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Strong Men Strong Marriages

Mike Frazier, MDstrongmenstrongmarriages.com

Helping high achieving Christian men have more intimate marriages. Start with episodes 1-4 for an introduction. Traditional marriage counseling, couples therapy, couples counseling and even Christian marriage counseling will tell you that a good marriage is based on compromise. Validating feelings. Sacrifice. I tried that for years. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work. That’s why most couples who go through marriage counseling are the same or worse off after. BUT, in my studies in neuroscience at BYU, MD training at UCLA, psychiatry residency, marriage coach training, and most importantly in my own marriage, I finally found what DOES work. Building strength. Spiritual, mental, emotional and sexual strength, while anchored in following Christian marriage principles. Strength is attractive. And, it feels great. It builds trust. Add to this the skills of communication and intimacy, and you get a marriage full of phenomenal mental, emotional and physical intimacy. And, you set the example for generations to follow. I applied this to my own marriage, I felt better than ever and had more connection and passion than I thought possible. I started teaching this to other men and couples and they were able to create mental, emotional and sexual intimacy faster than they thought possible. This even works for affair recovery and emotional affairs. Now it’s your turn. Become a strong, attractive man. Create a strong, passionate marriage.

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Episodes

5 Lessons Learned From 15 Years Of Marriage

We just celebrated our 15th wedding anniversary at an amazing party with family and friends that are also family. You’ll hear a few tips on how to throw a great party… And 5 of the biggest lessons that I’ve learned through these 15 years. Watch on YouTube here Summary: 1 - Decide and then get spiritual confirmation 2 - Have faith and let people help 3 - Happy wife happy life is a lie 4 - Intimacy requires bravery 5 - You have to know the bitter to know the sweet Mike P.S. If you’re a high achiev...

Jul 21, 202023 minEp. 15

Faith In Marriage - How To Keep Going When The Going Gets Tough

Do you feel like you're trying hard in your marriage... But it's making NO difference? Is your wife INDIFFERENT about your changes... Or even HOSTILE about them? In this episode, we'll discuss how you can use FAITH to continue to "do good to them that hate you." Watch on YouTube here Summary: -Doing good is like planting a seed -Continuing to do good is like watering that seed -It can take YEARS to see that seed grow into a plant -BUT, every day of watering counts. -You are building up the roots...

Jul 14, 202019 minEp. 14

How To Fight In Marriage… And Come Out Stronger For It

How To Fight In Marriage… And Come Out Stronger For It Do you have conflicts in marriage that leave you feeling STUCK? Do you have the same arguments about sex, money, parenting, religion, in-laws or cleaning over and over? Would you like to break FREE of that cycle? You'll learn how in this episode. Watch on YouTube here Summary: -Feeling DISTANT from your spouse activates your lower, "crocodile" brain -Puts you into FIGHT or FLIGHT mode -Common for one spouse to want to fight (talk about thing...

Jul 07, 202024 minEp. 13

How To Get Better Communication In Marriage

Are you struggling with communication in your marriage? Do you feel like you just don't understand your wife, or that she just doesn't understand you? In this episode, you'll find out EXACTLY how to reach the DEEPEST levels of communication. This type of communication brings the PASSION and INTIMACY back into your marriage... Even if that spark has been missing for YEARS. Summary: -There are 3 levels of communication in marriage... -Level 1: Superficial communication (business items) -Level 2: E...

Jun 30, 202032 minEp. 12

Short Circuiting Pornography Use - The Problem And The Shockingly Simple 3 Step Solution

If you are using pornography more than you would like, there is a perfectly logical explanation. And, if you would like to STOP or CUT BACK on your pornography use, there is a simple 3 step solution that you can follow. If you are interested in working through a program to implement these skills and ELIMINATE pornography from your life, contact me. Watch here: https://youtu.be/_ALjaYZOldQ Summary: -Your brain has learned to use pornography and masturbation as a way to deal with sexual urges and ...

Jun 23, 202038 minEp. 11

A Better Life AFTER Divorce - Interview With Jeff Tobin

A lot of men come to work with me when they are very near divorce. They may already be separated, their wife may be threatening divorce, or they may be in the divorce process. The men I work with want their wife back. They have seen the error of their ways. But, sometimes, despite their best efforts and strength building, their wife chooses to divorce. This can be extremely difficult. It can feel like all their work was in vain. BUT, fortunately, divorce is NOT the end. Life goes on. And, if you...

Jun 19, 202031 minEp. 10

When You Feel Trapped In Your Marriage - How To Feel Free AND Stay Married

Sometimes it can seem like you have 2 options in your marriage: Stay married and miserable or… Get divorced and finally be free. Luckily, there is a third option. That is to feel FREE AND stay married. There are 3 marriage traps that make us feel stuck. You’ll learn what they are and how to break out of all 3 in this episode. Summary: -Trap 1 - Trying to control your wife’s feelings and thoughts -How to escape: Know your own worth, choosing to be the husband you WANT to be -Trap 2 - Service and ...

Jun 16, 202031 minEp. 9

Am I A Sex Addict? How To Deal With Sexual Urges For Other Women

As men, we have sexual urges MANY times throughout the day. For some of us, we have used pornography as a way to deal with negative emotion… which brings on more negative emotion… which makes us want to use pornography even more. This cycle could accurately be called a sexual addiction. Is there a way to break out of it? And are there ways to use our sexuality for good? The answer is: YES! Find out how in this episode. Watch on YouTube: https://youtu.be/5CvofGW33xA Summary: -Your sexuality is an...

Jun 09, 202025 minEp. 8

What To Do When Your Wife Wants To Leave

When your wife tells you she wants to leave, it can be DEVASTATING. Luckily, there are specific strategies that you can use to get through this… AND feel STRONG and CONFIDENT again. These same things are also the things MOST LIKELY to win her back. Mike Summary -Allow yourself to FEEL the negative emotions -Realize that you CAN feel strong and confident… no matter what she’s doing -Try to UNDERSTAND her deeply -Let her know you choose her, but you understand if she doesn’t choose you or if it’s ...

Jun 02, 202028 minEp. 7

How To Solve ANY Marriage Problem... My #1 Coaching Tool

No matter WHAT is happening in your marriage, whether it’s.. -Infidelity -I love you but I’m not in love with you -Poor communication -Conflicts about sex -”I’m not sure why I feel the way I feel…” This tool will help you know EXACTLY... 1. What is CAUSING the problem in your marriage 2. What you can do to solve it This is the #1 tool I use with my clients (and on myself). Summary: -STFAIR Model -Situation (facts only) -Thought (what you tell yourself about what happened) -Feeling -Action (what ...

May 27, 202030 minEp. 6

How to Win Back Your Wife's Trust and Love - Even After Infidelity

If you have lost your wife's trust or love... Either by something BIG (like an affair)... Or by not doing the "little things" over time... There is a PROVEN strategy to win back that trust and love. And, there is ONE phrase that can SPEED UP that process. Summary: -Trust and love are LOST by breaking promises, big or small -Trust cannot be GIVEN -You have to EARN it by making and keeping small promises over time. Like building a house brick by brick -You must COMMIT to becoming a man of your wor...

May 23, 202028 minEp. 5

What To Do When You Lose Your Job

We are in unique times with the Coronavirus pandemic. Many people are losing jobs or having their hours reduced. It has even affected the most stable jobs... including my work as a psychiatrist. Here is my journey through my thoughts and fears about losing work... and how I got to a place of peace. If you enjoy the episode, make sure to leave a review in iTunes and share with a friend, so we can create stronger men and stronger marriages across the world. And, if you are ready to take your stren...

May 21, 202029 min

How To Stop REPELLING Your Wife... The Tale Of The Mosquito And The Dictator

Is your wife EXCITED to see you every day? Does she tell her friends how great you are? Does she tell your boys to be just like you, and your daughters to marry someone just like you? If not, you may be acting like a DICTATOR or MOSQUITO… and not even know it. See how you might be REPELLING your wife… and how to fix it in this episode. Summary: -When you don’t have a strong sense of self-worth, you tend to try to borrow it from your wife -You can do that by putting her down (dictator), or by con...

May 17, 202028 minEp. 4

How Doing "Nice Things" For Your Wife Can Cause Problems

Can you do something nice for your wife… but STILL cause problems in your marriage? YES! See how doing the dishes (or other “nice” things) can either HELP or HURT your marriage. It all depends on how you SEE your wife. Summary: -Concepts from the book Leadership and Self-Deception from The Arbinger Institute -When you see your wife as a PERSON, you see her as HER OWN PERSON and someone you can serve -When you see her as an OBJECT, you see her as a vehicle, an obstacle, or irrelevant -You can sti...

May 17, 202025 minEp. 3

Why You Must STOP Trying To Make Your Wife Happy

Why You Must STOP Trying to Make Your Wife Happy You’ve heard “Happy Wife, Happy Life.” Trying to live that phrase sent me to my car SCREAMING. Learn from this video why you must STOP trying to make your wife happy… And what to do instead. Summary: -You can’t control other people’s emotions… even their good ones -When you try, you are doomed to fail… AND you are being “manipulative,” which is unattractive -The solution is NOT to say “screw you, I’ll do what I want.” -It’s about sharing your TRUE...

May 14, 202028 minEp. 2

Why Your Wife CAN NOT Make You Happy

If you find yourself saying "if my wife would just..." Appreciate me more Respect me more Have sex with me more, etc. You are falling victim to the common MYTH that your wife has to act certain ways for you to be happy. Find out how this belief is driving your wife AWAY and is REMOVING your power and strength... and what to do instead so you can feel STRONG and POWERFUL and ATTRACT your wife to you. If you enjoy the episode, make sure to leave a review in iTunes and share with a friend, so we ca...

May 14, 202025 minEp. 1
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