My wife and I were both born and raised members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. A few years back, my wife started to have some questions about the Church. This was VERY hard on me… to the point that I thought if she wasn’t going to be a member of the Church, it would be better if we got divorced. Fast forward to now, we have both evolved in our faith and belief in God… And have a STRONGER marriage because of our “faith crisis.” This is more of a personal episode, sharing what...
Sep 07, 2021•35 min•Ep. 74
When you lift weights, you create small tears in your muscles. If you keep lifting weights without resting, these tears just get bigger, making you WEAKER over time. That’s why it’s IMPERATIVE that you REST and eat well if you’re trying to build muscle. The muscle REGROWS bigger and stronger while you REST. The same is true of building spiritual, mental, emotional and sexual strength… And the interpersonal skills of trust, communication, and intimacy. You need to work to build the strengths and ...
Aug 31, 2021•20 min•Ep. 73
Men WAIT to apologize to their wife. They FEAR that bringing up all their flaws will make things WORSE. Or, they’re too PRIDEFUL to see their mistakes (or how bad the mistakes are). Both of these responses REPEL your wife instead of attracting her. Instead: OWN your mistakes COMPLETELY and HONESTLY (requires you to set aside your pride) TELL your wife your mistakes and understand the PAIN they caused (trust me, you’re not going to surprise her. She already KNOWS your flaws. That’s why she’s lost...
Aug 24, 2021•22 min•Ep. 72
When your dog is hungry, do you… A. Tell your dog it’s not time to eat yet and why he shouldn’t be hungry B. Tell your dog you’re hungry too and he should be more considerate C. Tell your dog that you have needs too and he shouldn’t be so selfish D. Try to talk your dog out of wanting food E. Get the dog some food Unfortunately, we often use A-D when our wife needs something from us. When your wife is upset with you, what she is HUNGRY for is UNDERSTANDING. Learn HOW to RECOGNIZE that need and G...
Aug 17, 2021•18 min•Ep. 71
When it comes to ATTRACTING your wife to you, it’s more about who you ARE than what you DO. That’s why I could give you all the “right lines” to say, but it would still “not work” to win your wife back. She would (correctly) say: Don’t tell me. SHOW ME! There are 5 MAIN TRAITS that are ATTRACTIVE to your wife… And that make you feel AMAZING as a man. And, they’re based on the Biblical traits that God embodies in Exodus 34:6-7. Whether you’re a Christian or not, these are traits that build STRONG...
Aug 10, 2021•22 min•Ep. 70
What does it take to make a marriage work? Really just 3 things. Trust. Communication. And Intimacy. You need to diagnose which of these is broken… And then figure out how to repair it. You’ll learn tips to repair broken trust, poor communication and low intimacy in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you want to learn EXACTLY how to rebuild trust (even after infidelity), have expert communication, and passionate intimacy in YOUR marriage, and you're a high achieving, profes...
Aug 03, 2021•21 min•Ep. 69
Your wife is telling you she doesn’t love you anymore. What does that mean? She doesn’t want to share a life with you. She’s not sexually attracted to you. She doesn’t feel safe with you. In response, you’re trying to prove to her that she SHOULD love you… Which ALWAYS backfires. Learn how to start to REGAIN that love in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man who wants more intimacy in his marriage… CLICK HERE to ...
Jul 27, 2021•24 min•Ep. 68
These days it’s popular to say “I’m working on myself.” Your wife might even be saying “You need to work on yourself.” But what does that even mean? To me, it’s about building up your spiritual, mental, emotional, physical and sexual strength. It’s also about building up your communication skills so you know how to get to win-win with your wife (and others). And, with your wife, learning how to create fun, flirting and passion. But what’s the fastest way to do that? Learn how to accelerate your ...
Jul 20, 2021•17 min•Ep. 67
“Don’t tell me, SHOW me!” This is what your wife says when you tell her that you are going to change. Most men go about this the wrong way. They try to show their wife they are changing by doing more dishes, buying more gifts, or sending lots of text messages saying they’re sorry. NONE OF THESE WORK. Because they’re not addressing the CORE issues that drove your wife away. Learn what those core issues are… How to change them… And how to SHOW your wife those changes… In today’s episode. Listen on...
Jul 13, 2021•20 min•Ep. 66
A member of The Strong Man System recently asked what to do when your wife ignores your text messages. It is VERY difficult when this happens. But, it's also an OPPORTUNITY. Your response will show your TRUE COLORS as a man and a husband. Will you respond with ANGER? With DESPERATION? This will show her that she is RIGHT in creating more distance from you. That you are emotionally IMMATURE and UNSAFE. Or, will you respond with UNDERSTANDING and CALM? This will show her that you are an ATTRACTIVE...
Jul 06, 2021•16 min•Ep. 65
As a man, you think about sex a lot. But, the WAY you’re thinking about it is causing problems. Often men think that they can “earn” sex from their wife. They try to earn sex “helping out” around the house. Cooking, cleaning, taking care of kids. They try to earn sex by doing the love languages. Spending time with her, saying nice things to her, buying her gifts. Basically, they try to create a sort of “debt” for their wife. They think “I’ve done so much for you, now you should have sex with me....
Jun 29, 2021•20 min•Ep. 64
You’re a high achieving man who is used to success in his life. But now, your marriage is on the brink of failure. Infidelity. Separation. Faith crisis. “I love you but I’m not in love with you.” Divorce talks or filing. Your wife’s interest in another man. You want to FIX this and WIN HER BACK! Unfortunately, this “get after it” approach... That has worked so well in many areas of your life… Does NOT work when it comes to winning your wife back. Learn why in this presentation. If you feel like ...
Jun 22, 2021•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 63
As high achieving men, we’re used to fixing problems. And we’re good at it. So, when our wife comes to us to talk about a problem, we naturally want to try and fix it. Unfortunately, this often backfires. She feels like we don’t really understand her. And we’re frustrated because she doesn’t want to hear our (expert) advice. Today you’ll learn what to do INSTEAD of trying to fix her problem. So that when she comes to you feeling frustrated or upset, you’ll know EXACTLY how to turn that frustrati...
Jun 15, 2021•22 min•Ep. 62
In the book "The Noble Art of Seducing Women" by Kezia Noble, she identifies 3 types of men. The nice guy. The bad boy. And the good man. For us, we'll call the third the Strong Man. These same guys show up in marriages. The nice guy puts his wife above himself in ALL ways, hoping that someday she will return the favor with attention, appreciation and affection (sex). The nice guy gets walked on. And hopes someday he will be appreciated for it. The bad boy puts himself first in ALL ways. He know...
Jun 08, 2021•20 min•Ep. 61
Women typically want two things in a marriage: security and romance. Being an emotionally safe person provides security. It lets her know that you value her. That you will be there for her. That she matters to you. Learn how to provide this emotional safety and sense of security in today’s episode. Also, see why you can’t wait for your spouse to be perfectly “emotionally safe” before you bring up difficult issues. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. The Strong Man System will be coming out very...
Jun 01, 2021•18 min•Ep. 60
Right now you’re worried about the future of your marriage. Will you get divorced? Will you get separated? Will your wife have another affair? You think your life will basically be over if these things happen. And that makes you try to STOP these things from happening… using EXTREME measures. Changing yourself. Doing the 5 love languages. Spying on her. However, these actions are motivated by FEAR. And FEAR is not ATTRACTIVE to your wife. It drives her AWAY. And makes all these negative outcomes...
May 25, 2021•21 min•Ep. 59
When your wife says she “needs space,” what does that actually mean? It means she needs space from your NEGATIVE and UNATTRACTIVE thoughts and behaviors. Learn the top 3 negative things she needs space from… And how to CHANGE them… In this episode. Watch on YouTube here. Summary -DO NOT use the “no contact” rule, as this will create MORE distance between you and your wife -Be friendly and cordial -STOP one-up thinking and behaviors and realize how damaging they are -Stop being NEEDY and start be...
May 18, 2021•29 min•Ep. 58
You want to show your wife you’re changing. But you’re going about it all wrong. It’s not about maximizing the good and minimizing the bad. It’s not about making the “pros” outweigh the “cons.” It’s about DIAGNOSING your problems and TREATING them. It’s about being BRUTALLY HONEST about your shortcomings to yourself and your wife. ONLY then can she start to trust you… And have ANY belief or hope that things can change. Watch on YouTube here. Summary: -Which used car salesman do you trust more? T...
May 11, 2021•23 min•Ep. 57
Women want two things in a marriage. Security and romance. If you’re hearing “I love you but I’m not in love with you,” she’s missing one or both of these things. Learn how to provide BOTH security AND romance in this episode. So you and your wife can both feel “in love” with each other again. Watch on YouTube here. Summary: -Security is provided by having a strong sense of self, being a man of your word, a man on a mission, being willing to stand up to and for your wife, and having the mental a...
May 04, 2021•25 min•Ep. 56
The movies, church, and society teach us to “be one” in a marriage. But, we often misunderstand what this means. We become TOO blended with our wife. We become overly focused on “making her happy” and winning her approval (attention, appreciation and affection). A good marriage is like a good meal. Pasta and shrimp taste GREAT together. But if you put them in a blender and drink it… It doesn’t taste that great any more. Learn how to be TOGETHER in your marriage WITHOUT becoming overly blended in...
Apr 27, 2021•21 min•Ep. 55
Resentment is a COMMON feeling in marriage. But, most people don’t know where it comes from or what to do about it. Overall, it comes from feeling like you are LOSING in your marriage… While your wife is WINNING. If you feel like you’re doing more than your fair share… Doing things you don’t really want to do… Or denying yourself things you really want… Resentment is sure to follow. Luckily, there’s a SIMPLE solution to completely ELIMINATE resentment in your marriage. Watch on YouTube here. Sum...
Apr 20, 2021•23 min•Ep. 54
A lot of men complain that their wife can’t seem to move past their mistakes. They just keep bringing up the past. Whether they’ve made big mistakes like an affair, or smaller mistakes like not listening to their wife… They just want to forget about it and move forward. They get frustrated when they make the changes their wife wants to see… But their wife doesn’t seem to appreciate those changes. This lack of appreciation can cause them to stop trying, which just makes things worse. Learn how to...
Apr 13, 2021•20 min•Ep. 53
Satan is attacking men, marriages and families CONSTANTLY. Every day, 130 people commit suicide. Of those, 90 are men. 50% of marriages end in divorce. 40-80% of married people are unhappy in their marriage. 42% of Americans are obese. The average savings for people age 20-40 is $2,000. Satan’s goal is to make us WEAK and MISERABLE. God wants us to be STRONG,JOYFUL and INDEPENDENT. We defend ourselves and defeat Satan by putting on the armor of God. Learn how to do that in practical, tactical wa...
Apr 06, 2021•29 min•Ep. 52
You want a happy marriage. One where you wake up feeling like the luckiest man alive. Where you go to work feeling strong and confident, because you know your wife has your back. Where you come home to a wife who smiles and jumps into your arms when you come home. Where you sit down to a dinner of laughter and connection with your family. After dinner, you sit and talk with your wife about your hopes, dreams and fears, feeling more connected than ever. You head to bed for a night of passion and ...
Mar 30, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 51
Remember, Satan’s goal is to make us miserable. If you’re feeling miserable in your marriage right now, Satan is winning! Satan is on a mission to destroy your marriage, and he uses certain tactics to do it. The more we are aware of these tactics, the better we can combat them. Learn what some of them are, and how to counteract them, in this episode. Watch on YouTube here. Summary: -If you’re feeling guilty or resentful in your marriage… it’s a clue that you need to be more honest -If you are up...
Mar 23, 2021•29 min•Ep. 50
This is a big question for many members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. But, it's the wrong question. Today I'm joined by Daniel Burgess, DanielABurgess.com , a Marriage and Family Therapist and member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. We review some of the Church's teachings about sexuality and masturbation over time, which Daniel has studied extensively and reported about on his website. But, in our personal work and work with clients, we've discovered tha...
Mar 18, 2021•35 min
Most men think apologizing means saying “I’m sorry” and moving on. But that’s a big mistake. And it’s that attitude that will keep you “in the doghouse” and keep you from regaining your wife’s love and trust. Learn what an apology is, and the common mistakes men make when trying to apologize, in this episode. Watch on YouTube here. Summary: -An apology includes seeing what you did that hurt your wife, acknowledging her hurt, and doing deep work to change yourself from someone who would hurt his ...
Mar 16, 2021•22 min•Ep. 49
Flirting can be one of the most fun things you can do in a relationship. But often, we forget to do it after we’ve been married a while. Or, we may have never been very good at it. In this episode, you’ll learn the principles and techniques of flirting with your wife. So you can bring fun, excitement and romance into your marriage. At the end of the day, flirting is about bringing PLAY back into your marriage. Watch on YouTube here. Summary: -An easy way to start is by giving sincere compliments...
Mar 09, 2021•23 min•Ep. 48
Communication is the #1 problem that men, women and couples complain about. In working with people, I’ve discovered the top 5 communication mistakes that lead to poor communication (and poor connection) in marriage. If you can avoid these mistakes… And learn the #1 communication skill… You’ll be on your way to a happier, more passionate and more intimate marriage. Watch on YouTube here. https://youtu.be/o6v30cuJ8Hc Summary: -The #1 goal to have in your communication is to DEEPLY understand your ...
Mar 02, 2021•26 min•Ep. 47
The reason you’re not as connected to your wife as you’d like to be is because you’ve hurt her in some way. That might be an obvious way, like an affair. Or it may be a more subtle way, like neglecting her over time or serving her with “strings attached” (mosquito behaviors). Either way, you have created disconnection by hurting her. Most men try to fix this by trying to tell their wife they’re sorry and to move forward. But that doesn’t work. Learn what DOES work in this episode. Watch on YouTu...
Feb 23, 2021•23 min•Ep. 46
