As you start to make positive changes in your life and marriage, it’s exciting. You feel better and your wife starts to build some hope. But then, a setback happens. You go back to old patterns. You break her trust. And now it seems that all is lost. But, there’s a way out of this. And actually, these setbacks can be used to create MORE connection with your wife. Learn how in today’s episode. Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re ready to impr...
Apr 05, 2022•16 min•Ep. 104
Do you feel like your marriage is unfair? That you’re doing so much, but not getting attention, appreciation or affection from your wife? Do other people seem to notice all the work you’re putting in, but your wife doesn’t? If you’re thinking this way… You’re in the martyr mindset. And, you’re viewing your wife or your marriage as an affliction. As a thorn in your side. As arthritis that you have to deal with. Do you think your wife likes to be compared to arthritis? Learn how to get out of this...
Mar 29, 2022•24 min•Ep. 103
You want a better mental, emotional and sexual connection with your wife. You’re listening to podcasts, watching videos, reading books. And maybe you’re seeing some changes… but they’re not quite what you want. Or, they’re not happening as fast as you would want. That’s because you’re missing the two key drivers that accelerate improvement by AT LEAST 10x: Accountability and coaching. Learning what to do is important. But following through is more important. And most people (including me and pro...
Mar 22, 2022•19 min•Ep. 102
You want your wife to love you more. You want to feel a powerful mental, emotional and sexual connection with your wife. But, there are some obstacles in the way of that connection. Some may be obvious, like an affair or pornography. Some might not be as obvious. Like neglecting your wife over time. Either way, these obstacles need to be removed. And, you may be working to remove them and feel good about that. But, your wife usually responds to your changes with indifference, or even with anger....
Mar 15, 2022•18 min•Ep. 101
My date night started off bad. But, I was able to use the skills that I’ve learned to turn it around. Learn how at the beginning of the episode. As part of our date night, we took a personality test. I found that I have a “powerful choleric” personality (and you probably have some of it too). This personality is driven, productive and gets a lot done. But, they are also prone to being proud and judgmental. Learn what Jesus taught about this… And how to use the positive elements of your personali...
Mar 08, 2022•23 min•Ep. 100
Do you feel like you’re doing everything you can to have a great marriage… But it’s just not happening? You’re making the changes your wife wants you to make, but she still doesn’t want to have sex with you? Or she isn’t forgiving you for your mistakes, isn’t willing to end a separation or divorce? You may be caught in what Stephen Karpman called “The Karpman Drama Triangle.” Learn how to step out of this so that you can… -Feel loved and confident in your marriage -Communicate to get a deep ment...
Mar 01, 2022•28 min•Ep. 99
What will make you happy in your marriage? If your wife has sex with you more? If she forgives you and comes back? If she stops the divorce? Most men think this way. That they will be happy when their wife does something different. But, what if she didn’t have to do anything for you to be truly happy? And what if your happiness is what led to her opening up to you and connecting with you emotionally and sexually? Fortunately, you CAN be happy in your marriage BEFORE your wife changes anything. A...
Feb 22, 2022•24 min•Ep. 98
Would you like to know how to have loving relationships for the rest of your life? I recently realized that my main goal in life is to have loving relationships with God, myself, my wife, and each of my kids. If I can do that, then I will have lived a great life. I was reminded this week of a secret that can help me reach that goal. And that, in fact, puts that goal 100% within my reach. Learn the secret that makes this possible in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. https://youtu.be/BP6C7uZ...
Feb 15, 2022•30 min•Ep. 97
This week I got upset with my kids again for beating me in a game. This time, though, I took the time to really sit with my emotions and understand why this has been such a problem for me. What I uncovered was a deep issue with my identity. That identity was: I am the best. While this may seem like the kind of affirmation that would get you everything you want in life… For me it caused a lot of problems. With myself, my wife, my kids and my business. Learn why focusing on “being the best” can be...
Feb 08, 2022•26 min•Ep. 96
If you’ve been following along with the intimacy intensive series, you’ve learned that women are attracted to strength. So, you may be wanting to build your strength. But, that strength needs to be built on a solid foundation. If you want to build strength mainly so that you can save your marriage or have more sex with your wife… You are built on a sandy foundation. At its core, this reason is still manipulative and controlling. You’re changing to change her behavior. And, therefore, building st...
Feb 01, 2022•31 min•Ep. 95
Last week I attended a writing workshop through Scribe . It was an amazing experience, but one of the most meaningful parts was getting clear on who I can help best. In this episode, I describe clearly the type of person with the type of problem I feel especially able to help with. I call him John. John is a professionally successful Christian man who has a good marriage… except for the sex. But, if you dig a little deeper, you’ll see that it’s really a deep sense of feeling trapped. He tries so...
Jan 25, 2022•18 min•Ep. 94
Last week we learned about the common mistakes men make when trying to have more intimacy with their wife. The main problem is that these methods are NEEDY, WEAK and SELFISH. Women always have been and always will be attracted to… STRENGTH. In old times, physical or financial strength was enough. But, now that women can provide for themselves financially, they are looking for men who are strong in ALL areas. Physical, mental, emotional, spiritual and sexual. Today we’ll talk about what I believe...
Jan 18, 2022•35 min•Ep. 93
Over the next few weeks we’ll be doing a short “intimacy intensive” course. This will help you to start the new year with improved intimacy with your wife. Today we’re going to talk about the 3 problematic approaches that men take when they want more intimacy with their wife. -The Mosquito Method -The Pout Method -The “You Owe Me” Method All three of these are based on neediness and weakness, and will eventually lead to LESS passion and intimacy in your marriage. Learn what these methods are, an...
Jan 11, 2022•18 min•Ep. 92
I’ve been sick in bed with COVID all this week, so today I’m going to refer you to a different podcast. The Joe Rogan Experience - #1747 - Dr. Peter A McCullough Dr. McCullough is a renowned physician and has testified in congress regarding COVID treatment. In this episode, you’ll hear Dr. McCullough’s concern about the glaring lack of treatment for COVID-19. You’ll also hear why he believes masks don’t really make sense, and how you can not get COVID twice. His solution to beat the pandemic is ...
Jan 04, 2022•4 min•Ep. 91
You’re probably setting some goals for the new year right now. But, before you do, listen to this episode. You may be setting goals for all the WRONG reasons… Which will SABOTAGE your success… Or make your success less sweet. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. Want a better, more intimate marriage with your wife? Come join The Strong Man System. It will be worth your $2500, or you get your $2500 back. CLICK HERE to join . P.P.S. Want more intimacy in your marriage? Watch my free training. CLIC...
Dec 28, 2021•21 min•Ep. 90
It’s Christmas this week and a great time to get to know Jesus better. Over the past few months, I feel like I’ve finally started to understand Jesus better. Instead of trying to EARN my salvation and “try to be like Jesus,” I’ve started to focus on letting Him into my life. I feel more free, easy and abundant than I ever have. And that’s available to you too. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. Want a better, more intimate marriage with your wife? Come join The Strong Man System. It will be wo...
Dec 21, 2021•25 min•Ep. 89
When I ran track in middle school, my coach told me… “Imagine there’s a big dog chasing you.” That DID motivate me to run faster (especially since I had been attacked by a dog a few years earlier). For high achieving men, the “dog” motivating them to “run faster” is often the feeling of not being good enough. They reach for higher and higher levels of financial and professional success, hoping to finally feel they have “arrived.” And this strategy DOES work to achieve high levels of financial an...
Dec 14, 2021•31 min•Ep. 88
If you’re a human male, you’re going to get mad sometimes. But, how you handle that anger will have a BIG impact on how attractive you are to your wife... And how you’re viewed by everyone else. Learn how to stop the “volcano method” (Acting like everything is fine and then exploding over something small) And the “coping method” (Escaping anger and other negative emotions with alcohol, drugs, pornography, or food) In today’s episode. Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here. https://strongmens...
Dec 07, 2021•26 min•Ep. 87
About 1 in 10 women suffer from depression. About 1 in 4 suffer from anxiety About 1 in 4 have been through sexual trauma. If your wife is suffering from depression, anxiety or PTSD, she’s not alone. And neither are you. Supporting a wife who is struggling with depression, anxiety or PTSD can be very difficult. Today I’ll share the most helpful tips that have helped me and my wife as she has dealt with all three of these issues. Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here. Watch on YouTube here. ...
Nov 30, 2021•35 min•Ep. 86
For some people, the holidays are a time of joy. For others, they are very difficult. If you’re struggling in your marriage, you may be separated from your wife or children. It can be easy to slip into sadness, anger and resentment… or into bad habits to try to get rid of these feelings. But, there is an antidote that can help. And that’s gratitude. And that’s not just “counting your blessings.” It’s finding gratitude and meaning in your SUFFERING as well. Learn how to do that in today’s episode...
Nov 23, 2021•24 min•Ep. 85
Many of us try to avoid conflict. It’s uncomfortable to disagree with someone (to their face). But, KNOWING what is important to you… And STANDING UP for that… Even and ESPECIALLY when others disagree with you… Is what having a backbone is all about. In marriage, you need to have the backbone to stand up FOR your wife (by protecting her). You also need to have the backbone to stand up TO your wife. To be willing to disagree with her… while STILL having her best interests at heart. Learn how to d...
Nov 16, 2021•28 min•Ep. 84
Many men are sexually frustrated in their marriage. They tell their wife they want to have more sex, but she just doesn’t seem interested. She says that she doesn’t want to feel “pressured” or “obligated” to have sex. So, men will back off and not bring up sex at all, hoping it will relieve the pressure… While their own sexual frustration builds higher and higher. What’s the solution? As a husband, you need to learn to seduce your wife. You need to understand what takes a woman from not thinking...
Nov 09, 2021•23 min•Ep. 83
Jesus said: “"I am the true vine...Remain in me, and I will remain in you. No branch can bear fruit by itself; it must remain in the vine. Neither can you bear fruit unless you remain in me. I am the vine; you are the branches. If a man remains in me and I in him, he will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.” John 15:1-5 In The Strong Man System, we are trying to build strength across these areas: Spiritual (self-worth, mission, purpose and integrity) Mental Emotional Physical and ...
Nov 02, 2021•26 min•Ep. 82
Men come to me in very difficult situations. They are in a separation or in the divorce process. Their wife has been unfaithful to them. They have been unfaithful to their wife and feel terrible about it. These are MAJOR issues and VERY difficult. They are the equivalent of being hit by an emotional bus. And when this happens, we ARE in a younger emotional state. In a way, we are babies. But how do high achieving men respond? They tell themselves to “just deal with it.” They “just keep moving fo...
Oct 26, 2021•28 min•Ep. 81
We all have things we would like our wife to do for us. We want more attention, appreciation or affection. We want to have sex more often. We want our wife to spend less money, cook more, clean more, or spend more time with our family (or less time with hers). Why isn’t our wife doing the things we want? Often it’s because we’re not ASKING for what we want in an EFFECTIVE way. We either don’t ask at all... Try mosquito mode (doing nice things for her and HOPING she returns the favor)... Or we CO...
Oct 19, 2021•29 min•Ep. 80
Most men come to The Strong Man System wanting to change their outside situation. They want their wife to come back. They want to stop a separation or divorce. They want to restore trust after infidelity. They want a better sex life. And, The Strong Man System CAN help them do this. Just not in the way they think at first. Here’s what a few graduates of the program have said: The Strong Man System is a “revamp of your heart and brain.” It teaches you to become the “best version of yourself.” It ...
Oct 12, 2021•35 min•Ep. 79
Counseling and coaching are often confused. When would you choose a marriage counselor vs a marriage coach? For the most part, it’s about choosing an approach that fits with your beliefs, values and preferences. In this episode, we cover some of the main marriage counseling schools of thought… As well as the coaching method… And finally my personal approach to marriage coaching. Watch on YouTube here. To me, it’s about learning a particular set of skills that allows you to have an outstanding ma...
Oct 05, 2021•27 min•Ep. 78
Most people say the biggest problem in their marriage is communication. But, most people can’t figure out how to FIND and FIX their marriage communication problems. Today I’m going to share with you my favorite tool to fix marriage communication… And share a real life example so you can see how to use this tool. Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here . Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. Ready to join The Strong Man System? Restore trust, improve communication, and ignite intimacy… in just ...
Sep 28, 2021•25 min•Ep. 77
What do you want to accomplish in your marriage? In your career? With your money? As a high achieving man, you’re used to setting goals and reaching them. But why is it that when you reach them, you STILL don’t feel fulfilled? Why do you immediately start seeking the NEXT big goal? Why do you tend to spend money or pick a fight with your wife or get mad at your kids… Right when things seem to be going well? You’ll find answers to these questions in today’s episode, which is a summary of some of ...
Sep 21, 2021•26 min•Ep. 76
Have you ever asked your wife… “What do you do for me?” So have I. And so have most of my clients. How did it go for you? Did your wife become more loving and connected? Or angry, hurt or guilty? Learn why this question is terrible… And what to do instead to have your wife start doing more for you… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. Interested in joining The Strong Man System but want to chat first to see if it’s a fit? Schedule a 20 minute Marriage Assessment here. We’ll t...
Sep 14, 2021•18 min•Ep. 75
