While it's important to understand your wife... You don't have to agree with everything she says. And really, you shouldn't. From my upcoming book: As Stephen Covey puts it, it’s “seek first to understand.” Now, a lot of people mistake understanding for agreement. You don’t have to agree with everything your wife says. And really, you shouldn’t. Winston Churchill said “If two people agree on everything, one of them is unnecessary.” Your differences are important and help you grow. In marriage, y...
Apr 06, 2023•4 min•Ep. 158
You’re doing a lot in your marriage. You pay the bills. You help cook. You help clean. You help with the kids. But, your wife rarely seems to notice or say “thank you.” Your kids take what you do for granted. It’s VERY frustrating. And, when you ask for them to appreciate you more… They might for a little while… But then they stop. It makes you want to stop contributing so that they can FEEL what it’s like without you… So that they will REALLY appreciate you. Unfortunately, these strategies don’...
Apr 04, 2023•23 min•Ep. 157
If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create incredible sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY… CLICK HERE to apply to join my Strong Men Strong Marriages program You’ll fill out an application, then I’ll get back to you with your best next steps. I’m looking forward to hearing from you! P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To You...
Mar 30, 2023•7 min
Your wife doesn’t seem interested in having sex with you. She says “no” more often than she says “yes.” Or, you’ve given up asking, fearing yet another rejection. Why is it that she has lost interest in you? At the end of the day, here’s the hard truth: She has lost attraction for you. In this episode, we’ll cover: -The top reasons why your wife has lost attraction to you -The #1 trait that women are attracted to… and how to develop it -How to become the strong, attractive man that creates a str...
Mar 28, 2023•41 min
You’ve made mistakes in your marriage. Whether those are “mosquito” mistakes, like doing “nice things” for your wife, expecting, attention, appreciation and affection back, getting frustrated when you don’t get it, then exploding in anger or escaping into pornography or other things… Or more serious mistakes like pornography or infidelity. And, it can be tough to forgive yourself for those mistakes. You tend to swing between beating yourself up about them (“I’m the worst. How could I do this to ...
Mar 21, 2023•25 min•Ep. 155
Michael Jaquith, The Catholic Life Coach For Men and I discuss what it takes to find true confidence in your decisions at home. We also discuss how to grow in your faith, fatherhood, and have more success in your work. If you're a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is wanting more sexual, mental and emotional intimacy in his marriage... Apply to join us in Strong Men Strong Marriages. P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife I...
Mar 16, 2023•41 min
You’re a faithful podcast listener. You read books. You take courses. You learn as much as you can to create sexual, mental and emotional intimacy with your wife. And, you’re making some steps in the right direction. But, you’re not quite where you want to be. Or, you make some progress, then seem to slip back. It’s not that you need to listen to one more podcast or find just the right book. Your brain needs to change. And to do that, you need to do 3 things: #Identify and eliminate your negativ...
Mar 14, 2023•19 min•Ep. 154
Do you find yourself saying “I forgot” to your wife often? Do you come home and realize that you forgot to pick something up from the store? Does your wife ask you repeatedly if you did something she asked you to do? It may not seem like a big deal. Usually the things you forget are small. But, those small things are slowly eroding trust in your marriage. And, they’re showing your wife that she’s not really your #1 priority. And, it could be one of the reasons that you are not experiencing the m...
Mar 07, 2023•18 min•Ep. 153
This bonus episode is actually a module from my program, Strong Men Strong Marriages, that I wanted to share with you. It will help you: -Understand EXACTLY how to build your self confidence -Help you stop beating yourself up to get to the "next level" -Unlock new sources of self esteem and motivation -How to keep your motivation AND be grateful for what you have now (the secret to living in abundance) -How to base your self worth in something BESIDES money, status, or the other "self worth boob...
Mar 02, 2023•39 min•Ep. 152
You feel like you’re making good changes. But, your wife keeps bringing up the past. Or she tells you that she’s not sure you’ll keep your changes up. Or she just seems unimpressed by your changes overall. Or she tells you that your changes will be helpful for your next wife. So, you get frustrated. And that frustration proves to her that your changes are not permanent. Instead, you need to shift your goal. You need to STOP focusing on changing her mind about you… And START focusing on being who...
Feb 28, 2023•19 min•Ep. 151
You want your wife to like you. You want her to give you attention, appreciation, affection and sex. And, the way you go about that is to try to “make her happy.” You cook. You clean. You help with the kids. But, it doesn’t result in the attraction that you want. She doesn’t seem to respect you. And you end up feeling like you’re losing in your marriage. Here’s the thing. The root of trying to be “liked” is that you don’t have enough self worth, self esteem or self respect. You’re trying to “fil...
Feb 21, 2023•23 min•Ep. 150
It’s Valentine’s Day today! How special did you make it for your wife? If you’re like a lot of men, you maybe didn’t have much of a plan for today. You might be running to grab a card and some flowers or chocolate after work. Or, you might not be doing anything. Because you know your wife won’t be having sex with you tonight, so why should you do anything special for her? Unfortunately, last minute plans and spiteful non-action are not very attractive to your wife. And they’re certainly not roma...
Feb 14, 2023•21 min•Ep. 149
You make some good strides. You stop being a mosquito. You handle your wife’s rejection of physical touch well. You control your temper. For a few days. Or maybe even weeks. But then, you fall back into the same old patterns. You feel bad. Your wife loses trust. And you feel stuck. Or maybe even like giving up. But, there’s a reason this happens. It’s just how your brain works. And, there’s a way to interrupt this negative pattern… And create a new one… So that you avoid setbacks and continue on...
Feb 07, 2023•23 min•Ep. 148
You’re telling your wife “I love you” in person, in text or in email. But, she’s not saying it back. Or, if she does, she doesn’t seem to mean it. There’s a reason for this. Today you’ll learn: -Why the WAY you say I love you matters most -Why your wife is not attracted to how you’re saying I love you -What to do instead that will make it far more likely that you’ll get and “I love you” back from your wife. Listen on the Strong Men Strong Marriages Podcast. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. R...
Jan 31, 2023•24 min•Ep. 147
Paul is the co-founder of Maniphesto and the podcast As Iron Sharpens Iron, a men's leadership training movement. In his words: I am on a mission to restore manhood. I call men to adventure and support them in finding a deeper sense of direction and purpose. I enjoyed this interview with him very much, and you can learn more about him at Maniphesto.com and Iron Sharpens Iron. P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io...
Jan 26, 2023•52 min
If your wife is asking for space, turning away from your kisses, avoiding your hugs, and saying “no” to sex… It can be VERY frustrating. Especially if you feel like you’re doing “all the right things.” Helping with cooking, cleaning, paying the bills, leading in prayer or scriptures. Can’t she do this ONE thing for you, after all you do for her? It’s easy to get sad in this situation. And resentful. To pull away from her completely. To become passive aggressive. It’s even common to turn to porno...
Jan 24, 2023•21 min•Ep. 146
Right now, you’re struggling to find love and respect at home. And it’s frustrating, because people at work and church do seem to give you respect. Maybe even love. They value your opinions. They appreciate what you do. They listen to you. But at home, your wife doesn’t do the same. You try to make her happy. You cook. You clean. You make the money for the family. But, it never seems to be enough. She doesn’t like how you do things. Or, she wants you do to more. And it doesn’t lead to the mental...
Jan 17, 2023•33 min•Ep. 145
Imagine your wife writing down a list of what she wants in a husband. Would she write: I really want a man who: -Is afraid to tell me what he’s thinking and feeling -Bottles up his emotions until they explode -Is passive aggressive -Won’t ask for what he wants from me because he’s worried I might say no -Tries to make me happy while secretly becoming resentful -Won’t do what he believes is right because he thinks I won’t agree -Won’t have important discussions because he’s afraid of my emotional...
Jan 10, 2023•22 min•Ep. 144
In today's interview I discuss with John what it means to be a leader in your home. Visit John here: Instagram: @last_in_line_leadership YouTube Podcast Website Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create phenomenal mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY… CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program. You’ll schedule a call and fill...
Jan 05, 2023•1 hr 3 min
When your marriage is suffering, every day seems difficult. You look at your wife and wish things were different. Or, maybe you can’t even look at your wife because she’s not around. You wish that you could laugh and have fun together. That you would enjoy spending time together. And that you could have a great sexual connection. But right now, every day reminds you that you don’t have that. So, you start making some changes. And you start feeling better. But, your wife doesn’t notice. And you d...
Jan 03, 2023•22 min•Ep. 143
Interview with Dana Che from Real Relationship Talk (also available here ). We'll get a female perspective on what is and is NOT attractive when it comes to showing love to your wife. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who is ready to create phenomenal mental, emotional and sexual intimacy with your wife, and create an amazing legacy for your family to follow… starting TODAY… CLICK HERE to apply to join my Love, Intimacy And Legacy program. You’ll s...
Dec 29, 2022•37 min
Sometimes marriage just seems too hard. At least to your wife. You feel like whatever you do, it just doesn’t make a difference. Your wife won’t change. You start to think life would be better with someone else. But, you also don’t want to hurt your kids or go against your faith and get divorced. This leads to you feeling trapped. You want to leave the marriage, but feel like you can’t. That feeling is terrible, and it is also very unattractive. So basically, you’re staying in the marriage but f...
Dec 27, 2022•27 min•Ep. 142
Your wife is saying “I just need some space.” This is a hard thing to hear. You’re feeling hurt and scared. Angry too. Especially around Christmas and the holidays. So, you try to tell her why space is a bad idea. That you can’t grow if you have space apart. Which makes her tell you even more than she needs space. Or, you decide to have no contact with her at all. This is better then trying to talk her out of space. But it also doesn’t plant any seeds for a good relationship to grow. Instead, fo...
Dec 20, 2022•31 min•Ep. 141
Unconditional love is a popular topic these days. And it sounds great. Especially on the receiving end. Be loved no matter what I do? Sign me up! But, as Christians, it can also seem like a commandment. To love others no matter what they do to us. And it’s true. Jesus does ask us to be kind to those who are not kind to us. To bless them that curse us. And it’s important to do that in marriage. To not return evil for evil. If your wife has an affair, to not have one back. If your wife yells at yo...
Dec 13, 2022•25 min•Ep. 140
What does it mean to be codependent in marriage? For most of the guys I work with, they identify with a few things. They put aside their own wants and needs in favor of what their wife wants and needs. They avoid doing anything that might upset their wife (like going out with friends, disagreeing with her, confronting her about problematic behavior, etc). They are constantly focused on meeting their wife’s wants and needs. They lose themselves in this process, finding it hard to identify what th...
Dec 06, 2022•29 min•Ep. 139
Do you wish that your wife would appreciate you more? Are you making the money for the family, taking a large amount of child care duties, cooking and cleaning… But your wife doesn’t appreciate all you’re doing? Or does she even become critical of the things you’re doing? Does she ask you do to even more, or give you negative feedback for the way you’re washing the dishes (or whatever the task might be)? This can be very frustrating. Why can’t she just see the good things you’re doing? Everyone ...
Nov 29, 2022•25 min•Ep. 138
If you’ve done something you know is wrong in your marriage, you might be thinking “I shouldn’t tell her because it might hurt her.” And it’s true. Telling her the truth will hurt her. But, continuing a lie will 100% keep you from having a great marriage. Great marriages are built on trust, communication and intimacy. Keeping a big, hurtful secret keeps trust out of the equation. It also limits communication, because you’re constantly on the lookout to make sure that your secret doesn’t come up....
Nov 22, 2022•28 min•Ep. 137
Where are you failing right now in your marriage? Are you breaking promises? Looking at porn or recovering from infidelity? Are you losing your temper? Are you having a hard time listening to your wife (or does she think you don’t listen)? Do you have a hard time expressing yourself, feeling like you’re walking on eggshells? Do you lack the sexual connection that you want in your marriage? Failure is part of every hero’s journey. It’s the failure that makes success even sweeter. The mental, emot...
Nov 15, 2022•22 min•Ep. 136
You’re focused on becoming a better husband and father. You’re serving your wife, trying to listen, trying to do the five love languages… all of it. But, your wife still says things like “You’re making it about you.” This can be very frustrating, because you feel like your soul focus is on her! But, here’s the thing. If your goal is to be a better husband… that still is about you. What you want to try instead is to spend time each day getting into your wife’s shoes at a deep level. In particular...
Nov 08, 2022•26 min•Ep. 135
If your wife has called you a narcissist, it can feel very hurtful. And you want to prove her wrong! So you go about telling her why you don’t really meet all the criteria. Which makes her even more sure that you are a narcissist. Instead, you need to: -Understand what narcissists are (get full criteria here ) -Identify places where you ARE being narcissistic -Understand how those patterns of thinking, feeling and acting impact her (show empathy) -Change your patterns of thinking, feeling and ac...
Nov 01, 2022•33 min•Ep. 134
