I heard Clare say that the self is the experience in the moment. So any idea of self can come up at anytime. I struggle to see the concept of no self. Is there anyone who can help me see more about this? I’ve listened to Safe and part of Home and it’s as though I just don’t understand the language around no self. I also don’t get how to relate to any thoughts that start with ‘I’. How to tell if it’s coming from your true self or the co conditioned self.
Feb 06, 2023•9 min
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Feb 05, 2023•8 min
Lately, I’ve noticed that when I have a pain or a discomfort in my body, my instant reaction is “Oh my God! You’re going to die,” and then I incessantly search the Internet to find every possible cause of my bodily sensation. And as is typical, I get really overwhelmed, I can’t face the overwhelm so I lie down and just let it pass, and it typically does. When I saw this particular subliminal I thought it might help with all this. And don’t get me wrong Clare, I feel humbled and grateful just to ...
Feb 04, 2023•12 min
I have signed up for your membership programme and am finding it very insightful. I feel like I get it more and more, having those 'i see of course thats whats going on in truth' but still every day is some form of torture - anxiety, shame, trigger after trigger after trigger. I have seen a repeating pattern in my life struggle to find some peace and knew that the one constant fact in that was me, as I take myself with me for safe keeping everywhere I go. I knew the problem wasn't out there. The...
Feb 03, 2023•18 min
The circles are great! So much amazing insights. I do not want to feel abandoned so I go into relationships (just to have one with whoever shows a bit of interest in me) which make me even feel more abandoned (because it is more important to be in a relationship for me to feel secure than to really feel close and connected to that man). And at the same time while being in that relationship I neglect my long time friends because it is all about the boyfriend suddenly which makes me feel abandoned...
Feb 02, 2023•11 min
You refer toparentimng the child. For years, I have used inner child healing in hypnotherapy with my clients. I also use parts therapy to facilitate understanding, acceptance and integration of problem behaviours (parts) into the whole, Havening to offer comfort and reassure as difficult or traumatic situations are considered, EMDR to release unprocessed trauma, EFT and matrix reimprinting and mindfulness to turn towards the sensations and thoughts that create difficulty from a place of observat...
Feb 01, 2023•10 min
I see there is no chooser and obviously accountability is vital. There’s still a gap between them – who is being accountable, how can I be more accountable if I can’t even choose to be, etc. I would appreciate you saying more about how the no chooser and accountability sit together and any examples from your experience.
Jan 31, 2023•8 min
I was listening to your podcast about subliminal (a listener wanting a refund because it seems not working). You said that it is always working but it might be that the topic is already obvious and therefore it seems not to work or it is too challenging for the system. I get that but my brain is now wondering, if a subliminal is working which is so subtle and I do not even know what is spoken, what about the music I listen to all day (the cheasy pop songs) at home while working. Do they also inf...
Jan 30, 2023•10 min
1. You talked yesterday (and often) about ‘bodywork’ as a way to allow the body to truly feel feelings. What is bodywork? Can you give us some examples and why you recommend? 2. I hear you talk about the absolute, the relative and the illusory. Can you remind me what these terms mean? I have it in my head that the absolute is the infinite/mind. The illusory is our constantly changing experience of form via the medium of thought. But then there this in-betweeny thing of the relative that is neith...
Jan 29, 2023•16 min
My fiancée broke up with me last month because he felt he was too young to settle down. I was and still am devastated. I think of him all the time and would do anything to get back with him. At the same time I hate him for what he has done to me. He is very clear that we won’t get back together but he wants us to be friends. He says if I really loved him I would still want to see and speak and spend time with him. I can’t imagine just being friends with him and especially not being out in a bar ...
Jan 28, 2023•11 min
Do you listen to subliminal's yourself and are they with your voice? Do you think that if someone we did not know and trust as we do you made a subliminal with the exact wording you used It would have the same effect or would your familiar loving voice make a difference to how the subliminal is received?
Jan 27, 2023•9 min
My subliminal isn't working: client question
Jan 26, 2023•15 min
Just listened to the recording from the Life Circles course on Shame. I see it so clearly in myself and many of the clients I work with and my question is: is it possible that instead of hiding out one puts on the mask of success, becomes very public around the shame issue? For example: (and I may as well be transparent here 😉) my shame says that I am ugly ( to use one of your examples), but instead of hiding out in that shame and going into hiding, playing small, minimizing, I do everything I ...
Jan 25, 2023•14 min
Today I watched day 22 life cycle video. I love all the courses you do, but ‘life circles’ has been excellent … thank you 🙏 I know I have heard you talk about shame before several times, but today I REALLY HEARD it. As I listened to you, It felt like I was suddenly being pounded by golf ball sized hail stones! Followed by feeling of heaviness deep within my belly. I have experienced much dissolution of some heavy stuff since we worked together on Reset last year. Recently though there has been ...
Jan 24, 2023•8 min
For this system here it makes sense that there is no doer, it’s not that I‘m aware of it all the time but when I remember it’s obvious. Source accountability is not understandable, what is accountable and what has this body mind system to do with that?
Jan 23, 2023•15 min
So Good They Can't Ignore You by Cal Newport: Sunday Book
Jan 22, 2023•9 min
A fellow participant in the Circles course posted an exploration and noted this statement: "If the system believed that the Awareness that I AM is prior to the ideas of threat and safety, then ALL experience would be welcome." This sounds like passivity, as though if someone were to physically attack us we would welcome the attack experience, rather than the body moving out of danger or fighting back. Can you speak more if this is a paradox that "resistance" doesn't mean defending the body from ...
Jan 21, 2023•11 min
I’ve just listened to this podcast (18 January) three times. What arose was… Does this mean that doing, words and action are much the same as thoughts in that they simply emerge?
Jan 20, 2023•13 min
Non-duality goes on about how our unreal ego suffers in its experience of life. Yes, it does...but not always. There is so much of my life (AND my ego, I blush to say) that I love, even when it's felt as separation: often precisely BECAUSE of separation (hugging myself with glee for being me!!) - although obviously at other times being me is experienced as the bottom-most pit of hell, fair dos. So how does non-duality see those of our positive experiences of apparent separation that we can't hel...
Jan 19, 2023•14 min
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Jan 18, 2023•9 min
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Jan 17, 2023•10 min
Happy New Year! I'm so delighted to be in your membership again for another year. You truly transformed my experience of life last year for which I'm most grateful. There appears to be immense confusion again here so I'm hoping you can address it in a podcast. I'm loving the life circles course so far and I have identified quite a few of these! No surprise! One that is particularly confusing for me is around my husband. After a call with my coach last week I realised that I have a huge fear of s...
Jan 16, 2023•16 min
As metaphor I see the absolute (life, intelligence) as water flowing in a river. Condition learning as dams created on this river which slows down or even stops the flow of the water. But the nature of water is flowing and new fresh water is coming to the river all the time and staying at the dam's mouth not bypassing it can cause the dam to collapse bringing the river ecosystems back to balance. What's the new seeing/insight made of? Isn't also a thought made from new fresh flow of life intelli...
Jan 15, 2023•9 min
I've scribbled pages so far, I'm not done, this is what I have, still a bit fuzzy, help me out or pull me back from the brink. .... and thanks Clare. All my problems have the same base; not good enough, not smart enough, lacking in some way or another. All are formless - ideas and thoughts floating around in my head. My bio-computer brain believes the story it's telling itself and looks out into this world of form to see what others do to be happy. I give it a go. Alcohol, drugs, sex, becoming s...
Jan 14, 2023•10 min
Since 2 years I came across the principes and since then I have read dozens of books and listened to so many podcasts. I dit different courses and nothing seems to bring me insights that change things for me. At the same time, I feel distracted while reading/listening and that brings comfort. But as soon as I close the book, I’m in my thinking again. And I find it hard that I’m not present to being in life with my family, and closing myself off trying to find relief in reading/listening. Reading...
Jan 13, 2023•13 min
I have so many people, family, friends, clients suddenly showing up projecting abandonment on to someone or something. I know this is "my" stuff. I'm doing the Ho Ho as they appear. And I've been wanting to ask you for ages now and it seems the right time. How much work do I do for clients/ children "others" is Ho Ho enough? What is enough or When is it "done" ? I sort of feel that this is a silly question but can you say something to this please?...
Jan 12, 2023•12 min
I just got off our first zoom call of the program and it prompted a question. You suggested going into the areas that seem most risky to the self. I do this all the time. It results in continued panic and panic attacks. I feel like I'm being re-traumatized over and over and it's been going on for years. My brain seems chrystialized in this pattern. Is it possible for something new to be seen and have this fall away? Or maybe it will happen and that's no big deal. I feel like going into the risky...
Jan 11, 2023•9 min
I HAVE had one thing that so far has NOT made sense to me. Perhaps you want to share in a podcast about it, or share in another way. It sounds to me like you say that NO healing happens until we stay with something, NO healing happens if we distract. That’s not been my experience, though it is clearly my experience that much healing has not happened for that reason. But I don’t see it 100%. I spent an entire winter watching marvel movies and experienced tremendous healing. It was the best thing ...
Jan 10, 2023•15 min
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Jan 09, 2023•11 min
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