S1E4: Telling a Child That a Parent is Transgender

Telling your child or children that a parent is coming out as transgender is one of the scariest moments. There is a lot of fear of the unknown; so many questions and sleepless nights leading up to sitting them down to share the news. Two things I've learned: 1) how you and your spouse or partner treat one another will impact your child and 2) kids really are resilient.

Mentioned in this episode and extra resources:

• PFLAG (PFLAG International)
• COLAGE
• Muppet Babies Gonzo-Rella episode, Season 3, Episode 19
• Book - The World Needs More Purple People
• Book - It's Okay to be Different
• Book - Red: A Crayon's Story
• More books - a great list on the Mombian website
• UCLA The Williams Institute: Data Regarding Transgender Parents (2020)
• Article: How LGBTQ+ Parents Can Handle Coming out to Their Children
• Article: Here's a Way to Start a Conversation with Kids...
• Article - Coming Out Trans to your Kids
• Article - Going from "Daddy" to "Mommy": What will I Tell My Kids
• Lambda Legal: FAQ About Transgender Parenting

Other stories with spouses or family members of a transgender person:

• The Cut: My Husband is Now my Wife: Trans Women's Wives on Their Own Dramatic Transformations
• Chicago Tribune: Suburban Wife Loves the Person, Not the Gender, After Spouse Comes out as Woman
• YouTube Channel: The Rage

Information for allies:

• PFLAG Guide to Being a Trans Ally (PDF)
• GLAAD Tips for Allies of Transgender People
• National Center for Transgender Equality ally guide
• Human Rights Campaign ally guide