there such a thing as innate resilience and if so how do I access mine?
Nov 14, 2023•13 min
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Nov 13, 2023•8 min
I heard clearly what has confused me in conversations, mentioning "(personal) thoughts/believes" and "wisdom." What I heard was: "I was thinking about me being scared of something and when someone was in need I did the thing I was scared of." "My thinking fell away and wisdom came, so I just did it, without thinking." And now I saw, how sometimes I kind of wait for wisdom to come. But what is it? My thoughts not always look like wisdom at all and what I am doing neither 😀. So wisdom and thought...
Nov 12, 2023•10 min
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Nov 11, 2023•9 min
Just listened to the podcast about my question. I appreciate you answering it. It’s actually really crazy because you gave the example of a salesperson not feeling the rejection in the same way when it’s in that context but when it’s about a romantic relationship even the slightest hint of rejection is painful. Which is so true and interesting because I work in sales lol and I was thinking about this exact thing. That I can go all day and get rejected by prospect after prospect and while it can ...
Nov 10, 2023•12 min
What is your view on anti-depressants and anti-anxiety medications. Do they have a role in this conversation. Can they help understanding or do they make it harder?
Nov 09, 2023•9 min
And today I saw why cutting people off was/is such a hobby for me. I wanna cut them firstly and with that dissarm them so they can't leave me.Less painful if I leave them, than to be left by others.Only inteligence is capable to make such a creative defense.It is made from the same media ...conditioning & healing... wow :)
Nov 08, 2023•7 min
Just doing the weekend cleaning and listening to your today's podcast :) In the Life navigation suffering sensing can be much more accurate align to reality than running after good, plesant feelings? As a game of guessing (Cold-warm) we played as children.When we got closer to guessing what it is, someone said warm and we follow that direction.
Nov 07, 2023•12 min
Say we get rejected. Is it the belief that they shouldn’t have rejected us that causes the suffering or is there more to it
Nov 06, 2023•12 min
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Nov 05, 2023•12 min
Everywhere I go I see news or listen in car to radio it’s all about war it utterly terrified me I can’t sleep I feel I’ll terrified of bangs and planes please please can you help to tell me how to stop negative thoughts
Nov 04, 2023•10 min
I have a question arising from your comment about how even saying I love you can be seen as an act of war, or separation. My husband says I love you more often than I think is needed, or more so as a thing to say in life’s busyness, and I hear it as just words that I feel required to say back. I do love husband and I know he loves me but this habit of saying it bothers me. I feel forced to say it back when really I shouldn’t have an issue because I do love him. What is going on here? How can I r...
Nov 03, 2023•9 min
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Nov 02, 2023•11 min
There are constant books, so called spiritual teachers whatever that means, endless amount of courses to attend, therapist, psychologist, psychotherapist who themselves haven’t had an awakening, yet share their ideas and views from past trauma. So the question is ‘What is a wakening?’ Do we wake up one morning, walk outside and blend into nature x
Nov 01, 2023•11 min
It seems I’ve been struck down with chronic fatigue, fatigue syndrome, which is laying me out flat, quite literally on a daily basis. Of course, it is frightening and somewhat disabling and I just don’t know how to be with it on a day-to-day basis. At times, I’m tempted just to push through as it were and try and go about my day with a ‘chin up‘ attitude. Yea there are the days I feel I just can’t get out of bed and it seems my world is crashing in all around me. I just wondered if you had any w...
Oct 31, 2023•11 min
I recently caught up with your 5 days video series. In one of the videos, you talked about how some people say ‘The I doesn’t exist’ or ‘I don’t exist’ – and then you said something like: ‘That’s not true you do exist.’ My mind’s voice went ‘I exist!’ as if this was amazing, new news. Then it went into confusion – logically I know I exist in that I’m here and the ‘I’ that I usually experience doesn’t really exist, it’s a load of beliefs, thinking, feelings that isn’t an entity but can you say mo...
Oct 30, 2023•8 min
