Let’s say that you have been working on healing your heart, falling in love with you, and it’s time to start dating again. Then, all of a sudden, some guy pulls the rug out from under you in a crappy way that you were not expecting. This recently happened to my client Sarah, and when she came to me for coaching, she said she was so sad that her person still isn’t here. Now, coaching can be very nuanced and this episode definitely deals with more advanced coaching and won’t be for everyone. But s...
Jun 06, 2022•53 min•Ep. 170
Let’s look at this “risky” business of dating. I was inspired to do this episode after a friend recently reached out asking for some dating advice when it comes to a situation where she wasn’t sure if it was worth the risk and it really got me thinking. I think it’s natural to approach our dating lives from the mindset that it’s a risk. But is it really? Of course there are situations where we may be in danger or at risk, but when we are in the mindset of dating being risky, is it really, or, ar...
May 30, 2022•40 min•Ep. 169
If you are listening to this podcast, I’ll bet you have had this thought that if you don’t find him, your ideal person, your life will be miserable. This is a belief that I carried for a very long time, and is something I hear often from my clients. Even if they don’t say it outright, I know that some of my clients believe that can’t be truly happy until their person shows up. My loves, I want you to know that your person is an added bonus, but they can’t fill the void. Only you are responsible ...
May 23, 2022•46 min•Ep. 168
I just couldn’t believe it. I recently went to a social event and I was having a perfectly fine conversation with a gentleman when all of a sudden he asked a pretty judgemental and personal question. He said, “How are you 41 and you’re not married?” It became a conversation all about my age and marital status. I know that there is a lot of drama surrounding the topics of a woman’s age and whether or not they are married, and this can be a trigger for some of you. However, I was able to breeze th...
May 14, 2022•34 min•Ep. 167
I think we’ve all had a moment like this in our dating lives. Let’s say you’re out at a bar and you see some hot guy that looks like he has what you’re looking for, and you’re very next thought is that he must be out of your league and just not interested in you. I know that I had this moment often in my single life before I called in the love of my life, Larry. This thought usually comes up when you haven’t cleaned up your thoughts about you and your past relationships. It may not seem like it,...
May 09, 2022•31 min•Ep. 166
I’m back this week with another fun and light-hearted conversation with my bestie Jamie McKeowen, and this time we’re talking about who pays on a first date. In this era of modern feminism, there are a lot of questions surrounding etiquette on dating, and this of course includes who pays on the first date. We talk about experiences in our dating lives, feminine and masculine energies, investigating your negotiables, and taking a look at your dating deal-breakers. This episode is a good example o...
May 02, 2022•56 min•Ep. 165
If you’ve listened to my podcast before, you’ll know that I am in my ideal relationship with the love of my life, Larry. And it’s not just him, he also has four amazing kids and I get to be a part of their lives too. Throughout this relationship, I have talked about this situation in bits and pieces, but I’ve never dedicated a whole episode to what it’s like to date a dad, so that’s what I’m doing this week. And joining me to share her experience of dating a dad is my bestie, Jamie McKeowen. In ...
Apr 25, 2022•1 hr 19 min•Ep. 164
Do you remember that song Cheap Thrills by Sia? This week, let’s look at when we feel those cheap thrills when it comes to hearing about our exes. You may remember from last week’s episode that I was recently triggered when I heard about a recent success he had. And in that episode, we talked about how we process those moments of good that may happen to our exes and what we’re making it mean about us. This week, let’s turn it around. Just a few days ago I heard from a friend about that same ex, ...
Apr 11, 2022•27 min•Ep. 162
Did you catch that? Did you see the two thoughts in the title of this episode? There are two thoughts there: one, that there are “mean guys”, and two, this idea of “winning”. This episode is inspired by something I experienced this week and by the conversations I’ve had with clients. Oftentimes, after a relationship, we may be the ones to be broken hearted or feeling pain, and then we see our exes reaching new levels of success. This can leave you feeling hurt and like there’s nothing good happe...
Apr 04, 2022•36 min•Ep. 161
I’m just going to cut right to the chase here and say, yes, of course relationships take work! The question is, what is the kind of work you are doing, and what kind of relationship are you in? We’ve all heard people say before things like, “relationships shouldn’t be this hard” or “it shouldn’t take this much work”. And in certain contexts, I absolutely agree. In this episode, let’s take a look at different kinds of relationships where it is worth it to put in the work, what kind of work it tak...
Mar 28, 2022•37 min•Ep. 160
I think it pretty much goes without saying that our past can leave us damaged, especially when it comes to finding love and healing our hearts in preparation for finding our person. With some of my clients, that has led them to approach dating being guarded in fear of getting hurt again. On the other hand, I have seen other clients of mine get really swept up in the giddyness of something new and they have found themselves getting carried away when they needed to be a bit more cautious. In this ...
Mar 21, 2022•53 min•Ep. 159
Short answer: loving yourself has everything to do with it! This week I am back with another one of my amazing clients, Christine, so that you can hear her experience of going through the group coaching program and the transformation she has gone through. Before she came to me, she had been working with another coach and was listening to this podcast, and was honestly a little nervous about joining a group program. However, no matter what else she was going through, or where she might have gotte...
Mar 07, 2022•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 157
As the world continues to open up and I’m showing up socially more and more, I’ve been really struck by the language I’m using in social situations. Over the years I have done a lot of work to own myself and show up as my full authentic self. However, recently when I’m making small talk with others I’m finding myself commiserating over complaints, or downplaying who I am, and this isn’t something I want to keep doing. I am proud of what I do and who I am, and I needed this as a reminder to show ...
Feb 28, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 156
One of the results that I help my clients create for themselves is to fall in love with themselves, along with healing their hearts and finding someone better. And part of what I help coach my clients on is to date themselves and to get so solid in that relationship that it’s merely a bonus with their Mr. or Ms. Right shows up. This sense of independence is really important, but I also want to share with you that it doesn’t mean that you can’t need your partner, or need things of them in order t...
Feb 21, 2022•38 min•Ep. 155
No matter where you are on your heartbreak journey or if you’re on the path to finding the one, Valentine’s Day and all the hoopla around this day can bring up a lot for people. So with that in mind, I wanted to share with you how you can move through it. If you’re having triggers around this day, let’s address it. Valentine’s Day itself is actually a neutral circumstance. It’s your thoughts about it and what you make it mean that can dictate your feelings. But luckily, with coaching tools, you ...
Feb 13, 2022•34 min•Ep. 154
I’ve been thinking a lot about boundaries recently, especially as I learn more about what it means to be a highly sensitive person, and I’m realizing just how important it is to create boundaries in your heartbreak and in your dating life. Truth be told, earlier on in my dating life, it didn’t even occur to me to have boundaries, and if I had, I might have found out earlier on in some relationships that the other person and I weren’t right for each other if I had boundaries. Simply put, boundari...
Feb 07, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 153
I know that, for women especially, there is this pressure to settle down and start a family, and that pressure may grow the older you get. I get it! I used to face this same struggle in my dating life when it wasn’t working out, and I just hadn’t found my person yet. And the longer you spend in your dating life without your Mr. or Ms. Right, it may be easy to think about “wasted time” that you spent with the wrong person. I’m going to let you know right off the bat that wasted time is just a tho...
Jan 31, 2022•58 min•Ep. 152
This is a topic that I know will benefit some of you because this is the exact thing I needed to hear when I was dating before I met the love of my life, Larry. I know how it goes. You’re dating someone, you’re a few dates in, and you are getting those butterflies and you just want to invest all of your time and energy with them to learn more about them and get close to them. My loves, this is your reminder to really slow it down, and take your time. You’ve done the work of healing your heart an...
Jan 24, 2022•43 min•Ep. 151
New clients and members of my group coaching program come to me from all different parts of the journey of healing their hearts and their relationship with themselves, getting closure on their ex, and finding true love. Today I have Kelly on the podcast to share with you her experience of coming to me for coaching and how she has been able to find her Mr. Right. It has been an absolute joy to be a part of this and to see the transformation she has experienced, and I am so excited she is here on ...
Jan 17, 2022•1 hr 20 min•Ep. 150
When you have experienced heart break, it can be tricky to believe that you will find love and that your Mr. or Ms. Right is out there. I have heard from people who tell me that they feel like their person is out there, but there is a distinct difference in having those thoughts, and really believing them. And not only that, but also having that belief when you don’t have any current evidence to support that belief, so that is what I want to share with you today. In this episode, I detail how yo...
Jan 10, 2022•49 min•Ep. 149
It’s that time when there is amplified energy surrounding us with the fresh start of a new year! With it comes a lot of people really thinking about what it is they want and setting new intentions in order to reach their goals. I am proof that with thought work, commitment, and belief in myself, that you can create any result that you set out to. It’s what allowed me to heal my heart and find my Mr. Right, and in 2022 I want to help you create your best love life too. In this episode, let’s take...
Jan 03, 2022•55 min•Ep. 148
You are in for a treat this episode! I am happy to share with you a conversation I had with my client Alicia. I love to bring my clients on the podcast to have them share their experiences of healing their hearts and the results they have created through coaching. I love for you to be able to see just a small glimpse of what is possible when you invest and go all in on finding your Mr. or Ms. Right. Alicia has been in my group program for less than three months and she has already had some amazi...
Dec 27, 2021•59 min•Ep. 147
This is a big topic and something I get asked about a lot! Today I’m going to talk about trusting again in regards to trusting someone new, which can feel scary after healing your broken heart. If you’ve listened to this podcast for a while, you’ll know that I come to this episode with a lot of personal experience of broken trust, not just from my rock bottom heart break, but from other past relationships too. Let’s take a look at some of the mind-drama you may be facing as you begin to start da...
Dec 20, 2021•55 min•Ep. 146
We’ve all seen the movies where one of the characters, usually a woman, is just trying too hard, and loving too much, and it is over the top for the other person. And honestly, I have been her! I’ve been in relationships where I was head over heels, showering my boyfriend with just so much love, and this was something that my client brought to me this week and she had an amazing breakthrough that I want to share with you. When you think about “loving too hard” and what that looks like, it is dif...
Dec 13, 2021•35 min•Ep. 145
Integrity is not something we often think about when it comes to heartbreak and the relationship it has with healing our hearts and finding love. However, if you want to be able to show up authentically for yourself, or in relationships with others, it is key to know what you want, what is important to you, how you want to be treated, and to accept nothing less. One of the important steps for how you get there is to be honest and ethical. In this episode, I share with you what it looks like to h...
Dec 06, 2021•46 min•Ep. 144
I am constantly blown away by my clients! They show up, they are committed to the work, and they are powerhouse women who I feel completely honored to coach. I recently realized that a majority of my episodes are really centered on the problems in your life that are getting in the way of creating the results of healing your heart and calling in your ideal partner. So in this episode, I want to change things up and instead, I am going to share with you some of the amazing wins that my clients hav...
Nov 29, 2021•48 min•Ep. 143
Here is the tricky thing about our brains, they really like to hold on to negative thoughts. The thoughts that we hold on to are the ones that persist. That is why it is so key to being aware of our beliefs, so that we can dismantle them, create new beliefs, which in turn, then create new results, like finding your person. In this episode, let’s take a look at the limiting belief that I hear from clients all the time, “I don’t think he’s out there” and the seven reasons why they believe that to ...
Nov 22, 2021•54 min•Ep. 142
As a coach, I truly believe that our thoughts create our feelings and that the situations we face aren’t positive or negative. They are simply neutral circumstances, and it’s our feelings about a circumstance that determines what we do about it. I could argue that Christmas is a neutral circumstance, but honestly, I know this is a really challenging time of year to feel heartbroken or to be single and looking for love. Questions about how to get through the holidays are definitely coming up for ...
Nov 15, 2021•28 min•Ep. 141
Can anyone else relate to this? Putting pressure on my love life was certainly true for my former self, and for a lot of my clients. We live in a society that really praises the hustle and grind, but sometimes, that just really doesn’t serve us. I’ve shared before that this is something that I really struggle with, and I have a difficult time with putting things on pause, so that’s what I want to talk about in this episode. When you put pressure on creating what you want, whether that is healing...
Nov 08, 2021•33 min•Ep. 140
Let’s say you’ve been healing your heart and you’re ready to get out there and find your person, you might be considering what are the situations that are negotiable versus non-negotiables. Or maybe you’ve been dating, but just haven’t found Mr. or Ms. Right yet, and you begin to question if perhaps you are too picky. This was definitely me in my 20s and 30s, and I’m surprised I haven’t covered this topic before! In this episode, let’s take a look at what are your non-negotiables, where you can ...
Nov 01, 2021•33 min•Ep. 139
