Do you wish you were the life of the party, someone who effortlessly commands attention and connects with others? 00:00:00 Massive Charisma 00:02:40 A Practical Definition 00:05:47 Being More Influential 00:16:39 Being More Affable 00:28:14 Emotional Expressiveness 00:33:50 Emotional Control 00:36:10 Social Expressiveness 00:38:34 Social Sensitivity 00:41:51 Social Control Charisma might seem like a magical gift, but it's actually a set of learnable skills! This video dives deep into the psychol...
May 08, 2024•51 min
00:00:00 Better Small Talk 00:02:15 A Life of Stories 00:09:34 The 1 -1 -1 Method 00:16:04 The Story Spine 00:25:32 Inside Stories Struggling with awkward small talk? Discover how to turn those fleeting interactions into meaningful connections with actionable tips from Patrick King's "Better Small Talk." This video dives into the book's key points, including: The power of storytelling to build rapport and create lasting memories. The 1-1-1 method to effortlessly transition from small talk to dee...
May 01, 2024•43 min
Feeling awkward in conversations? Don't worry, charm isn't about you - it's about making others feel heard! 00:00:00 Hello listeners 00:01:28 Talk WITH people and not TO them 00:17:18 Sustain Conversations with Conversational Threading and Useful Acronyms This video dives into Chapter 2 of "Tools of the Charming" and unveils powerful techniques to keep conversations flowing and engaging. Discover the "Rule of Three" that prevents you from rambling, and learn the magic of "Conversational Threadin...
Apr 24, 2024•30 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI • “Cooperative overlapping” is different from interrupting. It’s about talking along with the speaker, not to undermine or cut them off, but to validate what they’re saying, give encouragement, and show that they’re paying close attention. It can vary across cultures; neither way is right, but try to acknowledge and accommodate differences. 00:00:00 He...
Apr 17, 2024•25 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI • People generally talk about things for a specific reason. If you can hear between the lines and find out what that reason is, you can have deeper conversations with others that are enjoyable for both of you. • Doing this isn’t especially hard; all you need to do is pay attention to what is being said. People organically bring up topics they are inter...
Apr 10, 2024•18 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:00:00 Hello listeners. Welcome to Social Skills Coaching. 00:01:00.070 Match and Mirror Internal Communication Cues 00:05:23.610 Match on Content 00:10:46.720 Expressing Without Speaking 00:16:22.630 Posture and Body Orientation 00:20:28.560 Eye Contact 00:24:38.790 Paralinguistics 00:26:09.440 The Four Ps of Voice Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI Feeling lost in conversation? This...
Apr 03, 2024•36 min
Better Small Talk: Talk to Anyone, Avoid Awkwardness, Generate Deep Conversations, and Make Real Friends By Patrick King Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/2Q5CWQM 00:00:00 Initial Impressions 00:10:41 Make the First Move 00:16:50 Find Similarity 00:27:35 Manufacture Connection https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0871N22LF Networking events suck, but they can suck less. What to say and when to say to be likable, connect, and make a memorable impression. Actionable and applicable verbal maneuvers for just abo...
Mar 29, 2024•40 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:02:55 Are You a Conversational Narcissist? 00:11:01 The Power of the Support Response 00:17:03 ALBRECHT’S RULE OF THREE FOR CONVERSATIONS Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI • The biggest threat to connecting well with others is conversational narcissism—i.e., the tendency of centering ourselves, talking too much, steering the topic, interrupting, invalidating others, bragging, manipu...
Mar 27, 2024•34 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI • This chapter is about how to steer conversations to different topics without making things seem restrictive. One critical aspect of talking to people is ability to transition between topics seamlessly. Many people struggle with this because they often want to discuss specific things and end up making the conversation rigid. • The key rule to be remem...
Mar 20, 2024•20 min
The Confidence Formula: May Cause: Lower Self-Doubt, Higher Self-Esteem, and Comfort In Your Own Skin (Be Confident and Fearless Book 8) By: Patrick King Hear it Here - https://bit.ly/ConfidenceFormulaKing https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0994VF5XH 00:16:21 Low Confidence Characteristics 00:22:05 Am I Unconfident—or Do I Have Anxiety? 00:24:09 The Spotlight Effect 00:30:53 Feelings Versus Automatic Thoughts 00:41:15 Your Confidence Resume Stop making decisions based on fear of failure, rejection, anxi...
Mar 15, 2024•58 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:03:17.360 Constantly Interrupting 00:05:38.100 Using Qualifiers 00:06:53.900 Equating Your Experiences 00:08:02.139 Floundering 00:09:13.940 Waiting Instead of Listening 00:13:42.170 The Rapport Game 00:15:09.470 Mirroring and Matching 00:18:48.220 Way 1: Match and Mirror External Communication Cues 00:21:06.070 Way 2: Match and Mirror Voice and Language Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N...
Mar 13, 2024•27 min
Better Small Talk: Talk to Anyone, Avoid Awkwardness, Generate Deep Conversations, and Make Real Friends By Patrick King 00:14:25.120 A Childlike Exercise 00:22:30.760 Your Conversation Résumé 00:29:56.769 Conversational Stages 00:39:29.950 Initial Impressions 00:49:59.349 Make the First Move 00:56:07.650 Find Similarity 01:06:53.740 Manufacture Connection Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/2Q5CWQM https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0871N22LF Networking events suck, but they can suck less. What to say and w...
Mar 08, 2024•38 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:10:46 Four Easy Self-Disclosure Rules. 00:14:38 Mini Self-Disclosures. 00:17:30 How to Respond to Someone Else’s Disclosure. Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI • Vulnerability is essential for human connection, and appropriate self-disclosure creates trust, authenticity, and intimacy. Self-disclosure is intentionally sharing personal information that other people wouldn’t know unless...
Mar 06, 2024•23 min
The Science of Likability: 60 Evidence-Based Methods to Radiate Charisma, Make a Powerful Impression, Win Friends, and Trigger Attraction By Patrick King .00:02:19 Context-Dependent Memories. 00:10:07 The Power of Association. 00:15:36 Shut Up and Let ’Em Talk! 00:26:10 Equity Within Relationships. 00:32:04 Similarity Breeds Liking. 00:38:05 This is known as the chameleon effect 00:40:09 Three Stages of Friendship Hear it Here - https://bit.ly/likability-promo https://www.amazon.com/dp/B07VCRTJ5...
Mar 02, 2024•50 min
Hear it Here - http://bit.ly/improvking 00:02:51 Conversation Equals Improv 00:09:03 Emotional Intelligence 00:12:19 Play 00:19:53 Takeaways Does your mind blank in conversation and create awkward silence? Do you run out of things to say and struggle to keep dialogue flowing? (A) Conversation isn’t scripted, (B) it’s 100% unpredictable, and (C) it can be terrifying at times. How do you prepare for such a thing? By learning how to apply improv comedy techniques to roll with any punch and improve ...
Feb 28, 2024•22 min
Conversation Skills Training: How to Build Relationships, Navigate Any Situation, and Talk to Anyone By: Patrick King Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3U8eoc5 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0CNPHL9PC You are missing out on so many relationships in your life. Communication is the bedrock of our relationships. But we often don’t know how to express ourselves, or truly hear others. Make sure that you are not letting amazing people pass you by. Increase your social and emotional awareness. Conversations S...
Feb 23, 2024•1 hr 47 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI 00:08:18 Preconceived Attitudes 00:17:48 Judgment and Premature Evaluation. ••••••••••• #Conversation #ConversationSkillsTraining #Training #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #ConversationSkillsTraining #IdentifyYourCommunicationStyle
Feb 21, 2024•22 min
Take Rapid Action: Get Productive, Motivated, & Energized; Stop Overthinking & Procrastinating By Patrick King 00:04:28 Follow the Ostrich’s Lead 00:09:41 The Premortem Analysis 00:15:56 The Don’t-Do List 00:31:04 Err on the Side of Action 00:32:19 Get a Little Uncomfortable 00:39:04 Tiny Steps 00:45:25 The 40-70 Rule 00:50:14 Beat Indecision Hear it Here - https://bit.ly/takerapidactionking https://www.amazon.com/dp/B082YZ95LV Practical, psychological methods to turn your thoughts into ...
Feb 16, 2024•1 hr 14 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:03:25 Why Stories Matter 00:05:23 Four Elements of a Good Story 00:09:28 Be Natural ... But Have a Plan 00:17:16 USING WITTY BANTER IN BUILDING RAPPORT 00:22:35 Technique 2: Use the Element of Surprise 00:24:03 Technique 3: Sarcasm 00:26:25 Technique 4: Being Self-Referential 00:28:15 Banter Warnings Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI • Though the real foundations of a good conversat...
Feb 14, 2024•31 min
How To Say No: Stand Your Ground, Assert Yourself, and Make Yourself Be Seen (Without Guilt or Awkwardness) (Be Confident and Fearless Book 7) By: Patrick King 00:02:05 Why Saying No is So Essential 00:10:26 Why We Struggle to Say No 00:20:53 The Psychological Root of Never Saying No: Codependency 00:36:51 Getting Rid of Counter-Mindsets 00:44:54 Change Strategies for Counter-Mindsets 00:46:19 Rewriting the Script that Saying No Makes You a Bad Person 00:55:31 Rewriting the Script that Saying No...
Feb 09, 2024•1 hr 11 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI 00:01:53 Dr. David Rock created the SCARF model 00:05:34 Assertive Communication 00:09:17 What Makes Assertive Communicators Different 00:10:45 Ten Essential Assertive Communication Habits 00:22:06 Bonus: The Broken Record Technique 00:23:47 Give and Take: The Art of Feedback 00:27:02 The Situation-Behavior-Impact (SBI) model 00:30:50 The Best Way to R...
Feb 07, 2024•39 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:02:20 Identify Your Communication Style 00:04:20 The Passive Communicator 00:07:57 The Aggressive Communicator 00:11:15 The Passive-Aggressive Communicator 00:19:19 The Assertive Communicator Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI • The best mindset to adopt in order to become a better communicator is the one that will best allow you to connect, meet your needs, solve problems, and expre...
Jan 30, 2024•27 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:02:46 Psychologist Shelly Gable coined the term “active and constructive responding” 00:12:42 A truly active and constructive response Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI • Your response to someone’s good news can vary, being passive or active, constructive or destructive. Aim for active, constructive responses that acknowledge and reflect the emotion and energy in a speaker’s message...
Jan 23, 2024•24 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI 00:01:18 In an article published in the Journal of Managerial Sciences in 2009 00:01:48 The Different Types of Conflict 00:02:02 Not all conflict is the same—take a look at some variants: Affective Conflict 00:02:23 Substantive Conflict 00:02:45 Conflict of Interest 00:03:02 Retributive Conflict 00:03:19 Conflict in Values 00:03:33 Goal Conflict 00:03:...
Jan 16, 2024•25 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:03:22 The Perfect Apology 00:04:41 A Mistake Can Be a Good Thing! 00:07:37 1. Express your genuine regret 00:09:50 2. Explain what happened 00:11:20 3. Take responsibility 00:12:24 4. Repent! 00:13:58 5. Offer to make amends 00:15:14 6. Ask for forgiveness Hear it Here - adbl.co/3OJ4V72 • Conflict will happen, but what matters is how people respond to their mistakes. A perfect apology ca...
Jan 09, 2024•22 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:01:48 Karen Huang and colleagues 00:05:35 Chunking Up and Down 00:18:15 When to Chunk Up 00:19:13 When to Chunk Down Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI • Research suggests that talking about yourself makes you a little less likeable, while asking questions makes you a little more likeable. Open-ended and follow-up questions especially showed the greatest relationship to likability. P...
Jan 02, 2024•23 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:00:48 Judi Brownell from Cornell University 00:01:07 Here are the components of Brownell’s model: H: Hearing 00:03:01 U: Understanding 00:05:01 R: Remembering 00:06:48 I: Interpreting 00:08:33 E: Evaluating 00:10:57 R: Responding 00:15:29 Don’t Be a Conversational Narcissist! 00:17:52 Reframe the Way You Understand the Purpose of Conversation 00:18:52 Don’t Jump Ahead 00:20:04 Avoid Advi...
Dec 26, 2023•28 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:01:43 How to Create Healthy Boundaries 00:03:29 How to Set Boundaries 00:14:24 Use DEARMAN for Polite Requests and Refusals Hear it Here - adbl.co/3OJ4V72 • Human beings are complex, and not all problems and conflicts can be solved by simply heaping on more and more empathy and understanding. Emotional intelligence means having boundaries that are not too permeable or too rigid. • Take t...
Dec 19, 2023•27 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI 00:00:34 Part one of the Friendship Mindset is the Art of Active Listening. 00:06:12 Pay Close Attention 00:09:17 Be Mindful of the Little Things 00:10:52 Help People Think Out Loud 00:16:03 Restate 00:17:16 Summarize 00:18:10 Reframe • Give the gift of solid, respectful attention at all times. Listen generously, as though you are prepared to hear the ...
Dec 12, 2023•23 min
Easily listen to Social Skills Coaching in your podcast app of choice at https://bit.ly/social-skills-home 00:06:04 How to Use Funnel Questions 00:08:26 Here's a summary of How To Ask Funnel Questions 00:11:50 How You Structure a Question Matters 00:15:14 Rhetorical Questions 00:16:09 To conclude, here are a few Tips For Using Questions 00:17:03 How to Be a Truly Effective Listener Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3N9lsjI • One of the easiest ways to connect with another person is to just ask ques...
Dec 05, 2023•19 min
