Picture this. You’re out with friends, or you’re at an event, and there’s a chance you might see your ex. If you’re like my client, you might be freaking out, wondering what you would say to him, or maybe you even want to confront him so you can get the closure you feel like you need in order to move on. But what if you didn’t? What if you didn’t need his feedback in order to stop wanting him back? Focusing on this is actually keeping your person that much further away. Let’s unpack your thought...
Oct 25, 2021•44 min•Ep. 138
Should you be further along? This is a thought that comes up a lot for my clients, and it came up again for 2 clients in my group coaching program this week. When it comes to seeing what others have, or feeling pressure about where we are in life, it can be painful and cause mind drama. It is pressure like this that keeps you stuck and pushes your ideal person away. You have the ability to shift your thoughts and practice new ones that serve you! So let’s clean up the drama around where you shou...
Oct 18, 2021•22 min•Ep. 137
I have such an awesome conversation to share with you today. My bestie and holistic health coach Jamie McKeowen is back! She has been a guest before where we have talked about what to eat on a broken heart, dating apps, and she has even helped me answer some of your questions. But today, we are talking about her and how she called love in. It was about this time last year when I was working on creating my course - which is now available in my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Fin...
Oct 11, 2021•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 136
I hope all of my listeners listen closely to this episode, even if you don’t think it’s for you! This was a theme for some of my clients and consult calls this week; women who really believed they were ready to date, and it was clear to me that they really were not. We all have human brains which have limiting beliefs that keep us stuck in mind drama, and keep our person further away. This is where the beauty of coaching comes into play! In this episode, I share how I coached one of my clients o...
Oct 04, 2021•29 min•Ep. 135
“I just keep attracting unavailable men. This is just my pattern. This is what I do.” This is something I hear from my clients quite often and I coach them to be able to identify where they are being unavailable in their own lives to themselves and those around them. However, in today’s episode I want to take a bit of a different approach. What if, instead of thinking about the unavailable partners you attract and trying to diagnose where they’re coming from, you just said no and didn’t make it ...
Sep 27, 2021•39 min•Ep. 134
Let’s say you have been showing up for yourself and to this work, staying committed to healing your heart, and you feel like you are ready to start dating, but you just aren’t sure. It may feel like the people around you are all in committed relationships, getting married, having children, and it can be easy to see that and think, “When is it my turn?” This question was brought up by a client in my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back And Find Someone Better. When you are in the thick o...
Sep 20, 2021•20 min•Ep. 133
Why are you wanting to find love, and are you doing everything you can to create that result? I was recently talking with my dear friend and coaching colleague Danielle Savory, and we were talking about our own lack of urgency. I shared this with my group coaching clients and they were a little surprised to hear that sometimes I get comfortable, and I get complacent. But it’s true! Sometimes, when we create amazing results, like healing our hearts, we may find ourselves sitting back and resting ...
Sep 13, 2021•35 min•Ep. 132
It honestly makes me a little emotional when I think about the role that coaching has played in my business, my love life, and my entire life. When I began working with my business coach Stacey in June 2018, I was all in on growing my business, and I did! I created amazing results, built a life that I loved, and created a belief man plan in order to call in Mr. Right. I hear from people about the price of coaching and the reasons they give for not going all in on healing their hearts and finding...
Aug 30, 2021•28 min•Ep. 130
Empaths feel all the feels, and they feel them more and feel them harder than other people. This episode is a part 3 in my 3-part series on being an empath, and how that plays a role when it comes to how we operate, how we move through heartbreak, and how we approach our dating lives. In part 1 I explored what it meant to be an empath. You can find that episode here: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/8/9/part-one-empath-life-in-romantic-relationships . And in part 2, I talked abo...
Aug 23, 2021•42 min•Ep. 129
Empaths feel all the feels, and they feel them more and feel them harder than other people. This episode is a part 2 in my mini-series on being an empath, and how that plays a role when it comes to how we operate, how we move through heartbreak, and how we approach our dating lives. In part 1 I explored what it meant to be an empath. You can find that episode here: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/8/9/part-one-empath-life-in-romantic-relationships Now that we have a better under...
Aug 16, 2021•36 min•Ep. 128
I have shared on this podcast before that I am a number six on the enneagram, I have an anxious attachment style, and I’m an Aquarius. I believe that it is important to understand who we are, some of the labels that apply to us, so that we can then understand how it impacts our dating lives, and our entire lives! That is why I’ve created this mini-series about what it’s like to be an empath and look at how it shaped our heartbreak, and what it means about how we show up in our dating and love li...
Aug 09, 2021•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 127
It’s no secret that I am a fiery, Irish woman. Even from my infancy, there are well-known family stories that they would have to tip-toe around me so that I wouldn’t wake up kicking and screaming. As an adult, I’ve been told that I am too dramatic and over the top. But when my gaslighting, narcissistic sociopath ex started saying the same thing, I began to really doubt myself. This is the exact topic that was brought up on a recent group coaching call with a client in my program, Stop Wanting Hi...
Jul 26, 2021•39 min•Ep. 125
I am so excited to have another guest on the show again this week, my dear client Emily. She came to me for one-on-one coaching after the end of her divorce when she was ready to find her Mr. Right. She is now a member of my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. I wanted to bring her on because since we have worked together, I have coached her through two heartbreaks, and I know that she is on the precipice of finding love. In our conversation, I ask Emily to sha...
Jul 19, 2021•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 124
You guys are in for such a treat today because I have another bestie from my mastermind on the podcast with us today, Lindsey Mango. She is a fellow life coach and she has a program called Anything But Average, where she helps people create their own coaching businesses. She teaches them to have an anything but average life so that they have the confidence to create that in their business. I wanted to bring Lindsey on the podcast because I believe that creating a result, no matter what it is, fr...
Jul 12, 2021•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 123
Let’s talk about time, and how long it takes to get closure and be able to move on from Mr. or Ms. Wrong. I recently had a client tell me she was really frustrated because even though she is in a new relationship and she knows that her ex is not her Mr. Right, she said to me, “But I still give a fuck about him.” If this sounds familiar, I want you to reflect on two things: why does it matter, and who cares? In this episode, I explain why the closure you seek won’t actually make anything better, ...
Jul 05, 2021•34 min•Ep. 122
I’ve got to tell you, I’m really excited to talk to you about why you’re not excited when it comes to dating. I’m sure you’re probably thinking that the reasons you aren’t excited about dating are because you’ve had some crappy dates, or it feels like the people on the apps are duds. But in this episode, I’m going to show you how you are getting in your own way by sharing the 7 reasons you aren’t excited about your dating life, and what you can do about it so that you can get excited about datin...
Jun 28, 2021•33 min•Ep. 121
When we are in the thick of our heartbreak, it is totally normal to have the thought that you never want to feel this way again. And in order to avoid heartbreak, it means that you should avoid love too. But my loves, you are so worthy, deserving, and capable of calling in the love of your life and to find true love. I cannot promise you or make any guarantees that the next person you date will be forever. There are no guarantees. But the great news is that when you find who you believe is the l...
Jun 21, 2021•37 min•Ep. 120
Recently a client in my group program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better , was reflecting on some of her past relationships and came to the call asking the question, “But what if I make the same mistake?” When we look at the people we have attracted in our past, it can be so easy to be fearful that we will keep repeating the same pattern because that is all that we have known. Throughout my 30s I definitely experienced my fair share of heartbreak, but I wouldn’t call them mistakes. I...
Jun 14, 2021•26 min•Ep. 119
I am so excited to share this special episode with you! Back in November I had a client come on the podcast and share what it was like to have worked together for the three months I had been her coach, at that time. In that episode, Taking A Dump On Your Love Story , I talked about how important it was to take off the rose-colored glasses and really evaluate and assess your past relationships for what they truly were, not what we wished they would be. I highly recommend you go back and listen to...
Jun 07, 2021•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 118
I hear this from my clients a lot, “No one will love me like he does, Claire!” What if I told you that you’re right? And not only will no one ever love you in that way, but you won’t want them to! If you are listening to this podcast, then you must be looking to create the results of stop wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, to fall in love with you, and to find someone so much better. And if you keep wanting that same love, you will find it again. But my loves, you are worthy, deserving, and capable ...
May 31, 2021•27 min•Ep. 117
I am fired up about this episode because just this week I had not one, but two clients break the no contact rule and they reached out to their exes. It happens to the best of us. And really, falling off the wagon at some point is going to happen to all of us. Healing your heart isn’t easy, and at some point, we all slip up and go back to what is familiar. The key is to be on to ourselves and be aware of the thoughts that cause us to take the actions we do. In this episode, I detail what happened...
May 24, 2021•27 min•Ep. 116
As a life coach, I think there is this perception that because I have the skills of thought work, have committed to doing the work, and teach it to others, that I have mastered my mind. In this episode I want to be really vulnerable and share with you that I have been really sad recently, and it took me a long time to figure out why. What makes self-coaching so difficult is that it is nuanced, and that is why I continue to get coached. Join me as I share with you the process I went through to id...
May 17, 2021•25 min•Ep. 115
How do we know when we are really over our ex and ready to find someone better? A lot of times we tell ourselves that in order to really close the book on our heartbreak, we need closure. We need for that person to tell us how sorry they are for whatever has happened, and once we get that from them, we’ll be ready to let go and move on. What if you could get closure without them? This is something I was working on with a client this week and in this episode, I share with you how we can redefine ...
May 10, 2021•32 min•Ep. 114
Over some of the recent episodes of this show, I have talked about the importance of cutting contact with your ex, and why it is the first step in my five-steps of how to heal your heart. Let’s say you have done the difficult thing of cutting contact and blocking them, but your Mr. or Ms. Wrong is finding a way to still get in contact with you. If you’re like my client Jane, you may be feeling anxious when they call, but when they aren’t calling, you’re feeling anxious then too. You’re torn, and...
May 03, 2021•38 min•Ep. 113
Let’s talk about our ability to receive. This topic comes from a coaching client who recently came to our coaching and shared that she is finding it really difficult to receive a gift that was offered to her. When we dig into the hard work of upleveling ourselves and healing our hearts, I have seen with many of my clients that the universe recognizes the work and provides abundance and opportunity. However, because of the heartbreak we’ve experienced, it’s not always easy to lean into the opport...
Apr 26, 2021•28 min•Ep. 112
Let’s talk about triggers. In the world of dating, there are more than just two types of triggers, but for the purpose of this episode, we will be focusing on two: the kind you have when are dating Mr. Wrong and the kind you have when you are dating Mr. Right. This episode was inspired by a recent coaching call with a client who is starting to date again, and is really interested in this guy she’s dating, even when there are triggers for her that he may not be the Mr. Available she wants him to ...
Apr 19, 2021•42 min•Ep. 111
Your thoughts, create feelings, which drive results. This is the model I use as a coach and when I get coached. In this episode, I share with you just how important your feelings are, and how they can shape your results. Let’s take a look at how you may not be fully loving yourself right now, what this means for your love life, those you are attracting, and how to investigate the feelings that may be driving your actions. This work is so much deeper than simply getting over Mr. Wrong. If you are...
Apr 12, 2021•46 min•Ep. 110
I am so excited for the full launch of my one-year group coaching, which starts this Friday, April 9th. For this episode, I have asked three students who took advantage of the opportunity to join early to come on the podcast and talk about what it has been like for them to get coached in this way and why it works. You’ll hear from each of them as they share why they joined the program, what it’s like to be in the group setting, and what the work looks like for each of them. I am so honored to ha...
Apr 05, 2021•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 109
I was recently working with two clients who were going through the same thing; their Mr. Unavailable’s are in new relationships, and from the outside, it looks like they are now Mr. Available to their new partners, and are now able to give the best of themselves in the new relationships. Even in my own dating history, I can look back and see examples of men who committed to new partners and were able to give them everything I wanted. In this episode, let’s take a deeper look into this thought. I...
Mar 29, 2021•38 min•Ep. 108
Having hope is very tricky. How many times have you been looking forward to a date, but then stopped yourself from “getting your hopes up”? This happened recently when I was working with a client. When she told me she didn’t want to get her hopes up for a first date, I asked her why the hell not? It is so natural to have hope, but there are also times when hope doesn’t serve us. I share with you how to tell the difference between when hope is helpful, versus when it isn’t, and how you should app...
Mar 22, 2021•23 min•Ep. 107
