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Strong Men Strong Marriages

Mike Frazier, MDstrongmenstrongmarriages.com

Helping high achieving Christian men have more intimate marriages. Start with episodes 1-4 for an introduction. Traditional marriage counseling, couples therapy, couples counseling and even Christian marriage counseling will tell you that a good marriage is based on compromise. Validating feelings. Sacrifice. I tried that for years. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work. That’s why most couples who go through marriage counseling are the same or worse off after. BUT, in my studies in neuroscience at BYU, MD training at UCLA, psychiatry residency, marriage coach training, and most importantly in my own marriage, I finally found what DOES work. Building strength. Spiritual, mental, emotional and sexual strength, while anchored in following Christian marriage principles. Strength is attractive. And, it feels great. It builds trust. Add to this the skills of communication and intimacy, and you get a marriage full of phenomenal mental, emotional and physical intimacy. And, you set the example for generations to follow. I applied this to my own marriage, I felt better than ever and had more connection and passion than I thought possible. I started teaching this to other men and couples and they were able to create mental, emotional and sexual intimacy faster than they thought possible. This even works for affair recovery and emotional affairs. Now it’s your turn. Become a strong, attractive man. Create a strong, passionate marriage.

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Episodes

What Does God Think About You?

Take a minute and answer that. What do you think God thinks about you? Your answer to this question can either lead you to feeling not good enough… Or empower you with incredible self worth. Learn how to let it empower you in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting...

Feb 01, 20244 minEp. 244

How To Not Care What Other People Think

As a high achieving Christian man, there are a lot of people you might be trying to please. Your wife, your kids, your clients, your church members, your community… and God. That’s a lot of people, with a lot of different opinions. It just won’t be possible to make all of them happy. So, should you just “make yourself happy” and say “screw you” to everyone else? Not quite. There’s a simple 3 step formula that I’ll share on today’s podcast that will show you how to stop caring about what other pe...

Jan 30, 202422 minEp. 243

Want More Empathy? There’s An App For That.

Believe it or not, there’s a great app that will help you build your emotional vocabulary, intelligence and strength. That, in turn, will allow you to have more empathy for your wife. When you know what you’re feeling, it will be a lot easier to relate to what your wife is feeling. You’ll be able to share your emotions (be known), and understand your wife’s emotions (know her). That’s what emotional intimacy is! Watch on YouTube here. Download the How We Feel App here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a ...

Jan 25, 20243 minEp. 242

How To Develop More Empathy For Your Wife

Maybe your wife has told you that you don’t have much empathy. As a high achieving man, that’s likely true. We have often learned to shut down our emotions in order to “get things done.” While this helps in business, it creates major issues in our marriage. Learn how to stop telling people to “get over it…” And start practicing the empathy that leads to emotional intimacy, deep friendship and love in your marriage… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achievi...

Jan 23, 202420 minEp. 241

The Porn Free Process

You may have tried a lot of things to stop using pornography. Here are the steps that have helped the men I’ve worked with (who have often tried many of the “traditional” programs): -Integrate your sexuality -Learn to manage your thoughts and emotions when you have the urge to view pornography -Reward yourself for having urges and not acting on them -Do that 100 times That’s it! Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. This program is INCLUDED as part of the Stro...

Jan 18, 20246 minEp. 240

How To Regain Trust After Pornography Use

I’d say 100% of the men I work with either have struggled or currently struggle with pornography. This definitely breaks your wife’s trust in you… But also breaks your trust in yourself. That leads to low safety in the marriage, which leads to superficial communication and low sexual intimacy. Learn how to restore trust after pornography use in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredib...

Jan 16, 202420 minEp. 239

How To Restore Communication After It’s Been Lost

If you’re struggling to have meaningful communication in your marriage… A list of “what to say” just isn’t going to cut it. There’s a deeper reason why your communication has dried up. Until you address that, your wife won’t WANT to communicate with you. Learn how to fix the deeper issues that have created communication issues in your marriage… So you can start having the fun, laughter and intimate communication you desire… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a hig...

Jan 12, 202414 minEp. 238

The Best Love Language For Your Marriage

The Best Love Language For Your Marriage We all need to feel loved, valued and accepted. The best favor you can do to yourself… and your family… Is to love, value and accept yourself. Learn the tip I’m using now to do that in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting...

Jan 11, 20246 minEp. 237

Why The 5 Love Languages Are Not Working For Your Marriage

The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman is a best selling marriage book. And, it has great concepts that can help you and your wife understand each other better. BUT, used the wrong way, the 5 Love Languages can actually make things WORSE in your marriage. If you’ve been trying to give your wife: -Words of affirmation -Physical touch -Acts of service -Quality time -Gifts But your marriage isn’t getting better… You need to hear this episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achi...

Jan 09, 202419 minEp. 236

Friday Q&A January 5, 2024

On today’s episode we’ll cover: -How to navigate an in-home separation -How to evaluate whether your behaviors are manipulative or not -What to do if your wife has filed for divorce Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY… CLICK HERE to apply to join my Strong Men Strong Marr...

Jan 05, 202417 minEp. 235

Top 3 Tips For Better Sex In Marriage

Want sex with HER, not just sex. Don’t approach it with “I’m horny and she’s my only moral option.” That’s not attractive to anyone. Cold, warm, hot. Use flirting and touch to bring her into a zone of thinking more about sex. Integrate your full brain. Use your physical desire, your emotional admiration for her, and your choosing her as your life partner as you approach her for sex. Let this shine in your eyes for her. Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. (Lo...

Jan 04, 20245 minEp. 234

Sexual Strength In Marriage

Sexual Strength In Marriage Sex is what makes a marriage relationship special. But, what we thought our sexual relationship might look like before marriage… And what it looks like once we’re married… Can be very different. Learn how to build your sexual strength so that you can… -Avoid turning to pornography or other negative outlets for sex -Approach sex in ways that are more attractive to your wife than rolling over in bed and saying “how about tonight?” -Learn to flirt and build up sexual ten...

Jan 02, 202421 minEp. 233

Look Good, Smell Good

What is the most important physical thing you can do to be more attractive to your wife? According to 500 Christian wives, it’s just this. Look good, smell good. Get more details on this on today’s episode. Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to f...

Dec 28, 20233 minEp. 232

Physical And Financial Strength In Marriage

Strength across all areas is attractive to your wife. As men, we often overly focus on physical and financial strength as the measure of success. And, while women do value physical strength… It’s not quite in the way you might think. Same with financial strength. More money doesn’t necessarily mean more attraction. Learn how to build these strengths in the most attractive ways in today’s episode. Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a ...

Dec 26, 202317 minEp. 231

Internal Needs Vs Relationship Needs

I never liked the word “need” in relationships. In fact, I’ve often taught that “neediness is unattractive.” However, I’ve come to believe a little differently. It’s true that for our internal needs, such as feeling good enough, we can’t rely on our wife. We need to find other resources for that. Because if we do rely on our wife for these internal needs, we wear her out and never feel fulfilled. However, we also have relationship needs. We have needs from our wife. We need her to do certain thi...

Dec 21, 202319 minEp. 230

Top 3 Tips For Better Sex In Marriage

Want sex with HER, not just sex. Don’t approach it with “I’m horny and she’s my only moral option.” That’s not attractive to anyone. Cold, warm, hot. Use flirting and touch to bring her into a zone of thinking more about sex. Integrate your full brain. Use your physical desire, your emotional admiration for her, and your choosing her as your life partner as you approach her for sex. Let this shine in your eyes for her. Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. Dr....

Dec 20, 20235 minEp. 234

How To Build Emotional Strength In Marriage

I used to think of emotional strength as never being overwhelmed by emotion. I didn’t want to be “too emotional.” I thought that was weakness. I wanted to be ruled my reason, not my emotions. However, being unable to really feel emotion is actually emotional weakness. Or numbness. Or deadness. It keeps you from really experiencing life. It also keeps you in a judgmental mindset towards your own emotions and the emotions of others… Which sabotages the relationship with yourself and others. Learn ...

Dec 19, 202325 minEp. 229

3 Signs Of Mental Weakness In Marriage

Sign 1 - You blame your wife for how you’re feeling Sign 2 - You mix up facts and your interpretation of those facts Sign 3 - You are overly influenced by the thinking of others… or overly rigid in your thinking All of these lead to you being mentally and emotionally unstable and reactive… Which doesn’t feel good and isn’t attractive. Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ...

Dec 14, 20235 min

How To Build Mental Strength In Marriage

How To Build Mental Strength In Marriage “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he” Proverbs 23:7 God has given us amazing brains that have incredible power. What we think affects how we feel, what we do, and the results we get in our lives. Most of us are not aware of this power, or how our thoughts are influencing the results in our lives and marriages. Learn in today’s podcast how to harness this power… And create the love, connection and intimacy you’re looking for in your marriage… Instead ...

Dec 12, 202319 minEp. 227

Spiritual Strength Eliminates Neediness

When you have real spiritual strength… Neediness disappears. When you feel great self-worth, self-esteem, self-confidence, and a sense of mission and purpose… You step out of needy, codependent behavior and into strong leadership. Get a reminder on how to build these in today’s episode. Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emo...

Dec 07, 20234 minEp. 226

How To Build Spiritual Strength In Marriage

For the next few weeks we’re going to be talking about how to build different strengths in marriage. To me, spiritual strength is: -Strong self-worth based in God -Strong self-esteem (the way you think about and talk to yourself… especially when you make mistakes) -A sense of mission and purpose -Being a man of integrity When you can do these three things, you have great spiritual strength. You feel great about who you are… and that is very ATTRACTIVE. Learn how to build these strengths in today...

Dec 05, 202319 minEp. 225

3 Tips To Rebuild Trust In Marriage

Tip 1 - List Your Commitments List out what you’ve promised to do for yourself, your wife, your kids, your community, your church, your work and any other commitments. Tip 2 - Drop Most Of Them Drop most of these commitments. Let people know you won’t be keeping them, and apologize to yourself and others for not keeping them. Tip 3 - Choose 1-3 And Follow Through. Say “No” To Everything Else. Choose the 1 to 3 most important commitments you will keep, and follow through on those. Then say no to ...

Nov 30, 20234 minEp. 224

When Your Wife Never Apologizes

I often hear from the men I work with that their wife never apologizes… while he apologizes all the time. Learn why this happens… And what to do about it… In today’s episode. Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY… CLICK HER...

Nov 28, 202316 minEp. 223

3 Empowerment Tips For Marriage

Tip 1 - Stop trying to control what you can’t control. Like what your wife does or how she feels. The fastest way to feel disempowered is to try to control something that is impossible to control. Tip 2 - Ask for what you want You will feel more empowered when you start getting what you want. But you can’t get what you want if you don’t ask for it. Tip 3 - Start saying “no” If you are always saying “yes,” it’s easy to feel controlled by others. As soon as you start saying “no,” you WILL feel mor...

Nov 23, 20233 minEp. 222

The Emasculated Vs The Empowered Husband

Many men will tell me that they feel emasculated in their marriage. One literal definition of this is to have your testicles removed. While this (hopefully) is not the reality, these men FEEL one main thing… POWERLESS. Whether it’s with money, sex, in-laws, parenting, religion, housework or time… These men feel like they are constantly losing while their wife is winning. They say they try to lead… but their wife just won’t let them. And they can’t seem to do anything about it. Fortunately, there...

Nov 21, 202316 minEp. 221

3 Ways To Get Your Wife’s Respect

Men try to get their wife’s respect in 3 ways. Only 1 of them works. Learn what it is in today’s short episode. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY… CLICK HERE to apply to join my Strong Men Strong Marriages program. You’ll fill out an application, then we'll get back to you with your best next...

Nov 16, 20233 minEp. 220

Real Strength Vs Fake Strength In Marriage

If you’ve looked at dating advice to try to help your marriage, you’ve probably found some advice about being a “tough guy.” This is what I call fake strength. It CAN work to create a girlfriend/wife who is dependent on you and your approval… But it CAN NOT work if you want a truly intimate marriage… The kind that lives true to Christian values and shows your daughters the type of husband they want one day. Learn the difference between fake and real strength… and how to develop real strength… In...

Nov 14, 202316 minEp. 219

3 Minute Book Review - How To Win Friends And Influence People

How To Win Friends And Influence People by Dale Carnegie is one of the most popular books on human relationships. Learn the biggest 3 principles… And how to apply them to your marriage… In today’s episode. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY… CLICK HERE to apply to join my Strong Men Strong Mar...

Nov 09, 20233 minEp. 218

Stop Beating Yourself Up For Your Mistakes

You’ve made mistakes in your marriage. And, you feel bad about them. But, beating yourself up about them won’t change the past… Will have negative effects on your self-esteem… Will make it more likely you make the same mistakes… And will stop you from the changes you want to make. Learn why… and what to do instead… in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emoti...

Nov 07, 202318 minEp. 217

Deep Work 3 Minute Book Review

I’m finishing up “Deep Work” by Cal Newport. The basic idea is this: The ability to give something focused concentration is a skill. That skill is being whittled away by our focus on “shallow” activities, like social media. We need to rebuild the ability to give things sustained focus by blocking out time to do it. To block out that time, identify the main things you want to accomplish. Identify the main activities that will help you accomplish that. Eliminate the rest. If your marriage is the m...

Nov 02, 20234 minEp. 216
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