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Strong Men Strong Marriages

Mike Frazier, MDstrongmenstrongmarriages.com

Helping high achieving Christian men have more intimate marriages. Start with episodes 1-4 for an introduction. Traditional marriage counseling, couples therapy, couples counseling and even Christian marriage counseling will tell you that a good marriage is based on compromise. Validating feelings. Sacrifice. I tried that for years. Unfortunately, it doesn’t work. That’s why most couples who go through marriage counseling are the same or worse off after. BUT, in my studies in neuroscience at BYU, MD training at UCLA, psychiatry residency, marriage coach training, and most importantly in my own marriage, I finally found what DOES work. Building strength. Spiritual, mental, emotional and sexual strength, while anchored in following Christian marriage principles. Strength is attractive. And, it feels great. It builds trust. Add to this the skills of communication and intimacy, and you get a marriage full of phenomenal mental, emotional and physical intimacy. And, you set the example for generations to follow. I applied this to my own marriage, I felt better than ever and had more connection and passion than I thought possible. I started teaching this to other men and couples and they were able to create mental, emotional and sexual intimacy faster than they thought possible. This even works for affair recovery and emotional affairs. Now it’s your turn. Become a strong, attractive man. Create a strong, passionate marriage.

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Episodes

How To Be A Truly Powerful Husband And Father

There are two main forces of power available to you as a husband and father. One is a destructive force. This force is a “my way or the highway” energy. It intimidates to get its way. And, it is more powerful than doing nothing. And, it ends in people wanting to create distance from you, making you feel lonely in your marriage. The other force available to you is the TRANSFORMATIONAL force. This power allows you to stop what needs to be stopped… But in order to build what you want to build… A lo...

Jul 22, 202527 minEp. 363

The Beauty Of Boundaries In Marriage And Parenting

In our marriage and parenting, we’re often too hard or too soft. When we’re too hard, we are angry, frustrated, or overly controlling of what people do. This comes from our own discomfort of letting others do things differently. And, it leads to people distancing from us. When we feel that distance, we often go too soft. Too permissive. Too weak. And, our wives and kids kind of like that… But they don’t respect us or feel safe with us. And we don’t feel safe or respect ourselves. Thankfully, the...

Jul 15, 202517 minEp. 362

How To Stop Stressing Out As A Husband And Father - Inner Child Journey Part 4

You want to be the best husband. You want to be the best father. You want to be the best at your job. That pressure can help you perform… But it also leads to a feeling of pressure, stress… And even rejection and not feeling good enough. Unfortunately, those aren’t the best feelings to build a family foundation on. Instead, you can view your family as a garden. A garden that God is in charge of, and that you have a part in. A garden that if you make a mistake, God can heal it. Now you can rest, ...

Jul 08, 202515 minEp. 361

How Your Past Affects Your Present - Inner Child Journey Part 3

I used to think that the way to heal was three simple steps. Step 1 –Identify your old, negative, unattractive patterns. Step 2 – Create new positive attractive patterns. Step 3 - Practice the new patterns until you can’t get them wrong And, that sequence does work. However, it misses some important things. Mainly, it misses acknowledging why the old patterns were there in the first place. It doesn’t give compassion to the younger you’s and the current you that are acting the way you are because...

Jul 01, 202515 minEp. 360

What To Do When Your Wife Or Kids Make You Mad

If you’re like me, your wife and kids make you mad. Maybe it happens a lot. If your anger seems extreme for the situation… (like when I got upset this week when my oldest son said goodbye to other people in the family or not me)... There’s probably a younger you that needs caring for. And the adult you also needs to recognize the hurt… And then choose from an adult mindset what to do about it. Learn how to do this in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. And to join us in becoming better husba...

Jun 24, 202515 minEp. 359

How To Break Impossible Patterns In Marriage

I’ve had a pattern in my marriage. I feel hurt by something. The kids or Elizabeth ignoring me. The kids being rude. Elizabeth turning away from a hug or kiss. Then, I get mad. I pull away. I think to myself “Fine, if they don’t want me then they can pay for everything themselves!” I picture leaving them alone to fend for themselves. I can say mean things and get angry when I feel this way. Then later, I calm down and regret this… But there’s been damage done. I’ve scared my family and created l...

Jun 17, 202520 minEp. 358

Confrontation - A Manly Trait

This past week I had the chance to stand up for someone else. A large man was being threatening and eventually physically aggressive to his wife or girlfriend (not sure which it was).. Thanks to the MMA training I’ve been receiving from Ethyn Ewing (here’s a recent knockout of his)... I felt confident to confront the guy and stop him from continuing to abuse this woman. It felt great to join the ranks of men who will stand up physically for what’s right. It made me realize that confrontation is ...

Jun 10, 202514 minEp. 357

Panicking When Your Wife Wants Space

When you wife says she wants space… It’s SCARY! Our brains usually go to thinking she wants to leave, whether that’s true or not. Usually we either go to pleading for her not to leave… Or we go to anger. Both of these are unattractive and push our wives away. Instead, we can share what we’re actually feeling… Ask for her help… And take care of ourselves. Learn more about this in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v5FvaokDOcY And join the program to learn how ...

Jun 03, 202512 minEp. 356

Wife Doesn't Want To Pray With You? What To Do

It can be scary and frustrating if your wife doesn’t want to pray with you. Or maybe it’s that she doesn’t want to go to church or read scriptures with you. You can worry that your marriage won’t make it. That your kids won’t grow up with God. That your wife and kids are on the fast track to eternal damnation. Unfortunately, this fear usually makes you anxious and controlling… Which drives your wife and kids away more. Learn what to to instead… In today’s episode. Listen on the Strong Men Strong...

May 27, 202514 minEp. 355

Your Wife As A Plant

What’s your goal for your marriage? A wife who is excited to see you? A wife who hugs, kisses and has sex with you? A wife who appreciates you? And that should happen all the time, right? And if not, something is wrong. Right? Well, this mindset of having an “endpoint” to marriage usually leads to frustration. God helped me see that it’s much better to see your wife and marriage as a plant. Something that has seasons. That needs consistent nourishment. Something living that doesn’t have an “end ...

May 20, 202516 minEp. 354

The Grateful Flow - Tools For A Better Marriage #4

It can be easy to get into a downward spiral about our wife and marriage. The sex isn’t there. The connection isn’t there. We’re dealing with infidelity, separation or divorce. It can all seem pretty hopeless. And, when we feel hopeless, we don’t feel good, we’re not attractive, and we don’t solve our problems. Fortunately, there’s a way out of this. It’s gratitude. Not necessarily for our wife, but for the fact that God has our back. When we can see and feel that, we feel empowered, which is at...

May 13, 202514 minEp. 353

What To Do When Your Wife Seems Distant

Does your wife feel distant? Does she seem to not really care about you? Does she seem to care more about the kids than you? Do you tell her that she should be paying more attention to you, hoping to get more from her? Well, maybe it’s not actually about you at all! And maybe asking her to do more will create MORE distance instead of connection. Learn how to approach your wife in a strong, supportive, secure way when she feels distant… So you can feel the closeness you desire. Learn how in today...

May 06, 202514 minEp. 352

The Gap And The Gain In Marriage

Do you wish you had more in your marriage? More sex? More conversation? More connection? More fun? It’s not a problem to want more. However, your emotional state when you desire and ask for more can be a BIG problem. Most of us ask for more from a place of whininess and “not enough.” This usually just makes our wives feel like they’re not doing enough and less motivated to do anything more. Learn a new and better way to get more in your marriage… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. And jo...

Apr 29, 202513 minEp. 351

How To Be Fearless In Marriage - Tools For A Better Marriage Part 3 - Self-Expression

Are you hiding in your marriage? Do you avoid speaking your mind? About money, sex, in-laws, parenting, religion, housework or free time? Do you get defensive with your wife? All of these symptoms are due to a fear… A fear of part of you being exposed or rejected. Learn how to overcome that fear… Through acceptance of your “Shadow…” Watch on YouTube here. And join the program to learn how to do this together. (This series is from the book The Tools https://amzn.to/42410JT ) Dr. Mike P.S. Join ou...

Apr 22, 202518 minEp. 350

Tools For A Better Marriage Part 2 - Active Love

Does your wife make you mad? When she criticizes you? When she seems to care about the kids more than you? Do you feel like just a paycheck? When we get into this negative spiral… It doesn’t do us or anyone else much good. Thankfully, there IS a way out of it… A way we can feel FREE instead of TRAPPED. We can feel powerful no matter what our wife or others might be doing. Learn how in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y5fciTKrrSI And join the program to lear...

Apr 15, 202516 minEp. 349

Tools For A Better Marriage Part 1 - The Reversal Of Desire

Are you feeling “stuck” in your marriage? Do you avoid having difficult conversations? Do you avoid asking for what you want? Are you stuck in “roommate mode?” There’s one big reason for the “stuck” feeling in your marriage. It’s avoiding pain. It’s normal to avoid the pain of a hard conversation and risking rejection. It just keeps you stuck. Learn a tool from the book The Tools how to REVERSE your desire to avoid pain… And learn to LOVE the pain that helps you grow. Watch on YouTube here. And ...

Apr 08, 202516 minEp. 348

How Learning To Fight Is Helping My Marriage

I’ve recently started to take MMA lessons and I am LOVING it. Here are some of my big takeaways: -Having a strong base keeps you prepared and stable -Having a strong base in God does the same -You won’t die if you take a punch -You won’t die if you take an emotional punch from your wife or kids -You can be confident in caring for yourself Hear more about this and what I’ve been learning in today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=v1n_NXQm5R4 Dr. Mike P.S. Join our ...

Apr 01, 202514 minEp. 347

The Science Of Life After Death

I read a few books in the last few weeks that have really impacted the way I view life and life after death. After by Bruce Greyson, MD and Proof of Heaven by Eben Alexander, MD The main takeaways I got are: -Life DOES continue after this life -We are LOVED by our creator, God -He has a great plan for us -We can tune into his love and plan any time, and the more we do the better we feel and the better we operate as men, husbands, fathers and in all areas Learn more in today’s episode. Watch on Y...

Mar 25, 202515 minEp. 346

How To Be A Safe And Secure Husband And Father

Does your wife feel safe with you? Do your kids feel safe with you? What if they did something wrong? Would they come to you for help? What if your wife is struggling emotionally? Would she come to you for comfort? If not, you haven’t been a secure attachment figure to your wife and kids. And that’s not fun to realize. I’ve had to realize it myself. But, the good news is, you CAN be one. By being someone who is there for your wife and kids… no matter what. Who loves them (wants the good for them...

Mar 18, 202523 minEp. 345

Who's Your Role Model?

We’re all following someone, consciously or unconsciously. When it comes to being a husband and father… who are you following? When it comes to being a man… who are you following? If you’re not consciously following someone, you’ll unconsciously follow your parents in your marriage and parenting relationships. Either by doing what they did… or doing the exact opposite of what they did. Both of those can cause problems. Learn how to intentionally choose your role models… So you can be the husband...

Mar 11, 202517 minEp. 344

God And Attachment

Do you feel worthy of love? What about when you’re not doing the “right things?” Are other people willing, able and available to love you when you need it? The answers to these 2 questions shape your relationship style. If the answer to either question is “no,” or a conditional yes… Your relationship style will cause problems in your marriage and parenting… And your relationship with God. Learn how to feel worthy of love (no matter what you’re doing or not doing)... And how to find people who ar...

Mar 04, 202525 minEp. 343

Feeling Burnt Out In Your Marriage? Here's What To Do

Are you feeling burnt out in your marriage? Feel like you’re putting in SO MUCH work, but not getting much back? Not sure if you want to keep going in the marriage anymore? Don’t worry. These are NORMAL feelings to have. It doesn’t mean your marriage is over. It just means it’s time to take some steps to: -Take care of yourself and your emotions -Ask for what you want -See both the good and bad When you do this, you can release the feeling of “burnt out” and start feeling joy, energy and put you...

Feb 25, 202518 minEp. 342

If Your Valentine’s Wasn’t Great

Was your Valentine’s Day… not what you were hoping for? Maybe you’re dealing with separation or divorce. Maybe your wife is interested in someone else. Maybe you were hoping for intimacy that didn’t happen. It’s normal and natural to be disappointed. And, there are ways to deal with that disappointment that will make things WORSE… And ways to deal with it that will help you create more intimacy. Learn what NOT to do.. And what TO do… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. Join ...

Feb 18, 202513 minEp. 341

How To Stop Making Everything About You

Has your wife told you “You make everything about you!” What was your response? Did you give her examples of how you don’t make everything about you? Did you get mad and walk away? If you did either of these… You made it about you! I’ve done this plenty of times, and so have the guys in my program. But, we don’t have to do this. We can break out of this pattern and “find our lives as we lose them.” Learn how… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. And in the Strong Men Strong Marriages progr...

Feb 11, 202521 minEp. 340

How To Have A Healthier Marriage

How healthy is your marriage? Spiritually, do you feel a sense of mission and purpose, individually and as a couple? Mentally do you feel that you are both open to learning from each other, able to challenge your own beliefs, and take an appropriate stand? Emotionally can you name, feel and release emotions in health ways? Physically, are you in good shape with good energy? Financially, do you spend less than you earn, have a safety net of savings, and a clear savings and investment plan? Sexual...

Feb 04, 202519 minEp. 339

Are You One Of The 500?

This week we are launching the first group of the Strong Men Strong Marriages Membership! This will be The Alpha Group. The group that helps grow us to 500 men. The group that helps shape the membership into something that helps men become the Christ-like, strong and loving leaders of their homes that they were meant to be. The group that leads the charge to making generational changes and is the man that is led by God, the husband his wife loves and can count on, and the father that shows genui...

Jan 28, 20254 minEp. 338

How To Be The Ultimate Provider For Your Family

Preside, provide, protect. You may have heard of these are the main roles of the man of the house. And, they are very important. However, we usually just think if providing and protecting physically. While having enough money and protecting the home from invaders is important… There’s something even MORE important to provide to your wife and kids. Learn what it is… In today’s episode. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your...

Jan 21, 202516 minEp. 337

Is Your Wife More Affectionate With The Kids Than With You?

Who gets more hugs from your wife? You or your kids? Who gets more snuggling or even kisses? If it’s your kids, it can be VERY frustrating. Maybe you’ve even brought this up with your wife, only to hear things like “it’s different with the kids” or “I’m just not that into physical touch.” Today you’ll learn the root cause of why your wife is more physically affectionate with the kids than with you… And what to do about it. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. Join our email list and get the trai...

Jan 14, 202514 minEp. 336

Is Your Wife Against You?

Do you feel like your wife is against you? Does she seem to always be on the kids’ side of things and not yours? Do you sometimes feel alone in your marriage? If so, this episode is for you. Learn why wondering “whose side is your wife on…” Is a waste of time. And what to do instead. Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen.io http://strongmen.io P.P.S. Making $250k+ per year and want to...

Jan 07, 202516 minEp. 335

How To Come Alive with Bobby Hulme-Lippert

Today I have a special guest and friend, Bobby Hulme-Lippert. Bobby was a successful pastor, then felt a call to help others find what “helps them come alive.” Check out today’s episode if you’re questioning whether your current career path is exactly what you’re meant to be doing in the world. And learn more about Bobby and his coaching work here Watch on YouTube here. Dr. Mike P.S. Join our email list and get the training, How To Be More Attractive To Your Wife In The Next 7 Days, at StrongMen...

Jan 02, 202532 minEp. 334
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