Reaching a financial settlement in divorce requires people to gather a wealth of information and paperwork, so they have a clear picture of their finances and the evidence required to complete the 30-page plus daunting Form E. In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza offer practical advice to help people prepare, including where to start, what the process to reach a settlement is, the role of financial disclosure, how to complete the Form E, what information you need to gather, and what you can do...
Jan 31, 2024•24 min•Season 4Ep. 28
In this episode, we welcomed Jodie Phelps, a leading Financial Planner, about the importance of, and how to achieve financial wellbeing following a divorce or separation. We begin our chat exploring what lies beneath financial well-being, the importance of understanding your relationship with money, managing your mindset, and identifying and learning to avoid your spending triggers. Jodie then turns to where to start when faced with managing your finances solo - don’t bury your head in the sand,...
Jan 17, 2024•30 min•Season 27Ep. 4
In this episode, Matt & Liza were thrilled to be joined by award-winning comedian and creator of global hit podcast and book The Breakup Monologues, Rosie Wilby, to look at the unique challenges faced by the LGBTQIA+ community during a relationship breakdown. Rosie shares her passion for understanding the impact of heart break, before exploring monogamy, the history of relationships in the community, the various forms of cheating, how lesbians pioneered conscious uncoupling way before Gwynet...
Jan 08, 2024•41 min•Season 4Ep. 26
In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza explore the rising popularity of DIY divorces, how and when they work well, and the common dangers and pitfalls. They explain what a DIY divorce is, the current online process, and the difficulties that can arise from the implications of not completing the paperwork correctly in the beginning. They then turn to the numerous problems that can be caused by not getting legal advice on your finances, including inheritance and Wills, protecting yourself from fut...
Dec 07, 2023•26 min•Season 4Ep. 25
In the second part of this episode, Dr Supriya McKenna, a highly experienced specialist narcissism expert, continues to share her advice and practical tools and techniques for people trying to parent alongside a narcissist. (You can access the first part of this episode here.) We pick the conversation back up as she explores the role of parallel parenting and how to help children understand the narcissist behaviours and deal with the way they respond by validating their experience and emotions. ...
Nov 24, 2023•40 min•Season 4Ep. 24
In the first of this two-parter episode, Matt and Liza were delighted to be joined again by Dr Supriya McKenna, a highly experienced specialist narcissism expert, as she shares her advice and practical tools and techniques for people trying to parent alongside a narcissist. Building on our previous conversations (see links below to listen if you’ve not already), Dr Supriya starts by explaining what narcissistic personality disorder is, what drives them, and how this manifests in their behaviour,...
Nov 24, 2023•33 min•Season 4Ep. 22
In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza explore the myth of common-law marriage and the reality of legal rights for cohabiting couples, who are now the fastest growing family type in the UK. They talk through the minimal legal rights of cohabiting couples compared to their married counterparts, and how to deal with issues around property and child maintenance, should a couple separate. They look at how cohabiting couples can protect themselves financially with a Declaration of Trust, a cohabitati...
Jun 16, 2023•36 min•Season 3Ep. 22
In this episode, Matt & Liza look at the role a family lawyer can play to help survivors of domestic abuse, the injunction orders available, and the impact of domestic abuse on financial settlements and making arrangements for children in a divorce case. They walk through the role of the two injunction orders available: non-molestation and an occupation order, how to apply for them, how the applications are handled in the family court, and the powers they have. They also talk about how alleg...
May 31, 2023•43 min•Season 3Ep. 21
In this episode, Matt and Liza were delighted to welcome back Dr Supriya McKenna, a highly experienced specialist narcissism expert, as she shares her advice and practical tools and techniques for people rebuilding their lives after narcissistic abuse. Building on the conversation in our episode in Season 1 (see below to listen if you’ve not already), Supriya explores the impact of post-separation narcissistic abuse, how to parent with a narcissist (the only option is parallel parenting), buildi...
May 23, 2023•57 min•Season 3Ep. 20
In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza talk to dating coach and matchmaker Laura Buckley from Secret Alchemy to explore all things dating after divorce. Laura talks about how to get into the mindset of dating again, the red flags to look out for (love bombing being key), the importance of knowing your boundaries and what you want, not just what you don’t want. Laura also shares her top tips on dating apps, how to make your profile stand out, including ensuring your photos are upfront, clear, rec...
May 12, 2023•34 min•Season 3Ep. 19
In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza talk to Sushma Kotecha from Holistic Family Mediation & Coaching to look at how mediation can help couples work together to have a more dignified and amicable separation. Sushma talks about what mediation is, how it works, the process, what a MIAM is, and how it helps separating couples work through their issues, explore their options and make informed decisions about their future. Sushma also explains how mediation is not suitable for all couples, the ...
May 04, 2023•39 min•Season 3Ep. 18
In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza talk to Certified Money Coach, Fanny Snaith, on how to best manage the drop from two salaries to one following a separation during a cost of living crisis. Fanny talks about the emotional responses we all have to money, the 8 different money types, and how understanding your relationship with money can help you uncover the reasons behind your spending and saving behaviours. She discusses the first steps to take to help you manage your finances if your relat...
Apr 20, 2023•47 min•Season 3Ep. 17
In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza talk to Sue Atkins, a leading Parenting Expert, author of Divorce Journal for Kids, and Broadcaster, to look at how to best support children through all the changes that divorce brings. Sue talks about the best way to tell children you are separating, whatever their age, the importance of listening and communication, and the power of the narrative you tell and the language you use. She discusses how parents can work together, the importance of planning and ...
Apr 04, 2023•37 min•Season 3Ep. 16
In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza are joined by Emma Pickering, Senior Operations Manager at Refuge, as they look at technology assisted abuse, what it is, how to spot and how you stop it. Emma explains what technology assisted abuse is, the signs, and the various tools used by perpetrators, including everyday devices such as ring doorbells, mobile phones, home hubs, along with stalkerware, listening and tracking devices. She also talks about the connection with other forms of abuse, the ri...
Mar 30, 2023•40 min•Season 3Ep. 15
In this episode, hosts Matt & Liza share their advice on where to start if you are thinking of ending your relationship, it has ended, or your partner has told you they want a divorce. A beginner’s guide to divorce, they explain the importance of getting legal advice early, the divorce process (step-by-step), the pitfalls of kitchen table settlements, how finances are usually divided, and arrangements for children made. They also look at how to deal with the emotional challenges divorce brin...
Feb 20, 2023•33 min•Season 3Ep. 14
In the second part of our series on the family court, hosts Matt & Liza offer their advice for anyone facing the family court without legal representation (litigant in person). They explain how family court processes work, tips on how to prepare, the names of each judge and protocols for each stage, what to expect from each hearing, and the expected outcomes from each stage. They also look at the importance of dealing with proceedings factually, not emotionally; top tips on how to deal with ...
Dec 21, 2022•25 min•Season 2Ep. 13
In the first of a two part series, Matt and Liza share their experiences of the family court system and how it can be a useful process for people in certain circumstances who cannot reach an agreement otherwise. They also discuss the limitations of the system, funding issues, court delays, top tips for dealing with court, when it does, and when it doesn’t work, and what needs to be changed. They also talk about the value of divorce coaches, the importance of a holistic approach, and how the cour...
Dec 20, 2022•26 min•Season 2Ep. 12
In this episode, Matt and Liza are joined by Caron Kipping, an independent domestic abuse advocate and divorce coach specialising in domestic abuse recovery, to look at how to deal with post-separation abuse. Caron explains what post-separation abuse is, the impact it has on people, building the right support team, the power of reframing, and how to focus on what you can control and let go of what you can’t. Caron also talks about financial abuse, how you cannot co-parent with an abusive ex-part...
Dec 07, 2022•37 min•Season 2Ep. 11
In this episode, Matt and Liza are joined by divorce coach, NLP Master Practitioner and author of Break up: from Crisis to Confidence, Claire Macklin (nee Black) as they look at how to handle fear and uncertainty through your relationship breakdown and beyond. Claire shares her experience of divorce, and tips and tools to help you cope with the overwhelming emotions separation can bring, including healthy coping strategies, breathing exercises, discrepancy engagement, focusing on what you can co...
Dec 01, 2022•41 min•Season 2Ep. 10
In this festive themed episode, Matt and Liza look at the options available for separated couples struggling to sort out arrangements for Christmas. In what can be a tricky time of year for separated couples, they share their advice on the importance of communication and the use of tools such as child-focused mediation, arbitration, and in some cases the family court for those couples who cannot decide between them. They also talk about the wider use of a Specific Issue Order to help couples res...
Nov 24, 2022•20 min•Season 2Ep. 9
In this episode, Matt and Liza are joined by Divorce Coach and Founder of Divorce Goddess Coaching, Tosh Brittan, as they talk about loneliness and how to overcome it following a relationship breakdown. Tosh explains how loneliness can easily sneak up on people, the difference between married lonely and divorce lonely, how embracing loneliness can help remove the fear and uncomfortableness of it, and practical advice on dealing with it, especially when you have time away from your children. Tosh...
Nov 16, 2022•34 min•Season 2Ep. 8
In this episode of Stowe talks, Matt and Liza are joined by specialist divorce financial planner Ceri Griffiths of Willowbrook Lifestyle Planning, as they look at the importance of pensions and how to deal with them in a divorce settlement. Ceri shares her knowledge of the different types of pensions, how to value a pension, the role of an actuary report, issues around offsetting a pension against the family home, and the options available for pension sharing. She also shares the importance of g...
Nov 07, 2022•38 min•Season 2Ep. 7
In this episode, Matt and Liza are joined by Rosie Lyon, an Executive Assistant and divorce coach, public speaker and campaigner for survivors of economic and domestic abuse. Rosie shares her personal story of being in an abusive relationship that led to the repossession of her home through no-fault of her own, and how this has impacted her life and financial position. Rosie explains what economic abuse is, how to spot the red flags, how family and friends can help, the support available, partic...
Nov 03, 2022•34 min•Season 2Ep. 6
In this episode, Matt and Liza are joined by Dr Supriya McKenna, a highly experienced Specialist Narcissism expert, as she shares her deep understanding of narcissism, along with tools and techniques for people undergoing a divorce or separation from narcissistic individuals. Supriya discusses the traits of a narcissist, how to identify them, how to best manage your response to their behaviours, and why divorcing from them requires a very different approach. Her advice will help you take back co...
May 17, 2022•55 min•Season 1Ep. 5
In this episode, Matt and Liza are joined by Lottie Kent, founder and owner of True Financial Design, as they look at the importance of understanding your financial situation and making plans that meet your immediate and long-term needs following a divorce or separation. Lottie explains the importance of financial knowledge, managing expectations, understanding the value of the family home, how to map out your finances for your immediate needs and plan for the future, and how to deal with and un...
May 17, 2022•47 min•Season 1Ep. 4
In this episode, Matt and Liza are joined by Tom Nash, an internationally certified Life, Divorce & Business Coach, as he shares his advice on how to become a successful co-parent after separation and navigate the challenges of a blended family. Following his own marital breakdown, Tom shares his personal journey from going through the family courts to building a respectful and mutually beneficial partnership with his ex-wife and a happy, successfully blended family. Sharing the techniques h...
May 17, 2022•48 min•Season 1Ep. 3
In this episode, Matt and Liza are joined by Dr Sue Palmer-Conn, a leading UK Certified Divorce Specialist and Chartered Psychologist, as they explore the challenges faced by women if their relationship breaks down during the menopausal years. Sue shares her own personal experience, having divorced at 50, and her expertise in supporting women through the menopause deal with a relationship breakdown on how to rebuild confidence, take back control and gain strength and independence. Through Sue’s ...
May 17, 2022•40 min•Season 1Ep. 2
In this episode of Stowe talks, Matt and Liza are joined by Sara Davison, one of the UK’s leading divorce coaches and NLP Master Practitioner, as she talks through her advice on how to spot a toxic relationship and leave one Sara shares her deep knowledge of what a toxic relationship is, how to recognise the red flags of abusive behaviour, including love-bombing and gaslighting, the cycle of abuse, how to approach the divorce, and the power of her gameplay checklist. She also discusses the use o...
May 17, 2022•40 min•Season 1Ep. 1
