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Strong Men Strong Marriages

Mike Frazier, MDstrongmenstrongmarriages.com

Helping high achieving Christian men have more intimate marriages. Start with episodes 1-4 for an introduction. Traditional marriage counseling, couples therapy, couples counseling and even Christian marriage counseling will tell you that a good marriage is based on compromise. Validating feelings. Sacrifice. I tried that for years. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work. That’s why most couples who go through marriage counseling are the same or worse off after. BUT, in my studies in neuroscience at BYU, MD training at UCLA, psychiatry residency, marriage coach training, and most importantly in my own marriage, I finally found what DOES work. Building strength. Spiritual, mental, emotional and sexual strength, while anchored in following Christian marriage principles. Strength is attractive. And, it feels great. It builds trust. Add to this the skills of communication and intimacy, and you get a marriage full of phenomenal mental, emotional and physical intimacy. And, you set the example for generations to follow. I applied this to my own marriage, I felt better than ever and had more connection and passion than I thought possible. I started teaching this to other men and couples and they were able to create mental, emotional and sexual intimacy faster than they thought possible. This even works for affair recovery and emotional affairs. Now it’s your turn. Become a strong, attractive man. Create a strong, passionate marriage.

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Episodes

What To Do When Your Child Rejects You (Especially In A Divorce)

Today I have a special interview with Cathy Himlin, LMFT from Himlin Consulting. Cathy specializes in helping parents, primarily fathers, navigate their relationships with their children during and after a divorce. Whether you are concerned about losing your children in a divorce and want to make the transition as smooth as possible… Or just want to learn how to connect, or re-connect with your children (especially your teens)... You’ll find a lot of value in this episode. You’ll hear me ask a l...

Jun 11, 202442 minEp. 274

Choose A Healthy Emotional Release [Thursday Challenge]

Tuesday we talked about releasing emotions in a healthy way. Today, choose 1 emotion… And choose 1 healthy way to release it. Then, let me know what you choose. And, if you try the release, let me know how it went. Watch on YouTube here. (Lorena new link here for YouTube) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eY13pnVVwwo ( Lorena new links here for YouTube) Dr. Mike P.S. Reply to this post with the results of your challenge! P.P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man wh...

Jun 06, 20243 minEp. 273

How To Control Your Emotions In Your Christian Marriage Relationship

Do you find yourself… Avoiding your emotions… Pretending like you’re OK when you’re not… Or wanting to avoid seeming anxious, sad or angry in front of your wife? A lot of us as men think that emotional strength is about not “letting emotions get to us.” But, emotions are like farts. They need to be RELEASED. And ideally, in healthy ways that don’t stink up the place. Learn how to release emotions in ways that are healthy, strong and attractive… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike...

Jun 04, 202422 minEp. 272

Thursday Challenge - 3 Reasons

Think of 3 reasons why your wife is RIGHT to create distance from you. How have you been a poor choice for her? Then, work on those 3 reasons. Make yourself a better choice. And, for a complete system to make yourself a great choice, join Strong Men Strong Marriages. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your...

May 30, 20242 minEp. 271

How to Save Your Christian Marriage Alone

When you’re trying to save your Christian marriage… But your wife doesn’t seem to be trying… It can be very frustrating and defeating. You can feel lost and unsure of what to do. And, men often make significant mistakes when they try to save their marriage alone. Learn what those mistakes are… And what to do instead… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emo...

May 28, 202422 minEp. 270

Prayer to Save My Marriage

If you’re trying to save your marriage, you are probably praying for help. And that is a good and proper thing to do. AND, it’s also necessary to do MORE than pray to save it. It’s like praying to become a doctor. You can pray for it… But unless you go to medical school… It won’t happen. The same is true here. Definitely pray for your marriage. AND do the things that make you a man who can CREATE a happy, thriving marriage. Learn what those are… And prayers I think will be the most useful for yo...

May 21, 202418 minEp. 268

Pray To Feel God’s Love For You

Probably the most effective prayer to save your marriage is this. Pray to feel God’s love for you at a DEEP level every day. As you FEEL that love from Him… It will FILL you… Make you less needy, more compassionate, and more loving… And therefore more attractive. As a bonus, pray to see and love your wife as God does too. This video and this book have been helpful for me to feel God’s love for me. Watch on YouTube here. (Lorena new link here for YouTube) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eY13pnVVw...

May 20, 20243 minEp. 269

Thursday Challenge - Apply To Join

If you’ve been on the fence about joining Strong Men Strong Marriages… It’s time to get off the fence and apply. CLICK HERE to apply today. I’ll hear from you soon. Dr. Mike P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.io P.P.S. Making $250k+ per year and want to work more intensively with Dr. Mike and his team? Our Intensive Program is only open to a few men each month by invitation after a call with D...

May 16, 20242 minEp. 267

How To Save Your Christian Marriage In 3 Simple Steps

If your wife is talking about separation or divorce… Or you need to save your marriage from being roommates for the next 30 years… There are 3 simple steps that will take you from feeling disconnected and stuck in your marriage… To having the fun, passion and intimacy again. Learn what they are in today’s episode. Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. I’d love to connect with you! If you have a question or just want to reach out, find me on Linke...

May 14, 202423 minEp. 266

Thursday Challenge - What Are Your Plans For Mother’s Day?

OK. You have 3 days until Mother’s Day. What are your plans? Reply on LinkedIn and let me know! Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. Reply to this post with the results of your challenge! P.P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY… CLICK HERE to apply to join my Strong Men Strong Marriages program. P.S. Join...

May 09, 20242 minEp. 265

How to Make Mother’s Day Special for Your Wife

Mother’s Day is this Sunday… And it’s a great chance to show your love and appreciation for your wife. Most moms feel like they’re not doing a great job, or at least could be doing better. This is your chance to show your wife just how much you and your kids appreciate her. Show love and take leadership. That’s what’s ATTRACTIVE to your wife. Get some ideas on today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. I’d love to connect with you! If you have a question or just want to reach out, fin...

May 07, 202413 minEp. 264

Thursday Challenge - Make And Keep A Promise

From now on, each Thursday you’ll get a challenge to apply the material from Tuesday’s podcast. For this week the challenge is: Make and keep a promise. It can be big or small (though I recommend small), and it can be to yourself or someone else. Follow through on that promise… And reply to this email to let me know how it went. What was the promise? Did you feel a boost in your self-confidence? Watch on YouTube here. I’ll hear from the more confident you soon! Dr. Mike P.S. Reply to this emai...

May 02, 20243 minEp. 263

How To Increase Your Self-Confidence

Self-worth is your inherent value. You have it just because you exist. God loves you and is pleased with you just because you exit. Self-esteem is the overall thoughts and feelings you have about yourself. Both of these are more about THINKING and FEELING. Self-confidence, on the other hand, is about DOING. You build self-confidence by… *Making and keeping promises *Building skills Learn more on today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. I’d love to connect with you! If you have a q...

Apr 30, 202422 minEp. 262

How to Boost Your Self-Esteem

Last week we talked about increasing your self-worth. Your self-worth is your inherent value, which doesn’t ever change and is great and infinite as a son of God. Your self-esteem is your relationship with yourself. In other words, your thoughts and feelings about yourself. Most high achieving guys have the mindset of “I can do better.” This is a mask for “I’m not doing or being enough.” This leads to a feeling of inadequacy… Which they sometimes project onto their wife and others (whatever I do...

Apr 23, 202433 minEp. 261

How To Increase Your Self-Worth In 3 Simple Steps

I used to believe that I had to work to be worthy. That my self-worth was determined by what I accomplished. And, I still fall into that trap sometimes. But it is a trap. Because no matter how much you accomplish… You can always accomplish more. Instead of this trap, try the 3 simple steps in today’s episode. *See yourself as a beloved son of God *Get around people who love you *See yourself as a baby Learn more in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Also, the book mentioned in the episode...

Apr 16, 202431 minEp. 260

How To Find Internal Peace And Acceptance

For most of my life, I’ve felt like I need to achieve to be valuable. I haven’t really felt like I could ever rest. I was either “growing or dying.” The last few weeks have shown me that this isn’t really what God intends or wants for me… or for you. Instead, we can find rest in knowing we are Sons Of The King. That we are loved, accepted and forgiven through Christ. We can stop trying to fight the battles that have already been won. And, in that peace, we can follow Christ one step at a time as...

Apr 09, 202420 minEp. 259

Use Teamwork To Stop Viewing Porn - Interview With Emmanuel and Bekah Guarino From Team Vulnerable

Today we get to meet Emmanual and Bekah Guarino, founders of Team Vulnerable. You’ll hear their story of how Emmanuel: -Struggled with pornography for YEARS -Eventually shared his struggle with Bekah -Found a way to work as a team to help Emmanuel overcome pornography… to the point that he doesn’t really feel tempted at all to view it Watch on YouTube here. https://youtu.be/PMZiMUpNk40 There are a lot of different ways that people can overcome pornography. So, for this week only (expires Friday ...

Apr 02, 202450 minEp. 258

How To Earn Secure Attachment In Marriage

Last week we learned about the problematic attachment styles in marriage. Today we’ll learn what we need to do to earn the secure attachment that we want in marriage. Secure attachment looks like: -A good balance between “me” and “we” -Feeling confident that your needs will be met -Expressing your thoughts and feelings and listening to your wife’s -Asking for what you need and responding to your wife’s Sounds great, right? And you CAN get there… even if you didn’t grow up with a good example of ...

Mar 26, 202419 minEp. 257

Problematic Attachment Styles In Marriage

You may have heard of the different attachment styles. Avoidant. Anxious/Ambivalent. Disorganized. And secure. Many high achieving men were brought up in avoidant, anxious/ambivalent or even disorganized homes. They learned the lesson that they need to figure things out on their own… and they did. That helped them be very successful in business and work. But, it causes significant issues in marriage. Learn how these attachment styles show up and cause problems in marriage… In today’s episode. Wa...

Mar 19, 202416 minEp. 256

How To Stop Unproductive Conflict In Your Marriage

Every marriage has conflict. In some marriages it’s very emotional and volatile, with screaming matches. In others, it’s buried under the surface with one or both spouses silently resenting the other. In others, one spouse wants to talk things out, while the other wants to avoid the conversation. Whatever your pattern is, there’s a reason for it. And it has to do with how your brain is wired. Learn how to step OUT of unproductive conflict… And INTO clear ways to turn conflict into MORE connectio...

Mar 12, 202421 minEp. 255

How To Boost Testosterone Naturally - With Jason Sani From The Manhood Experiment Podcast

Recently I got my testosterone checked. I found that my total testosterone was normal, but my free testosterone was low. This got me started on a path to try to figure out how to increase both free and total testosterone NATURALLY. Because testosterone replacement therapy SHUTS DOWN your body’s natural production. Jason has a long history of helping men increase their testosterone and energy levels through natural means, and I interview him today to help us understand what we can do. YouWatch on...

Mar 07, 202449 minEp. 254

My Wife Stopped Wearing Her Wedding Ring - What Should I Do?

When your wife takes off her wedding ring… It can signal a BIG alarm. Most men will either try to ignore this (while silently fearing what it might mean)… Become passive aggressive to “pay her back” for not wearing her ring… Or confront her in an angry way. Fortunately, there’s a better response that can lead to MORE intimacy and connection. Learn what it is… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready ...

Mar 05, 202421 minEp. 253

4 Steps To Healthier Emotions

There are scientifically proven ways to let our emotions flow in healthy ways. Those are: -Breathe -Name -Feel -Deal Learn more about these… with a specific example… in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY… CLICK HERE to apply to join my Strong Men Strong ...

Feb 29, 20243 minEp. 252

How To Feel Emotions Without Causing Problems

I used to be afraid of emotions. And really, I still am a little. From what I saw, when people got overly angry, they broke things or hurt people. If they got overly sad, they got depressed or even suicidal. If they got anxious, they froze and didn’t accomplish anything. I certainly didn’t want to do this, and so I took the approach of trying to “turn down the volume” on my emotions. Unfortunately, this has kept me from really experiencing emotion myself, connecting with others, and has resulted...

Feb 27, 202419 minEp. 251

3 Questions To Ask To Create More Intimacy Untitled Episode

Here are 3 questions to ask if your wife is talking about a subject you’re not that interested in: -How did you feel about that? -What did you think about that? -Why do you like that/why is that important to you? Try to understand her thoughts and feelings, as that’s what real mental and emotional intimacy is. Try them out today! Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional ...

Feb 22, 20243 minEp. 250

How To Listen To Your Wife When You’re Not Interested In The Topic

When your wife starts talking about… -TV shows -Social media -A problem with her friend It can be easy to check out. You think “I don’t really care about this.” And so, you either PRETEND that you’re interested… Let your mind wander… Or don’t listen at all. But, you can actually use this as an opportunity to create MORE connection and intimacy. Learn how on today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to cr...

Feb 20, 202415 minEp. 249

Choose To Love Well Today

The day after Valentine’s can be pretty disappointing. But, at the end of the day, we get to choose how we live. And, according to Jesus, the best way to live is to love God, love our neighbors, and love ourselves. So, choose to love well today. Love God by thanking Him. Feel God’s love by remembering what He’s done for you. Love your wife by doing something kind for her. Love your kids by encouraging them. Love yourself by doing something fun today. Love is the secret to life. Learn how to do i...

Feb 15, 20243 minEp. 248

How To Make Valentine’s Day Great Again

I don’t often laugh at my own titles, but I have to say, this one was pretty good. Valentine’s Day is tomorrow. It’s a day that we celebrate romantic love. Depending on where your marriage is… That idea may be quite depressing. BUT, you can STILL make Valentine’s Day great. By taking the EMPOWERING stance of choosing to love well. Learn how to do that in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to creat...

Feb 13, 202422 minEp. 247

Don’t Use Fear And Guilt As Weapons

When your wife is saying she might want to leave… It’s easy to try to scare her or guilt her into staying. Unfortunately, people don’t really like to be around people who scare or guilt trip them. So, stop doing that! Learn more about how to do that in today’s episode. Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. ( Lorena New Links Here After Upload) https://youtube.com/shorts/gvDWKHRslF8 Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian m...

Feb 08, 20243 minEp. 246

How To Make It Hard For Your Wife To Divorce You

If your wife is talking about separation or divorce… You want to make it hard on her to divorce you. Some guys think that means telling your wife all the negative things that will happen if she divorces you. Telling her it will hurt the kids, hurt you, hurt her financially. Telling her God doesn’t want her to do this. Unfortunately, this only makes it more likely she will leave. Instead, you want to make it hard on her to divorce you by becoming a guy that she will actually WANT to be with. Lear...

Feb 06, 202416 minEp. 245
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