It is easy for you to judge others for their apparent faults. It is not easy for you to notice your faults and spit instant hot takes your way on how to fix them. But when you can do it, the payoff is huge.
If something surprises you repeatedly, you see a trend. Stop being surprised by a thing you know is going to happen. And if it is
Develop a habit of getting the running list of things out of your head and onto paper, making the list real and tangible.
This is not about what they have earned because they probably haven’t. This addresses your ability to maintain your composure around others by not letting yourself get triggered by difficult people.
There is a lesson to learn from every experience and moment you live through. These are lessons for you and those who have their eyes on you.
Don’t let outside opinions drive the pursuits of your goals. At the same time, put a realistic time limit to those goals that you can hold yourself to.
Find ways to evaluate your life and fix the issues before they become real problems. Zoom in to find the details that need addressing, and zoom out to see your life in exhaustive detail to ensure you are moving along a worthy path.
As a door closes on an opportunity, another one is not guaranteed to open nearby. Plus, they tend to open when they want to, not on any rhyme or reason that follows your work to be prepared for any opportunity.
The phrase ‘follow your passion’ is getting much-deserved hate from the personal development world because of the ease it can be used to manipulate and mislead. Following your passion is not necessarily bad advice, but it rarely comes with a manageable financial plan attached.
Whatever issues you face, if you can put a dollar value on it, whether just a single dollar or a million dollars, the problem becomes solvable. Even if you don’t currently have a million dollars to solve it.
Success is possible through relationships, as no one travels through this life all alone. Success is even possible if a partner relationship moves toward the cool side. Gaining success and maintaining the relationship will be challenging, but it is possible.
If a person faces deserved group criticism, the urge to join the fray in the verbal beatdown is high. Resist this urge, as it does help in teaching a lesson already learned. It just brings extra ugly to the situation, often making it worse.
Some people have trouble thinking of themselves as valuable unless told by someone else. Some people believe their value is better portrayed by tearing other people down. You can help them out in both cases by slathering on more compliments to people.
This week’s message was inspired by a rennet post on Seth Godin’s blog that made me evaluate what motivates me in my pursuits. Is it reaching the stated goal or just the journey to get there?
The best time to question the consequence of your actions is after you have survived an ordeal. The second-best time to question the consequences of your actions is the moment you begin to see the consequences of your actions.
Learn to endure 'stupid questions' as questions asked by people who truly don't know the answer. Learn to endure the people who tend to claim, 'I'm just trying to ask a question,' as people determined to be jerks despite the situation.
Want to feel empowered and better about yourself and your life? Face your fears and work toward that goal alluding to you. Just take it one tiny step at a time.
You don’t want to look for ways to exploit those around you. You’re looking for a way to better understand people by getting to know the side they (usually) do their best not to show you.
Sit down with a physical pen and a piece of paper. Use your phone app if you must. Freely brainstorm for at least 5 minutes (longer if you are feeling it), and out which ideas have been bogging you down, and make plans to do something about them.
You must have a good sense of perspective when going through a rough stretch of failures and coming up short. A rejection is not necessarily the signal of the end of a journey, and it may be a detour or a pivot.
If you repeat a process enough, you forget it is a process, and it becomes a habit you automatically do without fail. This is true for positive and negative processes, so be vigilant of what patterns find themselves running on autopilot in your life.
When you don't feel like you have much personal power to change your situation, take one small step. Make a simple plan to get you out of a bad mental state, and start with step one.
You will spend more time working at your job than anything else. And while your job can be fulfilling, it can also be mind-numbingly depressing. The only thing a job has to do is pay you money for the work you produce. Any love for your job (or loyalty to an employer) is unnecessary.
Sturgeon's law, coined by Theodore Sturgeon, states that 90% of everything is crap. For you, that means the things you hold in high regard are probably only of average worth at best, so be mindful of what you choose to attach yourself to.
This is not a slight to whatever opinions on topics you have, just a reminder not to have such a high opinion of yourself.
Very simple things heavily influence a human's well-being. Things like getting a good night's sleep, a brisk round of exercise, and enjoying a moment of reflection can mean more to a person than wealth, power, and influence.
Delayed gratification is a key component to success, but not a hard fast rule. However, treating skipping to the fun stuff without completing the needed assignments as a casual everyday coin flip decision is a quick way to assure lack of progress.
Most meetings never need more than 30 minutes to accomplish their missions. Many only need 15 minutes. Some really can be handled over a few emails. Save your self more time to get the stuff done instead of being stuck in meetings.
With all your hard work, you not only deserve to take a break, but you probably need a longer on to recoup your energy. You also have toe learn (and learn to live with) the idea of taking more frequent and longer breaks mean somethings just can be done, at least not by you specifically.
Believe it or not, one of the greatest test for people who are hesitant to engage in relationship or unsure if they want to be a parent (to either human or fur babies) is spending quality time at home with living houseplants.
