How come we don't do or have what we think we want to do or have ?
Aug 18, 2021•12 min
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Aug 17, 2021•14 min
Can you please do a podcast on listening to others while our own dialogue is happening. Even though I am aware of it, it is so easy to get caught up in it.
Aug 16, 2021•10 min
Listener question: what slightly confuses me is this ... i see that our nervous system is the thing that tells us we are in or out of capacity right - and so if it is constantly in freeze then its tell me i'm out of capacity somehow - its not that the nervous system is flawed or needs re-programming because thats just the 'alarm' isnt it or can it be 'broken' and not responding correctly or stuck 'beeping' like an actual firealarm does ? Sometimes it feels like these things, for example, working...
Aug 15, 2021•14 min
Listener question: I have a scattered mind. How do I calm it down to do boring tasks?
Aug 14, 2021•10 min
Listener question: So if the selfing patterns are established over years of habitual thinking (Neurons that fire together wire together) does it require a certain amount of willpower to not slip into these patterns? Or is willpower an activity of the self as well? You often speak of beliefs and behaviours falling away, does this happen through witnessing patterns and staying with uncomfortable feelings in the body alone? Is vigilance needed at this point to not slip into storymaking?...
Aug 13, 2021•11 min
Still have to look into it more. I feel a sense of where you are pointing at but my head is busy with it. It is like when I am teaching Dutch. I just do Dutch all the time. Now I have to explain Dutch I go deeper in that language and my head is busy with the rules and I get confused about the language I just do when I am not teaching/thinking about it. Love Ingrid
Aug 12, 2021•15 min
Listener question: I'm wondering if you could guide me in some way. I have financial difficulties so I'm putting a lot of pressure on myself in the area of work. I have insecurity issues which tie into this. In particular I wanted to ask you about feeling insecure around certain clients. I see that I feel less than them and then tend to have panic attacks with them. I can see that it's thought and I try to dig into the, "why do I feel less than them?". I can see what's happening here and yet I d...
Aug 11, 2021•12 min
Someone said to me 'I feel like I can't trust anyone'. Let's look at that...
Aug 10, 2021•10 min
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Aug 09, 2021•11 min
Listener question: I think resentment comes about as I have to suppress rage all the time. It’s a very disempowering place to be in as a woman. Aren’t we colluding with thousands of years of suppression of female power/rage when we say it’s all our own creation, therefore all our own fault?
Aug 08, 2021•13 min
Somehow, you made the jump from the three principles to this non dual approach. I suspect insight was part of your early and later experiences. Yet, I would love to know more about your evolution. Reading “Real” and listening to this course and the “Real” Course did not give me the clue as to your initial moments and how you jumped over the gap between traditional 3 P to non - dual inside out.
Aug 07, 2021•9 min
I struggle many days with trying to fill a void that in reality doesn't exist. Searching from the outside to make me feel whole on the inside. Depending on others to bring me happiness that never comes. I need more help to become happy within myself. Any ideas to share with me?
Aug 06, 2021•10 min
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Aug 05, 2021•10 min
Could you podcast on whether there’s a connection between seemingly separate pieces of learning. Can learning/conditioning be compartmentalised or is it like the skeleton; ‘the hip bone’s connected to the thigh bone’ etc. And if they are connected, might attention on one ‘area’ of conditioning shine light on other areas, gradually or suddenly revealing the whole structure of the made-up self even as it’s dissolving?
Aug 04, 2021•9 min
Listener question: what is separation and the mirror?
Aug 02, 2021•7 min
Can i just ask for a heads up ... i have done your Change and Stress courses .... i am observing things in the way you suggest ... i notice i am suddenly freaking out big time because i have a tiny kitten arriving ... this feels like a huge thing for me as i already live in a hoarders chaos and find it so hard to manage things in the material form i am really worried that this is just me ADDING to my pattern of chaos and disorder . So that not only do i have a chaotic hoarders house thats full o...
Aug 01, 2021•11 min
Listener question: Thank you for the stress course, unfortunately, I have taken a break from this one. It amazes me I have never found this before but STRESS has really hit home, which I know is not a bad thing but has put me in a much more cautious mood and I have stalled at day 16. I do hope to go back to the course and am confident that I will continue. I can only offer this as evidence that you have created a brilliant course as it has found its way to the route of my stress/anxiety. My hes...
Jul 31, 2021•14 min
Listener question: There's appreciation for this opening up and suddenly a sadness that there are many statements that seem like clarity that, if shared, may spark confrontation for the listener. I imagine that you aren't coaching all people all the time in your life and that you maybe have close loved ones who are very much in the world of free will exists and a self is the doer - do you mostly stay silent with people who are not in this conversation and simply use whatever shows up as new info...
Jul 30, 2021•9 min
Looking at Dr Gabor Maté's quote: “A therapist once said to me, “If you face the choice between feeling guilt and resentment, choose the guilt every time.” It is wisdom I have passed on to many others since. If a refusal saddles you with guilt, while consent leaves resentment in its wake, opt for the guilt. Resentment is soul suicide. Negative thinking allows us to gaze unflinchingly on our own behalf at what does not work.
Jul 29, 2021•16 min
Listener question: what can I do about my children's mental health?
Jul 28, 2021•19 min
Listener question: I work for the NHS. So we are basically asked, on a continual basis, to ‘ fit a quart into a pint pot’ . So that is a ‘form’ problem, with a solution- another pint pot. But that is not on offer, and it is not an option to say it’s not possible and walk away, because the patients will suffer. So not sure how I can help colleagues , it looks intrinsically stressful, not just ‘ our thinking’ . As one Dr tweeted recently, it shouldn’t be the case that it feels like a luxury to be ...
Jul 27, 2021•14 min
Listener question: Just wasn’t clear how the cleaning up happens. Is it the seeing, or transparency, that does the cleaning up? I guess that’s what’s implied in your podcast, but thought I’d check if that’s what you mean. For me, every action can be seen/interpreted as self playing out, but perhaps this cleaning up subtly changes actions over time.
Jul 26, 2021•11 min
Listener question: I am worried about my mental health
Jul 25, 2021•10 min
Listener question: I listened to your podcast this morning. This concept of freeing ourselves from the illusion of the self to 'be what we really are' is something I find difficult to understand. Is it even possible to know 'what we really are' without some underpinning of what we mean by 'we'? If my concept of my 'self' - complete with all its baggage and cultural conditioning and prejudices etc - is an illusion of some kind, behind which lurks a more real, authentic entity, do we not risk fall...
Jul 24, 2021•16 min
"If there is no 'self' then what is really going on in the often critical sounding expression 'to be self-obsessed'. Is this really just a term used to point out that the mind if caught in believing there is a 'self' and is 'obsessed' with trying to examine itself. A pointless loop and hence the appearance of obsession that arises as the mind desperatly tries to find the escape route from its percieved self. When caught in apparent 'self obsession' is this something we are in control of or want ...
Jul 23, 2021•8 min
Listener question:what is freedom?
Jul 22, 2021•15 min
Hi Clare. Now on your stress day 7 you ask to go back to our childhood. And that situation is indeed at the origin of what I still live today. As a very young child I was honest and dared to say 'No' to my grandmother who was raising me, my sister and brother while my parents worked day and night. I was often punished and hit by my grandmother because I was not a 'nice girl'. She convinced my mother to take me to a doctor because I was not normal in her eyes. I was too lively myself and spoke fr...
Jul 21, 2021•12 min
I wanted to reach out to you about some changes I have noticed for me lately. I am really feeling confused at the moment with feeling of stress. 1. That said I don't know if the course is a cause of stress to me or that the way my mind is flip-flopping around. I just can't seem to focus I seem to have gone away with the fairies, The only think that is clear is that I don't feel I know who I am anymore, sometimes its like when I hear my own voice it doesn't sound like me. The one really interesti...
Jul 20, 2021•10 min
This podcast is a response to a question on facebook about this comment: 'Any revelation will come in what that doing was meant to achieve for the self if anything…'
Jul 19, 2021•11 min
