Self and other: listener question

This I wanna ask since I read your book Ease and it really got my attention & find it powerful, but at the same time I can't get my head around it. You mentioned it again at our relationship retreat last week.

It goes like : I need attention from my mother and my ignoring mother is the same thing.

Can you say more to that? Is that literally the other end of the same conditioning, same content? 

Thank you a lot.

Love you to the moon and back :)