Are you married to a narcissist or a sadist? Probably. But so is your spouse! In this episode, you’ll learn what narcissism and sadism REALLY are… How YOU most likely have BOTH of these traits… And what to do about it. Watch on YouTube here. Summary: -Narcissism is needing to be “one up” on your spouse -It’s also understanding the emotions of others, but not really caring about them -Sadism is enjoying inflicting pain or suffering on other people -Usually takes the form of enjoying your spouse’s...
Feb 16, 2021•30 min•Ep. 45
Love. A word that can mean SO many different things. And confusion about what kind of love belongs in marriage causes LOTS of marriage problems. In this episode we’ll discuss the 3 most valuable types of love in marriage… And how to develop them. Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here . https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/strong-men-strong-marriages/id1513290707 Watch on YouTube here. https://youtu.be/mlqgP2r9XTk Summary: -Agape, or unconditional love, belongs in marriage. BUT, your spouse...
Feb 09, 2021•36 min•Ep. 44
Is your married sex life not quite what you’re hoping for? Is it happening less often than you’d like, or does it just seem the same all the time? If so, there are three simple steps that you can use to create better sex in your marriage. Learn about them in this week’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Summary: -Take ownership of your own sexuality -Anticipation is your friend -Connect minds and bodies -Focus on pleasure and connection instead of orgasm (especially if either of you has difficulty...
Feb 02, 2021•19 min•Ep. 43
“Where your treasure is, there will your heart be also.” Matthew 6:21 What is most important to you? You might say it’s God or your family… But what do you spend the most time THINKING about? When I looked closely, I didn’t like what I found. I spent most of my time thinking about: Making money Myself But, I found that I could CHOOSE where my treasure was. And I decided to make that treasure my relationships with others. I even created a Google Drive folder called “My Treasure” where I am keepin...
Jan 26, 2021•15 min•Ep. 42
We are always manipulating the people around us. We want something FROM them… Or FOR them. We want to “move” them into certain positions. Emotional dependence on us or emotional resilience. Sexual obligation or sexual choice. Religious obligation or religious choice. This week I got an in-depth view of how I manipulate my wife, kids and friends… and I didn’t like what I saw. I took the time to INTENTIONALLY decide how I was going to try to move (manipulate) the people around me. And the results ...
Jan 19, 2021•20 min•Ep. 41
If your answer is an immediate “my wife…” you might be missing something important. At the end of the day, if you are relying on the opinion of others to tell you if you’re good enough… You are on unstable ground. The truth is that YOU get to decide: What a good husband (and a good man) is Whether you will live up to that or not Of course your wife can give you feedback on how you’re doing. And that feedback is extremely valuable as you are on your mission to become the best version of yourself....
Jan 12, 2021•20 min•Ep. 40
This title was hard for me to write. Being a husband and father are two of the most important roles that I have as a man. But, those roles are not ALL of who I am. And, even if I do poorly in those roles... Or walk away from them all together... (Gulp) I still have value. This was a BIG breakthrough for me and I'd love to share it with you. Watch on YouTube here. Summary: -God STILL cares about me (and you) even if I don't do a good job as a husband and father -Even if I walk away completely fro...
Jan 05, 2021•23 min•Ep. 39
What are your New Year’s resolutions? A better marriage? To lose weight? Make more money? Stop a bad habit? We’ll get into why these goals may NOT get you what you’re looking for… And how to find an infinite source of power to achieve your goals. Summary: -WHY do you want to achieve your goals? -If it’s because you think THERE is better than HERE… you’re heading for disappointment -Instead, set goals from a place of LOVE for yourself and those around you… and SERVICE towards yourself and others ...
Dec 29, 2020•19 min•Ep. 38
Merry Christmas my friends! Sometimes we forget that we're celebrating a birthday on Christmas... Jesus's birthday! And, it's customary to give someone a gift on their birthday. But what do you give the Man who LITERALLY has everything? We'll talk about that today. Watch on YouTube here. Summary: -As far as I can tell, Jesus mainly asked for one thing: If ye love me, keep my commandments (John 14:15) -The 2 great commandments are “love God” and “love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 22:37-39)...
Dec 22, 2020•19 min•Ep. 37
As we strive to become better men, our ultimate example is Jesus Christ. I’ve spent the last few weeks studying and trying to understand the character of Jesus, and I’d like to share what I’ve learned. I also invite you to use these next few weeks to study Jesus as your example of manhood, and see where you can become more like Jesus, The Ultimate Man. Watch on YouTube here. Summary: -Jesus was a great leader by being a great follower of His Father. I can follow God, Jesus and other good men. -J...
Dec 15, 2020•20 min•Ep. 36
Gift giving at Christmas can be stressful... but it doesn't have to be. Use these strategies to give your wife a meaningful and thoughtful gift. One that will be remembered and cherished... instead of forgotten next year. Listen on Strong Men Strong Marriages here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/strong-men-strong-marriages/id1513290707 Watch on YouTube here. https://youtu.be/9KwC4qAnL7c Summary: -Ask her directly -Ask her friends -Think body, mind, heart, spirit -What's a hassle that I ca...
Dec 08, 2020•22 min•Ep. 35
As men we sometimes think that emotional strength means rarely feeling emotion. We push negative emotions down until we explode with anger. Or we try to numb negative emotions with food, pornography, video games, alcohol or other things. Fortunately, there are three simple steps that you can use to become TRULY emotionally strong… Feel in complete CONTROL of your emotions… And stop trying to “fix” the negative emotions of your wife or others. Watch on YouTube here . Summary: -Emotional strength ...
Dec 01, 2020•22 min•Ep. 34
Right now your sex life isn't where you'd like it to be. You've tried the usual things. Helping more around the house, buying her gifts, trying to speak her love language, spending less time with friends and work and more time at home. You’re getting frustrated that all your efforts are not being recognized. You’re barely getting a “thank you,” much less a wife who is eager to go to bed with you. And telling her you’re frustrated hasn’t been helping. But, you're missing what ACTUALLY works to cr...
Nov 24, 2020•52 min•Ep. 33
What To Do When Your Wife Is Depressed And Anxious When your wife is depressed and/or anxious, it can be hard to know what to do to help her. Today I have a special guest, Lizzie Langston. She is an LDS postpartum coach, helping women overcome depression and anxiety that often follows having a baby. We discuss how we as husbands can help our wives as they struggle with depression and anxiety. Watch you YouTube here. You can find Lizzie on her website or her instagram, @LizzieLangston. Highlights...
Nov 17, 2020•32 min•Ep. 32
To be a strong and loving leader of your home, you need to be confident. Confidence feels great, feels strong, and is ATTRACTIVE to your wife and others. But, how do you become more confident? There are 3 main steps: 1. Be someone who can be relied on. A man of your word. Keep the promises you make. This includes saying "no" more than you say "yes" so that your "yes" is more valuable. 2. Realize your INHERENT value that does NOT change as a son of God. 3. Recognize and build up your gifts and ab...
Nov 10, 2020•21 min•Ep. 31
What does it mean to be a real man? I've been trying to answer that question my whole life. This week, we'll look at two examples. One is the type of man we want to be (Nephi)... The other is the type of man we do NOT want to be (Laman and Lemuel) Watch you YouTube here. Summary: -Faith vs Fear. COMMITTING to a result BEFORE knowing all the "how." -Persistence vs Giving Up -Asking For Help vs Not -Gratitude vs Complaining -Trying to change your situation vs Trying to change yourself Mike P.S. Fo...
Nov 03, 2020•24 min•Ep. 30
When it comes to creating a strong, joyful and intimate marriage, there are 3 relationships that need to be built. 1. God's relationship with you/your relationship with God 2. Your relationship with yourself 3. Your relationship with your wife Today we're going to examine God's relationship with you... meaning... What are God's thoughts and feelings about you? If you feel like you're trying to earn God's approval (and the approval of others)... And avoid His disapproval (or disapproval of others...
Oct 27, 2020•24 min•Ep. 29
Do you wish you had a better sex life with your wife? Do you have a hard time bringing up sex with your wife… Or does she often say “no” or “I’m too tired” when you do finally ask? In this episode, you’ll learn WHY your sexual advances are unattractive to your wife… And how to make them much MORE attractive… And likely to get a “yes.” Summary: -There are 3 levels of sex in marriage -Physical - orgasm-focused -Emotional - validation-focused -Rational - knowledge-focused -When you are on level 1 o...
Oct 20, 2020•20 min•Ep. 28
Did you know what your wife WANTS you to call her out? Maybe not consciously, but unconsciously, she wants you to show STRENGTH and LEADERSHIP in your marriage. And that means, when it's appropriate, calling out her inappropriate behavior (in a strong and loving way)... DISAGREEING with her at times (in a strong and loving way)... And passing other "strength tests" she throws your way. (You’ll learn what a few of more of them are in this episode). Like any strength building, it's uncomfortable a...
Oct 13, 2020•19 min•Ep. 27
If you and your wife have different religious beliefs, it can be SCARY. A lot of experts will tell you that this can be a big cause for PROBLEMS in marriage. BUT, it can also be an incredible OPPORTUNITY. For MORE intimacy and connection. In fact, you may find that discussing and understanding these differences brings MORE intimacy than almost anything else. Learn how this can happen in this episode. And, if you're ready to have the BEST relationships you have EVER had with God (if you believe i...
Oct 06, 2020•20 min•Ep. 26
In part 1 of the workshop, we learned that the main problem is that your wife is not ATTRACTED to you right now. That’s why she wants a divorce or separation, “loves you but is not in love with you,” or is interested in someone else. We learned that STRENGTH is what ATTRACTS women. Spiritual, mental, emotional, physical and sexual strength. We started learning HOW to build that up. And how to become an EXPERT at communication, conflict management and intimacy. This week you’ll learn the FINAL st...
Sep 29, 2020•53 min•Ep. 25
For many of you listening to this podcast, your marriage is NOT where you want it to be right now. You may be… -Recovering from infidelity (yours or hers) -Hearing “I love you but I’m not in love with you” -Facing potential divorce or separation (or are already in that process) -Having little to no sex in your marriage -Having BIG trouble with communication No matter WHAT is going on in your marriage right now… The MAIN problem is that you are no longer ATTRACTIVE to your wife. This workshop wil...
Sep 22, 2020•38 min•Ep. 24
How do you get your wife to pay more attention to you? Appreciate you more? Kiss, hug and have sex with you more? Some couples therapists will say "just ask for it." This seems like it would work... BUT IT DOESN'T. You know because you're already trying this. Learn what to do INSTEAD... that ALWAYS works... in this episode. Watch on YouTube here Mike P.S. For your COMPLETE system to build up your internal strength and interpersonal skill… so you get the strong, joyful and intimate marriage you’v...
Sep 15, 2020•23 min•Ep. 23
Experts say up to 93% of communication is non-verbal. That's why "saying the right words" or focusing on "communication skills" in marriage almost always FAILS. Instead, what will make the most IMPACT in your communication is evaluating your INTENTIONS in what you are saying. And, a great way to find these is to ask yourself... "What is the sentence AFTER?" For example, when you say to your wife "I'm trying to understand you..." Is the sentence after in your head... "But I can't because that ide...
Sep 08, 2020•19 min•Ep. 22
You think it’s… Good sex. Being appreciated. Being valued. Being loved. And, a successful marriage does include ALL of those things. BUT… Your wife CAN NOT give those to you. These things MUST come from something DEEPER and more SOLID than your wife’s words and actions. And you CAN feel those things… even WITHOUT your wife. You can feel full, valued, loved and appreciated. Learn how in this episode. Watch on YouTube Mike P.S. If you’re a high achieving, professionally successful Christian man wh...
Sep 01, 2020•21 min•Ep. 21
A lot of the men I work with are looking for VALIDATION from their wives. Now, they will call it different things. They will say "I just want my wife to care" or "I just want my wife to have sex with me" or "I just want my wife to reach out to me when she doesn't need something." But, when it comes down to it, they are asking for their wife to VALIDATE their sense of self-worth. I did this for YEARS in my marriage. Unfortunately, it doesn't work. Your wife can NOT be responsible for your sense o...
Aug 25, 2020•20 min•Ep. 20
As I’ve thought about how to help my clients better, I realized that I neglected something VERY important… Developing your physical strength and fitness. Find out why in this week’s episode: Watch on YouTube here . Summary: When you work on a physical goal, MANY good things happen… -Your overall health and energy improve -Your mind works more easily and quickly -You are able to find purpose and meaning -You have TOTAL control over it, which is powerful… especially when you’re feeling powerless -...
Aug 18, 2020•21 min•Ep. 19
In case you thought a great marriage is always perfect... You're wrong! In this episode I share a negative pattern that has plagued our marriage for YEARS... And what I did to FINALLY start breaking free from it. Hint: It has to do with me feeling like a MARTYR in my marriage. Watch on YouTube here . Summary: -When I feel like a martyr in my marriage, my WIFE is probably struggling -Instead of COMPLAINING, use my strengths -Spiritual strength - Be the strong and loving husband I want to be -Emot...
Aug 11, 2020•22 min•Ep. 18
"Your wife can prop up your ego or your penis, but not both." Today I have a VERY special treat for you all! Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife! If you're not familiar with her work, she is a licensed therapist who specializes in relationships and sexuality. She is one of the people I respect and admire very much and who has helped me understand why focusing on STRENGTH is SO IMPORTANT when it comes to sexual attraction. In this interview you will learn: -How the female sexual response works... and why...
Aug 04, 2020•46 min•Ep. 17
Most people come to me because they’re not happy in their marriage. They’re not getting enough of what they want from their wife. BUT, they usually are NOT doing the MOST EFFECTIVE things to get their wife (or others) to do more of what they want. Learn the BEST and MOST EFFECTIVE ways to influence others to do more of what you want in this episode. Watch on YouTube here . Summary: -COMPLAINING will NOT get you more of what you want -Figure out EXACTLY what you want your wife to do -Ask for that...
Jul 28, 2020•23 min•Ep. 16