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Some of My Best Friends Are

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Some of My Best Friends Are… is a podcast hosted by Khalil Gibran Muhammad and Ben Austen, two best friends who grew up together on the South Side of Chicago in the 1980s. Today a Harvard professor and an award-winning journalist, Khalil and Ben still go to each other to talk about their experiences with the absurdities and intricacies of race in America. In Some of My Best Friends Are..., they invite listeners into their unfiltered conversations about growing up together in a deeply-divided country, and navigating that divide as it exists today.

Episodes

The Harms of Eating Alone: An International Day of Happiness Special from The Happiness Lab

For the  International  Day of Happiness , we're sharing a special episode from The Happiness Lab. It's a chance to talk about happiness and what we can all do to be happier. March 20th also sees the release of the  World Happiness Report . A big finding of 2025's report is that more of us are dining alone—and that's bad news.  The report's editor Jan-Emmanuel De Neve shares the stark figures showing that shared meals are in decline, while Dr. Anne Fischel of  The ...

Mar 20, 202537 min

Introducing Fiasco: The Battle for Boston

In 1974, a federal judge ruled that Boston’s public schools were unconstitutionally segregated. The solution? A controversial experiment in desegregation known as “busing,” which would take children from majority-white schools and bus them to predominantly Black schools, and vice versa. What followed was a year of upheaval, violence, and fierce protests, as Boston became a battleground for the heated national debate over school integration and racism in the North. In this drama...

Feb 04, 202549 min

Thank You For Being Some of Our Best Friends

In the final episode of the show, Khalil and Ben talk with Chicago poet laureate avery r. young. He’s the multitalented interdisciplinary artist behind the podcast’s theme song, ‘Lil Lillie.’ They discuss the story behind the song and how racial justice influences his work. Ben and Khalil also reflect on their time working on this show. To check out avery r. young’s work, go to his website: https://www.averyryoung.com/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information....

Aug 16, 202354 minSeason 2Ep. 36

Samantha Irby is Quietly Hostile & Raucously Funny

Ben and Khalil get personal with author and TV writer Samantha Irby on this week's show. Her bestselling essay collections Wow, No Thank You and We Are Never Meeting in Real Life are super intimate, full of gory details, and laugh-out-loud funny. She joins Ben and Khalil to talk about her latest book, Quietly Hostile ; how she uses comedy as therapy; and her work on the latest season of the Sex and the City reboot And Just Like That ... Quietly Hostile by Samantha Irby See omnystudio.com/listene...

Aug 09, 202343 minSeason 2Ep. 35

The End of Affirmative Action

The Supreme Court recently issued a decision banning race-conscious admission in higher education. In this episode, Ben and Khalil talk with Anurima Bhargava, who served in the Civil Rights Division of Obama’s Department of Justice focusing on education. Anurima also went to high school with Ben and Khalil at Kenwood Academy in Chicago. They talk about what’s great about going to a diverse school, as well as how the conservative movement plotted to get rid of affirmative action and what is lost ...

Aug 02, 202344 minSeason 2Ep. 34

Fantastic Future: Reimagining the American City

This week, Ben and Khalil are talking about the future of cities. Their guest, Toni Griffin, is an architect, urban planner, and artist. She teaches at the Harvard School of Design, where she leads the Just City Lab, a team focused on community revitalization in city planning. Toni joins Ben and Khalil to talk about centering people in urban design, and her new show at the 2023 Venice Architecture Biennale that imagines "fantastic futures.” See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information....

Jul 26, 202350 minSeason 2Ep. 33

From The Last Archive: Acting Out

Here’s a special episode from another Pushkin show we love -- The Last Archive. In the 1930s, at a women's reformatory in upstate New York, an upstart social scientist made a study that launched the field of social network analysis. It was revolutionary, but missed something happening at the same time at the same school, something we know now in part from the story of the school's most famous inmate: Ella Fitzgerald. To hear the rest of the season, visit The Last Archive show page on Apple Podca...

Jul 19, 202350 minSeason 2Ep. 32

America’s Poverty is by Design

America is the richest country on earth, and yet we have the highest levels of poverty of any advanced democracy. Why is that? And what should we do about it? Matthew Desmond joins Ben and Khalil to discuss the rousing arguments of his new book Poverty, By America: we are all culpable for this problem, and it’s on us to fix it. Additional links: Poverty, By America by Matthew Desmond Evicted: Poverty and Profit in the American City by Matthew Desmond Correction: Parole, Prison and the Possibilit...

Jul 12, 202348 minSeason 2Ep. 31

Ben and Khalil Go South

Ben and Khalil take a trip down South to Sewanee University, otherwise known as the University of the South. The school’s history is rooted in the Confederacy, and Ben and Khalil look at how that history belongs to all of America. Through various conversations and excursions, they explore what it means to be Southern, whether that identity can be made more expansive, and why the region defines every American. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information....

Jul 05, 202337 minSeason 2Ep. 30

The FBI’s War on Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. needs no introduction. The man changed the course of American history, and paid the ultimate price for his work. But in Jonathan Eig’s biography, King: A Life, we learn more about his personal life and struggle to overcome his own doubts about the Civil Rights movement. Eig joins Khalil and Ben to discuss his book and the new stories he uncovered from FBI documents about the life of Dr. King. Additional links: King, A Life by Jonathan Eig See omnystudio.com/listener fo...

Jun 28, 202351 minSeason 2Ep. 29

Immigrants Aren't the Problem

Immigration in America is a humanitarian crisis and a political disaster. It has been for years. In this episode, Khalil and Ben talk to immigration lawyer, artist and activist Carolina Rubio-MacWright about current immigration policy, and what’s happening today in cities like Chicago and New York with ballooning populations of immigrants sent from border states. Carolina also shares the innovative ways she uses art and advocacy to connect with people at the heart of the crisis, people whom most...

Jun 21, 202344 minSeason 2Ep. 28

Are We in a Civil War?

Jeff Sharlet started reporting from Donald Trump’s rallies in 2015, when his presidential campaign stoked a resurgence of white nationalism and white supremacy. Since then, Jeff has traveled the country exploring the growing threats and eruptions of political violence. He writes about these experiences in his New York Times bestselling book The Undertow: Scenes from a Slow Civil War, and he sat down with Ben and Khalil to discuss the book and his belief that we are, today, in the midst of a grad...

Jun 14, 202343 minSeason 2Ep. 27

To the Hip Hop You Don’t Stop with Jelani Cobb

Ben and Khalil are joined by their friend Jelani Cobb, Dean of Columbia Journalism School and New Yorker staff writer, to talk about 50 years of hip hop. They discuss what the music meant to them growing up in Chicago and New York. They talk about the documentary Fight the Power: How Hip Hop Changed the World, and also about how the music’s legacy lives on. Additional links: Fight the Power: How Hip Hop Changed the World , Chuck D’s PBS documentary Hip Hop at 50: An Elegy by Jelani Cobb for The ...

Jun 07, 202347 minSeason 2Ep. 26

Ending the Cycle of Police Violence with Keith Ellison

It’s been three years since George Floyd was murdered by the police. After a swell of action followed by inaction, an important question remains: What still needs to change to break the cycle of police violence in America? Khalil and Ben talk to Minnesota Attorney General Keith Ellison about prosecuting the officers who killed Floyd. The three also debate their visions of what justice looks like. This conversation was recorded live at the Chicago Humanities Festival. Order Break the Wheel: Endin...

May 31, 202343 minSeason 2Ep. 25

Truth and Reconciliation: A Lesson from South Africa

Khalil talks to Ben about a recent trip he took to South Africa and what America can learn from the country’s efforts to reckon with its racist past. Nearly 30 years after apartheid ended, reconciliation remains elusive and reparations are still unpaid. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

May 03, 202338 minSeason 2Ep. 24

Why Can't We Be Friends?

Friendships like Ben and Khalil's are rare in America, according to the numbers. In this episode, they talk about the social science on interracial friendships, and about the particular conditions that made their friendship possible. Plus, why these friendships are important in bridging our deeply divided country. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Apr 26, 202338 minSeason 2Ep. 23

What’s Wrong with ‘You People’?

Romance across race and religion has been the focus of a bunch of movies – some comedies, some dramas. Kenya Barris and Jonah Hill are taking a swing at it now, with their new movie, ‘You People.’ Ben and Khalil talk about its attempts to address the intricacies of a relationship between a Black, Muslim woman and a white, Jewish man. Is this a successful update to the 1967 classic ‘Guess Who’s Coming to Dinner’? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information....

Apr 19, 202341 minSeason 2Ep. 22

Taking a Knee with Malcolm Gladwell

Sports have always been political, despite what some fans might like to believe. So what role should athletes play in political movements? Malcolm Gladwell joins Ben and Khalil to discuss the history of activism in sports, including his recent podcast, Legacy of Speed , about Tommie Smith and John Carlos – two Black sprinters who raised their fists in protest at the 1968 Olympic Games. Listen to Legacy of Speed at pushkin.fm , or wherever you get your podcasts. See omnystudio.com/listener for pr...

Apr 12, 202354 minSeason 2Ep. 21

From Started From the Bottom: How Charlamagne Turned Failure Into Success

Here’s a special episode from a new Pushkin podcast, Started From the Bottom. Host Justin Richmond interviews successful people with humble origins who managed to scale the summit of success – people who grew up on the outside, people of color, people who weren’t part of the old boys’ network. Justin recently sat down with media firebrand Charlamagne Tha God – over his 25 year career, he’s clawed his way to the top of the radio industry. Justin asked the long-time host of The Breakfast Club what...

Apr 05, 202350 minSeason 2Ep. 20

Can Multiracial Adoption End Racism?

Matthew Guterl is a historian of race and nation at Brown University, and also Khalil’s other white best friend. He joins the show to discuss his powerful new memoir, Skinfolk. It’s about his experience growing up in New Jersey during the 1970s, part of a large family with multiracial and adopted siblings. The three of them have a frank conversation about family dynamics and the limits of transracial adoption. You can order a copy of Skinfolk here: https://wwnorton.com/books/9781324091714 See om...

Mar 29, 202352 minSeason 2Ep. 19

The Jeffersons vs. Sanford & Son

Ben and Khalil throw it back to the 1970s to talk about the TV shows they loved growing up – two of the greatest and most important sit-coms: Sanford & Son and The Jeffersons. They discuss how the shows handle race, class and comedy. And how the small screen and the world it reflects have changed since then. If you’d like to rewatch Sanford & Son or The Jeffersons, both are available on Amazon Prime Video. Further Reading: The Media Dramas of Norman Lear - Michael J. Arlen, The New Yorke...

Mar 22, 202344 minSeason 2Ep. 18

Why We Love and Hate Hollywood

Khalil and Ben go to the movies with the perfect partner: Jacqueline Stewart , the director and president of the Academy Museum of Motion Pictures. They talk about how movies shape our lives, and why representation matters… on the big screen and at awards shows (Oscars still so white). To learn more about the museum, visit their website: https://www.academymuseum.org/en/ To see the full clip of Sacheen Littlefeather rejecting the Best Actor award on behalf of Marlon Brando click here: https://ww...

Mar 15, 202345 minSeason 2Ep. 17

How to Write the Past & Future with Clint Smith

Author and poet Clint Smith joins Ben and Khalil to talk about his new collection of poetry, “Above Ground.” They also discuss his previous book, “How the Word Is Passed,” a series of essays evaluating how America reckons with and memorializes slavery. To learn more about Clint Smith and order his books, go to his website: https://www.clintsmithiii.com/ Further reading: Tyre Nichols Wanted to Capture the Sunset - Clint Smith, The Atlantic Monuments to the Unthinkable - Clint Smith, The Atlantic ...

Mar 08, 202346 minSeason 2Ep. 16

Kamala Harris for President?

Jamal Simmons spent a year working as the communications director for Vice President Kamala Harris. In his first podcast interview since leaving the job, Jamal talks with Ben and Khalil about everything it takes to be vice president. What is the role of a VP? What challenges has Vice President Harris faced as the first woman of color to have the job? What should we make of criticisms of her from both the left and the right? What are VP Harris's prospects as a likely future presidential candidate...

Mar 01, 202358 minSeason 2Ep. 15

Florida Man Attacks ‘Woke’ Curriculum

Florida Governor Ron DeSantis succeeded in stripping important ideas and essential people out of the new curriculum for the national Advanced Placement African American Studies course. Khalil and Ben discuss why people like DeSantis are working so hard to obscure parts of our history. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Feb 22, 202346 minSeason 2Ep. 14

Is a New Rainbow Coalition of Voters Possible?

Legendary Chicago Mayor Harold Washington is the subject of a new documentary called “Punch 9 for Harold Washington.” In this week’s episode, Ben and Khalil discuss the legacy of the city’s first Black mayor. They are also joined by Rossana Rodriguez Sanchez, a Chicago alderwoman, who is working to revive a multi-racial alliance of progressive voters. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Feb 15, 202352 minSeason 2Ep. 13

We Know How to Solve Homelessness. We Just Need to Do It.

There are roughly 600,000 people experiencing homelessness -- “houselessness”-- in the United States. Ben and Khalil talk with Dr. Heidi Behforouz about how to address a problem that is immense but not intractable. She is the Medical Director of Housing For Health in Los Angeles County, which creates a safety net for people that includes housing, medical care, social services and also dignity. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information....

Feb 08, 202350 minSeason 2Ep. 12