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Strong Men Strong Marriages

Mike Frazier, MDstrongmenstrongmarriages.com

Helping high achieving Christian men have more intimate marriages. Start with episodes 1-4 for an introduction. Traditional marriage counseling, couples therapy, couples counseling and even Christian marriage counseling will tell you that a good marriage is based on compromise. Validating feelings. Sacrifice. I tried that for years. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work. That’s why most couples who go through marriage counseling are the same or worse off after. BUT, in my studies in neuroscience at BYU, MD training at UCLA, psychiatry residency, marriage coach training, and most importantly in my own marriage, I finally found what DOES work. Building strength. Spiritual, mental, emotional and sexual strength, while anchored in following Christian marriage principles. Strength is attractive. And, it feels great. It builds trust. Add to this the skills of communication and intimacy, and you get a marriage full of phenomenal mental, emotional and physical intimacy. And, you set the example for generations to follow. I applied this to my own marriage, I felt better than ever and had more connection and passion than I thought possible. I started teaching this to other men and couples and they were able to create mental, emotional and sexual intimacy faster than they thought possible. This even works for affair recovery and emotional affairs. Now it’s your turn. Become a strong, attractive man. Create a strong, passionate marriage.

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Episodes

When Your Wife Says “I Don’t Feel Safe”

When your wife tells you she “doesn’t feel safe…” It can send off alarm bells for you. You want to prove that you ARE a safe person… Which often results in you feeling LESS safe to her. Learn what she ACTUALLY means by not feeling safe… And what you can do about it… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazin...

Oct 31, 202316 minEp. 215

Winning Your Wife Back Vs Building Strength And Skill

Having one of these goals will lead to frustration and less attraction. The other goal will lead to empowerment and more attraction. Learn which is which and why in today’s episode. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY… CLICK HERE to apply to join my Strong Men Strong Marriages program. You’ll f...

Oct 26, 20233 minEp. 214

How To Stop Being Tired Of Working On Your Marriage

Creating an intimate marriage requires work. But, it doesn’t have to be hard, tiring work. Learn the secret in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY… CLICK HERE to apply to join my Strong Men Strong Marriages program. You’ll fill out an application, then we...

Oct 24, 202320 minEp. 213

Don’t Be Weary In Well Doing

When you’re trying to change your unattractive habits to attractive habits… It’s hard. But, it’s worth it. To be the man you want to be. To set that example to your kids. And to create the intimacy in your marriage that you’ve been dreaming of. Galatians 6:9 (KJV) And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. Keep planting good seeds and you’ll get a good harvest. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is r...

Oct 19, 20232 minEp. 212

The 5 Steps To More Attraction In Marriage

Is your marriage lacking attraction? Are you feeling like roommates… or less? If so, there are 5 steps you need to take to start creating more attraction and intimacy. Learn what they are in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY… CLICK HERE to apply to join...

Oct 17, 202315 minEp. 211

Drop The Rope - How To End An Argument

When you’re arguing about money, sex, in-laws, parenting, religion, housework or free time… It can be exhausting. It feels like a tug of war, with both of you digging into your positions. But, there’s a strategy you can use today to end arguments immediately. Learn what it is in today’s episode. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for ...

Oct 12, 20234 minEp. 210

Being Right Vs Being Effective

It feels good to be right. But, if you focus on who is right and who is wrong in your marriage… You’re headed for trouble. You may end up being “right…” But you probably won’t create the intimacy you want. Learn what to do instead… To be more effective in creating intimacy… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create a...

Oct 10, 202317 minEp. 209

Separated And Divorce Filed To Intimacy - Simon’s Story

Today I have a special interview with a recent program graduate, Simon. Simon was separated, living in different countries from his wife, and had divorce papers filed. In the course of the 90 day program, he was able to… -Move back in together -Create deeper mental, emotional and physical intimacy than they had ever had -Feel closer to God and stronger in his self worth than ever Simon worked very hard and I’m so proud of him and so grateful to see the legacy he will leave for his family. Watch ...

Oct 05, 202330 minEp. 208

Necessary Pains For Marriage Gains

You want a marriage with more sexual, mental and emotional intimacy. But, there’s a price to be paid to get that. Are you willing to endure the necessary pains to produce the marriage gains you’re looking for? Learn what it takes… And if you’re up to the challenge… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing...

Oct 03, 202322 minEp. 207

Tips On Approaching Sex After Trauma

If your wife has been through sexual trauma, she took some negative lessons from that trauma. For one, people will see her as an object to be used for their benefit while hurting her. For another, people will remove choices around her body from her. And, that she is powerless to stop something bad from happening to her. As her husband, you’ll want to demonstrate a new approach around this. That you can approach her physically and sexually in a way that reflects care and love for her. You can res...

Sep 28, 20235 minEp. 206

How To Heal From Sexual Trauma… Without Reliving It

Approximately 1 in every 3 women has experienced sexual trauma in their lifetime. Given those statistics, there’s a good chance that your wife, like mine, has been through this terrible experience. There are many different types of therapy that can help your wife (or you) recover from this kind of trauma. Today we’ll explore a unique approach that could be a good fit for your wife (or you). If your wife is worried about having to tell the story of her trauma… the approach that Dr. Willow Brown a...

Sep 26, 202349 minEp. 205

You Can Expect Your Wife To Be As Honest As You Are

A long time ago, a mentor of mine had me make a list of all the qualities I wanted in a wife. I listed things like beautiful, honest, intelligent, connected to God, a hard worker, great with kids, and an expert cook. He complimented my list, and I thought my job was to go find this girl. But, he told me that if I wanted a girl like that, I had to be a guy like that. When it comes to anything you want your wife to be… You can only expect her to be as good as you. So, if you want her to be complet...

Sep 21, 20234 minEp. 204

To Spy Or Not To Spy On Your Wife?

If you’re suspicious that your wife may be involved with another man… Or if she’s been unfaithful in the past… The temptation to spy on her can be VERY high. There are pros and cons to spying, and we’ll cover them in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY… C...

Sep 19, 202319 minEp. 203

When Your Wife Hugs Everyone… Except You

If your wife turns away from your hugs and kisses… But doesn’t have an issue giving hugs to friends, family and your kids… It can be VERY frustrating. But, there’s a reason for it. You are probably trying to TAKE a hug from her… Instead of GIVING a hug. Learn more in today’s episode. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family ...

Sep 14, 20234 minEp. 202

When Your Wife Gives Your Kids More Affection Than You

It used to bum me out that my wife would hug and kiss my kids… But not me. They were getting more affection than I was! And my wife would tell me that she just “wasn’t very touchy…” Which I saw with my own eyes just wasn’t true. Learn why this is happening… And what to do about it… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and ...

Sep 12, 202315 minEp. 201

How To Handle Waves Of Emotion - In You And Your Wife

If you’re at the beach and a wave is coming, you have 3 options. Option 1 - Run away. If you choose this, you will get smashed. This is like trying to avoid emotions. Option 2 - Stand there. If you choose this, you will get smashed. This is like freezing in your emotions or trying to ignore them (or push them away with things like food, pornography, etc.) Option 3 - Jump into the wave. While counterintuitive, this option lets you avoid injury. It allows you to feel a gentle up and down movement ...

Sep 07, 20235 minEp. 200

How To Manage The Ups And Downs In Marriage

No matter what, your marriage WILL have ups and downs. You’ll have moments of great connection… then disconnection. Your wife will be happy… then unhappy. How do you handle these ups and downs now? Many men try to fix the downs and make them go away as fast as possible. But, this often just makes the downs last longer and creates more damage. Learn what to do instead… To enjoy the good times and make the bad times opportunities for more intimacy… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mi...

Sep 05, 202319 minEp. 199

3 Steps To Feel More Secure In Your Relationships

Step 1 - Seen. Notice your own emotions. Name them. Feel them. Step 2 - Safe. Remind yourself that you’re OK and in a safe place Step 3 - Soothe. Deal with your emotions appropriately. Think in terms of body, mind, heart and spirit. Body - exercise, stretching, yoga, etc Mind - Music, books, scriptures Heart - Connection with others Spirit - Prayer, meditation, books Following these 3 steps, you WILL create more security in your relationship with yourself, your wife, your kids and others. Learn ...

Aug 31, 20234 minEp. 198

How To Feel More Secure In Your Marriage… And With Yourself

This is, I believe, one of my most important episodes so far. We all have the desire to feel seen, safe and soothed in our emotions. Unfortunately, many of us did not get that… or did not get it consistently… from our parents or caregivers. I used to ignore this idea a lot, thinking our upbringing didn’t really matter. But, as I’ve done some of this work on my own, I’ve seen that our childhood has a MASSIVE impact on how we relate to our wife and our children. Learn YOUR attachment style (secure...

Aug 29, 202331 minEp. 197

How To Woo Your Wife - Interview With Monica Tanner

Today I have the privilege of talking with Monica Tanner, host of the Secrets Of Happily Ever After Podcast. We discuss insights on how to “woo your wife.” What are the things you can do today (and tonight) to make your wife feel “those feelings” again. This episode includes some extra special tips and phrases on how to do just that. Watch on YouTube here. You can find Monica at monicatanner.com http://monicatanner.com Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian...

Aug 24, 202342 min

Why Conflict Is REQUIRED For A Passionate Marriage

Do you feel like your marriage is stagnant? Are you walking on eggshells, avoiding asking for what you want, because you’re afraid your wife might not like it or agree? Are you good teammates in parenting and household management, but lack sexual, mental and emotional intimacy? Then there’s a good chance there’s not enough conflict in your marriage. Just like your body needs stress to become stronger… Your marriage needs conflict to become stronger and more intimate. Learn how to have conflicts ...

Aug 22, 202321 minEp. 195

How To Be The Father Your Kids Want To Be Around

I’ve had some important insights lately that I have not been the father that I want to be, and feedback from my oldest son that I’m not the type of father he would want to be around once he leaves the house. While hard to hear, it was very important to me and now I’m making changes that will help me be that father. Today I talk with Don Manning from Crazy Cool Family, who has made it his mission to help us “Experience a family where kids love JESUS, love YOU, love EACH OTHER and have a God-inspi...

Aug 17, 202346 minEp. 194

The Top 5 Reasons Your Wife Says She “Needs Space”

When your wife says “I need space…” It’s frightening and often confusing. But, understanding WHY she needs space… And what she needs space FROM… Can help you become the man that she wants to come CLOSER to… Instead of GET AWAY from. Learn WHY she’s asking for space… And what to do to make her become ATTRACTED to you again… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. https://youtu.be/s-4Nve4PZ6c Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to creat...

Aug 15, 202322 minEp. 193

How To Stop Yourself From Feeling Out Of Control

When you feel yourself going on that “low road” and acting in ways you won’t be proud of… Stop and take a breath. Remind yourself that you’re OK. Start acting how you want to act if you can. If you can’t remove yourself from the situation until you can. Mentally rehearse this so you’re ready to go in the moment. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an am...

Aug 10, 20233 minEp. 192

How To Not Repeat Your Parents’ Mistakes

This week was a powerful week for me. My son told me directly that he didn’t really feel comfortable talking to me because he was worried I would respond with anger. This was a turning point for me. This moment combined with reading Parenting From The Inside Out by Daniel Siegel https://amzn.to/3KAr8CP helped me see that I was repeating some old patterns from my childhood that I wasn’t aware of. Learn how to find some of your old patterns… and change them… in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube he...

Aug 08, 202318 minEp. 191

When You’re Respected By Everyone… Except Your Wife

You would think your wife would respect how hard you try to make her happy. That approach MIGHT make her LIKE you… But it WILL NOT lead to her RESPECTING you… Or being ATTRACTED to you. Learn how to earn her respect in today’s episode. It’s probably not what you think. Watch on YouTube here. https://youtu.be/6pSGR01K4pY Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and crea...

Aug 03, 20233 minEp. 190

When You’re A Leader… Except With Your Wife

I talk to a lot of men who are great leaders at work. Business owners. Professionals. Military leaders and sports professionals. They are great leaders at church. Men’s group leaders, youth group leaders, even leaders of marriage ministries. BUT, they DO NOT feel like leaders with their wife. They walk on eggshells trying to make her happy. Their wives say they want them to lead more… But when they try, they get criticized. It can feel trapped and hopeless. But, there’s a reason for you being ab...

Aug 01, 202320 minEp. 189

The 3 Steps To Be The Man Your Wife Passionately Desires

There are 3 simple steps to become the man your wife passionately desires. Step 1 - Identify and eliminate your negative, unattractive patterns of thinking, feeling and acting. If you don’t do this, you’ll continue to push your wife away. And if you don’t get a guide to help you, you won’t be able to identify them. Or at least not all of them and not at a deep level. Step 2 - Replace them with positive, attractive patterns This is what will help you become the man your wife passionately desires....

Jul 27, 20234 minEp. 188

How To Be The Man Your Wife Passionately Desires

You’re trying to do the right things. You’re trying to make your wife happy. Cooking, cleaning, doing the 5 love languages. But, your wife isn’t turned on by any of it. She doesn’t even appreciate it, while people outside the marriage seem to. The question now is… Do you want to continue to try to create intimacy on your own? Or do you want to follow The Hero’s Journey to become the man your wife passionately desires? Learn how in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a...

Jul 25, 202319 minEp. 187

Nice Is Nice, Strong Is Sexy

Is it possible to be “too nice” to your wife? YES! If you’re not willing to disagree with your wife… Express yourself… Speak up when you feel things aren’t fair… Then you are living in the “happy wife, happy life” mindset. Which creates a sort of happy wife who “loves you but is not in love with you…” A roommate, unbalanced, and walking on eggshells feeling in the marriage… And an emotionally and sexually frustrated husband. It’s time to represent yourself in your marriage. You’re just as import...

Jul 20, 20233 minEp. 186
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