For some people, it just looks like life comes easy to them. Maybe they are successful in their career, or they have a great social life, or maybe they have an amazing loving family. This is something a client brought to me recently after watching the Netflix documentary about Harry and Meghan. If you haven’t watched it yet, at one point, Meghan shares that she decided to take time off, travel in Europe, and not worry about dating at all. She just wanted to be free and detached. But lo and behol...
Jan 02, 2023•44 min•Ep. 200
Picture this. You have healed your heart, done the work, and you’re out there swiping and dating, ready again to find your person. You hit it off with someone and you start talking to them, maybe you’ve been out on a date or two, and then your brain starts to freak out. Am I liking them too much? Is this too fast? Am I following the same patterns and making the same decisions I did in the past which lead to heartbreak? My love, these thoughts will still come up even when you’re doing the work. L...
Dec 26, 2022•35 min•Ep. 199
I have shared on this podcast before about my experiences of dating narcissists, and the heartbreak I went through when those relationships ended. When I was heartbroken, I spent so much time trying to find the coach that I am today, someone to help me understand why I was falling for Mr. Unavailable, and how I could heal my heart and find my person. And that is exactly what I now have the honor to do. This episode is inspired by a current client as I help her to get out of a relationship with s...
Dec 19, 2022•30 min•Ep. 198
Either being in an affair or victim of one is really not all that uncommon and I'm surprised it's taken me this many episodes to talk about it! This episode was inspired by someone who reached out to me on Instagram who said she was happy to hear that this is a judgement-free zone, because she was the other woman and was looking to get coached. Now, I want to be clear that there are some extreme circumstances where I would say that it's ok to be in an affair. But in this episode, we're talking a...
Dec 12, 2022•44 min•Ep. 197
Not only have we reached the holidays, but this time of year also means that it is cuffing season. In case you haven’t heard this term before, it refers to a period of time from October to February when people seek out short-term relationships to help get through these colder months. Since it’s colder, people are less motivated to get out there and find their person, and for many, they seek the comfort of a relationship, even if it’s just something they see as short-term. This is a term that I b...
Dec 05, 2022•27 min•Ep. 196
Are you on the edge of your seat to find out my #1 most important dating tip? Here it is. I’ve refined all my coaching and guidelines down to one thing, my number 1 most important dating tip. If you’ve listened to this podcast or have worked with me before, you know that I have created a 5-step process for finding someone better. I also have rules and guidelines I create for my clients so that I can help them see their own blindspots and be able to heal their hearts and find their person. So her...
Nov 28, 2022•33 min•Ep. 195
Calling all love addicts! Maybe you are having a really hard time letting go of that Mr. Unavailable, or maybe you jump from one relationship to the next chasing the infatuation and the highs and lows. This episode is for you. I’m excited to bring back a client and guest instructor in my group coaching program, Katie Johnston. Katie and I have definitely been through it before with having an addiction to love and Mr. Wrong, and we have a lot to share with you about how to identify if you’re a lo...
Nov 21, 2022•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 194
I am fired up about this topic! I know that for many of us, we were raised to be lady-like, kind, and sweet, and as adults, this has translated into us wanting to be laid back and go with the flow. Because the alternative of saying no, standing up for what we need and deserve, can be seen as bitchy. We all are familiar with the representation of what it means to be a bitch. A bitch is someone who is miserable, has a bad attitude, and sucks the fun out of everything, and we have this fear of bein...
Nov 14, 2022•32 min•Ep. 193
If you are a client of mine, a course student, or have listened to this podcast, you are doing “the work” of healing your heart and falling in love with you, and maybe you are even in the process of finding your person. This work is so powerful and can lead to amazing results and I wholeheartedly believe in it and what I do to help women create these results. So what if you find out that your ex has also been doing the work? And not only that, but now he’s with someone new. How are you supposed ...
Nov 07, 2022•42 min•Ep. 192
Are you worried that your next date or maybe even your dating past has jinxed your love life? This happened with a client of mine who shows up regularly in the group program with vulnerability and ready to do the work. However, she’s noticed that she feels resistant to the dating apps and is worried that she may have jinxed herself. Let me tell you, with my dating past, if I hadn’t put in the work and healed my heart, I definitely could have believed that I was a bit cursed with all of the doozi...
Oct 31, 2022•29 min•Ep. 191
I’ve had clients tell me that this work has saved their lives. It is always so incredibly kind and nice to hear, but honestly, I’ve always had a bit of a hard time receiving that fully. Yes, I wholeheartedly believe that this work is so incredibly important, but it doesn’t feel like it’s on the same level as someone who physically and literally saves lives. Then this week, I heard about a woman who was in a relationship where, if she had done this work of healing her heart and getting coached, I...
Oct 24, 2022•41 min•Ep. 190
As a woman who was dating in LA in her 30s, I can tell you that I was no stranger to people asking me why I was still single and I had my fair share of friends and loved ones asking why I wasn’t married yet. Recently a client came to the group coaching call after family members said some not-so-kind words about her still being single, and I know she’s not the only one experiencing this. Let’s talk about how you can handle these conversations and establish healthy boundaries with your loved ones....
Oct 17, 2022•48 min•Ep. 189
“I have a confession to make.” This is something a client recently said when she wanted to let me know that she had, in her words, “relapsed”. And let me tell you, this has happened to many many clients before. This was something I used to do, so I get it! You are used to the good feels of being around them, waking up in their arms, spending time with them. And being alone can feel really hard and scary, so all you want to do is reach out to them to get a hit of those good feels again. My loves,...
Oct 10, 2022•39 min•Ep. 188
I’m willing to bet that most of you have gone above and beyond for love, and sometimes, to your own detriment. Maybe you compromised on your core values, or you diminished yourself for someone else who ultimately, wasn’t worth it. I definitely have gone over and beyond in relationships, and with people who were not deserving. And at the same time, I am now in my ideal relationship with the man of my dreams, and there are decisions I have made and things I have done that I never thought I would h...
Oct 03, 2022•41 min•Ep. 187
I’ve got to be honest with you - I have never really thought about the connection between dating and the menstrual cycle. That is why I am so excited to have Lisa de Jong back on the podcast! Previously, she was a guest in the episode Irish Love where she shared her journey of healing her heart and finding love. Now she’s back to give us the low down on trauma and the menstrual cycle, her personal journey with this work, and how it relates to our abilities to manage our emotions, which is critic...
Sep 26, 2022•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 186
When I say “F-boys” we all know the exact type of person I’m talking about. These are the guys who have Peter Pan syndrome. They never grow up, they play games, they don’t want a real relationship, and sometimes it can feel like they are the only men that you are attracting. And now you want to know how to stop attracting those dicks so you can begin to find your ideal person. I can tell you, even when you’re doing the work and it feels like you’re doing everything right, those F-boys are still ...
Sep 19, 2022•40 min•Ep. 185
Last week I did an episode called Writing Him Off Too Soon and this week we’re swinging to the other side and we’re looking at ways you may not be writing him off soon enough. If you have done the work to heal your heart and now you’re in the finding someone better stage, it is critical that you aren’t wasting time with someone who definitely isn’t your Mr. Right! Maybe you are really feeling the good feels and you’re letting some things slide, or maybe things are going a little too fast and you...
Sep 12, 2022•37 min•Ep. 184
I love to see all of the wins and healing my clients are creating. They are doing amazing at healing their hearts, stepping into new relationships with themselves, and some are ready and are putting themselves out there in order to find someone better. And now I’m seeing that a few of my clients are so clear on what they will and will not tolerate that they are ready to jump ship over things that I believe are relatively small. Let’s take a look and how to pay attention to things you do or don’t...
Sep 05, 2022•52 min•Ep. 183
My loves! I have some big exciting news to share with you! My bestie, Jamie McKeowen, a badass holistic health coach and previous guest on this podcast, is back. And not only that, but she’s here to share with us her engagement story! You’ve heard Jamie on this podcast in previous episodes talk about her journey through healing her heart, finding her now-fiance Michael, and now she’s here to tell the big proposal story. For someone on the outside looking in, they might think that since I’ve been...
Aug 29, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 182
I am a very proud Irish woman, and I have many clients who are Irish, too! It’s really a joy to work with women who come from similar backgrounds as me because I feel like I really truly understand where they’re coming from, and the cultural expectations Irish women face. I am very excited to have another guest this week, Lisa DeJong, a client of mine who, through listening to this podcast and going through my course, has created the results of healing her heart, falling in love with herself, an...
Aug 22, 2022•1 hr 18 min•Ep. 181
I see you. You’re really in the thick of it with your heartbreak, and you feel like you’re never going to feel better, or you just can’t imagine a time when you aren’t aching with a broken heart. That’s why this week I am back with another guest and client, Sheeva, who is here to share her story of healing her heart. In this episode, you’ll hear all about Sheeva’s journey from heartbroken, to being a podcast listener, and then making the jump to being a client in my group program. You’ll also he...
Aug 15, 2022•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 180
This is a topic that I know I’ve talked about across many episodes, but I wanted to set aside an entire episode on settling for crumbs because it’s something that I know I have done, as well as many of my clients. And until you are able to recognize the why and the how, it will just keep repeating itself, which won’t bring you to a happy and fulfilling relationship. One client that I know has dealt with this a lot in her recent dating past is my friend, colleague, and guest coach in my group coa...
Aug 08, 2022•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 179
There are so many times in my past when I was told that I was just too much for someone, particularly in my dating relationships. I have an anxious-attachment style, and my love language is definitely quality time. When I’m with someone, I just want to be with them! But inevitably, it would be too much for whoever I was dating, and they would tell me that they needed space from me, leading me to feel shameful about my needs and needing to spend time with them. I know that I am not the only one w...
Aug 01, 2022•34 min•Ep. 178
How often have you looked forward to a vacation as a chance to get away from it all and forget about your life for a bit? I recently went on an amazing trip to Cabo San Lucas with my partner Larry, and it got me thinking about what it’s like to be on vacation with a broken heart. I know for many of us, we look forward to these trips as a way to heal us or to just forget about our problems for a while, but when you’re in the thick of a broken heart, it just isn’t that simple. No matter how much h...
Jul 25, 2022•47 min•Ep. 177
I think it’s natural for us to share things with our loved ones, our wins, our challenges, and even difficulties in our love lives. Sometimes we just really need to vent about something, but what if that venting and sharing is actually doing damage to your relationship or the relationship with your loved ones? There’s a difference between sharing things with a coach and sharing things with your friends and family members, and it can create lasting effects with those you love. In this episode, I ...
Jul 18, 2022•41 min•Ep. 176
So you’ve healed your heart, fallen in love with you, and you are out there on the dating scene to find your Mr. or Ms. Right. But are you actually ready to find that love? Or, are you telling yourself little white lies about your dating life which might actually be holding you back from finding your person? Let’s take a look at six stories you may be telling yourself which might seem like no big deal, when in fact, they are keeping you in the suffering and from finding love. If you missed last ...
Jul 11, 2022•42 min•Ep. 175
Here’s the deal. You’re already suffering in your heartbreak, and you may be telling yourself some sneaky little lies to make yourself feel better. But when you tell yourselves these lies, you end up perpetuating the suffering. And not only that, but you’re keeping yourself from becoming the healed version of you that will be able to call in Mr. or Ms. Right. Some of these lies have come up for clients in my group coaching program, and they are things that I have definitely heard other women say...
Jul 04, 2022•1 hr 9 min•Ep. 174
You might not know it, but I’ll bet that you have gone to the hardware store looking for bread. This is something my former therapist used to say to me and I had forgotten about this phrase until someone said it recently. And the more I thought about it, I realized that there are actually a couple of different ways this may apply to you and your heartbreak and dating life. Have you dated someone, or maybe you’re currently dating someone, who just can’t give you what you need or want? Maybe you’v...
Jun 27, 2022•45 min•Ep. 173
Let’s say you’re on a fun date, or maybe you’re even spending time with friends and you think, “How can I bottle this moment up so that I can feel access these feelings again later?” This happened with a client recently who wanted to know how she can capture the happiness and good feels in the moment so that when she’s not feeling so good in the future, she can access these feelings again. In this episode, I share with you the coaching I gave her on bottling up those good feels, and how to manag...
Jun 20, 2022•35 min•Ep. 172
I think it’s pretty safe to say that we’ve all been there before: there’s something we need to do - whether that be to start an uncomfortable conversation, cut contact with an ex, or finally leave a relationship - and we just can’t bring ourselves to do it because it feels so wrong. We know that it’s the right move, but it’s hard to do because it doesn’t feel good. That’s what I’m talking about this week. This episode was inspired by a client in my group coaching program who was facing a situati...
Jun 13, 2022•25 min•Ep. 171
