Listener question: I'm listening to the 1:1 conversations from the Change course. In one of them, you say the following: "The stuckness of mind is reflected in the stuckness of health or body, or the stuckness of surroundings or the stuckness of relationships, it's dynamic." I have not yet noticed a lot of shifting in the area where there's been a lot of stuckness around finances/work. There's motion but it almost seems like it's happening outside of me...unintegrated somehow. The mind is very s...
Jul 18, 2021•6 min
Listener question: I can't see my head except when I look in the mirror. So when I see someone else's face, I don't think, that's me. Is that because we learned this? We are all one means: we are all one in the way the systems works? Not in form. So to realise that is were forgiveness starts? You are not doing this to me, you are just doing (in form). Or there is just doing and here it is seen as done by another person. Like someone says: you are stupid, you shouldn't have done that. That is jus...
Jul 17, 2021•10 min
What if the mind uses this understanding for sabotaging its own glimpses of understanding? There were glimpses and openings to a more peaceful, joyful way of being in the past. And since the change course there is an observation of of relentless negative activity of the mind, attempting to destroy this loving, joyful bodymind in myriads of ways. It feels like once the mind is in its old conditioned neuropathways it’s impossible to get out of there. Especially when I’m doing things that are there...
Jul 16, 2021•11 min
I just can’t help wondering why on earth we were designed this way?! It seems human nature has evolved (probably) to become really complicated, so that we need to spend so much time in discovery of our true self rather than that being the default. What’s anyone’s thoughts on that?
Jul 15, 2021•13 min
Just completed the final lesson of the Change course. Thank you Clare for a wonderful journey. The exploration of the personal identity was especially useful. It seems that as you say it has enormous evolutionary advantages. We just need to learn how defending a concept is never going to succeed. My only suggestion is that if you focus less on the construct that is our body/mind system it would be easier for some of us to see beyond it.
Jul 14, 2021•16 min
I was wondering if you could do a Podcast about gaining weight, food and the stress around it? I wish I could just eat 3 meals a day, enjoy it and not think about gaining weight. Instead I do not eat a proper meal, snack the whole day (specially now in Home Office), constantly think about food and keep beating myself up that I do not eat a proper meal. The excess calories I gain with the snacking I compensate with sports (which too is no fun anymore). The thought of gaining weight is terrible. I...
Jul 13, 2021•12 min
Can you talk about categorisations and truth?
Jul 12, 2021•8 min
I’ve been thinking about this “self-compassion” idea and wondering what you make of it, how the non-dual understanding would see “self compassion” especially if there’s no self to be compassionate toward, and how to talk about it.
Jul 11, 2021•9 min
What I am confused about is the "awareness/consciousness" as my true self. I feel I don't know or don't experience consciousness directly. I experience or sense it only from what I am aware "of", and not from an actual space or knowing of conciousness. When I ask myself who am I, I am aware of myself asking, and I am aware of being aware of that asking. It doesn't go anywhere, all I see is layer upon layer upon layer of thought created through me. It feels like all I am is always thought... and ...
Jul 10, 2021•7 min
Listener question: Another question: my brain is overloaded and my heads hurts all the time (so is the rest of my body - + heart rythm disorder). (. The questions you ask in the second recording "What is at steak "can't be answered anymore(I did it in the past with the help of coaches over and over again and found a lot of answers). My outside situation has changed and is better, but my brain stays overworked as if it is continously looking for a way out and can't find it. It still believes thos...
Jul 09, 2021•8 min
I understand/read from/in your book Well, that pain in the body is information about the system. Like a red warning light it is drawing attention to that part of the system. The signal of pain is designed to bring the attention into the body, into this moment, into reality. So instead of making mystery out of it, placing it in the future, the past, etc. what I am familiar with :), so not to use it as evidence as you write, and if so, no problem, it has no meaning, though, no truth, no informatio...
Jul 08, 2021•8 min
Listener question: when we truly stop resisting the feelings that arise in us when confronted with 'anger or angry people' (or other emotions) ... do we then (as a side effect) appear in general to draw less experience of meeting 'angry people' into our lives. ?
Jul 07, 2021•13 min
A brief summary of this episode
Jul 06, 2021•9 min
Listener question: Can you talk a bit about how the mind sometimes has information? A common theme I hear in some of the podcasts is that "the mind doesn't know" and that's linked to the fact that the mind is the brain creating a self identity at the same time there is intelligence moving the body and creating action. Sometimes it seems the mind brings an idea forward, and while it may have layers of selfing suc ahs "is this a mistake, will someone be upset, what will they think of me, etc." the...
Jul 05, 2021•10 min
A brief summary of this episode
Jul 04, 2021•11 min
Listener question: I have a couple of questions which you might like to address in a podcast or two sometime? 1. I’m curious to know how religion sits with this conversation, any religion I guess, but particularly the Church of England? 2. If we are spiritual beings having a human experience, how do we transition, how will our true essence remain infinite when we no longer inhabit this current human form? I realise it’s impossible to know the answer but I’m interested to hear your take on death ...
Jul 03, 2021•10 min
Listener question: Hi Clare You have said a few times that we have thousands of choices, but no free will. I understand why you say that, as we can only do what makes sense to us given the understanding/belief we have at that moment, but could you please say more about what you mean by “free will”?
Jul 02, 2021•7 min
Listener question: Are we really ever against reality "out there" or are we allways just against our thinking? How does this apply to bullying boss.Am I experiencing him bullying me only because of my thinking?
Jul 01, 2021•19 min
Listener question: how do motivation and confidence fit in this understanding?
Jun 30, 2021•10 min
Listener comment: I have a Non Dual question: This is one of those questions that I don’t know if it is one, or an observation. The direct path of presence to, and enquiry in to, the suffering, shows, or simply dissolves that strand, or layer. If life presents the awareness to do this, then it gets done, or it doesn’t. The concern is over using this a a tool to get enlightenment, and creating a dog chasing its tail, but missing the point that nothing is ever chosen. I want to be rid of suffering...
Jun 29, 2021•12 min
Listener question: hi Clare - It seems like denial to me to bring in any discussion of thoughts and beliefs when it comes to stress. My circumstances are really bad at the moment. It is that causing the issue not beliefs. To say otherwise is actually dangerous as you are saying I’m making it all up...
Jun 28, 2021•14 min
Listener question: Am still struggling to understand the ‘what’s at stake’ part of going deeper and being curious and feeling the feelings. I feel like there are so many patterns and conditioning bubbling to the surface to be seen, but when I ask the question ‘what is at stake’ I come up with an answer and I don’t know if it’s true. Or my mind just making something up? Or I just hit a brick wall. Can I give you an example please…. I get really anxious on hot days. I endlessly check the weather t...
Jun 27, 2021•13 min
Listener question: Dear Clare I believe that I have heard you say in your courses that we never want suffering to end. Could you please say more about that and how suffering is a gift?
Jun 26, 2021•11 min
The concept of the fork implies a choice and someone who makes the choice to go left or right. But i notice that when the ‘me’ tries to make this choice, it gets messy. When I reflect on that, i think it is kinda obvious why that is the case: a me that is making a choice consists out of thoughts about a self image, choices and forks. So that is the mind taking the left route. I also notice the ‘urge’ to ask things like “how can I..” , “what can I do..” but that is also the left route. So here I ...
Jun 25, 2021•7 min
Creation has always been a struggle. Now I understand the depth of confusion around identification. And as you suggest, it seems to originate at school. The profound need for validation borned from the possibility of failing, being wrong, or even worse: insignificant. These days I have brief moments of lightness, but the habit of creating in order to prove myself (or find some kind of security/satisfaction) is still quite strong. I think of the crossroad image you shared and wonder how "doing" c...
Jun 24, 2021•13 min
Listener question: I have had a huge shift in my happiness and peace of mind since discovering the 3Ps. Now I feel drawn to teach and coach. How do I know if that is what I should do? How did you know? Ask where / how would I begin? I would love to hear your thoughts.
Jun 23, 2021•10 min
Listener question: 'My issue is basically experiencing debilitating fear. Just to explain......To date I have elected not take up the offer of vaccines in relation to the current pandemic. This decision is based on my own research and I do not judge those that have done differently. I see a time very soon (I know future thinking) when the unvaccinated will be unfairly discriminated against for their decisions. I wondered if you can speak to this fear Clare? Primarily, I think it’s around being u...
Jun 22, 2021•17 min
Listener question: I participate in your June course. You speak about going deeper. Can you elaborate on the proces of going deeper? What is it? How does one do it? What I hear in this is that one becomes silent and witnesses what is playing out ‘behind the scenes’. Scrutinise your thought. But everytime I ‘do’ this, I get stuck in the weeds. Like I get sucked in the fantasy world of thought and I don’t hear the birds singing and feel the sun on my face. Same thing with deliberately feeling what...
Jun 21, 2021•12 min
Would it be fair to say that the primary characteristic of disidentified creation is the state of flow? When I am simply delighting in how the line or the colors unfold on the canvas, or thrilling to a particularly delightful turn of phrase that has just emerged from nowhere. Or, is that yet another elaborate trick of the identity claiming not to be there? In other words, is a “pure“ state of flow even possible? Or are we , as in many other things, always dealing with both the awareness and the ...
Jun 20, 2021•9 min
I am writing with a question that is not so much for myself that I ask as for another who has seemingly been in a state of constant crisis for the last several months. The constant agitation of her mind has her body in perpetual overdrive, which leads to a lot of misery and loss of sleep. She is quite frightened by the whole experience and even wondering whether there ever will be a solution and whether life is worth living. That preamble sets the stage for my question. For those who are so caug...
Jun 19, 2021•14 min
